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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Nobody: 11:03pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
deyemia: Nobody says you should work yourself to death. It seems to me you are getting over dependent on what she'll probably bring to the table which to me is wrong. As a man, you shouldn't think like that and if i were in your shoes, i'll let her know how ambitious i am. So ambitious, her family wealth or personal income wouldn't matter in the long run. I really don't know your financial state right now but at this stage of your relationship, which i believe is still at the early stages, matters like this shouldn't be a topic of concern. What you should focus on is how to build a strong relationship based on common grounds. If that doesn't work out then you can as well move on. This to me is primary, matters of finances and related issues are secondary. If you get the foundation of your relationship right, the other aspects would be easy to build on. In the end, you just have to provide what you can and she will augment if if she wants. If she doesn't, then fine. She can't take any other thing from you as long as you provide the basic needs of your family. Food, shelter e.t.c. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by olac21(m): 11:14pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
mikolo80: Stop being a bastard guy and concentrate on the msg next time...is that clear to you dumb ass? 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obiaguna(m): 11:22pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Op... It's not too late to start wooing the friend you guys dropped on your way home, is it? That's how I told a babe that as a first son, it is mandatory for me to assist my two siblings financially and her response was, "who send me" and that I don't have to do it every time. In my mind I started singing praises to God cos he has just helped me to dodge a bullet. Op even If I don't have a replacement for you, I strongly believe prevention is better than cure. Move on and trust me you would find another woman. Cheers.. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obiaguna(m): 11:26pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
PushPlay: Sir/madam.. The lady in question didn't sound like she would ever "want" to augment. With the way the economy is set up right now, anything can happen to anybody in the blink of an eye.. God forbid you sir should lose your biggest source of income and your wife doesn't want to assist.. How would u feel sir.. Please read again... That lady isn't going to change for nothing.. Common grounds would never be reached.. Just my humble assertion. 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 11:27pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
1trillionlikes:You mean if she agrees to loan me some money for an expense I couldnt afford at the time she's exonerated |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by goldfish80(m): 11:29pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Op you no try at all. You should have walked her out of your car on the spot when you discovered she wasn't joking. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Kassidy90(m): 11:34pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
From my experience lots of people say things they can't actually do, so I will suggest u put her to test, u can shower her with love, care gifts n lots of good stuff for 2-3weeks, then cook up some stories about u having little financial problems see her reactions ... I belief u ar a grown up and educated man so u should know what to do after... 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Nobody: 11:34pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
obiaguna:Then he should leave her.. I guess you skipped the part where i said he should move on if things don't work out. That's the purpose of dating. You practice those things you spoke about. It's very simple. ********** I really wouldn't want to bring people's personal experience into this but i've seen someone who lost his job and he never took a dime from his wife until he got another one. Dude should not and i repeat..NEVER rely on his wife as a source of finance. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by ajaylee1(m): 11:55pm On Mar 06, 2016 |
Bro if u are still going to continue with her, give priority to ur savings if not any day wey E red for u. U go buy sweet lick to beg hunger. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by uniqueren(f): 12:21am On Mar 07, 2016 |
U don't change somebody.. They only change when nd how they want to. Abeg if ur idea of a wife isn't someone dt would support u with just prayers, this is d right time to take off What did I say? 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by skywalker240(m): 12:41am On Mar 07, 2016 |
no harm intended here, but i think your fiancee must be or is a potential G*ld digger. If she aint ready to support ,that mean she aint ready to struggle with u and if she aint ready to struggle,that mean she aint ready to stay if u both get to storming sea's. She is still immature again no harm intended. Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by AfroKnight: 1:28am On Mar 07, 2016 |
PushPlay: This concerns the scenario you narrated. It would be very inconsiderate of the wife if she didn't offer to help the man. What then is her business in his life? Just to take, take, take and never give? My brother, that is not a family. When the chips are down, who should be his first source of assistance? His parents or siblings? Or the woman who swore to love him for better for worse? My brother, may we marry good wives that will be there for us no matter what. Wives that won't let the storms of life expose our nakèdness. 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Nobody: 1:32am On Mar 07, 2016 |
AfroKnight: I guess OP should move on if he can't deal. I'm sure someone else would still marry her even with her kind of mentality. I'll say amen to your prayers anyway. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by vicadex07(m): 1:45am On Mar 07, 2016 |
deyemia: Show her this thread and peoples comments. We cannot all be wrong. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Olodapsing(m): 2:21am On Mar 07, 2016 |
Lolz, my ex once told me she will never understand if I go broke and am trying to explain why I cant afford to buy her stuff she requested for. I put her to test and that's exactly what she did. I call the relationship off and told her to call me when she's ready to understand a broke guy. 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 6:40am On Mar 07, 2016 |
Kassidy90: You're right, this is also a good suggestion, Thanks |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by pointblank247(m): 6:51am On Mar 07, 2016 |
my friend run 440 but b4 u do sit her down and try to talk sense into her. i am in that kind of sh*t and i have gone too far. now am fool of regrates. run ooooo |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 7:01am On Mar 07, 2016 |
skywalker240: Well, I think gold digger is not appropriate here because, she's from a rich background just that she doesnt want to support her to be husband in anyway financially. Probably she assumes all men are gold diggers! |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by 1trillionlikes: 7:12am On Mar 07, 2016 |
deyemia:that's a test to know if she truly means what she's saying or if she really can do what she's saying if the situation arises.... Once she can help u out and u keep bringing up subsequent cases and she helps out.... She might love u enough to forget her beliefs in crucial moments..... Love makes one do some things he/she won't normally do... Once she can help..... Work on her, she'll change but if she's not ready to help even you are dying, abeg don't pray about her..... God has shown u a sign she isn't urs |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 7:29am On Mar 07, 2016 |
OP has symptoms of a gold digger. If this woman whom you claim was your finance were dead, won't you take care of your self? You better man up, stop being lazy and carry your responsibilities. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 7:31am On Mar 07, 2016 |
As a grown adult, can't you take care of yourself? Stop being the typical lazy man in this generation. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 7:46am On Mar 07, 2016 |
Is the OP saying he can't afford to take care of himself and needs to lach onto a woman to feed? That's one of the fastest ways to lose respect. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 7:47am On Mar 07, 2016 |
Why marry if you're poor and broke? Waiting for your wife's salary... don't you have any shame? |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 7:55am On Mar 07, 2016 |
obowunmi:I wish you a wife that won't support you financially for any reason whatsoever since you are not lazy and not a gold digger. Please say Amen 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 7:57am On Mar 07, 2016 |
deyemia: Lazy man.... ole!! Olee Why think about marriage if you're poor and broke? I bet you still live with your parents. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 7:59am On Mar 07, 2016 |
How do you even expect to yield respect in your home if you can't take care of yourself. You better learn to cook and clean and become a house boy to a woman since you are lazy and can't afford to feed your self. You shouldn't be called a man. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 8:00am On Mar 07, 2016 |
I don't know why lazy poor people think about marriage. See his mouth like "we were matchmaked." Why won't you matchmaked. You don't have the boldness to find your own woman. You're looking for sugar mommy. Oleee 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 8:04am On Mar 07, 2016 |
You sound like those men, after having 4 kids, you RETIRE. No to just dey phuck and born. No financial plan, you can't even take care of yourself. Leaving your kids to be doing ashawo to fend for themselves. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 8:13am On Mar 07, 2016 |
obowunmi: I pity you! I can tell you are single and shallow minded. You r not yet married and you are already mentally dysfunctional. Keep nose diving bro. I work in health industry, you r a potential source of revenue. Ewure 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obowunmi(m): 8:15am On Mar 07, 2016 |
deyemia: Looks at your previous posts... A woman tells you when to cum during sec She forces you to carry her handbag You're NOT a man. Ntoh... |
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