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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by anonimi: 3:15am On Feb 11, 2016

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by AreaFada2: 3:16am On Feb 11, 2016
rawpadgin:
grin
almost everything is wrong with marrying her

1.) she's a policewoman
2.) she has 2 kids & has never been married
3.) she is older than u

young man listen to ur parents, what they are seeing sitting down u cannot see even if u climb mtn mast

For me, bolded is the main matter.

Now, from observing around me, step kids of that age, above 2 or 3 years old (b4 you marry their mum) can be a problem.
Yes, they are sweet now. But they know very well that you're not their dad.

With time, from teenage years, you will struggle to be their dad.

Unless you're very rich, then they will gladly see you as dad.

If you're just average, even if you spend most of your income looking after them, they will always feel that you favoured your biological kids (their half-siblings).

I know several families where the stepkids don't even speak to their stepdad now, some didn't even attend their stepdad's funeral.

These are people we all witnessed how their stepdads toiled to raise them in our neighbourhood growing up.

I also know of a couple of cases where stepdads were rich but not really generous like the average ones. The kids even took their stepdad's surname. Being identified with a rich man is cool.

If you're going to toil to raise kids, raise yours. They will have no doubt about your love for them. Till the end.

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by Leebeedo(m): 3:17am On Feb 11, 2016
All I have to tell you is to find the happiness in you & don't let go when you've finally found it
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by nkakp(m): 3:18am On Feb 11, 2016

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

Guy, please wake up from ur dreams..#receivesensemybrother#

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by miqos02(m): 3:20am On Feb 11, 2016
hoise boy in the making

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by BSF: 3:21am On Feb 11, 2016
CertifiedFreak:
Doubt if you're ready for the baggages and hassles of getting down with an older woman with two kids. Your parents prolly see this too thus their hesitation. In situations like this, love ain't enough to last you the distance. Think with your head, not your heart and those raging hormones.

@CertifiedFreak ,well said;may your "dayses" be looooong!!!

@damostic2005, In this case what your parents can sense/perceive 20 years ahead,your wan tin tin Love cannot comprehend.

I wish your parents were wrong, in this case(which I doubt).Your parents cherish homogeneous family for you and for their own peace.


If I be you, I go ask well well from Papa God who OWNS the future. But come to think of it ; God is already cautioning you through your parents, Be Wise!!!!.The Journey is Faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar!!!!!.Travel LIGHT!!!,not heavy.

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by Nobody: 3:43am On Feb 11, 2016
damostic2005:
Hello guys, I need your honest opinions, I'm 26years old and I'm in love with a 30year old lady. She loves me too and she's got 2kids already, she has never been married as the father of her children left her over 8years ago..

She's a responsible woman as far as I know because she takes proper care of her kids, she's fromAkwa ibom and she's a police officer (Asp) but my parents don't want me to be with her, they say because she's older and she's got kids and because she's not yoruba, that she won't be submissive and respectful to me, bla bla bla.

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

We have been off and on for 4years now..but one thing am sure is that she loves me and her kids love me too..please I'm I on the right path? I hope am not getting myself into trouble? Please I need your candid advise..thank you guys

Then why are you pissing about?

Is having two kids like a sexually transmitted disease?

Jeezuz H Krist.
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by akinladejo: 3:50am On Feb 11, 2016
Aja ti yI o sonu ko ni gbo fere olode. that is to say dog that will get missing will not hear hunter wistle. you parent told u but u don't want to listen. an average yoruba man want his wife to respect and treat him so. how will an officer older than u respect and love u? An Asp? think we'll oga and I can tell u that u are not in love but in love with her money.

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by Orikinla(m): 4:06am On Feb 11, 2016
OP, are you sure you are in love or in lust? See Valentine's Day Is Not For Those Who Abuse True Love - Romance - Nigeria, https://www.nairaland.com/2925766/valentines-day-not-those-abuse
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by gambus007(m): 4:09am On Feb 11, 2016
damostic2005:
Hello guys, I need your honest opinions, I'm 26years old and I'm in love with a 30year old lady. She loves me too and she's got 2kids already, she has never been married as the father of her children left her over 8years ago..

She's a responsible woman as far as I know because she takes proper care of her kids, she's fromAkwa ibom and she's a police officer (Asp) but my parents don't want me to be with her, they say because she's older and she's got kids and because she's not yoruba, that she won't be submissive and respectful to me, bla bla bla.

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

We have been off and on for 4years now..but one thing am sure is that she loves me and her kids love me too..please I'm I on the right path? I hope am not getting myself into trouble? Please I need your candid advise..thank you guys
Bro, take out emotions in you and face the truth. Question what do you really love about her? Do u really love her? Can you control her as a man? I was once in your shoes the lady was far older than me infact she was my sister's friend but i liked her then. i was only emotional. Sometime our emotions make us think we are in love is not always the case. If thing are really rite u will not be confused. You will not have think of opening post on nairaland. Your parent want the best for you. They are your parent. They are alot of single, good ladies out dia. Dont limit urself. Dont make that mistake pls. I knw what am saying its from experience. Everything is just wrong. She is not ur type. Forget her position as ASP. U r controlled by emotion thats all. She is not the best lady in ur Area. Think bro remember i was once in ur shoes i should b among best d people to advice u after is just an advice.in summary Dont think of marrying her.
Note:i was hunting for job too almost like your case same case same same. Am married to a younger lady blessed with beautiful daughter.
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by Orikinla(m): 4:12am On Feb 11, 2016
EgunMogaji:


Then why are you pissing about?

Is having two kids like a sexually transmitted disease?

Jeezuz H Krist.
. OP is a desperate jobless man who is broke and wants a loaded sugar mummy for Valentine for free sex, free food and free money. Nigerian men still deceiving Nigerian women since Lord Lugard's mistress coined the name Nigeria.
grin

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by mightiersa: 4:13am On Feb 11, 2016
That was how I nearly marry a lady that doesn't worth it because of her money that I can now term stipend today... Get your life... Believe in yourself... Get a job... Get money... Have confidence... Don't be bought with stipend

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by Eaugusta(f): 4:19am On Feb 11, 2016
Hmm! Really deep

In a time like this, I advice u to get on ur knees and ask for God's direction.

I still feel ur parents are right though, God might actually be speaking through them

I feel love is not enough to settle down with sm1 these days but UNDERSTANDING
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by ashade123: 4:31am On Feb 11, 2016
Is it a sin to marry a woman with kids or a single mother? Or did God said that they won't get married to any man again after giving birth to kids? hummmm people, awon aye, my friend is you i need to talk to jare, so far you love her and her children loves you too you have 3 YES from me to continue with her, what we men don't know is that single mother or woman with kids are the best married material that we have not discovered, we always go for a small amateur learner girl or lady that will turn a husband to a lecturer because you need to teach her a whole lot of things.

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by ashade123: 4:33am On Feb 11, 2016
Is it a sin to marry a woman with kids or a single mother? Or did God said that they won't get married to any man again after giving birth to kids? hummmm people, awon aye, my friend is you i need to talk to jare, so far you love her and her children loves you too you have 3 YES from me to continue with her, what we men don't know is that single mother or woman with kids are the best married material that we have not discovered, we always go for a small amateur learner girl or lady that will turn a husband to a lecturer because you need to teach her a whole lot of things.
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by Rejoice5000(f): 4:35am On Feb 11, 2016
damostic2005:
Hello guys, I need your honest opinions, I'm 26years old and I'm in love with a 30year old lady. She loves me too and she's got 2kids already, she has never been married as the father of her children left her over 8years ago..

She's a responsible woman as far as I know because she takes proper care of her kids, she's fromAkwa ibom and she's a police officer (Asp) but my parents don't want me to be with her, they say because she's older and she's got kids and because she's not yoruba, that she won't be submissive and respectful to me, bla bla bla.

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

We have been off and on for 4years now..but one thing am sure is that she loves me and her kids love me too..please I'm I on the right path? I hope am not getting myself into trouble? Please I need your candid advise..thank you guys
@ POST IF U HAVE A RESTFUL MIND WITH HER AD U BELIEVE SHE WILL BE SUBMISSIVE TO U,AD THAT U HAVE A GOOD INTENTIONS FOR HER AD THE KIDS JUST EXPLAIN TO UR FAMILY HOW U FEEL ABT HER:SINGLE MUM OR NO SINGLE MUM GO FOR WHERE U CAN HAVE PEACE:WHERE U WILL GO OUT IN THE MORNING AD COME BACK WIT A RESTFUL MIND:AGE ARE NUMBER:
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by xp17(m): 4:53am On Feb 11, 2016
HungerBAD:
Deep.

The truth is, [size=15pt]we[/size] cannot choose who we will fall in love with it, and honestly, as long as you are happy in your relationship with her,then please do what your heart desires.

While it is good to be respective to our parents, we should learn how to draw that line between us and them when it comes to matters that affect our future directly.

If you want to marry her when you are settled ,approach your parents and tell them that what you need from them is their blessings, and not their money.

Goodluck.

if i may ask, who are the WE? Guy speak for yourself jor grin
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by BabbyDaddy(f): 4:54am On Feb 11, 2016
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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by FRANKOXY(m): 4:56am On Feb 11, 2016
You can find love in anyone & make sure he's not. Married coz your life could be in danger.
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by EMMASOLAR: 4:58am On Feb 11, 2016
Bros,so far your parents against the union and friendship,just forget it,Lord shall bless you with a good wife.
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by GboyegaD(m): 4:58am On Feb 11, 2016
Flashh:


Just shut this advice.

Don't try to push people into things like this. When the consequences occurs, you won't be there to help him out.

Why not just advice him and not insult others for their own advice.
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by Lezzlie(m): 5:02am On Feb 11, 2016
damostic2005:
Hello guys, I need your honest opinions, I'm 26years old and I'm in love with a 30year old lady. She loves me too and she's got 2kids already, she has never been married as the father of her children left her over 8years ago..

She's a responsible woman as far as I know because she takes proper care of her kids, she's fromAkwa ibom and she's a police officer (Asp) but my parents don't want me to be with her, they say because she's older and she's got kids and because she's not yoruba, that she won't be submissive and respectful to me, bla bla bla.

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

We have been off and on for 4years now..but one thing am sure is that she loves me and her kids love me too..please I'm I on the right path? I hope am not getting myself into trouble? Please I need your candid advise..thank you guys
Trust me, you DON'T want to get married to an elderly POLICE WOMAN with 2 kids already. I won't say much but 4 years from now, your eyes will be open and you'll come thank me here.
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by idu1(m): 5:08am On Feb 11, 2016
my brother forget that woman.
I am saying this as a spiritual person.
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by eromspete(m): 5:14am On Feb 11, 2016
[size=13pt]GO AND GET A JOB (MEANS OF INCOME)[/size] angry

damostic2005:
Hello guys, I need your honest opinions, I'm 26years old and I'm in love with a 30year old lady. She loves me too and she's got 2kids already, she has never been married as the father of her children left her over 8years ago..

She's a responsible woman as far as I know because she takes proper care of her kids, she's fromAkwa ibom and she's a police officer (Asp) but my parents don't want me to be with her, they say because she's older and she's got kids and because she's not yoruba, that she won't be submissive and respectful to me, bla bla bla.

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

We have been off and on for 4years now..but one thing am sure is that she loves me and her kids love me too..please I'm I on the right path? I hope am not getting myself into trouble? Please I need your candid advise..thank you guys
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by eromspete(m): 5:15am On Feb 11, 2016
How does your spirituality relate to the OP's situation oga?

idu1:
my brother forget that woman.

I am saying this as a spiritual person.
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by Siberia101: 5:16am On Feb 11, 2016
damostic2005:
Hello guys, I need your honest opinions, I'm 26years old and I'm in love with a 30year old lady. She loves me too and she's got 2kids already, she has never been married as the father of her children left her over 8years ago..

She's a responsible woman as far as I know because she takes proper care of her kids, she's fromAkwa ibom and she's a police officer (Asp) but my parents don't want me to be with her, they say because she's older and she's got kids and because she's not yoruba, that she won't be submissive and respectful to me, bla bla bla.

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

We have been off and on for 4years now..but one thing am sure is that she loves me and her kids love me too..please I'm I on the right path? I hope am not getting myself into trouble? Please I need your candid advise..thank you guys

Seems I know this ASP tho the one I know is from Delta and got a girl and a boy..

Good luck Bro let your heart lead
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by NICOGRAVITY: 5:18am On Feb 11, 2016
You have been with her for 4 years? Yet, you are seeking a public opinion to decide if you will marry her, are you not campaigning after election?
My candid advice is this
1 Do you love her, and willing to make all the necessary sacrifice?
2 Will you be very proud to call her your wife?
3 Does she love you, listen to you, and obey you and honour you?
4 Do you truly love her kids and willing to take them as yours?
Age is just number.
Being a Police woman is a job and career
Having children could be that she was taken advantage of earlier in life.
Some blessings comes in dirty packaging, so that only the wise in heart can discern and receive it.
Please, speak to your parents and seek their consent and blessings if you know that you are convinced she is the one. Love is worth fighting for.
Remember, marriage doesn't come with love, it comes with love basket, whatever you put into your marriage basket is what you get. Also, pray fervently, seek the face of God for confirmation and revelations. I have prayed for you.
I'm willing to stand in the gap in prayers for you. God bless you greatly in Jesus name amen.

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by idu1(m): 5:22am On Feb 11, 2016
eromspete:
How does your spirituality relate to the OP's situation oga?

He will regret if he marry the woman. we see future cheesy
Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by Mostprecious(f): 5:25am On Feb 11, 2016
Ok. This is ma opinion! What's ur reason for wanting to marry her? Cos she s takes care of her kids? If she doesn't who will? Am nt against marryin an older lady buh ds woman has kids. And to any woman, her kids re solace to anythin she s passin tru or wil pass tru. She s been w/o u in her life for yrs. Wat make s u think she won't bail on u at d end wen she find a worthier/ wealthy man whose gonna pay ha bills nd dat of the kids? Or wat if d baby daddy pops up and start formin all responsible? U won't be able to stop dem cos u dunno der history together nd blood dai say is thicker than water.
U re jst 26, u dt hv a job yet. I don't think u kw wat u re in for wen u eventually marry her. Wen she starts naggin nd complainin trust me u'll lv somone else. Ma rule is marry a woman u'll love d rest of ur life nd won't lv anoda along d line. I understnd wah lv feels lik buh if u could only open ur eyes nd see d reason y ur folks adviced u against ds move u'll stop nd think again.

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by riddler4real(m): 5:32am On Feb 11, 2016
To be honest with you, I think you first need to understand that love is "CHOICE". You can choose to love and choose not to, forget about the emotional entanglement... What captivates people mostly in commitment is interests. And when they feel their respective interest is being threatened they pull out irregardless of how bad the partner would feel.

You are a young man with a bright future who is yet to face life and impact on it. You dont need baggage... A lady with 2 kids from one man or more.... It clearly states that once upon a time a young man was as excited and captivated in a love triangle same as you but opted out due to reasons best known to him or them.

A good woman is wanted by all... the good guys, the bad and the ugly. No sane man would leave a good woman talkless of his kids behind. The case is obviously very complicated and you dont need that.

Maybe she shows you so much care and affection than other younger ladies around you. Maybe she values you greatly and you feel a great sense of belonging by that. But I need you to ask yourself Why you? what does she gain from you?

She could be manipulating your naivety to secure her interests..... You have a long way to go bro you dont need this crap. Focus on building yourself and forging your future.

See our journey in life is a very delicate one. One wrong turn can alter us to a dead end and we may never get on the right track again.

Pull out from it before it is too late.



damostic2005:
Hello guys, I need your honest opinions, I'm 26years old and I'm in love with a 30year old lady. She loves me too and she's got 2kids already, she has never been married as the father of her children left her over 8years ago..

She's a responsible woman as far as I know because she takes proper care of her kids, she's fromAkwa ibom and she's a police officer (Asp) but my parents don't want me to be with her, they say because she's older and she's got kids and because she's not yoruba, that she won't be submissive and respectful to me, bla bla bla.

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

We have been off and on for 4years now..but one thing am sure is that she loves me and her kids love me too..please I'm I on the right path? I hope am not getting myself into trouble? Please I need your candid advise..thank you guys

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Re: I'm In Love With An Older Lady With Two Kids by DonatusAdorns(m): 5:39am On Feb 11, 2016
The difference between your own and my own is the kids stuff..... I am 24, ma babe Na 31...... Please do you consider it a.suicide mission ? Advice Needed....Good ones....!!! shocked

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