igwegeorgiano:
this ur story sha e be as e get o. 5weeks online relationship and u already fantasizing marriage? my question to you is what was the force of attraction in the first place?

she saw his dps. flashy cars.

CaroLyner:
you met someone one month ago on the internet and you're already planning marriage? is this a joke or something.

Tomorrow marriage don finish

Sunnypar:

What are you wondering? Here on NL, I won't mention her name, met the guy three weeks on Nairaland, married the following month, she is 25 years. Once you see the qualities you want.... Babe....hold him down.

....no wonder divorce is on d increase dis time around!

well hml!

Mimido2:
my dear he does not love u....he is just using d "lying issue" to get rid of u. Just forget about him.

This person just told you the truth, be wise, don't mind all these people saying you should send him text messages. That guy doesn't like you, that guy has been doubting if he would really like to settle down with you but he never showed it and he doesn't want to fail who ever match made you guys. You are not really a liar, a liar would defend a lie until he or she gets caught but you told him about the age willingly. Relax your mind girl, you may even get a good man here, please upload your profile picture. Nairaland has over 1m visitors on daily basis and your post is already on home page. We have real men here, good christians and muslims who forgives easily, forgiveness is an order from the scripture by our creator.

We are following you babe.

harrycracker:
5weeks meeting online and you are planning about marriage? Telling lies again.

My Brother/sister, abeg help me tell this mumu woman. You think say na Cinderella story? Just-now-just-now.

OP, where were your eyes between age 15 to 30? You dey form Transformer that time. Now,l when clock don nack 11pm, you dey find divorcee.

luxury0701:
Let me just tell you the bitter simple truth..You have spiritual problem. Dem no want make you marry n that explains why you are still single @35. Even make you no lie about your age,he go still dump yu for one reason or the other.

Seek deliverance first nd remember to Thank me later.

are you married?

Pls just move on, stop calling him and ignore him, if he is meant for you, he will come back, calling him will only make him not trust you more, when he is reading desperation. Just ignore him and don't even call him. Move On

doskie:
she saw his dps. flashy cars.

...lol

refiner:


....no wonder divorce is on d increase dis time around!

well hml!

How long do you intend to date?

blesoh:
Op let him go, don't be too desperate to rush in to something you ll regret. 5wks is not good enough to think about marriage. You are thinking about your age? Please don't someone who deserves you will come. After begging he's still giving you attitude mbok free him and next time always tell the truth. Good luck

Is this all you could say to a lady who for the better part of her 35 years have been telling lies to her would be husbands. No wonder she has remained single, even to point of her needing the help of March makers. Chronic liar........

Vanquay:
A divorcee is not someone that trusts easily again...CONGRATULATIONS YOU JUST PLAYED YOURSELF.

OP move on though I wonder why you are still single at 35(Not Judging )

If you still decide to meet,show him your "wife materials"...cook for him, wash his boxers and please suck his divk if there's any indication he wants some

And lastly, You met him 5 weeks ago and you in love?(WTF?!)...You are infatuated or In lust but better still you desperate

Your post makes no sense. You rushed into conclusion by saying she just played herself while failing to ask why he is a divorcee. And yes, again you made no sense when you claimed she's infatuating just because the relationship or their meeting is just five weeks, which to any sane person is enough to create a spark. They communicate often and that is enough to create fondness, likesness and then love. Why you put up a rebuttal, kindly answer this questions:

1. How long does it take to like someone?
2. How long does it take to love someone?
3. How long does it take a woman to say yes to a man she likes?

OP, it is only normal he doubts you. Apologize and give him reasons why you lied in the first place. Your age is not the problem to him, trust me. There's a belief that a lady who can lie about her age to someone dear to her can lie over anything. The trust he gave you for free has been dashed. You have to earn his trust and make him trust you again.

koladata:



This person just told you the truth, be wise, don't mind all these people saying you should send him text messages. That guy doesn't like you, that guy has been doubting if he would really like to settle down with you but he never showed it and he doesn't want to fail who ever match made you guys. You are not really a liar, a liar would defend a lie until he or she gets caught but you told him about the age willingly. Relax your mind girl, you may even get a good man here, please upload your profile picture. Nairaland has over 1m visitors on daily basis and your post is already on home page. We have real men here, good christians and muslims who forgives easily, forgiveness is an order from the scripture by our creator.

We are following you babe.

u were on point at d beginning of ur post before u started wif d gibberish at d end!

haba!...e never reach to dat nah...according to her,she isn't desperate!

Lexusgs430:
A divorcee also planning marriage after only 5 weeks meeting online?
I wonder why his marriage failed and if he is actually divorced!!!

Good point

A divorcee rushing into marriage is to be feared. He should even be begging you. He has THREE teenagers!!!!!! That means your initial love love no go long 'cos you will start dealing with issues from the get go. Better excape for your life and thank God for the lie barrier. You never enter the relationship, issues don dey pile up.

SexyStrawberry:
OP u better move on, to start with, ur not in love, ur in lust, secondly he's a divorcee, he obviously have trust issues and he's an extremist from what U've just said, plz let him go and stop acting desperate, look around u, Mr. Right might just be around the corner.

menopause.

Refiner answer the questions

Sanchez01:

Your post makes no sense. You rushed into conclusion by saying she just played herself while failing to ask why he is a divorcee. And yes, again you made no sense when you claimed she's infatuating just because the relationship or their meeting is just five weeks, which to any sane person is enough to create a spark. They communicate often and that is enough to create fondness, likesness and then love. Why you put up a rebuttal, kindly answer this questions:

1. How long does it take to like someone?
2. How long does it take to love someone?
3. How long does it take a woman to say yes to a man she likes?

Vanquay:

And lastly, You met him 5 weeks ago and you in love?(WTF?!)...You are infatuated or In lust but better still you desperate

Exactly,I wonder y at 35 she hasn't learnt anything out of her many heartbreaks in d past.
barely 5 weeks, she's in love.worst still she can't sleep for a man she hasn't seen before.
And she tried so hard to tell us that she's not desperate.there's no monetary penalty for being desperate, it's just normal that a single lady in her mid 30 should be desperate for marriage.

Sunnypar:
How long do you intend to date?

at least 6 months!....

CaroLyner:
seems like you're desperate for marriage cause you're 35.thats why you seem to think you're in love with this guy.all i see is desperation.
If by chance he forgives you for lying, i'll advice you see him physically first before thinking of marriage.

she forgot to mention the part where he uploaded a dp with Gwagon on the background. girlss are fuullzzzz. you know sha.

blesoh:

This always get me thinking. Why would someone stay up to 35 without a man to call his own. Father please visit my sister in law

some are spiritual.

Youngpo413:
For a lady to reach 30yrs without getting married is a clear indication that she is not a wife material,talkless of 35,before that age most will have numerous Ex boyfriends so if any of the uncountable Ex'es can't wife u,na your fault.

Seriously? as in seriously :

5 weeks ago?

Will meet first time next week?

Talking about marriage?

I refuse to comment.
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ayoolataiwo:
Dat d cost u gonna pay for insincerity,beg him nd let him know 4 lieing in d first place nd neva lie to him abt urself nd wat he ve to know abt u.If he forgive fine bt if he didnt jst let go...u guys re nt meant to be....my take.

A word for the wise.

OP @ 35 you ought to be well experienced in dating relationship. From your submission it appears you still lack the maturity required to cultivate a one.

first you have a fake age on your I'D, probably you're used to telling many suitors your diplomatic age. Age is considered very important, though you came out with the truth yourself, he probably didn't expect such from you.

You sound desperate. And my guess is you displayed your desperation before him already. Men don't really appreciate that.

Offer him your apology, then play the tough girl.If it doesn't work, take a walk.

Youngpo413:
For a lady to reach 30yrs without getting married is a clear indication that she is not a wife material,talkless of 35,before that age most will have numerous Ex boyfriends so if any of the uncountable Ex'es can't wife u,na your fault.

Some delayed marriages are actually caused by spirit husband.

Whatever happened to 'age ain't nuthin' but a number'?

Should have told the truth. Why females lie about their age beats me. Well I suppose craftiness has been ingrained so deep in the average Nigerian that we just tell lies by default. We don't even know again when we're lying as it is a part of us. It begins to sound like the truth.

koladata:



This person just told you the truth, be wise, don't mind all these people saying you should send him text messages. That guy doesn't like you, that guy has been doubting if he would really like to settle down with you but he never showed it and he doesn't want to fail who ever match made you guys. You are not really a liar, a liar would defend a lie until he or she gets caught but you told him about the age willingly. Relax your mind girl, you may even get a good man here, please upload your profile picture. Nairaland has over 1m visitors on daily basis and your post is already on home page. We have real men here, good christians and muslims who forgives easily, forgiveness is an order from the scripture by our creator.

We are following you babe.

Just pm her,simple

Op. That's the price you will pay for deception. Just live with it or Get over it.

Starting a relationship with deception means you are dodgy. Milk already spilt ..so why cry now.

You have multiple identity... Fake age and Real age. Certainly you are fake.

I have had a lady like that...who gave me fake D.O.B, only for the mother to dispute it during casual conversation. Despite confronting her...she still denied it and stuck to her claim. I knew the mother couldn't be wrong.

She also told me she was Canadian citizen, thinking that was going to influence my decision. Surprisingly, she got the shocker of her life. I wasn't interested in her deceptive offer. I had to move on..I guess. She was on the phone telling me how I did her wrong....But I was just napping on.

That's what desperate ladies do...Op is a desperate, deceptive and dodgy fellow. Shame really.

Vanquay:
A divorcee is not someone that trusts easily again...CONGRATULATIONS YOU JUST PLAYED YOURSELF.

OP move on though I wonder why you are still single at 35(Not Judging )

If you still decide to meet,show him your "wife materials"...cook for him, wash his boxers and please suck his divk if there's any indication he wants some

And lastly, You met him 5 weeks ago and you in love?(WTF?!)...You are infatuated or In lust but better still you desperate

Just a quick one here. People DO fall in love within five weeks, hell make that two!

chiddyok:
The best way to get rid of someone is to catch them in a lie. That way u get to dump their *** and not feel guilty.

.

Correct...It works for me perfectly fine!

bellassimo:
I met a man online 5 weeks ago.As with online relationships, I withheld info and told him the age I have on my id and not my real age.I never expected the relationship to go anywhere, but we fell in love quickly we are even planning marriage. He has found out the truth about my age and is taking it badly.he compares me to his ex who he claims is a great liar and had refused to forgive me.He is doubting everything I ever told him about me and is ignoring me.I have apologized and explained to no avail.we are meeting for the first time next weekend, but he has changed totally. He ignores my calls and msgs and I can't eat or sleep. I love this man and want to be with him.I'd it fair that he has refused to accept my explanation? Its not as if I just picked the age from the air, its the age in my ids.how do I remedy this situation? Do I keep begging him? He doesn't even read msgs.this is his first on line relationship ( to the best of my knowledge) but this is not my first online relationship and I was just being cautious cos I have had my fingers burnt online before. What do i do? I am confused.He is a 43 yr old divorcee with 3 teenagers.I am turning 35 this yr( i don't look it though) i told him i was 32 yrs old.I need advice before I go crazy.why is this age issue such a big thing for him.has he got another woman? I am confused
We live in different places but I plan on going to see him next week .I am confused right now.Help!
P:s- it wasn't a random connection online, a mutual friend linked us up because he wants to settle down and I also want to settle down.She decided to connect both of us.We are going to meet and date face to face for sometime before getting married.
I am not desperate even at this age.I have had my fair share of heartbreaks. God makes everything beautiful in his time.this is not about the marriage, its about clearing my name first.Most people living outside Naija have "football" ages on their passports and other ids.I am not trying to justify myself but he found out the truth from me.I could have kept on lying if I really wanted to but seeing how serious we have become, I owned up when he asked.

Stop beating yourself up! on social media a lot people don't put up their real age including me, you start telling someone you met online your real age and other personal details when you noticed that the relationship is getting serious hence the need to be more open to each other.

Even as 35 he is still 8yrs older than you so what is the fuss about? He is blowing the whole thing out of proportion or maybe there is another reason for all the drama.

You have not even met him or got engaged, stop begging or messaging him. I don't even see the real crime here.

Op u can lie:: 5 weeks and marriage is already in planing process?? Are u this desperate and are u sure the bobo is not a married man somewhere who is just looking for permanent extra punany just incase the one at home isn't available!