misreal:
nice.so your husband takes permission from you before he does anything,or he just seeks your opinion and advice??

pinkpebbles:
Hypthetically, his frend can come if he inisists buh den also hypothetically, I cannot tell how I wud react to his unwanted presence in my home

bukatyne:

If a wife is not inferior to her husband and she is not equal, then what is she?

dicefrost:


Lol, i think that you realize that deep down, there's nothing you can do other than venting your anger. If you overdo it, you just might end your marriage

Sixix:


Stop projecting your fears on her

Estherfabian, I think I might have to sue you for Psychological trauma

Lmfao!



didn't even see his rants.


LoL! Sue me? Whatever happened to Freedom of speech? O.o

bukatyne:


None

We sit down and discuss whatever issues there is depending on the facts and circumstances on ground.

Estharfabian:
Lmfao!



didn't even see his rants.


LoL! Sue me? Whatever happened to Freedom of speech? O.o

misreal:
submission my friend doesnt make u inferior,it makes you strong..no matter how hard u debate this,your husband remains your head,and he isnt your head just for fun.

bukatyne:


Lols!

I asked a simple question, see answer you give me.

So a husband is the head and a wife is the strong!

Hahaaahahahahahahahaahahaaaaha!

Who even mentioned head or tail?

Having fun this evening.

Sixix:


Whatever happened to be your brother's keeper

That guy is probably in a mental hospital at the moment

LoL!



I don't give two fûcks about him. I'd trade him for my dead puppy if I had the chance.

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PS---Sweet Signature! Rotfl!

misreal:
can you just read what you wrote again. i think what is getting you scared is the idea that your husband is your head,because i can see dat we r saying the same thing.when he comes,home with a problem,what do you do?you discuss it,this is where you state your opinion and how u feel abt it.then because u r able to convince him,he gives into you,but if you cant convince him,he wont give in.this is where his authority as the head comes in.

Estharfabian:
LoL!



I don't give two fûcks about him. I'd trade him for my dead puppy if I had the chance.

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PS---Sweet Signature! Rotfl!

igivefuck4free:
We all know a wife can't just bring a family, not even a friend, to stay over for few days without consulting the husband first.... Now base on the society we are, as an African, wives are generally submissive to their husbands. So is it appropriate for an husband to bring a friend from another city (or friends from anywhere) who called that he's coming to stay two days in their house to execute a project in their city without first seeking approval from the wife? And if he seeks her approval and the wife says no or not this time, what should he do?

misreal:
i think i have answered your question in my other quote...i pray u dont give birth to a child with two heads.....winks......havin fun too my friend.

bukatyne:


Bros, you need to try comedy.

We are definitely not saying same thing.

So when he is 'giving into' me, he is no longer the head?

LOLS!

misreal:
The husband is the head and the wife should submit.there can be no two heads in a family.he should always inform her and listen to her own opinion,but the final decision should be left with him.

netizenbuzz:


And when the visitor comes, he can decide to take care of him all by himself.

mummydirect:

then when the visitor roll on your wife and your wife rolls on the visitor in return, don't come here complaining ooooooo

misreal:
so does your husband being your head,makes you inferior??.

misreal:
hahahaahah......winks...or you just hate the idea that the final decision is left with your husband.

misreal:
i hope this is not you problem because if it is,dont worry experience in marriage will teach you better.....lol....wait till he you have different opinionss concerning a thing,only then will you know whose decision is FINAL........

misreal:
i rest my case.

bukatyne:


You tell me. You said women who claim equality with their husbands are looking for trouble. That infers a woman is not equal to her husband. Now I ask if a woman is inferior, you said no... she is 'strong'. I ask again... if a woman is not equal to her husband, is she inferior to him?



This is not about what I 'hate' or what I 'love'. There is no 'final' decision the way we operate



I have already told you we discuss issues like two mature adults and come to a conclusion to what is best for our family. No ego tripping, No I am the head you are the tail thingy. What is best for us at that point in time.



Please do.

At the end of it all, the way MY family is run doesn't add N1 to your account.

linusbnn:


She is no robot because she is submissive,she shows strength by doing so. That makes me love her and I try not to fail on my own part.

PresVA:
Seriously when I read certain threads, I can't stop thanking God for my wonderful husband. ..

How can people be debating on this issue? You'll bring in someone into the house you both share without her approval . .. God help y'all... dictatorship isn't headship...

misreal:
it really bothers me that most ladies commenting on this thread are craving for equality in marriage i.e man equals woman..well i dont blame them at all,its just that many of them dont know what it means to be submissive,neither do they know the power of a submitted wife...marriage is like a kingdom ruled by a king(husband).decisions are delibrated by the counsel of elders(wife),where everyone of them is allowed to make meaningful contributions.the final say is with the king.a wise king surrounds himself with wise men,but what do you think will happen if every elder chooses to act as the king?..ur guess is as good as mine....chaos.......women,no matter how hard you debate this matter,you can never be the head of your husband,you can only help him make wise decisions..dont quote me if u will abuse me.

vfactor:
Not really seeking her approval. But getting her informed and hearing her opinion. She may just give u a side to it you may never have thought of.

silverr:


By your words, a king doesn't inform the wise men, he consults them for direction. If he always turn down the advice of the wise men cus he's the king, there will be chaos.

misreal:
if he finds his wisemen,unwise he can do away with them or simply ignore them..evry wise man listens to his wife,if his wifes counsel is wise.then his decision will be based on what his wife says..a wife should understand that her place is to give wise counsel and try to persuade her husband,not to rule and unrule as she pleases.....