RiffRaff:

bitter ke.. no girl has ever shattered my heart cuz i figured out early in life that Love is rare in a country where poverty is rife. people only use each other so u have to be on the lookout for yourself always.

I am just irritated by most of the comments i read on the first page. Even male backing the assertation that because i am dating a girl, hence i should be responsible for her upkeep.. maka why?
The sense of entitlement is disgusting. Male and female both got an education, we voth have 2 hands and legs. so why should i be working while vaboon go day chop?
I simply dont get it.

we are fighting for gender equality yet the female do not want to step up and pay the price.

How many times has a guy ever ran out of credit and call up a girl to beg?
How many times do u want to cut ur hair and the next thing is to call a girl to beg for money.
Nigerian girls need to stop these Almajari syndrome cuz its pathetic.

Guys don beg me for credit before o. Lolz. But I get what you're saying tho

Rexhenrex:
just came across this on f.b this morning whats your take?? I don't care what name anyone might wanna call me but I strongly support the notion of this quote below .

if you indeed love someone at least you spending on them shouldn't be a problem no matter how small.some men even find it difficult spending on there wife's or fiance some guys its a taboo to give their girl friens money or buy her a gift truth has to be told.

Excuse me...

Oluwabadonkadonk doesn't agree...

Our Father Adam provided Eve with everything a woman of that tym ever wanted... Warmth, Food, Familiarity with the animals, e.t.c

What happened at the end of the day!?

Eve jilted the poor man...

She jilted him for the sake of the serpent... Sin No. 1

She ruined Adams reputation... Sin No. 2

She caused Adam to lose all that was entrusted to him... Sin No. 3

Need I continue!?

All she did was hurt Adam, all Cos Adam was a provider...

Ask urself... All that tym that Adam was providing.. Was it ever written that eve provided Adam any interesting thing apart from someone to talk to!?

Excuse Me..

I am very sure God didn't create man to play the Maga for u ladies...

He created man to do His bidding and use his intuitiveness to decide wat to do with that which he was entrusted..... As long as he did the Lord's bidding and obeyed His rules... Everything was goody goody...

Until Eve came along to cause Kata Kata..

Mehn! Join me in saying this prayer...

Any woman... I say it again... Any woman... That only wants to collect and collect and collect, till our account reads -0.00...May her pocket empty and replenish in ten folds that which she has unlawfully taken from u...

Oya! Make una begin to kabash.. .

ThuGnificenX:
Bro fuvk that thing abeg... Just get ur space from them, make your self valuable and get all the money you want.
It's not a must to have a woman to be alive.
They distract you, wreck your finances, and waste your time.

lol.u sound pained nigga.b lyk say woman ddon show u shayga. some woman wicked sha.but tk hrt.there are good women out there even though dey seem non existent.just pray to God to guide u to d ryt one.and pls set ur priorities.first things first lyk u HV rightly said

zeyney:

lol.u sound pained nigga.b lyk say woman ddon show u shayga. some woman wicked sha.but tk hrt.there are good women out there even though dey seem non existent.just pray to God to guide u to d ryt one.and pls set ur priorities.first things first lyk u HV rightly said

I didn't ask for your opinion o..

Rexhenrex:
just came across this on f.b this morning whats your take?? I don't care what name anyone might wanna call me but I strongly support the notion of this quote below .

[b]if you indeed love someone at least you spending on them shouldn't be a problem no matter how small.[/b]some men even find it difficult spending on there wife's or fiance some guys its a taboo to give their girl friens money or buy her a gift truth has to be told.

i believe the catch word here is spending on the one you love, @ the bolded, is it then a crime for the ladies to do the spending for once and not always seeing it as their birth right to receive and for we the male folks to do the spending?

guys don suffer ooo,must we always be spending
guys don suffer ooo,must we always be spending

NewSheriff:
I repeat, a man is only obliged to provide for his family, he can only support his girlfriend when necessary. A man has no business been responsible for a girlfriend's basic and secondary needs. Except on few occasions where the lady in question is actually helpless. It's only right to come in and help in the best way you can.

Why should a lady make it mandatory to spend on her monthly like you said? To worsen it, doesn't appreciate your effort. Abeg dey date better people. There are many nice girls out there that'll make you think gold diggers exists only in the mouth of nairalanders.

WORD...... no mind all those small girls, I keep sayin it n wil continue sayin it, wen a guy start acting as a father 2 his gf, dats d downfall of DAT man, y shld u mk a an habit giving her 5k everi 2weeks 4 hair do, recharging her fone constantly..dats just wrong, dating sum1 those nt giv any lady any ryt 2 pile all her responsibility on a guy, d truth is giving shld b frm d heart nt mandatory, na only desperate guys go empty dere account all in d name say dey wan please one girl n if d girl later dump dem, dey go cum dey cause traffic 4 Nairaland wit post lyk "she dumped me after all I did 4 her, " she stop picking my calls my fellow nairander advice me" bla bla bla....

josite:
and who really minds being a soldier escorting the queen to the king and getting to Bleep the queen more than 365 days in a year.if u have exceptional fucking skills ,then u must be a fool if after exerting your energy ,u still have to spend on her.most smart babe realise guy with exceptional fucking skills are rare and will go extra miles to make him happi.lucky me.d highest spend so far on babe is 3k.

because u na fvcking machine

Rexhenrex:
just came across this on f.b this morning whats your take?? I don't care what name anyone might wanna call me but I strongly support the notion of this quote below .

if you indeed love someone at least you spending on them shouldn't be a problem no matter how small.some men even find it difficult spending on there wife's or fiance some guys its a taboo to give their girl friens money or buy her a gift truth has to be told.

I wanted to use an F word on you but I just won't for one reason.
must it always be the guys that will show the love?..
won't they show anything beside smiles and thanks?

am so tempted to use an F word on you.. you're lucky..

ndcide:
The ones I spent for I didn't marry them.

Na advice I dey give.. and time, which is money but not money.

A guy does not owe any lady an obligation of providing for her until after marriage. GUYS invest your money. this thread will turn you to a Maga. You'll be looking for sex compensation.

The lady who is not married to you yet keeps receiving, will be uncomfortable if you give another lady anything. Don't give. Don't waste your money. Invest it. Otherwise, marry her, make her family and give her everything.

This was how my neighbor got 4 blackberry phones from 4 different guys on her birthday. Yet she sleeps with men at oriental hotel.

The fools giving her those phones share same sentiments as some condemned magas here.

bros u deserve 10 bottles of origin 4 dis...i pity al dia yong ignorant guys

missyadorable:


It's a pity you can't read and understand simple English.Where in mu comment did I say a guy should only give his girlfriend gift and money when she offers him sex?

You must be mentally retarded

I repeat no sex,no spending = Fantastic relationship..Go and marry so you can have all the sex you want,obviously sex is your problem

I will let it slide I won't insult you because you are a lady and am matured to stoop low u are correlating them period!

yinkslinks:
sugar daddy talking for more oloshos to follow him

you are obviously high on per boiled weed.

stalinho:

I wanted to use an F word on you but I just won't for one reason.
must it always be the guys that will show the love?..
won't they show anything beside smiles and thanks?

am so tempted to use an F word on you.. you're lucky..

ehya u sound broke then don't date the point is this,even if ur girl gives u everything or her parents are rich u should give her something even if it is ones for her to eat at least a thousand naira from u is not bad no matter how little. give with sense it doesn't mean u should turn to a maga

Kgdavid:


Hmmm my female friend inists that African girls do not like roses

that's how u know the ones who are after materialistic things if some one loves u even if u give them a common item as a gift she sees it beyond the worth because of the way the feel about u trust me on this.

Suigeneris93:
Three ways a man shows he loves a woman: he provides, protects and professes- Steve Harvey


The bolded says it all


*modified*
I won't dignify your quoting me with a response especially if you don't have anything meaningful to say. I'm not dating you and I most likely never will, so save your breath or in this case your epistle

check d time I quoted u.
I wud hv ignored u and mind my biznx, buh on seeing ya modification, I giggled. Dat's wat u see wen d fingers are faster dan d brain. Hey, d'z is social platform... u mustn't alwz show ya ignorance. Funny tn is, by d end of the day, u're laid, kids breeders and u forgotten under same man's roof. Even Darego wn't talk like dz.
To show dat u're easily manipulated, u get ya inspirations from "tnk blablabla" by SH, a comedian? u so so funny.
U stl a gal if u stl carry such mentality. Ladies in relationships kws dat it's a win win tnz, 50:50 rather. d p3 is nt juz for d man alone if u wnt to achv dat drim relatnshp and nt to bn seen as Gold digger. Marriage is a style, u and ya man shud create one dat works best for both and stop fooling around wt manipulatv divorcée author... let him fix himself 1st b4 fixing u.
#peace.

Leriebloom:

Most guys dont reason this way which is pretty upsetting. Infact u deserve a hug.

U ladies alwz wana hear manipulatv lies. Anyway, we tell u wat u wana hear and hv our way. O'p u gv him d e-hug for faking perfection?
better get a life and stop depending on a guy for ya needs in relationship wen u ain't married yet. if he doesn't gv, show him how to gv. little from u either won't hurt. It's vis-a-vis.
Shudn't hv quoted u, buh ya beauty nids ya grey matters d most. Tot u shud kw better wt ya low cut.
#peace

ebubey:

i totally agree with you. You find out that most guys want their girlfriend to always look nice so that they can show her off to their friends bt does not want to contribute to that beauty... which is bad

lukin' nice u say?
OK, luk bad then.
so I shud b responsible for d way u luk? coz u're wat?
Nathn I no go see for dz NL o.
Dat's wat u see wen beauty is run by tit-like brains.

repogirl:
[size=16pt]Tell all those stingy koko small boys, hoarding dia money as if dey will die and go to hell with it! CHEAPSKATES! [/size]

U again!
y deceiving most suckling gals here wen u comfortably married?
Be truthful for once... small time now na " I'm married o...lol.
better hide wen such thread is created or better stl spew d truth.
It's better I take my money along wt me dan investing on sm gold encrusted digger dat brings nathn to d table dan...olosho body.

Josephamstrong1:


check d time I quoted u.
I wud hv ignored u and mind my biznx, buh on seeing ya modification, I giggled. Dat's wat u see wen d fingers are faster dan d brains. Hey, d'z is social platform... u mustn't alwz show ya ignorance. Funny tn is, by d end of the day, u're laid, kids breeders and u forgotten under same man's roof. Even Darego wn't talk like dz.
To show dat u're easily manipulated, u get ya inspirations from "tnk blablabla" by SH, a comedian? u so so funny.
U stl a gal if u stl carry such mentality. Ladies in relationships kws dat it's a win win tnz, 50:50 rather. d p3 is nt juz for d man alone if u wnt to achv dat drim relatnshp and nt to bn seen as Gold digger. Marriage is a style, u and ya man shud create one dat works best for both and stop fooling around wt manipulatv divorcée author... let him fix himself 1st b4 fixing u.
#peace.

*pulls down panties, pisses on comment, wipes coochie with tissue and walks away

Suigeneris93:



*pulls down panties, pisses on comment, wipes coochie with tissue and walks away

issorai, hv seen ya Dp.

Suigeneris93:



By being loyal, giving you support (financial,moral etc) and of course the cookie. I'm still quoting Steve Harvey. I no know wetin dey work some nairaland guys

All you've listed are all welcomed by me. Tho will not ask a woman for financial support because I believe it's the man's duty to support his fam financially.. Although I would love to have a woman that will always be willing to contribute at certain times without me urging her to. Btw, if you will give your man all the listed, then you deserve nothing but the best from me. Your kind is rare..

Suigeneris93:



*pulls down panties, pisses on comment, wipes coochie with tissue and walks away

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You're pulling down panties on here..
Hawks full everywhere oh, better be kiaful!

Mugu

lastpage:


Stop portraying women as "objects of easy virtue".
Even that phrase, "spend on her"... is derogatory! Any woman worth her salt, aside the broke-azz, material-minded ones, know what l am talking about.

My junior sister had a boyfriend (which she later married) but she insists that he cannot give her gifts worth more than she can give him... till they are married. Material things was never a factor in deciding if they would get married or not.
Infact, my sister likes to spoil him and the guy sef dey do shakara as he would refuse anything worth more than 5K from her.
He once asked her to return a birthday Wrist Watch that cost about 10K back then in 2001 ...unless she would agree that he re-imburse her.
Eventually they shared the cost between themselves....... and he found a way to spend the other half on her later.
That is how to build healthy relationship were one party is not a slave to the other.

That way, even if they broke up, he can never boast of "spending my money on her" (which is what and where it ends most time with guys), he can never regret "wasting his money on her", he can never have any sort of "hold" on her, plus it makes her walk wit her head high (dignity) and the guy knows she is with her, not for his money.

No wonder Nigerian girls dont want to go out with a poor, struggling guy.
Reminds me of Monica (Money and Car! )

On the other hand, we all preach emancipation of women, equality, respect, bla-bla-bla. How owuld a man respect you, if he already 'bought" you like a slave?
Why not flip things around and say "You are not with a Man/He is not your Man, ..if you cant spend money on him"?
See how ridiculous that sounds?

Relationships that are based on "how much you have to spend on me" are bound to make the receiving party (the woman) have LESS VALUED in the eyes of the one doing the paying (the guy).

I would rather we emphasize "SHARING" between Lovers

Come and see how my sister's husband respects her so much, even till today!

Well, l can understand for women from extremely poor background who see a Boyfriend as a "Meal Ticket" and ladder to good things of life!
"Gold-Digger" is a very, very bad insult for a woman.
God punish Poverty and lack of Dignity.



Lastpage!

Tell them...when someone keep spending on you,eventually your value diminishes. have you wondered why rich men cheat on their wives more and pay them less attention,its simply cos you can't eat your cake and have it. The man has bought you with his money,giving you time with that,will be way too much.

I hate it when men complain about womens' various demands on them. Then quit the relationship, even quit life, jump off a bridge if that's what you want.

No one forced you to date her, if she makes demands you cannot or do not wish to fulfill, you know what to do. So stop whining and just do something for pete's sake.

Josephamstrong1:


U again!
y deceiving most suckling gals here wen u comfortably married?
Be truthful for once... small time now na " I'm married o...lol.
better hide wen such thread is created or better stl spew d truth.
It's better I take my money along wt me dan investing on sm gold encrusted digger dat brings nathn to d table dan...olosho body.

okay, I was actually playing when I wrote that but then again the original poster didn't imply that you should spend all you have on your girlfriend.

He was simply advicing that you can do a few things for a girl you claim to love. Notice the word contribute, he didn't say buy it all for her,he said contribute.

Guys just jump into calling girls gold-diggers and all other names when asked to just do nice things for a girl he likes.

Granted there are gold-diggers out there who take it to the extreme but doing something nice for your girlfriend once in a while, is that so much to ask?

Josephamstrong1:


lukin' nice u say?
OK, luk bad then.
so I shud b responsible for d way u luk? coz u're wat?
Nathn I no go see for dz NL o.
Dat's wat u see wen beauty is run by tit-like brains.

and u can't make your point without insulting her I guess?

Josephamstrong1:


check d time I quoted u.
I wud hv ignored u and mind my biznx, buh on seeing ya modification, I giggled. Dat's wat u see wen d fingers are faster dan d brain. Hey, d'z is social platform... u mustn't alwz show ya ignorance. Funny tn is, by d end of the day, u're laid, kids breeders and u forgotten under same man's roof. Even Darego wn't talk like dz.
To show dat u're easily manipulated, u get ya inspirations from "tnk blablabla" by SH, a comedian? u so so funny.
U stl a gal if u stl carry such mentality. Ladies in relationships kws dat it's a win win tnz, 50:50 rather. d p3 is nt juz for d man alone if u wnt to achv dat drim relatnshp and nt to bn seen as Gold digger. Marriage is a style, u and ya man shud create one dat works best for both and stop fooling around wt manipulatv divorcée author... let him fix himself 1st b4 fixing u.
#peace.

so that's what you think about women @ bolded. Interesting.

That it is a man's duty to provide is now a lie abi?

Ofcourse in marriage, a wife should support but please don't forget who likes to claim to be the HEAD of the family.

How can you be the HEAD when you are not in control...which kind HEAD be that?

MrsPhyno:
I hate it when men complain about womens' various demands on them. Then quit the relationship, even quit life, jump off a bridge if that's what you want.

No one forced you to date her, if she makes demands you cannot or do not wish to fulfill, you know what to do. So stop whining and just do something for pete's sake.

my point exactly

Josephamstrong1:


lukin' nice u say?
OK, luk bad then.
so I shud b responsible for d way u luk? coz u're wat?
Nathn I no go see for dz NL o.
Dat's wat u see wen beauty is run by tit-like brains.

na your type, im eye go dey chook for fine fine girls now o.

The primary responsibility for her upkeep falls on her parents. That i get a nice gift for her on her birthday (and/or on other days) doesn't mean I provide for her. I do same for my friends.

The important thing to note is that I have NO FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY to someone I am DATING.

MARRIAGE is a different ball game where All I OWN BELONGS to US.

repogirl:
okay, I was actually playing when I wrote that but then again the original poster didn't imply that you should spend all you have on your girlfriend.

He was simply advicing that you can do a few things for a girl you claim to love. Notice the word contribute, he didn't say buy it all for her,he said contribute.

Guys just jump into calling girls gold-diggers and all other names when asked to just do nice things for a girl he likes.

Granted there are gold-diggers out there who take it to the extreme but doing something nice for your girlfriend once in a while, is that so much to ask?

mehn you get sense that's what they don't understand they didn't read it well prolly..