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Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by nevi12(f): 10:08pm On Mar 17, 2016 |
I have been thinking about this for a while now must nigerian parents be harsh before they know they are training there kids well.most times when i watch Mr. Craze and Ade doing there thing i laugh but deep down i really wonder if the whole slapping and beating is necessary.I am not saying that you shouldnt correct a child when that child is wrong what ever happened to d word "advice" or better still verbal correction. slapping and hitting that child is only needed when that child is being too stubborn or adamant.....take for example i was in a bus sometime last week nd a woman nd her probably 3yrs old son entered d bus,the child became hot due to the normal roasting sun + the tightness of the bus and the poor boy started crying and begging the mother for water,The kinda slap she gave that boy i cant forget it in a hurry.Everyone had to start shouting on the mother because she was excessively mean to dat child.well i dunno if dat story is enough to buttress my point on this matter ...ild lyk to hear from You guys too what is your take on dis issue ![]() ***************************************************** Cc Estharfabian Callmeval Obiorathesubtle Naijaboiy Cutehector Carnations Levada Rollar All nairaland sweethearts come on u all r meant to have a take on this 4 Likes 3 Shares
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Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by Nobody: 10:15pm On Mar 17, 2016 |
what parent don't understand is that hitting a child can cause emotional trauma. The child is made to believe that violence is the only way to correct wrong situations. I remember a lady once told me ' My mothers beatings didn't make me sober but more stubborn'. I think parents should get to know their children and how which method of correction they respond to more effectively. For me, beatings didn't work until my mother discovered corporal punishments ![]() Chai !!! I Sow clothes tired ![]() ![]() |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by nevi12(f): 10:45pm On Mar 17, 2016 |
Diddyydiva: My dear u r making sense jare hitting is not always d best solution |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by Nobody: 10:47pm On Mar 17, 2016 |
nevi12:I will make a better mother for my unborn kids. May God help me ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by portside(m): 11:00pm On Mar 17, 2016 |
God bless the originator of this topic 1 Like |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by kenny987(f): 11:10pm On Mar 17, 2016 |
Sometimes it's a quick fix in the heat of the moment but it's not a lasting solution. Parents need to be able to identify the shortcomings of their kids and reach them at a level where they make a conscious effort and decision to change. In doing this, love must always be the driving force. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by nevi12(f): 6:21am On Mar 18, 2016 |
kenny987:Exactly |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by obiorathesubtle: 8:21am On Mar 18, 2016 |
I support hitting children sometimes.. But only when necessary.. You don't hit children to transfer aggression or for any other reason other than correction... The woman in your story made a big phacking mistake.. The kid wants water, when children are uncomfortable, they cry.. That's the only way they can pass their message.. It's her duty to take care of the kid and not abuse the poor child.. Phacking grumpy mother! And that Ade papa sef.. Wetin?? Ade face na bass drum?? Children are fragile, tender, weak.. Etc... Emotionally and whatnot... Parents should understand this na.. That's why parents who want to adopt hitting their kids should do so with canes, not sticks, or other harmful things.. Sometimes, children misbehave.. They can be foolish n ish.. Iswear, the foolishness in a child is colossal.. But the rod of correction drives it far.. Na bible talk am.. Parents should learn to treat children right.. And to an extent shaa.. You no fit just dy beat pikin like nama.. You wan kill am?? 2 Likes |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by Nobody: 8:41am On Mar 18, 2016 |
Nothing fixes the kids like a good old fashioned ass whupping If the kid is still stubborn, then U aint whipping him enough or U aint whipping him right My mama smacked the living shìt out of me, peeps watching be like 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by Nobody: 8:56am On Mar 18, 2016 |
If we all consider how much we got hit as a child, we just gon sue our parents. ![]() maybe if I had got more slaps, I should have high cheek bones. I naturally don't spank kids, but I threaten them about it a lot, just to shush them. is that abuse ![]() |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by ShakurM(m): 9:02am On Mar 18, 2016 |
BUTCHCASSIDY:So do you consider your life fixed? |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by nevi12(f): 9:05am On Mar 18, 2016 |
obiorathesubtle: Nice one dear |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by Nobody: 9:10am On Mar 18, 2016 |
ShakurM:Yup |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by Nobody: 9:12am On Mar 18, 2016 |
Joavid: U need to make good on your threat Cos kids are very smart once they understand you wont do anything They will go out of control |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by diportivo: 1:10pm On Mar 18, 2016 |
Iv seen 3-4-5 yr old children slapping their mum even in public Yorubas will say.."ofi owo kekere gba nla"...loosely translated as "do me i do u" If such mums had been spanking the said children and had not been thinking they are gentle and mild and stuffs,such children wont graduate to slapping Children of nowadays are smart....underestimate dem at ur own peril As for me and my wife,we shall spank our kids.... ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by Nobody: 2:15pm On Mar 18, 2016 |
Nevi12 the problem with Africans is our intolerance. We grow up and live under harsh conditions and end up being impatient and aggressive adults. Most of us live stressful lives and we have a way of transferring our aggression to our kids. Take that woman on the bus for instance, the weather was hot, the poor kid was likely tired and the bus was probably stuffy with so many people in it and had poor ventilation. The woman was probably stressed out herself and didn't have the patience to comfort her kid. That's why I always say if people believe beating their children is absolutely necessary, then they shouldn't beat them in the heat of anger or frustration. They should wait until they've calmed down, then let's see how many lashes you'd gladly give your own kid. The truth is that majority of parents beat their kids immediately they err, when the anger is still hot. Parents shouldn't gain pleasure or satisfaction from beating their kids. The idea is to correct them, not make yourself feel better by letting off some steam. I see cases where couples wait for 10-15 years before having a baby, then they end up mutilating the kid in the name of correction. What's with the desperation to have children, only to mutilate them? It just doesn't make sense. Africans are backward in this regard, because most westerners read books on parenting before they have children, so they know what to expect and how to handle their tempers/emotions. But Africans just feel once you're old enough you should have babies and 'figure the rest out' along the way. This is wrong. If you must have children, then you must be prepared psychologically and emotionally. learn to be patient/long suffering. Of course I'm not saying its good to spoil children, its possible to be firm without being savage. If your kid isn't old enough to be reasoned with, then that child should not be held accountable for his actions. If the child is however old enough to know right from wrong and despite how firm the parent is , they still stray, then maybe the parent is not living by example. You can't expect to be a lazy drunkard and have model, industrious children. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by nevi12(f): 5:35pm On Mar 18, 2016 |
Rollar: Hehe i knew u wldnt disappoint me |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by Nobody: 5:45pm On Mar 18, 2016 |
nevi12:Hmm. How d'you mean 'disappoint' you? |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by JoeCutie(m): 6:48pm On Mar 18, 2016 |
Rollar:Awww, I just love this. This is exactly what I've been preaching. Absolutely spot on. Kudos! 2 Likes |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by Begonia(m): 8:58pm On Mar 18, 2016 |
I was going to type something long on this topic but that won't be necessary as some users have already done it justice. Most parents hit their kids, not to displine them but rather to vent their anger. That is abuse. I'll just like to add that teachers are not left out in this type of abuse. After having some home squabble with their verbally or physically abusive spouse, they go to their place of work (school) to abuse their students under the guise of discipline. It's even more dampening that some parents encourage this so called discipline by these frustrated teachers. The earlier people start to draw the line between discipline and abuse, the better for our kids and the society at large. 1 Like |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by nevi12(f): 12:39am On Mar 19, 2016 |
Rollar: I guessed u were goin to do justice to d topic nd u did 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is Hitting A Child Really Necessary In Correcting That Child???? by nevi12(f): 12:40am On Mar 19, 2016 |
Begonia: U v a point dere teachers r not left out.dey get dere own for dembody |
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