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Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by IYANGBALI: 9:36am On Mar 08, 2016
My next of King will be one of our village chiefs
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by omoharry(f): 9:36am On Mar 08, 2016
Integrityfarms:
My wife should be my next off Kin!
She's just me. I can't even hide my salary or my earnings from her!
nice..there is one thing your write up displayed here today..that your marriage has what we call trust...nice one sir
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by seaga: 9:36am On Mar 08, 2016
Vyolet:
My first child is my next of kin.
Men can't be trusted.

Then don't get married
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 9:38am On Mar 08, 2016
It all depends on your Kinda Family, to me its one of my three Brothers who are Like Parent to me. smiley



onoslove:
Was listening to this programme on air on Saturday. And so many callers called in naming who their next of kin will be with reasons .And there was this hated argument in the circle where I was on who to make your next of kin. This is a very good topical issue, and I decided to bring it to Nairaland, so that we can debate and also get to learn who our next of kin should be with very valid reasons. Will appreciate if the Mod can push it to front page so that this topic can get a wide view.
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 9:38am On Mar 08, 2016
ThreeGEEKS:
Why for God's sake will anybody use a child as a next of kin. Have you people forgotten so soon the story of the prodigal son? Why not make it an adult like your spouse? SMH
beats me!
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by esonuu(m): 9:39am On Mar 08, 2016
My 1st daughter "isabelle"..shes gona be daddy's gul and am gona share secrets my wife wont knw with her..am sure she'l handle my tins wel unlike the mum who myt want to divert my assets to her people..
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by nbright: 9:41am On Mar 08, 2016
BlaqCoffee109:
Your wife should be your next of kin...guys like you are the ones leaving their wives and children out in the cold should anything happen to the man...
My mom and I are the next of kin to my dad, God forbid anything happens to him let me see any of his relative that'll come and try nonsense with us. I know of aman that used his wife as next of kin, after hedied she used his cash to train her man friend children neglecting hers. God forbid I get married, I'll use my first son as my 'next of kin' . Girls cannot be trusted these days.
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by seaga: 9:41am On Mar 08, 2016
akpevwe2:
My first child of course. In this end times you never can trust anyone even your spouse.

Even your child is anyone don't forget
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 9:42am On Mar 08, 2016
My junior brother till i get married and my kid comes of age.

Oh yeah, I trust my brother that much, so don't bother preaching to me.
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by nortcentrallord(m): 9:42am On Mar 08, 2016
BlaqCoffee109:
Your wife should be your next of kin...guys like you are the ones leaving their wives and children out in the cold should anything happen to the man...

Thanks but you seem to be planning the the early death of this young man.
My most responsible child will be my next of Kin. Won't build for anyone to waste or else I will everything to charity. Anybody who wants wealth should learn to work for it else they become wasteful with it. My take though.
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by omoharry(f): 9:50am On Mar 08, 2016
herbie27:
Wen i get married am gonna make my hobby my next of kin and my reasons are simply for those who say men can't be trusted.

1) I will marry sum1 i will make my BESTFRIEND.

2) my husband will knw EVERYTHING abt me jst as i will knw all abt him.

3) total submission and love.

For these reasons i can make my husband anything, including my NEXT OF KIN.

I like your sense of reasoning toward the institution of marraige..now i understand why some people have problems in thier marraiges..this is becos the very foundation upon which their marraige is built on, is faulty..this means it lacks of what we call TRUST...how can i marry some without the taught of making him my next of kin/beneficiary..the every word you said at the alter that your body belong to the other and your property is his/her property was all lies. husband and wife belong to each other..and there should be selflessness in this regards.Where this is absent then then they have a problem with TRUST for each other.

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Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by BankManager(m): 9:51am On Mar 08, 2016
My immediate elder brother...
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by de1de1SnrAd: 9:56am On Mar 08, 2016
I have read some high standard reading materials where it's been said that the right person is your spouse. Nevertheless, as for me, it's my wife. Someone that's even aware of my 'side chick' and the scenario that gave birth to it. So, what will i be hiding from her?
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 9:58am On Mar 08, 2016
omoharry:
I like your sense of reasoning toward the institution of marraige..now i understand why some people have problems in thier marraiges..this is becos the very foundation upon which their marraige is built on, is faulty..this means it lacks of what we call TRUST...how can i marry some without the taught of making him my next of kin/beneficiary..the every word you said at the alter that your body belong to the other and your property is his/her property was all lies. husband and wife belong to each other..and there should be selflessness in this regards.Where this is absent then then they have a problem with TRUST for each other.
Trust is the major reason why marriages end so i concur wit u too 100%.

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Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 10:02am On Mar 08, 2016
nbright:
My mom and I are the next of kin to my dad, God forbid anything happens to him let me see any of his relative that'll come and try nonsense with us. I know of aman that used his wife as next of kin, after hedied she used his cash to train her man friend children neglecting hers. God forbid I get married, I'll use my first son as my 'next of kin' . Girls cannot be trusted these days.
your Dad used your mom right? The Good Book says He that "findeth" a wife... finding is no easy task and for the finding is not girl/woman but wife!
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Adeboyefa(f): 10:04am On Mar 08, 2016
NewSheriff:
It's only proper to do so. Should anything happen, my child has to have legal rights to my properties. I expect my wife also to make our first child her next of kin. Not me.


Why should he make his wife his next of kin? How does him making his son his next of kin portray him as a heartless and irresponsible father?

As long as he has only one wife, his son will take care of his wife (the son's own mother). But if he has children from several women, he should pay the other women's shares into their bank accounts before making his first son his next of kin, or the other women and their children may suffer after his death.
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 10:05am On Mar 08, 2016
nortcentrallord:


Thanks but you seem to be planning the the early death of this young man.
My most responsible child will be my next of Kin. Won't build for anyone to waste or else I will everything to charity. Anybody who wants wealth should learn to work for it else they become wasteful with it. My take though.
planning death of who? no sane woman wants the death of her husband and father of her kids... the good women I know would rather loose money but have their men safe... no tori
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by nbright: 10:05am On Mar 08, 2016
BlaqCoffee109:
your Dad used your mom right? The Good Book says He that "findeth" a wife.. . finding is no easy task and for the finding is not girl/woman but wife!
that was then o, good girls are few in Nigeria nd fewer with each passing day. Now it's he that get rich will find many willing girls
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 10:07am On Mar 08, 2016
herbie27:
Trust is the major reason why marriages end so i concur wit u too 100%.
thats the crux of the matter.. why would anybody marry a person they don't trust and respect?

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Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by PresVA: 10:07am On Mar 08, 2016
akpevwe2:
My first child of course. In this end times you never can trust anyone even your spouse.
Don't trust anyone, yet you trust your child? undecided smh

It's appalling that many people shouting, don't trust your spouse bla bla bla ain't even married yet conceive that kinda thought? What kinda marriage do you intend to build with such mindset?
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by tete7000(m): 10:08am On Mar 08, 2016
akpevwe2:
My first child of course. In this end times you never can trust anyone even your spouse.

Even yourself! If you can trust yourself, you will trust others. We judge others using ourselves as yardstick.
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Timoleon(m): 10:10am On Mar 08, 2016
Evidence1000:
Lmao! Wetin person no go see for nairaland?
everyday theres something new man...everyday!
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Adeboyefa(f): 10:10am On Mar 08, 2016
Jerem19:
my mother
Do you pray for her to outlive you?
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 10:12am On Mar 08, 2016
nbright:
that was then o, good girls are few in Nigeria nd fewer with each passing day. Now it's he that get rich will find many willing girls
tor! if you abide by the principle of life, you should be safe methinks... +guys are quick to say there there are many b*tches they can wife on a dime.. many fishes in the ocean... here ya go!
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 10:13am On Mar 08, 2016
tete7000:


Even yourself! If you can trust yourself, you will trust others. We judge others using ourselves as yardstick.
exactly
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 10:14am On Mar 08, 2016
PresVA:
Don't trust anyone, yet you trust your child? undecided smh

It's appalling that many people shouting, don't trust your spouse bla bla bla ain't even married yet conceive that kinda thought? What kinda marriage do you intend to build with such mindset?
hence the rate of divorce and baby/huchie mama trend
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by legendsilver(m): 10:15am On Mar 08, 2016
I trust my wife and I believe she loves our kids, so my next of kin is simply my wife.

But!















I have told her, we are both dying the same day after eating our favorite amala and ewedu.
No ojoro, no body go leave the other behind. Shalom

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Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 10:17am On Mar 08, 2016
I see some people on this thread probably sleep with an eye open 'cos I see no reason you find it difficult to make your spouse your Next of Kin! Perhaps you gotta re-evaluate your relationship, based on this.
Who better takes care of what and who I leave behind if not my Spouse
Y'all choosing whosoever; do you know who he/she used as his/her Next of Kin You shocked....best believe, the chances' fearfully thin sad
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Nobody: 10:18am On Mar 08, 2016
BlaqCoffee109:
sure, by all means have it your way + your submission is subject to questioning as your initial input is in public domain

Probably, suggestions are great. However, it's not what you say, but HOW you say it. Your initial response reeked of sheer arrogance and smugness. This was your response:

BlaqCoffee109:
Your wife should be your next of kin...guys like you are the ones leaving their wives and children out in the cold should anything happen to the man...

You're free to question my choice, not tell me what I SHOULD do, based upon your choices. As for your statement "guys like you", that is rude, patronising and presumptuous, even if you knew me personally. Worse seeing as you don't. I know the provisions put in place for my children and wife...you don't.
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by Adeboyefa(f): 10:19am On Mar 08, 2016
tete7000:


Even yourself! If you can trust yourself, you will trust others. We judge others using ourselves as yardstick.

Proverbs 28:26 says, “He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but he who walks wisely will be delivered.”
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by skyisthelimit(m): 10:21am On Mar 08, 2016
....yes we will try plan these things just to satisfy ourselves but there are no assurances about how things will turn out after we pass on..its your money so share it the way you want but please don't be selfish..men are scared that women will re-marry and spend on her new man,women scared that men will spend same on a new woman?..after all the i love U..hmmmm; see human beings?..kai..but why bother about what is happening on earth when everyone has prayed that you should rest in peace?..reason i always advocate you enjoy your sweat to an extent and plan the rest for your loved ones, how they spend it after u go is not your biz (they probably don't even understand how u struggled to make d money)..let the living handle their own (not like you can even do anything from wherever one is gone to)..human beings ehhh?..we are a very funny lot of species..if only men were GOD am sure they will still be wanting to run things from where they are after they die...For me its wife..and that is because she suffered too in denials and inconveniences on behalf of the family (talking for myself) and she should know what's best for the kids...how that plays out when am gone,na dem sabi...me i have gone to rest with my GOD..can't hustle on earth and in heaven too...haba !!!!..( ooooh yes am going to heaven...before nko? ).
Re: As A Husband, Or Wife, Who Will You Make Your Next Of Kin by ozoemenaca: 10:25am On Mar 08, 2016
The issue of who you choose for next of kin depends on the circumstances in and within the family. For instance if you have a good wife or husband who actually know what to do when you are not there of cause she should be put as the next of kin. But if otherwise, like you have a wife or husband who is promiscuous who would collect the money and be duped by the men she has outside or even the man would go and marry another wife leaving the children to suffer, in that case you put your first child as the next of kin. In most cases you can split it 80/20 for your wife and brother or grown up son if you have an aged parents reason being that if the 100% is given to your wife and you have an aged parents she may feel non-challant to see to their welfare though we would outlive our parents by God"s grace. So it depends on the circumstances around you and the attitude of your spouse. If you also notice that your second child would care for his or her siblings better than the first child you can split it 50/50 hence you can not allocate higher percentage to the second child while the first child to avoid rancor amongst them . So on and so forth

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