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My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 6:59pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
The Person I Intend To Marry Just Told Me This!!! Dear Nairalanders, I've come again to hear your views about this issue.... especially married "Egbons" So it all started like this, My new fiancee and I just finished a sunday service and I was about going to drop her at home when one of her single friends asked if she could join us which we agreed. On our way they started talking all wife stuffs sharing their views on a marriage and shii, then one thing led to a financial topic where my fiancee started saying she can never support a husband financially, that a man should be a man and take all responsibilities of every penny to be spent, that the reason she's working is to be able to afford all the things she wants that all the responsibilities of the household is for the husband ![]() Her friend was even saying that she doesnt like to be a liability that at least it should not be the man's responsibility 100% that the wife should be able to support financially, My fiancee outrightly disagreed with her saying support doesnt have to be financial from the wife, that it could be through prayers. I couldnt keep mute anymore I had to ask her "what does it mean when people say supportive wife? " she replied she doesn't know, that she's sure it doesnt have to be financial. At some point when the friend had already alighted, I asked what if the man is building a house and needs immediate support for just window frames, she said never! She even said if she has money in the bank and their is no food at home, we will all drink Garri. Now here are the facts, -We got introduced through match making, -there are some good things about her that is worth consideration. -I dont think she has dated before because she obviously has no experience whats so ever when it comes to relationship behaviours. she's "efikko" kind of. -This her ideology seems deep rooted in her upbringing and family., her mum is rich. My Challenge is, Should I stick around and try to change that ideology or just move on because I am sure it's a destructive ideology. 57 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by halfricanadian(f): 7:06pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
![]() with d lesson wey i don learn i av to be fuly responsible for my sef hubby money goes to d kids no spend on me dats just it av learnt my lesson ![]() Change that mindset of hers ok How can u have money in d bank nd let ur family drink garri?? ![]() 88 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by MzOnajin1(f): 7:07pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Hmmm. I would not want to move on with that kind of a lady. My opinion 154 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by olac21(m): 7:10pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Bro try talk to her,that mindset is archaic&absurd!pls have a deep a discussion with her!myself I hate things like this I swear! 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Nobody: 7:10pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
U don enta one chance(just like nigerians enta 1 in d hands of APC) if u marry her without her changing her mindset abt wife been supportive. Without the NECK, where will the head be? Husband & wife ought to be supportive in one way or the other 80 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by vjsmiles: 7:10pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
this yho fiancee isn't even worth calling building material o 136 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by DonCortino: 7:11pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Its not late for you yet, God has just used her friend to expose the type of wife she will be. Read the handwriting on the wall! 260 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Funminicrown: 7:11pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Drop her and make her friend your latest fiancee since she's also a new catch. Tell her you need a helpmate not a liability, if she queries your decision. 160 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by DonCortino: 7:12pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
adepeter26:She will not change! Its better for him to leave her now. Before he opens another complain thread after marriage. 143 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Nobody: 7:17pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
If she would not support you financially and yet expect you to cuddle una child to sleep, bro biko, endeavour to leave her tiny bom.bom 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Nobody: 7:18pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
That is not your work bro. Her mum was supose to put her through in stuff like dat. 43 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by 1trillionlikes: 7:21pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Hmmm.... Test her by bringing up a story that a normal human being will wanna help you solve, financially, wen she hears..... If she doesn't help, quit..... She might not change.... I know of a woman whose children are sometimes chased out of school because of their fees, and she's rich enough to build houses... Once her hubby can't pay all bills..... All of them will suffer while she goes about buying all aso ebi and attending all functions.... 108 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Nobody: 7:21pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
![]() Not Only is Her mentality Archaic, It's Outrightly Irrational, Pathetic and dumb. LoL! ![]() So! The Only thing she'd bring to the table is her Pûssy? Baby Making machine? I wouldn't Call her A Wife. I'd call her A Parasitic Being. Coz Last time I checked, the holy book stated as thus: "God assigned the married woman the responsibility of being a helpmate to her husband ( Genesis 2:18 , 20)." Not just some fûck mate, baggage or a baby producing machine. ...Trust me, You don't want such woman in your house! Coz money for maggi, salt, tissue paper, pad, matchboxes would be on You. Well, except she changes that fûcked up mentality she's got. ![]() 118 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by falconey(m): 7:23pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
If i ask you to dump her it will be irrational of me because i have no better replacement in my neighbourhood. 9 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 7:25pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
halfricanadian: I hope so, I'm actually hearing such for the first time in my life 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 7:28pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
adepeter26: Thanks for the NECK comparison, I will use it in my next discussion with her, she just might not know! |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 7:31pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
1trillionlikes: Honestly this is similar to what I envisage and it is very scary! 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by ladygudhead(f): 7:32pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
falconey: lmao! u r damn funny falconey. ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by yomi007k(m): 7:34pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
She go old pass Metuselah ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by cruzita(f): 7:36pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by ladygudhead(f): 7:38pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
What!!! ![]() ![]() 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by LaurelP(m): 7:38pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Girls like her don't change, believe me. That belief has been ingrained in her probably by her mother or a very close friend, so you'd be wasting ur time. She is the type that would not like to see u help ur relatives, just focus on only her and the children. 56 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 7:39pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
cruzita: She is not joking o! I still wish it was an expensive joke sef 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Dexema(m): 7:41pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
maybe that's why her parents are auctioning her on the matchmakers market. 8 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 7:53pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
ladygudhead: I wonder what happens if God forbid the husband loses his job 6 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by firstking01(m): 7:54pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by ladygudhead(f): 7:57pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
deyemia:I'm telling bro. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by 2sexycom(m): 8:18pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
deyemia:Bro, I would have said dump her but having grown wiser, it is not the best to end a relationship on the basis of one's imperfection, hence the need to mould someone into a better being. That is the reason for our co-existence as humans, leaving them better than you met them. There is no complete package anywhere. You need to sit her down and talk to her at length. Let her know where you stand and what you feel about her words. She may not likely change but your conscience would be clear that you tried. 30 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by sexy74(m): 8:23pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
deyemia:op if you know you can tolerate the shit, stay but my advice for you is to run for your life. she no be wife material. Remember out of the abundance of the heart the mouth dey yarn rubbish. 35 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by AfroKnight: 8:30pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Bro, if you know that she is very serious about what she said, I'd advice you to look for a replacement. This is a very bad mindset. At some point you will take on expensive projects that will make you spend less on the home front. This disposition of hers means you can not count on her assistance at this time. If you need to pay for quality aluminium roofing for your building project, and you have just enough fund for that, you would have to settle for less quality slates because you know there is no backup from your wife. How far can such a husband go? How can a husband progress when he cannot afford to invest heavily in the future just because his wife wouldn't support him? It is a hindrance. If you still want her, please settle it in your mind that you are on your own, financially. However, this is not how a family should be. 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 8:33pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
2sexycom: Thanks much bro, will try this as well to be fair! 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by AfroKnight: 8:35pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Besides, those saying she would change should consider this. It is "sweeter" for her to withhold her support. This means more money for her to spend on her whims. We are human beings. Once someone is determined to enjoy herself like that, you really cannot expect that person to make a u-turn and deny herself just to be a noble wife. She won't change because she is already looking forward to enjoying her money by herself and even demanding from her husband. This one too will be a mother one day. Perhaps she will wait until her husband brings money before buying pants and sanitary pads for her daughters. What a woman. 22 Likes 1 Share |
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