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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Nobody: 10:38am On Mar 03, 2016

Strahovski1:
In Nigerian society, wife is nothing. Her opinions don't matter after all the decision is yours. So her talk is just waste of saliva.

am sure this is not the work of a brain.. Find ur brain n use it when next you wanna post a comment ..

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Greene66: 11:01am On Mar 03, 2016

joshsmarty:

am sure this is not the work of a brain.. Find ur brain n use it when next you wanna post a comment ..

And do you have a brain?

Where is your brain?

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Kondomatic(m): 11:28am On Mar 03, 2016

tosyne2much:
You are a man of wisdom

Our customs and norms have placed women beneath men

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by tosyne2much(m): 12:31pm On Mar 03, 2016

Kondomatic:
Bros make unah protest my ban oo #unbanTallesty1

Make I help you.. Which sectional mod ban your Tallesty1 account?

Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by coaco(m): 1:44pm On Mar 03, 2016

Cooperate with his wife.

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by MadCow1: 1:47pm On Mar 03, 2016

igivefuck4free:
We all know a wife can't just bring a family, not even a friend, to stay over for few days without consulting the husband first.... Now base on the society we are, as an African, wives are generally submissive to their husbands. So is it appropriate for an husband to bring a friend from another city (or friends from anywhere) who called that he's coming to stay two days in their house to execute a project in their city without first seeking approval from the wife? And if he seeks her approval and the wife says no or not this time, what should he do?

No husband should be able to invite a third party into the home without seeking the consent of his wfie and vice versa.

If the wife says NO, then such a friend needs to find alternative accommodation.

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Mariojane(f): 1:47pm On Mar 03, 2016

since we know most Nigeria Men believe women are inferior, the only thinghe can do if not seeking her approval is to inform her. it shows he respects his wife.

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by kilokeys(m): 1:48pm On Mar 03, 2016

Adaeze003:
The African type marriage is just scary... sheesh...

Note that I really didn't want to quote you...

Anyhoo... you do know you're still sleeping on a pole right

It's funny how you guys carry the submission thing on your head but when someone implies that submitting to a man is master-slave you guys start looking for ways to soften it up. The man can bring in who the hell ever to stay with them but the wife must get his approval when she will be the one to basically take care of the guest? She has no say and can't object to whatever "final decision" the said husband makes? And the marriage is a union and not slavery?

Oh well... good luck to ya wife sha.

And try and wake up from that pole before you'll be forming head and end up beheading the family...

It's more of a marriage than a patnership

So there has to be a leader somehow.

Even most partnership ain't equal.

If she says no.. Why should the man accept her "no".. Wouldn't that make it still one-sided?

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Nobody: 1:51pm On Mar 03, 2016

MadCow1:

No husband should be able to invite a third party into the home without seeking the consent of his wfie and vice versa.

If the wife says NO, then such a friend needs to find alternative accommodation.

Right! ......you ain't amad cow at all.
Your thinkin' is clear an sound

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by KingEbukasBlog(m): 1:51pm On Mar 03, 2016

Seeking a woman's approval is bitchy more like mitchy but asking her for her opinion and trying to win her over to agree with you is kinda cool . She'll love you more for the respect you gave her cool

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Paulpenny(m): 1:51pm On Mar 03, 2016

vfactor:
Not really seeking her approval. But getting her informed and hearing her opinion. She may just give u a side to it you may never have thought of.

True that bruh

As for me I don't see anything wrong in informing her about the visitor we gon be having upfront

Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Ofornaira: 1:51pm On Mar 03, 2016

igivefuck4free:

And if she refused?

O girl this ur moniker, e get as e bio.

Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by shadrach77: 1:53pm On Mar 03, 2016

Of course a husband should seek approval from his wife before bringing anyone home. The wife runs the home so any attempt at imposing an idea on the wife may prove disatrous

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by jesuloba1234(m): 1:53pm On Mar 03, 2016

[quote author=igivefuck4free post=43399276]

But what if she says no? [/quote

She might have a better side to the story for saying NO so it now left for you as a good husband to also look into her side of saying NO, so That both of can weight ideas cos no man is an island

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by MadCow1: 1:54pm On Mar 03, 2016

QueenValerie:
Right! ......you ain't amad cow at all.
Your thinkin' is clear an sound

Na Mad I dey Mad, I no dey crase..

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Nobody: 1:54pm On Mar 03, 2016

It's not to seek approval, it is inform her and ask her to show hospitality but persuasively. Two days aren't two years. Besides the visitor might not even need any meal save a place to lay his head when he heads back each night.

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by IghravweIG(m): 1:56pm On Mar 03, 2016

KingEbukasBlog:
Seeking a woman's approval is bitchy more like mitchy but asking her for her opinion and trying to win her over to agree with you is kinda cool . She'll love you more for the respect you gave her

Nicely said.

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by viktor01(m): 1:56pm On Mar 03, 2016

misreal:
mr op,this is your answer.if you expect a woman to ever agree to such request,then u dont know women.all you need is to lovingly inform her before time.

True talk boss

Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by KingEbukasBlog(m): 1:56pm On Mar 03, 2016

IghravweIG:

Nicely said.

Thanks

Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by efficiencie(m): 1:57pm On Mar 03, 2016

igivefuck4free:
We all know a wife can't just bring a family, not even a friend, to stay over for few days without consulting the husband first.... Now base on the society we are, as an African, wives are generally submissive to their husbands. So is it appropriate for an husband to bring a friend from another city (or friends from anywhere) who called that he's coming to stay two days in their house to execute a project in their city without first seeking approval from the wife? And if he seeks her approval and the wife says no or not this time, what should he do?

I am an African and my woman must be submissive but this does not make my woman a slave not worthy of attention...I will consult my wife on every decision. We have four eyes for a purpose, so that what i do not see, she will see it and be on the look out! If my wife has cogent reasons for not letting anyone stay in our home and her reasons are devoid of sentiment or bias and they are inspired of God then I would heed her words with dispatch!

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by viktor01(m): 1:58pm On Mar 03, 2016

Women consent to you inviting your guy to spend some days over

she will still show some form of reluctance even if it were your blood brother

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by YelloweWest: 1:59pm On Mar 03, 2016

igivefuck4free:
We all know a wife can't just bring a family, not even a friend, to stay over for few days without consulting the husband first.... Now base on the society we are, as an African, wives are generally submissive to their husbands. So is it appropriate for an husband to bring a friend from another city (or friends from anywhere) who called that he's coming to stay two days in their house to execute a project in their city without first seeking approval from the wife? And if he seeks her approval and the wife says no or not this time, what should he do?

Rent a hotel room. Family first abi na tiv people

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by scachy(m): 1:59pm On Mar 03, 2016

igivefuck4free:

But what if she says no?

She ll give reason for her disapproval, and it's ur duty as a man to see if her reason(s) are cogent enough and take final decision.If she says no for no justifying reason then NOTE ;Sometimes it's better to ask for forgiveness than seek for permission.

Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by diva90: 2:01pm On Mar 03, 2016

Courtesy demands that he informs his wife. Shebi it's her home as well? And the guest will still come and relax + eat her food? If tables were turned, the husband would feel disrespected if such happened without his knowledge. So in order to maintain peace and order, yes! The wife should be duly informed.

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by rahman3853(m): 2:02pm On Mar 03, 2016

I guess many may say What for? Some may say its jst to tell her n nt seeking approval. She is ur wife, and as a wife, if the friend is so close to u, there is every posibility she knows the friend too n they are in terms. However if its nt so, seeking approval is very good, not that this will make u look weak or a woman wrapper, its simply showing her some respect, let her have the sense of belonging, knowing that she is also the owner of the house and also av a say. Women love this very much. Jst because u are man does nt give u the right not to tell her or tell her at the 11th hour. Even if she doesn't av a problem with this, she will grow to have a probem with it or jst be pissed for nofn. Even wen u tell her n she says no, politely ask reasons, n if they are cogent enough then ur friend may book an hotel, n if they aren't, then try a way to make her understand, not being bossy n politely. Trust me she will come by. In this way peace will reign n no one will feel like a nobody in that home rada than wen ur friend has come and gone there remains chaos becos of that visit which is one thing u won't like if u truthfully love ur wife. I may be wrong but this is my view.

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by Sixix: 2:03pm On Mar 03, 2016

Adaeze003:
The African type marriage is just scary... sheesh...

Note that I really didn't want to quote you...

Anyhoo... you do know you're still sleeping on a pole right

It's funny how you guys carry the submission thing on your head but when someone implies that submitting to a man is master-slave you guys start looking for ways to soften it up. The man can bring in who the hell ever to stay with them but the wife must get his approval when she will be the one to basically take care of the guest? She has no say and can't object to whatever "final decision" the said husband makes? And the marriage is a union and not slavery?

Oh well... good luck to ya wife sha.

And try and wake up from that pole before you'll be forming head and end up beheading the family...

I love your reply

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by lawrenzooo: 2:03pm On Mar 03, 2016

The home belongs to the woman and how would you bring someone to the house without informing her.

Moreover chances that ur wife would object are very slim. except if there is an on going fight.

However should she object then she must have her reasons.the wise thing to do at this point is to check your friend into a hotel. Because am not sure u would want to come back home only to find out ur friend had not eaten all day because madam refused to cook. Check ur friend into a hotel and spend ur day with your friend at the hotel. A sure next time she did be more considerate knowing u would be spending more time away from home If she object

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by gbaskiboy: 2:04pm On Mar 03, 2016

igivefuck4free:
I'm coming back

me self dey they come back grin

Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by viktor01(m): 2:04pm On Mar 03, 2016

igivefuck4free:

That's the point, can the wife also just inform the husband and not seeking his permission?

WAS EVE CREATED BEFORE ADAM OR WAS IT ADAM THAT WAS DECEIVED?

Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by erico2k2(m): 2:05pm On Mar 03, 2016

igivefuck4free:
We all know a wife can't just bring a family, not even a friend, to stay over for few days without consulting the husband first.... Now base on the society we are, as an African, wives are generally submissive to their husbands. So is it appropriate for an husband to bring a friend from another city (or friends from anywhere) who called that he's coming to stay two days in their house to execute a project in their city without first seeking approval from the wife? And if he seeks her approval and the wife says no or not this time, what should he do?

A good wife or husband would not say no except there is no space. To agree is to apreciate the other person's respect.

Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by lawrenzooo: 2:06pm On Mar 03, 2016

That friend had better not been a woman. So you not create a problem at home that u spend the next two months sorting while ur friends are home enjoying their marriage

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Re: Is It Polite For Husband To Seek Wife's Approval On This? by abdoolorunwa(m): 2:08pm On Mar 03, 2016

igivefuck4free:

And if she refused?

THEN SHE MUST HAVE A VERY GENUINE REASON.

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