Secretario:


Pathetic and destroyed life? I laugh because the truth is only by perception but I will let you off that, it is your shallow minded opinion.

And my asshole is as wide and deep as the vacuum in your head. Dumbskull!

Yup. It's really pathetic seeing how frustrated you are.

Your shallow background eats you inside so you wish same for others.

the higher a woman climbs in the society ladder, the more suitors run away

ispconfig3:

This is not funny.
Besides in 9 years my plan is still not marriage unless the right man comes by.

Elosky20:
the higher a woman climbs in the society ladder, the more suitors run away

What's your suggestion?

Pineapp:

At 26 you are not considering marriage
Issorait.

In 9 years time,you'll start jumping from Shiloh to synagogue.
From crusade to mountains and the prayer point will be," father locate the bone of my bone and catapult him to me"

stale lines... yadayada

MsGlobalwonder:
stale lines... yadayada

I bet you weren't taught sarcasm.
Swerve biko

Pineapp:

I bet you weren't taught sarcasm.
Swerve biko

sarcasm indeed! As though a woman's life starts and ends in marriage. Smh!

ispconfig3:


What's your suggestion?

u seem to be putting all ur attention towards ur study, and i believe ur parents wants u to introduce a man to them atleast as a husband to be and nt neccessarily marry him nw, because judging by ur post u have never been inlove b4 or its been long since u did, they might be judging frm experience of others which is normal. trust me getting married nw and getting married after ur PHD are the same, all that matters is asking God to show u the right person.
although i shear same ideology as you bt the difference is that am a guy

ispconfig3:


Unfortunately, I'm not concerned if you believe it partially or in totality.

Besides they are insisting I get married because 'My mates are married'. And I have a life of my own not my mates which no one understands or cares to understand.

Ok, don't you have a boyfriend or something of sort??

firstking01:
Ok, don't you have a boyfriend or something of sort??

I had a boyfriend once it didn't go so well.

ispconfig3:


This is not funny.

Besides in 9 years my plan is still not marriage unless the right man comes by.

my own is in next 3years don't run to this same site and complain,in as much as I believe marriage is not for everyone,there is a way u can do it and still be responsible,I don't believe marriage makes anyone to be responsible,all ur parent are saying is put it in ur agenda,in 9years u won't be ready,better tell us what's wrong with u so we talked how u can get out of it

ispconfig3:


I had a boyfriend once it didn't go so well.

Ok, stick to your guns, but be open to men.

Seems no reasonable advice here other than the first two comments.

So topic closed.

bayulll01:



my own is in next 3years don't run to this same site and complain,in as much as I believe marriage is not for everyone,there is a way u can do it and still be responsible,I don't believe marriage makes anyone to be responsible,all ur parent are saying is put it in ur agenda,in 9years u won't be ready,better tell us what's wrong with u so we talked how u can get out of it

You guys are missing the point here. What you saying is exact same thing people said 4 years ago. 4 years gone I'm still on the same stand not complaining about being single.

De world needs more sisters like u, n yo family is busy trying to depress u. I love girls like u. Can we b friends?

ispconfig3:


You guys are missing the point here. What you saying is exact same thing people said 4 years ago. 4 years gone I'm still on the same stand not complaining about being single.

then your fridge must be full of cucumber then,OYO lo wa

ispconfig3:


This is not funny.

Besides in 9 years my plan is still not marriage unless the right man comes by.

This is where I don't agree with you dear. In 9 years, you'll be 35 or thereabout. If you are not married by then, then there's a problem. Put your eyes on the ground and see a worthy suitor who fits into your goals in life. You seem to be only after career growth, what about family? The biological clock of a woman ticks nonstop and before you know it, fertility issues will spring up. You see many women running from pillar to post in a bid to have babies but unsuccessful, that will never be your portion in Jesus name. I am up for great strides in one's career, but trust me, you can combine it with raising a family. Many women are doing it successfully, you will not be an exception.

ispconfig3:
Happy valentine's day.

Since 3 years I have not had peace in my life. Everyone including my parents and siblings are insisting I bring home a man. It's even worse now because they give me this attitude like I'm a stranger who did something extremely bad.

If I ask any of my brothers for one assistance or the other they will say things like '...I'm not your husband'. They would insult me first then anything else follows.

I am 26 and a graduate in computer engineering. B.sc, M.sc. Marriage is not on my mind now because i am now working on my PhD but nobody understands and they don't even care to understand. Most men who come my way, I don't have any feeling or desire for them how then would I make one my husband?

My work is tedious and time consuming especially now with the challenges the Nigerian economy is facing so all hands on deck. Yet my parents are saying 'Get married!'.

Please Nairaland what do you think I can do? My close assistant is saying I should ignore everyone and continue my life the way I want it and some are saying I should just take any man to satisfy society.

I need your ideas please.

do whatever makes you happy and have peace. Marriage is an eternal lock. Once you are in, no going out. In bad times, not even your siblings will be there to help you face it. All you will hear is "sorry, take heart" but that aside, do not totally shut your mind against men and it as if you have "Mr perfect image" in your mind. That's very dangerous stance to adopt

placeofallure:


This is where I don't agree with you dear. In 9 years, you'll be 35 or thereabout. If you are not married by then, then there's a problem. Put your eyes on the ground and see a worthy suitor who fits into your goals in life. You seem to be only after career growth, what about family? The biological clock of a woman ticks nonstop and before you know it, fertility issues will spring up. You see many women running from pillar to post in a bid to have babies but unsuccessful, that will never be your portion in Jesus name. I am up for great strides in one's career, but trust me, you can combine it with raising a family. Many women are doing it successfully, you will not be an exception.

ok

Don't mind all dis folks who only think of marriages as d only achievement in life.Run from dem take your time baby men will always be dere remain focus on ur studies and suceed.Wen u are a success even at 40 yrs men will que up to marry you.Bea success and c d difference it makes in your life.

Marriage is not d ultimate in a woman's life. Do it wen u are ready and settled emotionally cos if u give in to pressure and make mistake dis folks here will insult u badly and forget dey were telling u about biological clock.

I will never regret my advice so many ladies in dere so-called marriages are hopless and lost dey just pretend we c dem every day in offices at work dey are not fulfilled dey just enduring marriage. They want to push u to cone taste d suffering dey passing through.

There is no age 2late to marry provided u are with d righ person and u are ready.

Enjoy

No one should pressure u into marriage, but at 26, marriage should be on ur mind please, give it a tot, it starts with a simple friendship, then progresses into something deeper, just open up ur heart..... its well with u

ispconfig3:
Seems no reasonable advice here other than the first two comments.

So topic closed.

Your attitude will make it difficult for you to have a successful relationship anytime you are ready

Dear Nairalander esp females,
Watch it any lady who have a thing against marriage and dating, watch them closely, they are the ones who are having big issues getting a man and they end up negative minded and full of resentment about marriage and others who are in one.
As long as many young beautiful and attractive ladies GO from one prayer meeting to another, crusade to another to pray and seek God for a life partner, it remains a major issue facing Nigerian ladies.
To make things worst the older young men who have experienced rejection from ladies while they are struggling and trying to find their feet in life, tend to later settle for the young innocent ladies than the old ones who has become desperate to marry.

ispconfigure please settle for a guy if he comes your way and ladies call spade a spade...
Thank you all

I admire the fact that you have dreams, visions, goals, aspirations or whatever it is you choose to call it. I'm of the opinion that no one should be pressured into marriage as nobody would be there to enjoy/endure the pressures in marriage later on.

I however have a question. Have you sworn off men completely? I think this is the concern of your family. Trust me, they are without doubt happy with what you have achieved so far but their concern is who will be there to share in your success in times to come.

Marriage is a lifetime adventure and should be planned but because you're not making any plans or showing any of such signs, it's bugging your family.
Simply let your family understand that you plan to get married at the right time but also show them that you have not completely lost interest in men.

I value go-getters. I love women with dreams and ambitions. It shows that such a woman knows she's got something to offer the world. Marriage is however not a necessity for great living. You don't have to if you don't want to but if you want to, start making plans at any early age, and I think that is now. Your PhD is not enough reason to hold off on any form of relationship.
What you should do is assure your family and also put interest in that aspect.