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Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by kaziblake(f): 10:29am On Feb 13, 2016 |
cedargroove:it's vice/versa. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by merrymaker2: 10:29am On Feb 13, 2016 |
[We hold on 2 certain tinz dt are ironically d reason we are stucked in d race of life. I am a livin witness. Unless u allow sm 2 go, u wnt progress. Wen I met my wife, I was squattn wt sm1 wt just 1 shirt and a jeans trouser..she insistef na me she go marry...let it go, use dt 2 turn 2 God..dia will be open doors.quote author=hurting post=42876707]Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible. I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school. After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good. Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances. This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind. She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant. Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit. Pls help a brother. pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me. P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors. [/quote] |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by justmenoni: 10:30am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Bros I think you should let her go cos she's just not the one for you,I mean no matter what her background has bren,I mean no matter what she has been through that shouldn't be her basis for qualifying you. Even if you get that well paying job,I mean that 1 billion naira job..what happens if you have a problem in the future?,,we are fallable and no one is perfect,I mean everyone xan always have a problem no matter how careful we are(although we all don't pray for This)...so just incase this problem happens tomorrow, she's going to complain and then you might have to get money through illegal means and if u get into problem,she will still go ahead and marry someone else that will provide for her,so u see that you might never be able to satisfy someone like her for ever.. Bro don't marry out of pity please,call her and be full of thanks to her and then move ahead but don't forget: SUCCeSS is the best REVENGE.. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by nino17(f): 10:30am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Guy u dey fall my hand.Are you aware that the reason you were not able to find a good paying job is because of that girl?She is everything that is wrong with you.God saw her heart and decided to keep away good paying job from you so that her real personality can manifest before your eyes.If you were told that you have been dating a traitor since,you won't believe it.Solution :Forget about her and go look for your desired job because God has opened his door of blessing for you.After the job,you can think about marriage. 7 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Raheem2386: 10:30am On Feb 13, 2016 |
My brother dnt try to force the relationship, since she has decided to move on Let it go, she was probably looking out for someone else when you people were still together. It's not easy but you can do it. Just continue striving and a better job will come, you will also get a better person that will stay with you for who you are and will also bring her contribution to the table. Dated someone for 8years(through school and afterwards)- we were the 'power couple' then. She just called one day to say she needed a break and shortly after she got someone else and they were dating already, was sad and all, Tried to coerce her into reconsidering but to no avail. I let it be and was single for a while. I later got a Lady that was/is 10000000 times better than my ex in all ramifications and in fact things have looked up since then; got a very very good job, better house, 2 lovely cars and other good stuff ALL after I met her because she kept on encouraging to strive and not give up. We are getting married in a few months. So dnt beat yourself up bro. E go better.... 4 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by 2sex(m): 10:30am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Freecocoa, I am currently listening to "you and I" by plantashunboyz Girlie why do me so, why u have to go ![]() |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by freecocoa(f): 10:31am On Feb 13, 2016 |
kaziblake:Some other person would have been offended, kudos. ![]() Now we are talking, she's just after personal gain, I understand wanting to live a certain kind of life but not at the expense of someone you claim to love, their incomes combined can keep them afloat till they get to their desired estate, it's not like the dude she left for/with can't become penniless the next second. She's not as great as the OP painted. 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Icekyng: 10:32am On Feb 13, 2016 |
laprince:inspiration ! 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Damfostopper(m): 10:34am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Que sera sera wateva will be will be...... No die cos of woman matter.... It ain't ur fault... Uve try as a man to do dis n dat..... Ur gal is short sighted.. U don't need to beg her...... All u need to do is believe.... To me there is nothing like relationship.... To me na waste of time..... Wen marriage tym reach na to observe my female friends wey I get...... Who love don help?..... Suicide should Neva come to ur mind.... Abi u no wan eat chicken.... Take ur self to a treat on vals day tomorrow..... Life is too short to be worrying bout who is with or without u 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by deathmen12: 10:34am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Bro thank u, case close, u speak mind... |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by ecosanders: 10:34am On Feb 13, 2016 |
midehi2: God help her she come begging... its just that i know my heart wont let me hurt her....... |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by freecocoa(f): 10:34am On Feb 13, 2016 |
2sex:You are not serious. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Sobrit(m): 10:35am On Feb 13, 2016 |
If i were u, i will vow with every positive energy in me that i must make that money from every legal means available on this planet earth and prove her wrong. Kneel down and ask God to forgive u all d years u'd lived in sin with that lady despising God and puting all hope on a woman or building ur life on a woman. Perhaps God wants to show u something better. We keep looking at a closed door and that keeps us from seeing a new one that has opened. Take ur heartbreak rightly to God and vow and stand with God to breakforth to testimony. 2 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by KanwuliaExtra: 10:35am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Oh boy! Go propose to your rank na! Agege bread-seller for starters! Habaaaaaa!!!! ![]() The babe is trying to dodge poverty, please stop blocking her. Abi, you nor hia say "Buhari and CHANGE" don land? ![]() Dollar na N400 to 1 ooooo. . . . Abeg shift go wan corner jor! ![]() |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Jasperwhizz(m): 10:35am On Feb 13, 2016 |
BTT:Getting closer to GOD And even getting closer to a dear Sis, cousin will help. 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by CutieViva(f): 10:36am On Feb 13, 2016 |
CutieViva:Am nt gd in replyin msgs wen i read buh dis particular trend touched my hrt. Bro alot of pple here ve advice u alot & i hope u should jst yeld 2der advice. Am a Lady wit mch experience both frm Guys & my fellow gurls, tins happen evryday. i ve had such hrt break frm a dude buh dat wont mak mi 2 treat d gd pple around mi bad. Plz i want 2 urge U 2 tak it 2 God in prayer bcoz prayer answereth all tins evn ur broken hrt & move on wit ur lyf. God wil giv u ur hrt desire as a wife mayb she's nt urs datz Y it happen dat way, bsyd any woman dat does'nt bliv in her Man's future does'nt worth a hard working man like U. Plz dear jst dust ursef & move on wit ur lyf & God wil C u 2ru & bless U wit ur desire Job in JSN, Amen! U can jst cal mi wit dis Num 08180496489 4 more courage, i mean 2 connect u wit som1 dat wil inspire u & mak u unstand dat ur d best & dat mocker is nt meant 4u. GdLuck & stay bless! One more tin Bro, dont use bcoz of wat ur passing 2ru now 2 tag all gurls bad, & dont allow it 2 mak 2 treat oda gurls bad bcoz it may stil make u 2 loose d ryt person God ve destiny u so jst act wit Wisdom & kip on being a gd & Faithful guy 2 any gurl u meet! 10k u. hurting: 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by 2sex(m): 10:36am On Feb 13, 2016 |
freecocoa:no wonder when me make love to you all u do is hold me tight call another brother name No wonder when me look into your all I see is your not the same no more. ![]() |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by GoodMuyis(m): 10:39am On Feb 13, 2016 |
My friend the girl is going nowhere, wait and see the shocker she preparing for your Valentino..... in Daura here we dont high on weed, beer or burukutu what we gat is KUNU. Go get 10liter and let the party begin. Go and get love song in waiting for her Africa Queen - 2face Angel of my Life Dare Art - . . . . If she did not come i will refund you your Money for Kunu 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by dennisworld1(m): 10:39am On Feb 13, 2016 |
script nollywood |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by crackhouse(m): 10:39am On Feb 13, 2016 |
my dear what's ur problem. because of woman u are talking this shi.t? let me remind u that pu*ss.y is p.u*ssy all over the world because I know that's what u are crying for. so go out there and get urself a fresh pu*say bro. Assuming ur girl got no p*uss* y will u be crying? tell urself the truth bro, there is nothing like love for a woman, what we guys have is love for p*usss*y and that's all. u are crying cos u don't want another man to smash the pu*sss*y u groomed. u ain't started yet. don't worry me with this shi*t story, this is a Saturday morning and weekend for that matter. I need rest bro 1 Like |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by cedargroove: 10:40am On Feb 13, 2016 |
hurting: |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by AreaFada2: 10:40am On Feb 13, 2016 |
2sex: Tor. Back in the day, a housewife with several kids was sponsored by her hubby to read a professional course at university. Being too poor growing up, she couldn't afford tertiary education. This economically successful but less educated guy married her and cleaned her up. After getting her degree she moved on with another man. Suddenly! Her relatives & in-laws begged her to stay, all in vain, she didn't listen. No reason given for her action. Everybody was shocked. A few years down the line, her new man dumped her. Now she came begging to return to former hubby for the "kids' sake. ![]() Her former hubby refused, because it's taboo in his culture. Now approaching 60, she has been up & down without a loving man in her life. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by hurting: 10:40am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Moz22:Yeah, heartreallyheavy@yandex.com Mail me n I will reply with my number Thanks |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Btruth: 10:41am On Feb 13, 2016 |
2sex: A friend of mine in Germany came to Nigeria late 90's pick this girl up from Ajegunle, married her and took her back to Germany. Less than 2 years, the lady have started sleeping around with other men, and to make things worse, she was sleeping with low profile guys to her husband. ......of-course my friend was heartbroken, he divorced her and promised never to have anything to do with women again. After so much persuasion, he later settled down again with a white lady and they were both happy till now. It's only God that knows who can make you happy, not face or look, neither money or intelligent. Remember, he who find a good wife, find favour from God. 3 Likes |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by midehi2(f): 10:41am On Feb 13, 2016 |
ecosanders:eeyaa...that means you still love her deeply |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by freecocoa(f): 10:41am On Feb 13, 2016 |
2sex:Dude free me abeg. I hope you don't miss out on a lady that will love you unconditionally because you have a grudge with an ex, better let go of the anger. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by repogirl(f): 10:42am On Feb 13, 2016 |
I know you are hurting badly at the moment OP, but you are not the first person it this situation. This is what happens when you place all your trust and faith in human beings, when they disappoint you, it shatters you but you can get over this. You did your best in this relationship and I must commend you for that but taking your life because of this is simply NOT WORTH IT. If she wants to move on, let her do so please, you deserve someone who values you for who you are and not what you have. You really don't deserve her type and you will find better. Please focus on yourself and not on her. Make something of yourself and while at it, you will find someone deserving of whatever you have to offer. Who is to say that later she wouldn't regret leaving you? Pls focus on yourself, give yourself time to heal as you are still going through shock. With time these suicidal feelings will fade. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by 2sex(m): 10:42am On Feb 13, 2016 |
freecocoa:there is no nairaland lady I respect as much I do to you, even though we have never met. Kai... since my existence here, you are just one a rare breed. You will NEVER have a problem with a guy who as honest. Na wa o. ![]() |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Abbies: 10:42am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Decker: You have said it all! |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by hurting: 10:42am On Feb 13, 2016 |
[quote author=cedargroove post=42883094][/quote] Mail me, I will send my number to you. Heartreallyheavy@yandex.com Thanks. |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by Nobody: 10:44am On Feb 13, 2016 |
Justdulla:...but she 'cries' when they speak ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Heart Has Been Torn Apart! by ecosanders: 10:44am On Feb 13, 2016 |
midehi2: sure i do.....but i just have to move on..... 2 Likes |
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