jcmaiah:
He should consult the wife before making any decision likewise the wife because making any decision that affects them both.

vfactor:
Not really seeking her approval. But getting her informed and hearing her opinion. She may just give u a side to it you may never have thought of.

misreal:
mr op,this is your answer.if you expect a woman to ever agree to such request,then u dont know women.all you need is to lovingly inform her before time.

igivefuck4free:



But what if she says no?

misreal:
u r not seeking her permission,you r just informing her.

igivefuck4free:


That's the point, can the wife also just inform the husband and not seeking his permission?

igivefuck4free:



But what if she says no?

misreal:
The husband is the head and the wife should submit.there can be no two heads in a family.he should always inform her and listen to her own opinion,but the final decision should be left with him.

Adaeze003:
The African type marriage is just scary... sheesh...


Note that I really didn't want to quote you...

Anyhoo... you do know you're still sleeping on a pole right

It's funny how you guys carry the submission thing on your head but when someone implies that submitting to a man is master-slave you guys start looking for ways to soften it up. The man can bring in who the hell ever to stay with them but the wife must get his approval when she will be the one to basically take care of the guest? She has no say and can't object to whatever "final decision" the said husband makes? And the marriage is a union and not slavery?

Oh well... good luck to ya wife sha.

And try and wake up from that pole before you'll be forming head and end up beheading the family...

misreal:
if you are implying that a woman is equal to a man in marriage then you are mistaken.submission is not slavery my dear,it is the best way to control your man if you play your cards well..the final decision should be left with the man but a woman can SUBMISSIVELY bend a man at will...

Mamatee07:


Then it's no, it's her that will do most of the work involving the guest. You want your wife to the upset over a stranger? Makes no sense. If she gives him attitude now you'll be upset. It's her home just like yours both of you must agree before any visitor can come over

Adaeze003:
The African type marriage is just scary... sheesh...


Note that I really didn't want to quote you...

Anyhoo... you do know you're still sleeping on a pole right

It's funny how you guys carry the submission thing on your head but when someone implies that submitting to a man is master-slave you guys start looking for ways to soften it up. The man can bring in who the hell ever to stay with them but the wife must get his approval when she will be the one to basically take care of the guest? She has no say and can't object to whatever "final decision" the said husband makes? And the marriage is a union and not slavery?

Oh well... good luck to ya wife sha.

And try and wake up from that pole before you'll be forming head and end up beheading the family...

Adaeze003:
The African type marriage is just scary... sheesh...


Note that I really didn't want to quote you...

Anyhoo... you do know you're still sleeping on a pole right

It's funny how you guys carry the submission thing on your head but when someone implies that submitting to a man is master-slave you guys start looking for ways to soften it up. The man can bring in who the hell ever to stay with them but the wife must get his approval when she will be the one to basically take care of the guest? She has no say and can't object to whatever "final decision" the said husband makes? And the marriage is a union and not slavery?

Oh well... good luck to ya wife sha.

And try and wake up from that pole before you'll be forming head and end up beheading the family...

SirJeffry:
If you ain't African, then you don't have no business on this forum. Your name implies you are a xtian so go and read about the first marriage in Genesis. It annoys me how some Africans tend to be more white than the Whites.

A good wife won't outrightly reject her husband's decision but will give reasons and suggestions why such decision should be rescinded by the man. A good husband won't take a decision without seeking his wife's opinion but where there's a conflict of decisions, a man's authority overrides that of a woman though with understanding.

Kondomatic:
I hate what I am about to type but I kinda agree with the person you quoted and technically speaking, wives in down here are being bought which places them well below their husbands.

To begin with, a man owns the house, I mean the building they live in, most girls cannot marry a guy who doesn't own a house. The man most times pays the rent if they're staying in a rented apartment which makes it his house not their house so he can bring in whoever he wants to so far the person is not a crook.

Finally, consider what the men pass through, when you see a woman you want to marry, her family will tax you mightily and when you pay everything they asked for and pay a certain amount of bride price, they will hand the girl over to you.(isn't that business?) keep love aside please, this is pure business arrangement, you pay for their daughter before she becomes you wife.

So she was bought and cannot be equal with you.

A lot of things need to change for our women to enjoy certain privileges in their marriage.

There's this outdated mentality of some ladies that "her money is her money but her husbands money is their money" meaning that the pays almost all the bills and yet they clamour for equal rights.

It smells like nonsense.

Adaeze003:
The African type marriage is just scary... sheesh...


Note that I really didn't want to quote you...

Anyhoo... you do know you're still sleeping on a pole right

It's funny how you guys carry the submission thing on your head but when someone implies that submitting to a man is master-slave you guys start looking for ways to soften it up. The man can bring in who the hell ever to stay with them but the wife must get his approval when she will be the one to basically take care of the guest? She has no say and can't object to whatever "final decision" the said husband makes? And the marriage is a union and not slavery?

Oh well... good luck to ya wife sha.

And try and wake up from that pole before you'll be forming head and end up beheading the family...

Why bother??
You'd Only be stressing Your ever So precious self.



The "Husband" Is the master. The Almighty, The king. his majesty!
The "Wife"on The other hand is Nothing but A low-life being, who's leading the life of A Robot. Her sole purpose in life is to Serve her husband(Lord n Almighty) And do whatever he tells her to.
Hence, Subjugating the wife To Eternal slavery Masking in the name of "Marriage"

LoL! issoryt!


The way things are going. I won't get married till I'm 60!
#Long Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!

pinkpebbles:
The home belongs to both of them and they should make decisions and agree on it together.I am not married but I do not think that if I dont approve of my husband bringin in his friend to my home, he should go ahead and do it. if your wife is rational, trust me, she must have very gud reasons. Your frend would not die in d city, afterall, there are cheap hotels everywhere, u cud take from her upkeep money and lodge him wtout her knowing but please dont bring him home. She wont jst be uncomfortable, she wud also make d home uncomfortable for your guest. When a man listens to a woman, his home is peaceful.

igivefuck4free:
We all know a wife can't just bring a family, not even a friend, to stay over for few days without consulting the husband first.... Now base on the society we are, as an African, wives are generally submissive to their husbands. So is it appropriate for an husband to bring a friend from another city (or friends from anywhere) who called that he's coming to stay two days in their house to execute a project in their city without first seeking approval from the wife? And if he seeks her approval and the wife says no or not this time, what should he do?

funlord:







So na because I wan show do 3 days na him you run go create this walaha thread abi? No vex I go stay hotel! Make I no cause una divorce!