I can't express how I feel right now. Early this month my friend and I ended our relationship that started aeons ago. Although I made efforts to salvage the relationship but it didn't work and we resolved to go our separate ways

For the past two weeks I have not been thinking straight. I do things and then I will ask myself did I just do/say this. Last week I made an error in one of my reporting and that would have landed me a grade 1 query. When by boss alerted me about the mistake, I tendered a resignation letter instead of getting a query but he refused to accept the letter and advised me to take a week leave. I guess it's obvious that I am out of shape.

My decisions are clouded I mean I can't think anything for sure. Even when am correct I doubt and my feeding habit is deteriorating.

I enjoy being alone but now I am beginning to feel lonely. I mean I use to stay for months without my ex and I don't feel it but now I don't know why.

And I discovered recently that I am acting weird like I am now "Vulnerable" I mean...ok let me explain....The lady prepares food for me is from an agency and last week she brought food and I was "staring" at her and she stared back at me too smiling. This is someone that I had not noticed for a year. I had to contact the agency that I will be travelling so they shouldn't expect my order till next month. And now I realise my account officer at the bank has dimples. I have been acting unlike me lately.

I have contacted a psychologist and he is saying these feelings are normal then I asked him if he had being in a long relationship that ended abruptly and he said No. Although we are still communicating but I want to hear from someone with experience.

Pls I need an advice from someone who have had similar experience. How did you cope? And I want to ask again are these feelings normal? What do I need to do to get back on my feet quickly because I don't want to resume work in this state?

I have visited new places like my psychologist advised although meeting people and initiating a conversation is hard but I am bending....is there anything else I can do?

I will appreciate ur advice

Call ur ex and mend ways. According to ur previous stories, she has been there for you all along. I guess your attitude must hav pushed her to breaking point.

We are nothing but dust. If what you're earning currently is getting to ur head, remember that you're not among the 1st million to own a hefty bank account. Forget ur current position and relate wit ur ex like it has always been from d onset.

package get a new person and start all over again. remember "Love dont cost a thing"

Try and talk to her and if she is not ready to talk to you....there is one thing I am sure of....


Kindly get a good gaming system.....

Install pes15 or pes 13, fifa15 or fifa16, assassin's creed, grand theft auto, need for speed, god of war, call of duty, uncharted....

Run one of the software and play it for just 2hrs,....

Trust me, you won't remember her existence

You don't know what ye have till its gone

You are a guy,will get over it soon.

Chaiiii. ..so you finally broke up with that lady.. cos she wasn't posh enough for you. . Someone that was with you when you had nothing and even sponsored some of your dealings. .

It's your decision anyway and I can't tell you to be with her out of pity...I hope you don't regret it later when you get a 'posh' lady..

That lady will get someone better. . Really wish I can get her contact so that I can encourage her...

StPete:
Call ur ex and mend ways. According to ur previous stories, she has been there for you all along. I guess your attitude must hav pushed her to breaking point.

We are nothing but dust. If what you're earning currently is getting to ur head, remember that you're not among the 1st million to own a hefty bank account. Forget ur current position and relate wit ur ex like it has always been from d onset.

What's hefty about his account? I bet you his salary isn't up to 200k. . He's just so full of himself. . Wonder how he would have treated the lady if he were to be working in an oil firm. .

His business anyway. .seems I'm getting emotional here..

Breaking up is tough on sensitive guys esp when its with someone u truly loved. Nothing tastes good, everything tastes like newspaper. You flinch anytime you think of her and your heart skips a beat for no apparent reason. Its like you are in an emotional desert where nothing makes sense anymore and at the same time the smallest things reminds you of her and the good times you had. You begin to wonder why you broke up in the first place.

This is also a most vulnerable time, you are feeling emotionally starved and any lady that comes along will easily fill that void even if naturally you wouldn't find her attractive. It is at times like this that you can make a mistake you will regret for the rest of your life. You might meet a girl that ordinarily isn't your specs but cos of the emotional void you take her in and make her fill the void. You close your eyes to her faults and think you can change her to fit the kind of person that you like, and if you are someone the girl desires as well she will pretend to go along with whatever u like. One day however she will revert to her true nature and by then you would have either impregnated her or married her.

So you have to guard yourself . Be very vigilant.

I was one of those against your breaking up with that girl, but its like u went ahead and did it. Well, its your life, only you know what you really want. If you can survive the next few months without her then by all means do so. Just make sure the next relationship you get into is not born out of a need to fill the void this one has created.
Cheers bro.

Hahahahahahaha, see life o.

PresVA:
Chaiiii. ..so you finally broke up with that lady.. cos she wasn't posh enough for you. . Someone that was with you when you had nothing and even sponsored some of your dealings. .

It's your decision anyway and I can't tell you to be with her out of pity...I hope you don't regret it later when you get a 'posh' lady..

That lady will get someone better. . Really wish I can get her contact so that I can encourage her...

PresVA:
What's hefty about his account? I bet you his salary isn't up to 200k. . He's just so full of himself. . Wonder how he would have treated the lady if he were to be working in an oil firm. .

His business anyway. .seems I'm getting emotional here..

My bro, I feel u jaare

singlefade25:
Hahahahahahaha, see life o.

my dear oo.. .. when he was with the lady for many years, 'chopping' her money on top, he didn't know the lady was 'dull', not a go getter and not posh... He suddenly wants the lady to completely change into what he wants her to be without knowing it will take time and also a change of environment/lifestyle....
Or it's not just in the lady which isn't her fault afterall she has been herself from day 1 of d relationship not like she disguised herself so the op knew her kinda person from day 1... this life ehhh

Anyway, breakup happens. ... life must go on!

PresVA:
my dear oo.. .. when he was with the lady for many years, 'chopping' her money on top, he didn't know the lady was 'dull', not a go getter and not posh... He suddenly wants the lady to completely change into what he wants her to be without knowing it will take time and also a change of environment/lifestyle....
Or it's not just in the lady which isn't her fault afterall she has been herself from day 1 of d relationship not like she disguised herself so the op knew her kinda person from day 1... this life ehhh

Anyway, breakup happens. ... life must go on!

You're twisting the tale. No need for bad blood here, if he doesn't want he doesn't want. Let him be.

No one can help you get back your hapiness but you. First find out if the reason for the break up is justifiable.
it might guilt that is making u so miserable.
But for her absence to affect you this much, i wonder how she will be feeling now. Women are more fragile.

If you can retrace your steps and see if you both can make things work again, fine. if not, move one bro. Hang out with friends more.

Avoid romantic scenerios.

RiloKiley:
Breaking up is tough on sensitive guys esp when its with someone u truly loved. Nothing tastes good, everything tastes like newspaper. You flinch anytime you think of her and your heart skips a beat for no apparent reason. Its like you are in an emotional desert where nothing makes sense anymore and at the same time the smallest things reminds you of her and the good times you had. You begin to wonder why you broke up in the first place.

This is also a most vulnerable time, you are feeling emotionally starved and any lady that comes along will easily fill that void even if naturally you wouldn't find her attractive. It is at times like this that you can make a mistake you will regret for the rest of your life. You might meet a girl that ordinarily isn't your specs but cos of the emotional void you take her in and make her fill the void. You close your eyes to her faults and think you can change her to fit the kind of person that you like, and if you are someone the girl desires as well she will pretend to go along with whatever u like. One day however she will revert to her true nature and by then you would have either impregnated her or married her.

So you have to guard yourself . Be very vigilant.

I was one of those against your breaking up with that girl, but its like u went ahead and did it. Well, its your life, only you know what you really want. If you can survive the next few months without her then by all means do so. Just make sure the next relationship you get into is not born out of a need to fill the void this one has created.
Cheers bro.

Jeeeezzzz....dude seems like you know just what is in my head....i mean exactly how I feel...but you didn't put up any prescription....?hello

PresVA:
What's hefty about his account? I bet you his salary isn't up to 200k. . He's just so full of himself. . Wonder how he would have treated the lady if he were to be working in an oil firm. .

His business anyway. .seems I'm getting emotional here..

This why I just can't get along with ppl most times. What has money got to do with this? For the records even trainees (B.A) get more than x2 of the amount you quoted there plus they still get sent to a business school of their choice after a year...let alone experienced staffers...pls stay on subject...thanks

PresVA:
my dear oo.. .. when he was with the lady for many years, 'chopping' her money on top, he didn't know the lady was 'dull', not a go getter and not posh... He suddenly wants the lady to completely change into what he wants her to be without knowing it will take time and also a change of environment/lifestyle....
Or it's not just in the lady which isn't her fault afterall she has been herself from day 1 of d relationship not like she disguised herself so the op knew her kinda person from day 1... this life ehhh

Anyway, breakup happens. ... life must go on!

Ok....pls do not quote me again thanks.....!!!

sseunth:
Try and talk to her and if she is not ready to talk to you....there is one thing I am sure of....


Kindly get a good gaming system.....

Install pes15 or pes 13, fifa15 or fifa16, assassin's creed, grand theft auto, need for speed, god of war, call of duty, uncharted....

Run one of the software and play it for just 2hrs,....

Trust me, you won't remember her existence

you must really be a fun loving person....games Wow I wish I could have the time to get someone to teach me how to play but trust me it's not gonna interest me....i play scrabble and chess...sometimes with the computer but it's gets boring cos I know almost all programmer's move...thanks for the addie...

So all the epistle we wrote advising you to stay with her went in vain,
I don't have any more comments for your new chapter of life.

Adaobi12:
No one can help you get back your hapiness but you. First find out if the reason for the break up is justifiable.
it might guilt that is making u so miserable.
But for her absence to affect you this much, i wonder how she will be feeling now. Women are more fragile.

If you can retrace your steps and see if you both can make things work again, fine. if not, move one bro. Hang out with friends more.

Avoid romantic scenerios.

Tanks Ada, but we broke up amicably and she is doing great. she called today to know how am doing and I said fine. Although it's not fine out here. No guilty feelings just that my head does not want to agree that it's over. It's like there is conflict between my brain and I. Am not into friends much and my siblings and I don't get along pretty well....I have visited some cool places though....thanks for the addie

Miami11:
So all the epistle we wrote advising you to stay with her went in vain,
I don't have any more comments for your new chapter of life.

Wow I appreciated your post back then sincerely. Things were already in a bad shape before I came here...I did try though...but all the same it was good to know you commented. Your comments were not in vain...The fact that you cared was amazing...best regards

Marxxx:
Tanks Ada, but we broke up amicably and she is doing great. she called today to know how am doing and I said fine. Although it's not fine out here. No guilty feelings just that my head does not want to agree that it's over. It's like there is conflict between my brain and I. Am not into friends much and my siblings and I don't get along pretty well....I have visited some cool places though....thanks for the addie

Calling you means she still doesnt believe its over.If you both go back to the drawing table, you might still make some amendments, who knows.....

Marxxx:
Ok....pls do not quote me again thanks.....!!!

Sorry if my comment(s) offended you, ok?. . It's your life , it's your choice ..
Wish you and your ex the very best. .. #peace

....

Marxxx, Marxxx and Marxxx

Now that you have finally broken up(after all the advice on that thread). The major advice I have is please and please do not jump into any relationship knowingly or unknowingly.

You are already noticing dimples and smiles. Bro you are already very vulnerable. Be careful so you don't jump make mistakes that can cost you.

You do miss her a lot for you to make such a mistake at work. I would have thought your schedule would have continued as normal.

Things can still be sorted out between both of you.

*sighs*

Mmmm. I don't want to waste my effort advising you.
My prayer for you is t hat you will never regret ever leaving that lady.

Ha! Some people are so funny.
You never caught her cheating on you or doing some act that is shameful aside from her look, yet you left her.

It is well o.

Eyahhhhh

Sup cherrymum?how z my lil2 baby Lam dooyin?my dear,easy with the wordinz.

cherrymum:
Bros na beg i dey beg u, go back to that woman. All thoae ur reasons on the other thread can be dealt with. I wiah I had the opprtunity u have now. It is still very early to remedy things o. I'm not swearing for u honestly but very soon You will regret with tears and a very heart that u let her o. walahi no be curse o na honest advice.. by then u will carry clock and want to turn back the hands of time but then it would have been too late.

op, call her, tell her "ahan babe dem no dey follow una play for una village? i just wanted to see how u will even react to that our discussion, u sef come take the whole thing serious. so u can live without me abi, abegi come back o".

op u will bless me and my generation in d nearest future. I am curently suffering from this mistake u are about to commit. I wish someone held my ears then. chai i regret o. I wanted a posh man, a man with a presence, a man that speaks well, i left my gyardian angel with bad mouth sef and dined with someone that even satan is better than. I bite my fingers everyday!

op, run back to that woman, she will complete u. The grass is never greener when u eventually get to the other side o. The devil u know is better than d angel u dont know o. All that glitters is not gold o.

Lastly, that woman is a rare gem and a diamond in the rough.

she has moved on.....and we are still cool friends...the break up was for our best interest.....is not about poshness things were pretty bad btwn us and we both knew it won't work...

Saraha1:
Mmmm. I don't want to waste my effort advising you.
My prayer for you is t hat you will never regret ever leaving that lady.

Ha! Some people are so funny.
You never caught her cheating on you or doing some act that is shameful aside from her look, yet you left her.

It is well o.

Let me ask; why do people always stress "cheating"...we had a long distance relationship all through and if she cheated I wouldn't have known but that was the least of my worries. I believe cheating should be traumatic. Cos you are not free; you hide, sneak around and lie....all these can raise the blood pressure. When people cheat I find it strange cos the stress alone is daunting. Even when I went on vacations alone I didn't even think about cheating. So even if she cheated I wouldn't known. And if I did know I don't think that would have ended the relationship...

The only advice I have for you is to stop eating vegetable.

Acidosis:
The only advice I have for you is to stop eating vegetable.

Marxxx
I am a good dresser
A good cook and sometimes a terrible cook
I am lazy
I can't clean
I like to live all in luxury
I am too serious a woman
Extrovert too
Loves to party

I guess I have all you want to make you complete
Pls let's collabo