2sex:
there is no nairaland lady I respect as much I do to you, even though we have never met. Kai... since my existence here, you are just one a rare breed. You will NEVER have a problem with a guy who as honest. Na wa o.

Lol, 2sex go and make up with your ex o, she still loves ypu.

freecocoa:
Dude free me abeg.

I hope you don't miss out on a lady that will love you unconditionally because you have a grudge with an ex, better let go of the anger.

if you think I still nurse a grain of hurt than you are still living in my past surroundings . I have been with other girls after that. So it's not what you are thinking.

You I know I can trust you judging by your post from years back. BUT how many of your kind exist?

How many?

Women are deceptive abeg

[quote author=2sex post=42882451] Bros, watch Titanic and you will see where it was said at the very beginning: "a woman's heart Is an ocean of secrets"

Ndubisi for my area train babe from secondary school to uni, what came out of it? Another man married her.

One bro told me his as well. He took a girl who sold near ekpoma and spoke to the dad. She secured admission. Four years going and what happened next?

The earlier we realise humans are selfish beings, the better for us.

Like someone rightly stated, love does not exist. I used to be an advocate of love but I have come realise that it does not really exist, it's just personal interest. As in what you stand to gain. It's an investment with hope in will yield good ROI in the future and if you are smart, only invest what you can afford to lose like we say in forex parlance. Never invest more than 2% of your capital

Guy, we reason alike

I've been there & even worse!..imagine a lady dat twice in d past attemted suicide over me, only to dump me after 5yrs for a more buoyant dude! Suicide was a gross understatement/option 4 me but i got over it...She's today UN-HAPPILY married with kids, WHY?..she won't stop disturbing my peace wit over 2000 un-replied missed calls/several love sms & still counting!.. i'm done wit her 4eva! @ op, be strong, dust-up & move-on, she'll realise someday she lost a diamond while hunting for stones!

my dear brother just move on,I know it won't be easy but at the end of the day you will look back and smile#no woman or man is worth dying for.

just man up and make it a priority to be better in life. see her disappointment as a motivation and keep in mind that the woman for you is out there. forget her; she's not yours.

Like seriously, I feel your pain bro. I pray you get over it. For me, in a relationship, all men should possess a kind of shock absorber. Any thing can happen like such you narrated. But, you should have read the hand writting on the wall nah? Well she has moved on and you should try and do away with anything that brings her memory to you. As for me , if I take 3 bottles of goldberg everynite for 2days and I get intoxicated wella. Na forget be that ooo. Anyway tomoro is val. Who will be my val for one day? Hahahahah. Its CMONEY again

2sex:
if you think I still nurse a grain of hurt than you are still living in my past surroundings . I have been with other girls after that. So it's not what you are thinking.

You I know I can trust you judging by your post from years back. BUT how many of your kind exist?

How many?

Women are deceptive abeg

Why do you take it very personal whenever you hear that a woman hurt a man then? E just be like say you still dey vex.

Leave am o, better women dey, my sisters follow too.

Before I got married, I was madly in love wt this particular lady and even proposed to her. She disappointed me upon we are family friends and we knew each other right from childhood. I thought then she's the best woman that I wl never get any other like her and her refusal was bcus of my financial status then.
You know wat,I.later married 1yr after her disappointment and my present wife has been the. most beautiful thing to me nw, whenever I compare her to that idiot I gv God the glory for giving me the wisdom and stenght that helped me moved on and later meet my better half.
We now hv a kid and expecting another and improve financial status.
Bros move on,u wl later discover that lots of good women are out there who are better than her in all the qualities u need in a woman.

italo:
She broke up last week because she was trying to avoid a clash on Val day. She has been dating the other guy for longer than you think. (most likely)

@hurting, if you commit everything to Jesus Christ, you will be uplifted to a point where, you'll be glad she left you.

There are 3.5 billion women in the world. Are you aware?

My Gwad!!!!!!! 3.5 billion women in the world and I still dey pursue sikiratu like usen bolt since last week!!
Well, am of to go serch for another babe!! Thanks for the info bro..

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freecocoa:
Lol, 2sex go and make up with your ex o, she still loves ypu.

please no swear for me o. Love ko, Lover ni.

You cross the trust line and that's the end, no matter how much I was once crazy about you. It kills every vibes and energy that has keep those feelings going. Trust is VERY important to me and if you abuse the trust in form of playing with my emotions or abusing it, no juju can resurrect those feelings.

Ex came back a number times... did it work? even tried sex, did it work? That's me. Our type fit use 3 years dey endure rubbish. When we do, we don go b dat.

Lastly, she has joined the Church crew seeking for prayers

hurting:

Yeah, heartreallyheavy@yandex.com
Mail me n I will reply with my number

Thanks

na wa oo..bros. Ur moniker-Hurting, ur email add- heartyreallyheavy. Did u create this names cos of wah happened?

I experienced d same last year dec.... Ave dated d gal for gud 3yrs it all start from sckul but today I'm telling oda story abt her. She actually left me for a guy cos of my employment status so ur case is nt d first one and its can b da last
Dis actually show wot gals of today really wnt

my friend u Berra move on if u die she will definite my b doing fine with her hussy;u beta no kill itself because of a lady av u reached d conclusion DAT u can Neva make it again in lifelife goes on oooo

A friend had the same issue. when he graduated the job wasnt coming while his girl friend was working with a telecoms company. After a while she informed my friend that she has found the love of her life and that the intro will be in 2 months time. The intro finally took place and my friend was devastated just the way you are right now. In another space of 3 months the same girl came back to start pleading with the guy that the guy she introduced to her family has abandoned her claiming she is mannerless. To cut the story short my friend later gained employment with one of the financial institutions and got married to another girl this was after tens of free abuna from her estranged girl friend who later come dey form caring. My guy move on. She isn't yours. If she can't bear with you now that means she can't bear with you tomorrow. Her leaving you might just open that door that has been closed

Please Lasser Fever and Zika virus are still much around we don't want shortage of Rat poison, Otapiapia and G.O.90 abeg

wow! guy I feel ur pain. And I mean it when i say I feel your pain. Years ago I was in the same position as u are now. At the point I thought life was void, empty, and a charade without HER. I loved her so much in ways the word 'luv' cannot fully define. So, like u, I thought it's done, am done. Days turn to month and months to years and am still here. still breathing, still living, still smiling, looking happier, and grateful. You see my dear, I found love again when I least expect. She has all the qualities my EX lacked. My guy, give urself time, am sure in few years time u will see the stupidity in wanting to end ur meaningful life for a less meaningful reason. Life is beautiful! Don't waste ur life for Nothingness.

ChappyChase:

My Gwad!!!!!!! 3.5 billion women in the world and I still dey pursue sikiratu like usen bolt since last week!!
Well, am of to go serch for another babe!! Thanks for the info bro..

yes, the population of women far out number men in this world.

hurting:

Yeah, heartreallyheavy@yandex.com
Mail me n I will reply with my number

Thanks

chai this dude don change everything to suite heartbreak including email. guy where u dey is far. I pray u come back. I put u in my prayers tonight.

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.

Brother, I would,nt want to give you more advice, but the only thing I will tell you is to delete her number, pix or anything that reminds you of her. Don't ever call her again. Try and get over, don't reply her msg on facebook or any social media. If she calls just answer her normally and casually, make it brief and end the call b4 she tries telling you stories. It works for me, and when she finally come begging, tell her you have moved on. The Hunter will soon become the hunted, she will become heart broken and comes begging you. Trust me this works, it's psychological. Focus on yourself and even explore and attend more proffesional certification to improve yourself. Best of Luck.

Op, i understand very well what u re goin thru. I knw is really hard for u right now given d fact that u guys ve been togeda all dis years.

Believe me is not gonna be eazy for u, to jus get over her like dat, bt trust me, u can do it.. Infact dis is the best time for u to top up ur game. Re-discover ursef, husle harder, retrace ur past errors, make new frnds, work on ur weakness n strenght, get more focused as she is no longer a "distraction" to you anymore.

Get on ur game n up the ante, she has moved on, n u nid to also. As sum1 earlier stated there is always sum1 better than what we have or had even when we tink, we ve seen it all.

If she cums bck to u begging fine, but don't ever make dat mistake of tryin to get her back again. Jus top UP ur game, datz all u nid. Avoid anytin dt will bring bck the good old times, don't allow ursef in a confined enviroment dat cld spark up d tots abt her. Go out n meet with friends, make new ones also, n be d best in what u re doin. she has moved on.

Note: When people walk out of your life, let them go; your destiny was never tied to anyone who leaves you! And it does not mean they were bad people. It jus means their role in your life's story is over! New helpers will locate you!

cherrymum:


I made the exact mistake your babe made some yrs ago and today i bite my fingers wishing God can turn back the hands of time. I wouldn't have left him. I now practically eat the crumbs that fall from his table. He still has his all time good heart but says we aren't getting back. i REGRET leaving him and moving on. i weep everyday.

I hope ladies will learn. Truth is nobody wants poverty.

2sex:
yes, the population of women far out number men in this world.

I don hammer be that!

2sex:
please no swear for me o. Love ko, Lover ni.

You cross the trust line and that's the end, no matter how much I was once crazy about you. It kills every vibes and energy that has keep those feelings going. Trust is VERY important to me and if you abuse the trust in form of playing with my emotions or abusing it, no juju can resurrect those feelings.

Ex came back a number times... did it work? even tried sex, did it work? That's me. Our type fit use 3 years dey endure rubbish. When we do, we don go b dat.

Lastly, she has joined the Church crew seeking for prayers

I can understand that, there are just some situations where second chances don't apply, I was teasing you btw.


Lol, prayer for husband abi wetin?

nothing's worth suicide

Hmmmm. May God see you through.

Hang out with guys, have some drinks.
It is well bro.

Moz22:
na wa oo..bros. Ur moniker-Hurting, ur email add- heartyreallyheavy. Did u create this names cos of wah happened?

a new moniker comes with an email so he created one too. somebody need to locate that guy's address to avoid stories that touch.

Let her go joooooor! Look for one Agege bread seller and pray that God answers her call you sef go hammer like Olajumoke and her husband

hurting:


Thanks bro! I fear she will get over me if I stay clear. I know her very well. And she is also heartbroken, she cries when I call her, as for d dressing, I have a very good dress sense, I kit well n dats one of d reason she loves me.

bro I gotta tell you, no one knows how u feel right now, no one. But most of us do have an idea a little. I only assure myself that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. No situation is as bad as it seems trust me. You will laugh at yourself later. But for now just cry as much as u can, and free urself from d pain, put the memories away and make sure to succeed. That's the sweetest thing u can do for urself. She is making an equally tough choice, but u are a man and have a family to build and ur immediate family to contribute to. They need you more than anything. Don't be stupid aii

italo:
There are 3.5 billion women in the world. Are you aware?

Say what? And I never get one girl friend!