UuzbaGuuzba:


My Brother/sister, abeg help me tell this mumu woman. You think say na Cinderella story? Just-now-just-now.

OP, where were your eyes between age 15 to 30? You dey form Transformer that time. Now,l when clock don nack 11pm, you dey find divorcee.

it's might not be her fault.
Spiritual husband

Maybe each of ur age represents 1m Naira, that's y u r so stingy to give out all. Hence, u decided to deduct #3m from #35m God has given u freely.

And that is "kworuption" in PMB's voice.

Youngpo413:
For a lady to reach 30yrs without getting married is a clear indication that she is not a wife material,talkless of 35,before that age most will have numerous Ex boyfriends so if any of the uncountable Ex'es can't wife u,na your fault.

Aha! That is too sweeping a statement na!

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Had my share of this from females that why I dnt hardly blv d age dey give.

Bt I think you sud still visit him. That will show how serious you are.

And u still get mouth to call am ur man?

Am not laying my emphasis on where u met, for how,for how long u met, am all after the age u lied stuff, Where true love lays,age is just a number,. OK then u have lied, he found out, you accept ur fault, then wat else?. He want to quit u?., so?. My friend life goes on, human are imperfect,assuming u didn't accept your fault I would av put the whole blame on u, I understand what u are passing through (delay in marriage),that make u to reduce ur age, that is what ur guy should understand, don't mind people blaming u unnecessary here,some of them might have done the worst in their private coming here to proof the perfect type of human, the deed has been done and thank God you have the conscience to say the truth not like some people out there, if your guy TRULY loves u he will accept u back. Nobody is perfect jare

Vanquay:
A divorcee is not someone that trusts easily again...CONGRATULATIONS YOU JUST PLAYED YOURSELF.

OP move on though I wonder why you are still single at 35(Not Judging )

If you still decide to meet,show him your "wife materials"...cook for him, wash his boxers and please suck his divk if there's any indication he wants some

And lastly, You met him 5 weeks ago and you in love?(WTF?!)...You are infatuated or In lust but better still you desperate

Op I think u are a liar and u know it, u said u are not desperate yet, u are planning marriage with a man you met online in just 5 WEEKS , you haven't even seen him face to face ,yet u are wiling to get married to him , my dear u are bleeping desperate , you are even prepared to marry a divorcee with teenagers, madam u are a desperado abeg, @ 35 why did u have to wait this long!

Sunnypar:
Refiner answer the questions

u don't get it,do u?

u don't marry someone just like dat...marriage is an only institution dat u can never graduate from till u die,so why should u treat it wif a kid's glove?....well wat work for Mr A might nt work for mrB!

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It's so painful, I no ao ladies like u feel because I twice find myself in love with ladies I never meet before and deeply in love with them then.To u tell u the truth , convince u the highest place u will find Nigeria yoruba single ladies is Cairo Egypt ,I never meant to mention names but prove to u that I am sure online relationship work and ur guy "might" be truly in love with u but my candid advice is dont force urself on him all u need is to be good friend with him ,tell him bold that u ve lie to him but u are deeply sorry about it but if u guys relationship can be platonic one .Then from platonic relationship he will come back in love if he truly love u but if he doesn't comes that mean there is more to it than the lie got him upset

matrix199:
The age isn't the reason why he's mad at you. The lie is! He's apprehensive of ladies, particularly ladies on social media. He assumed if you could lie about your age, you could also lie about other things.

My advice is, send him a detailed explanation why you lied about your age, and offer your unreserved apology. If he doesn't accept it, let him be. This would be an acid test. A man who can't forgive, can't love!

You see! She is concentrating so much on the problem without seeing the equivalent benefit in the situation she finds herself.

A man who can't forgive can't be trusted.

kidman96:


Stop trying too hard... Start accepting the fact that you could lose him and start preparing for ur future without him. If he notices his cold shoulder isn't eating you up, he will call you and even apologise.


But you really really need to stop begging because you are diminishing your integrity and dignity and trust me, its a turn off for men and men lose interest in ladies this way. So if you want to stand a chance of him coming back, stop begging and calling him.

Iits not easy o, I have begged a girl for 6months, when the love later commot ma eyes, I was like what the Bleep did I do.

luxury0701:
Let me just tell you the bitter simple truth..You have spiritual problem. Dem no want make you marry n that explains why you are still single @35. Even make you no lie about your age,he go still dump yu for one reason or the other.

Seek deliverance first nd remember to Thank me later.

Marriage is a sensitive thing. Careful d words u tell another, it's God that gave you ur own husband

bellassimo:
Hi Jay Johnson. I have not told another lie to cover the age "untruth". I accepted and confirmed the new age to him when he went on about it.I also apologized.I don't live in Nigeria otherwise we would have met immediately we started.

Stop hitting yourself so hard, mam, you've been through enough already. Begging and calling incessantly won't solve the problem! Give him a break and possibly, move on. For all you know, he might be older than 43 himself and prolly telling you lies about his relationship status. Catching you in your lies may just be that singular opportunity he has been waiting for, to get rid of you.

don't tell him just keep him happy

tanteta:


Is this all you could say to a lady who for the better part of her 35 years have been telling lies to her would be husbands. No wonder she has remained single, even to point of her needing the help of March makers. Chronic liar........

What do you want me to say, so she should keep begging him? Is it her fault that she is still single @35 abeg I ve seen a woman marry at 40.

kaziblake:
some are spiritual.

Its true cos this my sister in law own pass me mouth oh. And she can select oh. A man with a car and a federal job is not good for her she wants NNPC. NAWA

Planning marriage after 5 weeks... Something is wrong with this generation

blesoh:

Its true cos this my sister in law own pass me mouth oh. And she can select oh. A man with a car and a federal job is not good for her she wants NNPC. NAWA

Nnpc kwa?
You sis inlaw is very funny

bellassimo:
I met a man online 5 weeks ago.As with online relationships, I withheld info and told him the age I have on my id and not my real age.I never expected the relationship to go anywhere, but we fell in love quickly we are even planning marriage. He has found out the truth about my age and is taking it badly.he compares me to his ex who he claims is a great liar and had refused to forgive me.He is doubting everything I ever told him about me and is ignoring me.I have apologized and explained to no avail.we are meeting for the first time next weekend, but he has changed totally. He ignores my calls and msgs and I can't eat or sleep. I love this man and want to be with him.I'd it fair that he has refused to accept my explanation? Its not as if I just picked the age from the air, its the age in my ids.how do I remedy this situation? Do I keep begging him? He doesn't even read msgs.this is his first on line relationship ( to the best of my knowledge) but this is not my first online relationship and I was just being cautious cos I have had my fingers burnt online before. What do i do? I am confused.He is a 43 yr old divorcee with 3 teenagers.I am turning 35 this yr( i don't look it though) i told him i was 32 yrs old.I need advice before I go crazy.why is this age issue such a big thing for him.has he got another woman? I am confused
We live in different places but I plan on going to see him next week .I am confused right now.Help!
P:s- it wasn't a random connection online, a mutual friend linked us up because he wants to settle down and I also want to settle down.She decided to connect both of us.We are going to meet and date face to face for sometime before getting married.
I am not desperate even at this age.I have had my fair share of heartbreaks. God makes everything beautiful in his time.this is not about the marriage, its about clearing my name first.Most people living outside Naija have "football" ages on their passports and other ids.I am not trying to justify myself but he found out the truth from me.I could have kept on lying if I really wanted to but seeing how serious we have become, I owned up when he asked.

Listen to me carefully, u tryin to prove now dat ur age "falsification" isn't an act of desperation, whereas u shud be proving u care for ur man. Don't message him n don't call him. Let him do d chasing.

@ 32 or 35 u ar not a kid, u shud tink of how u use to act wen u were 22 n 23 to toasters n now is d way to act dat film just for dis moment.

Don't try to clear d air or appeal to him, dont be arrogant n don't beg him. Don't try to seduce him else he will tink u wanna get preg for him n trap him (Infact stay off sex even wen u go visiting him) so u won't get hurt if he isnt a keeper. Howeva don't deny him fun, u can play n be a gud house wife material, play wit d kids but don't push ursef too much.

Remember dis: act like u ar 22 or 23, dont try to explain ursef....

Wish u d best my sister I hope dis works out well for u. Pls come bak wit testimony not stories. U ar awesome n ur write up was gud.

Youngpo413:
For a lady to reach 30yrs without getting married is a clear indication that she is not a wife material,talkless of 35

You deserve a mumu award

y u wan marry 2nd hand?......even if u can't buy a new car @least u cud afford a new man not a divorcee.....hiz more xperienced dan u & hiz gonna capitalise on dat..........remember dat a yoruba adage says "itx d cane dey use to flog d 1st wife out of d hauz dat wud b used on d new wife as well"

Since you're seriously in love with him,try & find out about any of his friends & tell them to intercede on your behalf.

I know age is not on ur side Sha,, but then, it seems u're too desperate. U've not seen dis man for d 1st time, and u're so much in love with him. U better check ur back.. And think twice now that u've not gone far with him. All that glitters are not gold... That he wants to marry and settle down now doesn't make him d perfect option 4 u...

kaziblake:
Nnpc kwa?
You sis inlaw is very funny

Na so my sister. We are praying sha. All the men she rejected are all happily married. Some she said were poor are all big boys now. God will see her through.

If age is nothing as you claim, why lie about it? If you can lie about something as "trivial" as that, not a single thing coming from you should be taken as true....not even your gender!!!

Just let him know you are deeply sorry, then move on, if he really cares he will come back to you, nobody is perfect

Praktikals:
You deserve a mumu award

k

justwise:


Stop beating yourself up! on social media a lot people don't put up their real age including me, you start telling someone you met online your real age and other personal details when you noticed that the relationship is getting serious hence the need to be more open to each other.

Even as 35 he is still 8yrs older than you so what is the fuss about? He is blowing the whole thing out of proportion or maybe there is another reason for all the drama.

You have not even met him or got engaged, stop begging or messaging him. I don't even see the real crime here.

only a chronic liar will say no crime here,the guy is over-reacting yes,but she needeth not to lie about her age !!!

blossom:
Excuse my deposits actually my first time posting have corrected the mistakes though.

Like seriously madam u didn't treat this issue right, first meeting a full grown male (a divorcée) online and in 5weeks u are already talking about marriage. U should have pressed to meet him in person first before even talking about falling in LOVE.

If its ur age that is putting u on this crazy speed I advise u to relax and slow things down, because with this speed rate of yours u will not WIN this man or any other.

Yes you lied about ur true age, try tell him u would like to meet up with him then u talk things over, if he's not responding let him be and move on. This is what I will advice u if you were to be my sis.