So many quentions begging for answers.
1. what caused the divorce? Someone like Chris shouldn't hide things like that from his followers.
2. What did Jesus say about divorce? Mattew 5 vs 31 and 32 "Furthermore it has been said, whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce. But I (Jesus) say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason 'except immorality' causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commit adultery" hmmm Chritianity no be joke. Jesus' attachment to the commadment seems hard to follow ooo. Jesus said only adultery should cause a divorce.
3. What is happening to church!? End Time?
4. Is it compulsory to get married? Not but some how necessary. God created marriage to reduce loneliness and for regeneration. We can also say to control immoralities.
MARRIAGE SHOULD BE LIKE A SEMI-HEAVEN WHERE YOU LOVE AND CHERISH WHAT/WHO YOU HAVE WITH JOY NOT A SEMI-HELL WHERE YOU WOULD FEEL LIKE COMMITING SUICIDE.
#NaMyOpinion

Its not d matter of choice. Is in their DNA to not want to make such sacrifices

thorpido:
A pity many don't want to make such sacrifices.

So dis 2 "born agains" carried their beef into d new year?!! Am so disappointed.

These guys are not angels, they are humans like us. They should give us space Jo.

Omoluabi16:
On Valentine's day, The christi embassy church opposite was basically turned into a mini club.with their ultra sexy clothes.Worse still, after the service they began to play serious hip hop music.Truly, on judgement day, judgement will start from the church.God knee how much the church will deviate from his statutes and commandmy in the last days.Church hardly tell the truth these days, but tell people with itchy ears fables.God help us.

Sorry to say this but you are a liar

frankblinkz:
The very first dy i stepped my foot in christ embassy..i told God to forgv me,dat church is a false church and an end time ministry....u wear wat ever u like....a whole pastor reading bible from phone(tablet)..guyz plait or dread hair to church..every members spk in tongue..was wachn sinach singing on alter with hair open and trouser,jeez,dnt knw wat more to say...now divorce saga a MOG?

Oga pls go and read ur bible and tell us where reading the bible from a tablet is sin *lol* jeez ppl are just so religious! Oga do u follow God's word? That's the imp tin.

harry41:


Sorry to say this but you are a liar

because you live close to me of course

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Most Nigerians in my honest opinion are too judgmental acting like saints. If most of you were saints, why is Nigeria such a mess? You all better face front and mind your business please. Some people are not cut out to be with cheating spouses. Not everyone wants to die of HIV/AIDS and other deadly incurable sexually transmitted diseases all in the name of wanting to stay married.

Why do you think Africa is the continent affected most by HIV/AIDS? It is because of the risky sexual behaviour of the African-bred man and African society's crappy view that a woman should put up with a cheating spouse. The bible permits divorce in the case of infidelity. People should realize that if you can't stay faithful to your spouse, don't get married. No one has time to stay 'one' with a walking disease bag.

You don't know what Pastor Anita went through in her marriage before making the painful decision to divorce her husband. So allow her be. Focus instead on your falling naira because a time will come when one mudu of garri will be one thousand naira. When hunger deals with many of you here, you will have no strength to come online and type rubbish judging another human being when you yourself are in no way perfect.

cruzita:
when two elephants fight the grass suffers.Now that they have divorced,the church will suffer because u can't preach freely against topics based on divorce or marriages since u couldn't maintain yours.the church will lose its name and members

Your assertion, bolded up there, is completely WRONG....and l would explain!

First, Marriage involves two people and it will only work, if both agree to make it work!
If one of the party wants-out, then BY LAW, they have the right to seek a divorce.
The other party can do nadda about it.

Secondly, in life, we learn in many ways: By 'direct experience', from the 'experience of others'..... but ALWAYS from EXPERIENCE!
Teachers who teach in schools, have themselves been students (Student teachers in training) where they learn the "experience"... so they can teach it to their own students.
Judges dont have a "special school" they attend but are appointed based on 'experience".

There is a cliché that goes like "EXPERIENCE is the BEST TEACHER"!
My point is, Pastor Chris is now even in a better position to talk about LOVE, MARRIAGE, FAMILY and DIVORCE... to his Church members.
Now, he will not be just speaking based on what he read in 'Books'.... but today, he has "walked the walk and talked the talk"!
He knows what it means to go through a divorce, he knows the up-sides and the down-sides.
He is in a better position to advise others, because he knows what led to this marriage breakdown and is able to educate other younger couples, on how to avoid such pitfalls.

Now, he would think twice before blaming another person whose marriage is not working out or say it is because God does not accept them or they are not serving God properly!
"Experience is KEY".



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cruzita:
when two elephants fight the grass suffers.Now that they have divorced,the church will suffer because u can't preach freely against topics based on divorce or marriages since u couldn't maintain yours.the church will lose its name and members

The Church cannot be the grass at all, rather it's the children.

dasparrow:
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Most Nigerians in my honest opinion are too judgmental acting like saints. If most of you were saints, why is Nigeria such a mess? You all better face front and mind your business please. Some people are not cut out to be with cheating spouses. Not everyone wants to die of HIV/AIDS and other deadly incurable sexually transmitted diseases all in the name of wanting to stay married.

Why do you think Africa is the continent affected most by HIV/AIDS? It is because of the risky sexual behaviour of the African-bred man and African society's crappy view that a woman should put up with a cheating spouse. The bible permits divorce in the case of infidelity. People should realize that if you can't stay faithful to your spouse, don't get married. No one has time to stay 'one' with a walking disease bag.

You don't know what Pastor Anita went through in her marriage before making the painful decision to divorce her husband. So allow her be. Focus instead on your falling naira because a time will come when one mudu of garri will be one thousand naira. When hunger deals with many of you here, you will have no strength to come online and type rubbish judging another human being when you yourself are in no way perfect.

I am shocked that you think HIV/AIDS is prevalent in Africa because of our "risky sexual behaviour and marriage resilience"?
That is bullshyte please.

ask anyon ewho has lived amongst white people and they will tell you that "to them, shex is nothing"!
They can sleep with four-five people in one day.
beofre a girl is 18, she has slept with so many boys that her "physical attributes" (from the bosom being saggy and outright flat, to the real Phekus becoming over-used like Lagos-Ibadan express road) makes her appear like she has had five children!
Same for the men too, they have sampled enough women such that when they eventually decide to marry, they just cant stop cheating and this is why marriage crashes there, like a pack of cards..... and to make things "simple", divorce has become a DIY, ten minutes endeavour!

Is it these white people that "marry and marry" an average of three times in their life time, that are faithful to their spouse? Abeg!

But the level of HIV/AIDS over there is less because they have immediate access to free and better medical facility that tackle such infection right-away. they encourage and beg infected people to come forward to get treated for free. The drugs are supplied to them and as a matter of fact, they dont allow the infection to get "full-blown" before nailing it.

Come to Africa here, illiteracy, lack of drugs, non-existent health facilities dedicated to such infection and most importantly, POVERTY or lack of money to fund the treatment are the cause/reasons why the infection is spreading over here.

People at times live with the disease for years, without getting the required treatment..... not because they dont want to be treated but because they cant afford it and Govt cant fund it as done in the West.
If Africans have the level of rampant promiscuity of the Westerners, l bet we will all be dead by now.

Dont get it twisted please.



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dasparrow:
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Most Nigerians in my honest opinion are too judgmental acting like saints. If most of you were saints, why is Nigeria such a mess? You all better face front and mind your business please. Some people are not cut out to be with cheating spouses. Not everyone wants to die of HIV/AIDS and other deadly incurable sexually transmitted diseases all in the name of wanting to stay married.

Why do you think Africa is the continent affected most by HIV/AIDS? It is because of the risky sexual behaviour of the African-bred man and African society's crappy view that a woman should put up with a cheating spouse. The bible permits divorce in the case of infidelity. People should realize that if you can't stay faithful to your spouse, don't get married. No one has time to stay 'one' with a walking disease bag.

You don't know what Pastor Anita went through in her marriage before making the painful decision to divorce her husband. So allow her be. Focus instead on your falling naira because a time will come when one mudu of garri will be one thousand naira. When hunger deals with many of you here, you will have no strength to come online and type rubbish judging another human being when you yourself are in no way perfect.

. Nna pipe down.

some ppl are devil incarnates. it is written, de devil comes only but to kill and destroy. and she has achieved that if dis story is true. pst Anita should be grateful yo pst. chris. for making her a global figure. a person ppl look up to instead of dragging d innocent man's name to mud. well d bible isn't against divorce but both of them will hav to remain unmarried becos it is until death do them part. that's what Jesus said in matthew 5vs 31 to 32

Bobby4090:
The man never wanted the marriage to work in the first instance. If he did, tell me which Man of God will leave his family to reside in London while he stays put in Lagos surrounded by strange women who were masquarading as "Church Workers". This went on for several years as i learnt. What kind of Gods' work will make a family seperate for decades in the midst of temptations. They both got what they wanted and they both are an embarrassment to what they preach... so let the case close.

People like you are worse than 'armed robbers' because those ones at least come out to declare that they want to rob you..... but Satanist like you hide behind the computer to spread falsehood.

I am no fan of Chris Oyahkilome, infact, l dislike that "jerry-curled", funky-looking, unserious persona of his, since l was young. I think "spiritual leaders" like him should "lead by example.... good example" .....and he is a bad example of "moderation". (my opinion though).

Let us ASSUME that what you posit above is TRUE. Let us assume that it was Chris who left/abandoned his family on London!
Let me also ASSUME that you have been to London, at least ONCE!

Now, tell us, does London looks like a place where a "man" can impose his wish on his wife, against her will?
can you tell your wife to "sit down there".... (when she does not want to)..... and she will obey you?
As a mater of fact, when it comes to the whole of Europe and America, it is thee woman that tells the man to "sit down there"... and he does!
If he doesn't, he gets thrown out of his own house, that same night, with not more than his knickers, loses his kids and becomes an instant ATM (wife and child support) to the estranged wife.

Again, based on your words, which we decided to "assume for truth", let us ask this Kwesion: Did Chris also tie his wife down in London, that she could not buy a ticket and say "Today, l will live with my husband in Nigeria"... and fly to Lagos? ..... or does she have her reason for "staying put" in London and refusing to come live with her husband?

So, the argument that Chris dumped his family in London, does not wash at all.

Fact is; Anita was the one that abandoned her husband in Nigeria because she has her own "reasons and designs" for refusing to come home.

Jist: (meaning you can ignore it)
1.) She prefers living in London than Nigeria because over there, she gets to be the 'husband'.... while Chris will be the wife

2.) she was getting "power drunk" and wanted to be lording it over other Church Ministers who by "church hierachy", are senior to her since she is just the "Pastor's wife"... and not 2nd in-command. Infact, she was challenging Chris authority, within the church.
That sort of behaviour can only go unchallenged in London, hence her staying put over there!

3.) Since the church has a "very lucrative" branch in London, Anita figured out she better hold onto that one....and she eventually converted it to her own "personal church" (Go and read the court papers as regards the wahala that happened in that branch of the church, when she hijacked ownership of it! Imagine a British court "dividing ownership of church" between husband and wife, like it is some "carnal/material" property, eehn?)

Issokay!

So, for Anita, its all about the Love of MONEY and POWER....... the marriage can go to blazes!
I just hope she wont be pretending to be seeing visions of exhibiting anything resembling "spiritual", afterwards!

Now that they are free of each other's burden, l hope we get to have some fresh air.


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myners007:
The Woman is quite over ambitious. Women should always learn how bto be submissive to their husband and be supportive ang encouraging even when the chips are down.Its not advisable for a Man of God to be involved in a divorce saga but Anita insisted and has finally gotten it. May God continue to strenghten you pastor Chris and your ministry will continue to wax stronger

And you somehow concluded that this was the case with them. What is wrong with you people? It is not like I'm surprised. Mtchew!

Ogedo:
some ppl are devil incarnates. it is written, de devil comes only but to kill and destroy. and she has achieved that if dis story is true. pst Anita should be grateful yo pst. chris. for making her a global figure. a person ppl look up to instead of dragging d innocent man's name to mud. well d bible isn't against divorce but[b] both of them will hav to remain unmarried becos[/b] it is until death do them part. that's what Jesus said in matthew 5vs 31 to 32

At that age, it is only the man that still cherishes marriage...being officially married!
Come to London and see how divorced women harbour men under their roof for donkey years (or some men just sneak-in, yansh the woman and bail out.... except if she needs more money, she then gets pregnant and the guy will enter "one chance wahala"! )

So, l suspect none of them will attempt anything like re-marrying..... but it does not stop them from doing what married people do, on top of bed!


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Probably Na lie!

niyi123:


Infidelity

Follow my words and not my actions

blackpanda:


You shld learn to distinguish probability from proof. And the probability is simply because one system is more traditional and therefore more popular than the other. There are simply no guarantees in raising children. Period.

Whether married or single, the important thing is making your best efforts. There are even people who were raised by neither parents and still turned out well. Many of the older generation were raised by grandparent(s)

Divorce and single-parenthood did not just start today, so you can be sure that a lot of research would havebeen done on the effects of such "lifestyle" on the products of such life-style, which are the children.

For example, l am sure you know that research has been done on the race/colour of inmates in British and American Prisons and it has emerged that "though the Caucasian (whites) far out number Blacks (Negroid) in terms of National population numbers, there are more than double Black people in prisons, than are white people"!

These research also went further down and analysed the data and statistically, one of the things that also came out of such research is that an alarmingly high (over 70%) proportion of these prison inmates, come from broken homes or are raised by a SINGLE PARENT!

These 'social statistical research' has been done over and over again, in various prisons and places and the TREND is always the same.
Also, Research has shown that children raised by both parents under one roof, are more "psychologically better-adjusted", than children raised by a single parent.... but that is a no-brainer, it should be obvious like a ore thumb!

So, in conclusion, "Research has proved that there is a HIGH CORRELATION between being raised by a SINGLE PARENT and a capacity of end up in Prison as a result of falling put with the law!
This goes to buttress the cliché that "Two good heads (parents), are better than one".

Now, let me point out that "Statistical Research" itself, is a "generalised outcome" based on percentages......Percentages "High enough" to represent the population.
There would be one or two (as you have pointed out), but[b] highly insignificant "DEVIATION" from the trend.[/b]... but they are so small as to be considered insignificant.


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thorpido:
I understand where you are coming from.No one is condemning single parenthood but there's something called relativity. It's been proven that children raised by both parents fare better than children raised by single parents.

blackpanda:


You shld learn to distinguish probability from proof. And the probability is simply because one system is more traditional and therefore more popular than the other. There are simply no guarantees in raising children. Period.

Whether married or single, the important thing is making your best efforts. There are even people who were raised by neither parents and still turned out well. Many of the older generation were raised by grandparent(s)

Divorce and single-parenthood did not just start today, so you can be sure that a lot of research would havebeen done on the effects of such "lifestyle" on the products of such life-style, which are the children.

For example, l am sure you know that research has been done on the race/colour of inmates in British and American Prisons and it has emerged that "though the Caucasian (whites) far out number Blacks (Negroid) in terms of National population numbers, there are more than double Black people in prisons, than are white people"!

These research also went further down and analysed the data and statistically, one of the things that also came out of such research is that an alarmingly high (over 70%) proportion of these prison inmates, come from broken homes or are raised by a SINGLE PARENT!

These 'social statistical research' has been done over and over again, in various prisons and places and the TREND is always the same.
Also, Research has shown that children raised by both parents under one roof, are more "psychologically better-adjusted", than children raised by a single parent.... but that is a no-brainer, it should be obvious like a ore thumb!

So, in conclusion, "Research has proved that there is a HIGH CORRELATION between being raised by a SINGLE PARENT and a capacity of end up in Prison as a result of falling put with the law!
This goes to buttress the cliché that "Two good heads (parents), are better than one".

Now, let me point out that "Statistical Research" itself, is a "generalised outcome" based on percentages......Percentages "High enough" to represent the population.
There would be one or two (as you have pointed out), but[b] highly insignificant "DEVIATION" from the trend.[/b]... but they are so small as to be considered insignificant.


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myners007:
The Woman is quite over ambitious. Women should always learn how bto be submissive to their husband and be supportive ang encouraging even when the chips are down.Its not advisable for a Man of God to be involved in a divorce saga but Anita insisted and has finally gotten it. May God continue to strenghten you pastor Chris and your ministry will continue to wax stronger

Now she's over ambitious. Chris now deserves prayers abi? People sha..... In your comment, you referred to Chris as a Man of God but, now Anita was just Anita. Remember, they were both running things before. Then, she wasn't Woman of God. And for this comment, you have 22 likes. Those that liked your comment are the pathetic ones.. Not you, coz I'm sure you know you were to one sided in your comment

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Divorce and single-parenthood did not just start today, so you can be sure that a lot of research would havebeen done on the effects of such "lifestyle" on the products of such life-style, which are the children.

For example, l am sure you know that research has been done on the race/colour of inmates in British and American Prisons and it has emerged that "though the Caucasian (whites) far out number Blacks (Negroid) in terms of National population numbers, there are more than double Black people in prisons, than are white people"!

These research also went further down and analysed the data and statistically, one of the things that also came out of such research is that an alarmingly high (over 70%) proportion of these prison inmates, come from broken homes or are raised by a SINGLE PARENT!

These 'social statistical research' has been done over and over again, in various prisons and places and the TREND is always the same.
Also, Research has shown that children raised by both parents under one roof, are more "psychologically better-adjusted", than children raised by a single parent.... but that is a no-brainer, it should be obvious like a ore thumb!

So, in conclusion, "Research has proved that there is a HIGH CORRELATION between being raised by a SINGLE PARENT and a capacity of end up in Prison as a result of falling put with the law!
This goes to buttress the cliché that "Two good heads (parents), are better than one".

Now, let me point out that "Statistical Research" itself, is a "generalised outcome" based on percentages......Percentages "High enough" to represent the population.
There would be one or two (as you have pointed out), but[b] highly insignificant "DEVIATION" from the trend.[/b]... but they are so small as to be considered insignificant.


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Thanks for the info lastpage.I was too busy to provide research proofs.

So sad,God is still in control.

[quote author=niyi123 post=43035423][/quote] I never said he cant misbehave along that line.myselt initialy thot dat was de problem esp with all those dress to kill ladies flocking around him as church workers but it was not the case.

Speechless3:
I believe marriages would preserve if people stay because of God than because of "love".

But God is Love!

I'd recommend dis for Anita.

https://www.nairaland.com/2618513/before-divorce-adulterous-hubby

floragregs:
Marriage is NOT for everybody! That's why I hate seeing nairalanders telling celebrity single ladies to go and get married. Please leave them alone! I repeat, marriage is NOT for everybody!

go get married, get a life and spirit of bitterness would flee from u...

Toks2008:


Except there is some other reasons we dont know that justifies the divorce.

She first wrote infidelity then changed it to improper conduct and on and on but the question is..:is it worth it?

Now after divorce.wats next?

Was her case as bad as toke makinwa and many other wives of g overseers worldwide where their hubbies were vividly involved in adultery?

As far as i know..lMany adies born within febuari 22 and march 22 are too unrealistic for the real world and most of these ladies find divorce or breaking up so easy for no solid reason...ladies like..juliet ibrahim,Anita oyakhilome,rihana,2 ladies i know but dont want to mention their names 0and my ex making 6 case studies and all cant be a coincidence.

These ladies see breakup as nothing because they are too sensitive and unrealistic.

Asides their fanrastic nature,they are usually persimistic and negative,always seing reasons why things cant work rather than see why it should work and the most dangerous aspect about them is that they are naturally unreasonable,ubdexisive and can easily destrot themselves because wat makes sense to them is usually senseless to the real world...

Are you for real? Did you take time to find out what the men in the lives of the ladies you mentioned did to them to deserve what they got. Do you know what they had to put up with before resloving to this? So they should continue to wallow in all sorts cos dey want to remain married? Please! You even forgot to tell us what you did to your ex. Bless you.

weebee:


Are you for real? Did you take time to find out what the men in the lives of the ladies you mentioned did to them to deserve what they got. Do you know what they had to put up with before resloving to this? So they should continue to wallow in all sorts cos dey want to remain married? Please! You even forgot to tell us what you did to your ex. Bless you.

Point of correction weebee,This is not even about me perse and i cant say i have an ex cos this same lady refuse to let me be yet she remained so indecisive simply because that is the funny nature of hers.

This is not about taking time out to find out what their men did to them because as i wrote, 6 cases can never be a coincidence and i still wonder that how can these ladies be so perfect yet so flawed?

Please go and read the story of Juliet ibrahim and Anita Oyakhilome then come back and tell me exactly what you can make out of it and as i wrote, i have other two lady friends who also left their hubby and i listened to their stories and i just concluded that YES they all have something to say but the question is...Are these excuses worth the divorce? that is the question.

These ladies are so mysterious that only a man who really have the patience to understand them will really cope with them.

I am not generalizing please but all those i have met have the same trend.

harry41:


Oga pls go and read ur bible and tell us where reading the bible from a tablet is sin *lol* jeez ppl are just so religious! Oga do u follow God's word? That's the imp tin.

may God forgv u..after storing porn and other wordly things on ur phone..u still use it as Bible u re so daft

If men of God re separating, so wht massage re they passing unto lay faithful