prela:
why would my boyfriend even ask that the bill be split? I don't think that's proper for a guy to ask when out on a date......or ladies what do u think?

I m no lady but make I do amebo.get a boyfrnd first then we will start from there.see ur face

H

missyadorable:
Well,for me I grew up with the mentality that my money must not reach a guy except my brothers.

Spending money on my guy in cash or kind will make him take me for granted,like "she is spending her cash on me,she is desperate" cos that's how African men think

I didn't think gifts were necessary.I didn't play romance with my money....

I could agree to split the bills on date but my weak point was getting my guy gifts on special occasions...I didn't pester for gifts too cos I could afford whatever I wanted..

Now,am married and I can't imagine buying my husband a gift...I didn't give him any gift on his bday in January and on valentine's day.i just behaved like it was every normal sunday.Although, he bought me a gift which I didn't see as a big deal.just muttered "thank you" n tossed it aside

3 days ago,he passed a comment about it and I replied "you are a man,what do u need gifts for? You need anything,you go and buy it,you can afford it"

And he took offence! And I don't understand why a supernatural human being should want a gift from a "lesser" being called woman

This mentality of yours might not augur well for you in the near future...everyman appreciates a good gift whether he is rich or poor, it shows true affection,Just pray those rich instagram babes won't see your husband

Jasi7:


Big for nothing daughter of a lazy man....

dnt have time for bastard like ya

missyadorable:


Lol..gift or no gift,a man who wants to leave will leave....No amount of gifts and good treatment from a wife can keep a man away from other ladies..and he knows I dnt bother about such stuff.Life continues!

Truth!

holluwai:
You deem yourself "lesser" being all because of your stinginess?

It's called showing "love" to the ones you care about, no amount of gift can amount to that person but you only do them to make them feel special and truly loved.

If another woman showers him with those stuffs outside and he begins to give her more attention and you less attention you'll be worried that what have you done wrong when you ignore the "littlest" of things in a marriage.

God made women "lesser" creatures to men and here in Africa,men treat women like real thrash...so I dnt expect a Master to seek gift from his slave.

At least, am not stingy to myself,siblings and parents...

You know,i have come to realize the more attention a woman gives a man,the more he messes her up...After all the gifts,attention and love you shower on him,he does unimaginable things just to hurt you....So I don't buy that talk! I give gifts or not,when and if he wants to give another lady attention outside,he will gladly do! That's the typical African man

menabae:
,that number 4 can nevr happen,why should i spend on a guy?huh,that's left for sugar mommies

See dem o!

missyadorable:
Well,for me I grew up with the mentality that my money must not reach a guy except my brothers.
Spending money on my guy in cash or kind will make him take me for granted,like "she is spending her cash on me,she is desperate" cos that's how African men think
I didn't think gifts were necessary.I didn't play romance with my money....
I could agree to split the bills on date but my weak point was getting my guy gifts on special occasions...I didn't pester for gifts too cos I could afford whatever I wanted..
Now,am married and I can't imagine buying my husband a gift...I didn't give him any gift on his bday in January and on valentine's day.i just behaved like it was every normal sunday.Although, he bought me a gift which I didn't see as a big deal.just muttered "thank you" n tossed it aside
3 days ago,he passed a comment about it and I replied "you are a man,what do u need gifts for? You need anything,you go and buy it,you can afford it"
And he took offence! And I don't understand why a supernatural human being should want a gift from a "lesser" being called woman

missyadorable:

Lol..gift or no gift,a man who wants to leave will leave....No amount of gifts and good treatment from a wife can keep a man away from other ladies..and he knows I dnt bother about such stuff.Life continues!

prela:

Thank you o, I thought so too. Poverty or irresponsibility has turned our guys into sthelse

menabae:
dnt have time for bastards like ya

You need to ask ur mum for ur real dad cos ure on a long thing thinking the man you call dad is is ur father...secondly,you look wasted and stupid on that picture....you must be out of your rabbit arse mind to sound so stingy that you cant spend on ur BF....and u wish to have a family in the future....hediot

In summary, she doesn't love u Op, u r a side guy!

A gurl in luv wud give her arm n a leg just to see her guy smile!
She wud cook up lies, take stroke, not matter what, just to be there. She always thinks of what to get for her man.
She wud wisely get recharge/borrow phones from other guys just to call her man.

She feel sick when she hasn't hard from her guy!

Op the crux of the matter therefore, is not those weak points u listed, d crux is in finding a lady that can truly luv u

Lady Stingy! Don't Worry Your Self At All Maah! For Using The Word "Lesser" To Promote And Defend Your Act & Heart Of Stinginess, What's That You Call Yourself? "SHE Stinginess! Or Missyadorable", Cos You've Proven Yourself Beyond Doubt, That You're There Principal So Far Now On Stingy Of A Thing!!! Abi No Be So? [quote author=missyadorable post=43224184]Well,for me I grew up with the mentality that my money must not reach a guy except my brothers.
Spending money on my guy in cash or kind will make him take me for granted,like "she is spending her cash on me,she is desperate" cos that's how African men think
I didn't think gifts were necessary.I didn't play romance with my money.
I could agree to split the bills on date but my weak point was getting my guy gifts on special occasions...I didn't pester for gifts too cos I could afford whatever I wanted..
Now,am married and I

youngalex:
H

This mentality of yours might not augur well for you in the near future...everyman appreciates a good gift whether he is rich or poor, it shows true affection,Just pray those rich instagram babes won't see your husband

Lol..rich instagram babes? They should have seen him before he married me,at least,there was instagram then...brother,many things don't bother me about men! I just wanted the marriage and I got it! Whatever I do now doesn't determine how my husband behaves...only he decides what he will do! Am a good wife,i dnt just think I can buy a gift for a man! Make I buy car for am,make he use am cruise town wt him side chics? Tenkiu!

missyadorable:


Lol..gift or no gift,a man who wants to leave will leave.... No amount of gifts and good treatment from a wife can keep a man away from other ladies ..and he knows I dnt bother about such stuff.Life continues!

That's a myopic assertion madam... Even the Bible says that a gift opens the heart of a man so don't be delusional in reasoning because that's the way you view life

menabae:
,that number 4 can nevr happen,why should i spend on a guy?huh,that's left for sugar mommies

but e can spend on u cha regardless of if he's ur hubby yet or not...

Jasi7:

You need to ask ur mum for ur real dad cos ure on a long thing thinking the man you call dad is is ur father...secondly,you look wasted and stupid on that picture....you must be out of your rabbit arse mind to sound so stingy that you cant spend on ur BF....and u wish to have a family in the future....hediot

lamentation of a poor brokearse nigga, now buzz off my mention

sochima1989:
married woman watin u cum dey advice these girls here..... just dont be too comfortable with that idea.......but on that matter you are STINGY. also try to define gift rightly

Am glad am STINGY to my husband and GENEROUS to myself, my siblings and parents...These are the people who I love and they love me,these are the people who am sure will always be there for me,not disappointing me,kicking me out for any reason.These are the people worth investing in...Husband is for Mrs title and respect.i dnt care abt any other thing

menabae:
lamentation of a poor brokearse nigga, now buzz off my mention

Laffing....you see,now I know I am actually getting to you.I wont divulge my work life or what I do,I wont give you that satisfaction.but I live well enough to keep food on the table to feed you thrice a day without problems...I jst feel disppointed that you of all people wil make a comment like that...its unbelievable of you...

Decker:


I don't know which I find more repulsive- your english or the comment you just made.

both

Nothing stops a slave from showing appreciation to his master, you know that will make the master love him even more....it works in most cases except the master is a wicked one.


True that at the end of the day family is what matters but my dear you husband is your number one priority except you never truly loved this man and from how you sound it seem you don't give 2 fuckz about him.

And your realization about African men is not totally true. Why do you not as a wife play your part and play it well instead of that assumption that if he will he will no matter what. Some men are pushed by one thing or the other purely because no human is perfect but if your hubby got your back he will only over look those things and love you more.

I'm not telling you to buy the talk, look into the talk

missyadorable:


God made women "lesser" creatures to men and here in Africa,men treat women like real thrash...so I dnt expect a Master to seek gift from his slave.

At least, am not stingy to myself,siblings and parents...

You know,i have come to realize the more attention a woman gives a man,the more he messes her up...After all the gifts,attention and love you shower on him,he does unimaginable things just to hurt you....So I don't buy that talk! I give gifts or not,when and if he wants to give another lady attention outside,he will gladly do! That's the typical African man

menabae:
,that number 4 can nevr happen,why should i spend on a guy?huh,that's left for sugar mommies

sharp babe! U are lucky to have made a quick correction.

missyadorable:


God made women "lesser" creatures to men and here in Africa,men treat women like real thrash...so I dnt expect a Master to seek gift from his slave.

At least, am not stingy to myself,siblings and parents...

You know,i have come to realize the more attention a woman gives a man,the more he messes her up...After all the gifts,attention and love you shower on him,he does unimaginable things just to hurt you....So I don't buy that talk! I give gifts or not,when and if he wants to give another lady attention outside,he will gladly do! That's the typical African man

These words sound very bitter. What is the point being in a marriage since you seem to dislike men so much. Gift do not have to be big or expensive and the practical ones are better.Years ago someone bought me a basket for dirty clothes(very cheap) but it was just what I needed and did not even know I needed.I have never forgotten. Love is all that counts and gifts should be to everyone .Don't forget your neighbours

missyadorable:


Lol..rich instagram babes? They should have seen him before he married me,at least,there was instagram then...brother,many things don't bother me about men! I just wanted the marriage and I got it! Whatever I do now doesn't determine how my husband behaves...only he decides what he will do! Am a good wife,i dnt just think I can buy a gift for a man! Make I buy car for am,make he use am cruise town wt him side chics? Tenkiu!

Wow..."You wanted the marriage and you got it" am amazed....I do tell my guys that most ladies just want the wedding...after the wedding you will know who you married...They preach love yet so selfish #Pathetic

This girl I was chatting with on whatsapp had the guts to tell me she has expensive taste. That if I wanted to date her I would have to take care of her expensive needs by contributing my monthly quata to her expensive lifestyle if not she would be forced to get it elsewhere.

I told her I am not a cooperative society. Next!

OPEN LETTER TO THE PRESIDENT

IMO NORTH SENATE RE-RUN ELECTION – THE HAND OF ESSAU

Your Excellency Sir,

When Nigerians desperately fought for your election, we had a lot of hope and belief that your emergence will signal a new way of doing things in our body polity. We dreamt and fought for change. Many Nigerians have also stood by you as the difficult process of change has continued painstakingly but steadily and we are confident that a new Nigeria will arise from the ruins of yesterday. However, our faith is shaken all too often by certain happenings especially in the electoral process. Below is one instance.

Saturday 20th February was a day scheduled for the Re-run election into the vacant Senate Seat of Imo North (Okigwe) Senatorial District. However that was not to be as the election was postponed less than 24 hours to the election. However, the news is not that the election was postponed but rather the reasons (immediate and remote) that ultimately culminated in the postponement. These are why it is worrying enough to warrant this open letter to the President and Commander in Chief.

The official reason advanced for the postponement in a Press Release issued by the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) stated the reason to be a protest by Okigwe youths which prevented the Commission from being able to conduct the election. While it is true that there was a protest by APC Youths from Okigwe Zone in front of INEC Office in owerri, that release does not in any way begin to tell the story of the complexity of factors that culminated in that inevitable decision.

To better understand the scenario, it is pertinent to present certain facts here:

1. The People’s Democratic Party (PDP) and its candidate in this re-run, wrote a petition to INEC objecting to certain Individuals acting as EOs in three local Governments (Ihitte Uboma, Ehime Mbano and Isiala) citing bias. These individuals were promptly replaced by the Commission without any reference to the All Progressives Congress (APC).
2. On the other hand a similar petition from the All Progressives Congress (APC) alleging bias on the part of Four officials penciled down for the election was not treated. Those officials were not replaced as was done in the case with the PDP petition and no explanation was given.
3. Barely Twenty-Four (24) hours to the re-run election, the HOD Operations in INEC was replaced with one Benjamin Bello Igwe (whose record with elections is anything but credible).
4. Prof Lawrence Nwuruku – a PDP Governorship Aspirant in Ebonyi state in 2011 was one of the RECs drafted to conduct this re-run election.
5. Curiously, the Deputy Senate President – Distinguished Senator Ike Ekweremadu has maintained an increased presence and prominence in Imo State and Okigwe Zone in the run up to this re-run election.
6. In like manner Governor Nyeson Wike of River’s state has been seriously tied to this re-run election.
7. The Deputy Commissioner of Police Operations used what was clearly a high handed approach in response to what was largely a peaceful and contained protest by Okigwe youths.

Mr President Sir, another salient point that was conspicuously missing in the Press Release by INEC was the uncomfortable level of violence and the precarious security situation which was clearly captured by the Inspector General of Police who was on ground in the state on that day. Within 48 hours to the election, even before the first ballot in the election had been cast, at least Three (3) supporters of the APC had been killed. A fourth individual narrowly escaped death but his house was badly vandalized. Another individual was abducted and his whereabouts remain unknown just as no credible arrests have been made in these incidents.

One may be tempted to ask what the connection with all these but they do raise a number of questions that are crying for answer. The answers to these questions will be fundamental;

a. Why did the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC), play down the serious allegations raised by the All Progressives Congress (APC) (which actually led to the protests) and didn’t reflect any of those in their reason for postponing the election?
b. Why would a sensitive transfer such as that of the HOD OPERATIONS be effected less than 24 hours to a very crucial election?
c. Why was a petition written by the PDP and its Candidate expressly granted but a similar petition by the APC was not granted?
d. Whose interest is the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) serving in the Imo North Senate re-run election in the light of boasts by the PDP candidate that he had spent N300M on INEC?
e. Who was responsible for these suspicious activities that were taking place in the Commission which were obviously aimed at manipulating the ultimate outcome of the ru-run election?
f. What is the role of the National Secretary of INEC – Mrs Augustina Agakwa (who for the records was a nominee of Senator Ike Ekweremadu – the Deputy senate President) in these manipulations at the Commission at the time of this re-run election.
g. What exactly are the roles being played by Hajia Amina Zakari (INEC National Commissioner) and Mr Bawa (National Legal Adviser) who are both acquaintances of the PDP candidate in this Imo North re-run election?
h. What is the exact role of Prof Maurice Iwu in these obvious manipulations going on at INEC Owerri?
It is on record that Professor Maurice Iwu conducted one of the least credible general elections in the nation’s history in 2011 and has failed to appropriately account for the Billions of Naira appropriated to him. The question here is why has Prof Maurice Iwu remained a Consultant to INEC in spite of this abysmal record especially as he also consults for the People Democratic Party (PDP)?
Prof Maurice Iwu is an open supporter of the PDP Candidate and has severally campaigned openly for him when he ought to be non-partisan. They equally hail from the same Ehime Mbano Local Governement Area of Imo state. Therefore what moral standing does he have to continue as a consultant to the Commission? It is worthy of note that Prof Maurice Iwu was lodged at the same Immaculate Hotel Owerri with some INEC personnel as well as some PDP stalwarts.
i. Why is Imo state INEC largely populated by indigenes of Enugu State? Is that a mere coincidence or is it deliberate?
j. What is the exact interest of Distinguished Senator Ike Ekweremadu in a Senate re-run election holding in Imo State that has warranted his meddling in the electoral process and heating up the polity here even as it is common knowledge that a daughter of Prof Maurice Iwu is in his employment.
j. Finally what is the interest of Governor Nyesom Wike in the Senate re-run election in Okigwe Zone?
While we may not know, it is curious that Governor Nyesom Wike was the Chairman of Association of Local Governments of Nigeria (ALGON) at the time when the PDP candidate in this re-run election Chief Athan Achonu secured the dubious contract to build 774 health Centres across the federation. That contract largely remains un-executed even though the sum of N50M was contributed by every local government in Nigeria.

Mr President, we may not have answers to these questions but it is certain that this election is of immense significance considering the fact that it is an election that will probably possibly produce the first ever elected Senator from the South East elected on the Platform of the All Progressives Congress (APC). That in itself has massive connotations for the power equation in the National Assembly and the Nation in general. Hence it is not surprising the interests this election is attracting and the tension and desperation in some quarters.

The Federal government has a duty to ensure that elections are freely and fairly conducted and that a level playing field is created for all players. The state also has a duty to ensure the safety of lives and properties of its citizens.
It is a fact that the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) is an independent body. However it is our collective duty and that of the Government to ensure that it acts without bias and in a corruption-free manner. Manipulation of the electoral process and subverting the will of the people is the worst form of indiscipline and corruption.

Considering all the above, we humbly call on you sir, to use your good offices to;

A. Urge the INEC National Chairman to as a matter of urgency;
i. investigate the activities of the individuals mentioned above,
ii. Effect an urgent and holistic overhaul of the INEC in Imo before the rescheduled election to ensure a level playing field suitable for a credible election as the electorate has lost considerable trust and faith in the commission as presently constituted.

B. Direct the relevant security agencies to pay extra and maximum attention to this election and Okigwe zone before, during and after this re-run election to proactively deal with the security risks posed by the vested interests in this particular election.

Thank you.

tosyne2much:
I no fit dey fight my egbon nah

Lol,

Jasi7:


Laffing....you see,now I know I am actually getting to you.I wont divulge my work life or what I do,I wont give you that satisfaction.but I live well enough to keep food on the table to feed you thrice a day without problems...I jst feel disppointed that you of all people wil make a comment like that...its unbelievable of you...

kill ur self...

omonnakoda:
These words sound very bitter. What is the point being in a marriage since you seem to dislike men so much. Gift do not have to be big or expensive and the practical ones are better.Years ago someone bought me a basket for dirty clothes(very cheap) but it was just what I needed and did not even know I needed.I have never forgotten. Love is all that counts and gifts should be to everyone .Don't forget your neighbours

The whole point of being in a marriage is to be respected,to be accepted and termed "responsible"..the kind of insults and embarrassment single ladies go through ehn...Being single is a serious "curse"...

I give people gifts,friends,family and neighbour but a man am romantically involved with? Boyfriend,fiance and now husband? Can't get a match stick from me as a gift! Never!!

menabae:
,that number 4 can nevr happen,why should i spend on a guy?huh,that's left for sugar mommies

You Have Automatically Stated That You Are Not A Wife Material, It's A Pity You Just Fell On Category No 4 !!!

Jadekitana:
But why should we split bills when we go out on dates? It's simple, either I pay for everything or he pays for everything. It's somehow when we start doing donation in front of the waiter or waitress because one person has decided not to cheat the other.

You Think You Are Right Logically ?? No You Are Not, Because When Both Of You Are In Love And Understands Each Other, No Third Party Matters Cos Both Of You Are In Your Own Little World Where Nothing Or No One Else Matters !!

stolid:


I'm extremely sad for your husband. My heart goes out to you as well, because you sound like you're only enduring & not enjoying your marriage.

Accept my heartfelt condolence.

I am enduring o,just like most women..."They" said I should marry to be respected and I did! I didn't come for enjoyment,i came for the title(Mrs)..besides,am not sad! He is a calm man,doesnt maltreat me and keeps his philandering off my face,provides for d family and gives me peace...am happily enduring!

menabae:
yes especially when he is not yet ur hubby

You can not give in marriage what u dont have at friendship or courtship.

Honestly I was surprised the day I took my twin sis to one of my girlfriend's lodge, when we were about leaving,...in her words,
"Swthy you can't come to my house and go just like that,take this for T.Fare ok"




Pls could this be a sign?