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Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by Vyolet(f): 9:25am On Feb 19, 2016 |
DeMekus:Ying!! Wait until you get married before you conclude. Marriage entails a lot of compromise where you find e yourself doing what you would not do naturally, therefore, you will cook someday. 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by DeMekus: 9:32am On Feb 19, 2016 |
Vyolet:Ok, ma. |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by bukatyne(f): 10:58am On Feb 19, 2016 |
goodfornothing: How many Nigerians cook with aprons? 6 Likes |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by bukatyne(f): 11:03am On Feb 19, 2016 |
Tolatutu: I do not agree with him BUT he feels cooking should be is dividend in marriage therefore he claims he can do all other chores apart from cooking to feel 'married' He has the right to pick what traditional roles should remain if his wife agrees to it. |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by bukatyne(f): 11:05am On Feb 19, 2016 |
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Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by Nobody: 11:09am On Feb 19, 2016 |
DeMekus: You know what. I can live with that. It's great that you are willing and able to do things around the house consistently, not just when you feel like it. You are also very willing to be a hands on dad. If I was your wife, I would be very happy with the arrangement. I love cooking but I don't love cooking and doing every single thing around the house by myself. Something has to give. As long as if I'm ill we get food outside ooo 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by DeMekus: 12:04pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
fem29:LOL! Thanks for understanding. 1 Like |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by FTBOY: 12:36pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
so what of guys who don't cook like myself? does that mean no marriage for us smh for some people sha |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by ronald4lif(m): 12:45pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
FTBOY: No one said a man who doesn't know how to cook or don't like cooking shouldn't get married. They can marry and provided the wife is okay with it fine but what I was saying is that it isn't a man's "right" not to cook as anyone can prepare meals for the family. Just like cleaning and any other chores can be done by both couple too. 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by Cammo: 12:50pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
No disrespect to women but by general standard (whether Africa or abroad) the kitchen belongs to the wife. Couples can share responsibilities but it's never gonna be equally. The husband, who is the head, is expected to provide for his family while the wife serves as his support. I can't imagine a scenario where a husband is cooking in the kitchen while the wife is mowing the lawn outdoors. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by Mamatee07: 1:04pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
bukatyne: Nope he's saying it's not right or African for a man to cook which is crap. you can't marry a woman who works the same hours as you and pays bills like you and then decide only she will cook. The minute your wife does the same day hustle as you and pays equal bills you've dropped the African.roles . If she's come on to support your role as a provider then you must be ready to share hers too. She not a robot, that's why some women will be looking like their husbands mothers. The woman too can as well decide which modern roles she wants to take on. Let her also say I'll work but you pay all the bills because it's African for a Man to pay the bills even if you can't cook be ready to wash dishes 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by DeMekus: 1:16pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Mamatee07:But who told you I'd allow my wife work the same hours as I do or share bills equally with me? Then why is she a wife? Anyway, I think everyone has their own choice of marriage partner. |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by DeMekus: 1:16pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Cammo:Good reasoning! |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by Amhappy(f): 1:46pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Men should know how to cook simple. Ordinarily no Nigerian wife wants her husband in the kitchen except if need be. My kitchen is special to me and I don't trust DH culinary skills but there are times I need him to do it. Well I no dey even talk sef, by the time I take my bath and lie down,he will leave TV/phone and enter kitchen. 1 Like |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by HaneefahRN(f): 4:33pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Mamatee07: Thank you. Altho I don't mind doing all the cooking and chores , but some men's mentality is very warped, the woman has to do all the house chores, they feel helping her out will make them less of a man but her sharing bills with them doesn't make them less of a man. I av a Prof in one of the prestigious Unis in Nigerian as a family friend, the wife is also a Prof, he cooks for his family once in a while esp when his wife is tired or sick or travelled, the children sef prefers his cooking cos he doesn't economize ingredients and assortment like his wife. There are men tht can't even feed their own baby, if the wife dares suggest tht they help out, na trouble. The woman is the one expected to slave around all day and still contribute to the family's finances. An heavily pregnant woman wld be expected to continue cooking for him and his barrage of friends, whether she is sick or healthy she has to cook, if she comes back late from work and tired, she has't cooked, there is trouble, etc . May God help us. 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by johnson232: 5:01pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
HaneefahRN:if what u said is true, then those children lack manners and proper upbringing. are they babies? i don't think is proper for an old man to be cooking for his children, i can't imagine my dad cooking when i and my sisters are at home... it isn't just right.... cooking is a woman thing, there is absolutely nothing anybody can do about it... u women should embrace your vocation with delight... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by HaneefahRN(f): 5:13pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
johnson232: First that's nice of u. 2nd it started from when they were young ( his last born is in Uni now) and the man takes it up as a personal thing whenever he is available, they help him out bt he makes sure he joins in in making d dish, down to going to the market wt his kids, making it even more fun for them cos of course they'll always find something nt foodlike to ask daddy to buy. He enjoys doing it, tht is when he has d time sha, cos he is a busy man, but those few times he has he uses it to spend quality time wt his family, they'll tell their mom they don't want economist here o. So it's nt abt upbringing, and dnt let him hear u call him old man. 1 Like |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by johnson232: 5:19pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
HaneefahRN:to attain the status of a prof in nigeria takes time, hence the old man... 1 Like |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by MsGlobalwonder(f): 6:37pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
DeMekus:lol. Men should not eat too. 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by eitsei(m): 6:41pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
HaneefahRN:please, what's now the responsibility of a wife in the home? |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by byvan03: 7:01pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Op should women pay bills in a home even when they have a husband? I will like to know your answer on this. 2 Likes |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by HaneefahRN(f): 7:14pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
eitsei: Definitely not to be a slave to the man, what's the big deal wt the man helping out his wife in the house esp when she is indisposed? Now tell me what the responsibilities of the man is in the home 2 Likes |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by goodfornothing(m): 7:44pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
johnson232:Excellent! Let the so called feminists keep ranting on Nairaland. But we know they're as humble as puppies in the real world 1 Like |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by goodfornothing(m): 7:50pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
byvan03:Bill payment is the husband's duty. The wife can help at her own accord but it's not compulsory. But the kitchen is definitely the wife's territory! |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by marbee(f): 7:52pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Story...... But they eat more than everybody. 2 Likes |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by goodfornothing(m): 7:53pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
marbee:Have you been measuring the quantity of food your husband consumes on a daily basis? |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by Amhappy(f): 8:11pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
goodfornothing: Sorry but the truth is that what you just said is not obtainable in 70percent of homes in Nigeria with the harsh economy. A woman contribution is now very compulsory. Some women even work till 9th month of pregnancy because of hardship. That's the reality of life. And yes the kitchen is our territory,you can only be found there when we need your help. 1 Like |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by byvan03: 8:36pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
goodfornothing: Can the man help on his own accord in the kitchen? 2 Likes |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by eitsei(m): 4:02am On Feb 20, 2016 |
HaneefahRN:I don't think you answered my question well... No one is saying the wife should be treated as a slave and it's very good for a husband to help his wife sometimes but the wife shouldn't be sharing her role with her husband not that a time table for house chores will now be made on the ground that 'he' s working am working ' |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by poshestmina(f): 4:11am On Feb 20, 2016 |
Your moniker suites you Hope you marry a woman that doesn't bring a dime to the table too 4 Likes |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by HaneefahRN(f): 5:11am On Feb 20, 2016 |
eitsei: Alryt, I intentionally didn't ans it well, I thought u wanted to criticize d man helping his wife out |
Re: Men Are Not Supposed To Be In The Kitchen. by goodfornothing(m): 10:18am On Feb 22, 2016 |
Amhappy:The wife serves as the husband's complement, in other words, an assistant to her man. She is mainly subjected to dispense domestic duties but no marriage law anywhere compels her to support the husband financially, even if she earns more |
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