nefertitiram:


It doesn't matter, who is good is good. I did 5mths wit a cousin I met on facebook. Na tears dem take tell me goodbye.

nefertitiram:


It doesn't matter, who is good is good. I did 5mths wit a cousin I met on facebook. Na tears dem take tell me goodbye.

nefertitiram:


It doesn't matter, who is good is good. I did 5mths wit a cousin I met on facebook. Na tears dem take tell me goodbye.

ChicMalkia:
Yes o I concur! Who is good is good...my aunt in new York doesn't send at all...if you like stay 6 months they will still treat you like a Queen because she knows when it comes to birthing and all its movements it ain't easy. I can recall how she constantly spoilt my daughter with baby clothes and toys constantly...while I was there for birthing, she even sheltered & catered for the infant child of a church member who just gave birth and was rushed to the hospital.

@girlloom if only you had taken the advise by @vcole and some others...I recall @madammamus repeatedly advised you shouldn't confront them unless maybe the day you are leaving. Just quietly do what you can to resolve the issue. The Lord will see you and your marriage through...

donugapi:


Very true.. My wife stayed with her family for nearly 4 months... her family were so nice.. They even gave us their car to use plus gas money sometimes sef. They bought so many gifts for our baby and gave her plenty money.. before we left we opened an account for her with nearly $2k in there.

Some people naturally just have bad attitudes.

nefertitiram:


It doesn't matter, who is good is good. I did 5mths wit a cousin I met on facebook. Na tears dem take tell me goodbye.

favoredgal:


Key word here being HER family



Key word here being Your own cousin

truth is with inlaws, very few are exceptions. I stayed with my sis inlaw during my first missionary journey for 12 weeks / 3 months. she was very nice. she and her husband did everything for me including all dr's appointment and even stayed in the labor room with me. However your house isn't your house. No matter how nice or nasty anyone is

I agree with you Favoredgirl! No matter how nice, no be your house! My Sis- in-law turned me to house cleaner, cook and "doormat" baby sef she no even help me carry! Hian!!!

4 months is a looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong time.

As you are getting tired of them (which is normal and inevitable), i believe they are also getting tired of you (which is normal and inevitable)

For my second missionary journey my total waka was just 7 weeks but i stayed on my own. the difference was 7up. I Slept when i wanted to, without fear of being judged as lazy. ate when i wanted to, starved when i wanted to. I basically did things my way and at my pace. Bliss mehn

girlloom:


I know right, all thanks to my husband who kept pushing that I stayed back till our son clocks 3 months. Also the sis inlaw wanted me around for nanny services. I wanted to leave in January to some other place when his mom came over, my husband called my parents that I wanted to put the newborn at risk. He said if I took his child outside his sis home that I should as well end the marriage. His mom frustrated me real good. One particular day in Feb, the mom told her daughter that my son could have been handsome if not for the nose I gave him, I couldn't take it and let out all she had been doing to me, unpleasant words were exchanged, she said yes because I want to separate her from her son and destroy her family. The sister was extremely happy to call my husband to let him know I exchanged words with his mother and my once peaceful and happy marriage turned into something else since then.

evemama:
My dear with all that has happened, I think you need to (pretend) to apologise to ur sis inlaw and husband. Act like you no nothing and very naive, really apologise while working to leave their place fast! Then like has been said earlier do the needful and report to appropriate quarters to get the ssn protected so these corrupt nija pple can't use it or suffer for trying to use it. All this while, u keep mute about what u've done possibly even to ur hubby cos it's seems they want to affect the peace of ur marriage so no give them chance! Sometimes men can add sentiment to my sister, my mother matter so u have to tread carefully. If they use it and get into trouble for it, let them explain to ur hubby or family what they did behind ur back with the ssn that caused their problem cos u no know nothing about their problem, that will teach them not to do criminal things!
All in all take care of u and take things easy!


@girlool: if God wan help u, make ur SIL just sitdon one corner for house they read all ds ur post and all ds advise for NL. Cheiii, then she will show u a version of winnnn wey u neva see. Abeg leave mata for mattias.

HutleyR:
Hello house, please I have a question, I have written to the immigration about my change of intent as acquired visa for vacation and now want to birth in the U.S.. I have also changed by point of entry to Arizona as host in North Carolina says she is traveling to Nigeria at d time I am due. Is it important to send an email to the immigration or is it enough that I have an appointment and also a family friend in Arizona? It is my first time in the U.S., please advise me, thanks all.

LadyGuinivere:

No u don't need to.
Visa was acquired for vacation. U didn't use it but changed the intent. That means your whole plans changed and I suppose locations as well. The key is to have proof of final destination and ability to pay ALL your bills.

However if I may ask, were u pregnant when u got the visa? Were u asked? What was the time difference between your interview and the pregnancy? Those are the issues that may pose serz issues

olokings:

HutleyR:
Yes I was 2 months , I was not asked by the VO, I indicated I was married, Honestly, I had no intention of birthing then and was just going to shop and holiday coz my hubby was traveling then, we were then advised by a friend not to waste our money and that b1/b2 covered medical purpose, Dts how d whole plan changed and I was introduced to Nairaland, I wish I knew right from time, to get things right, a bit scared of all the Poe stories but believe in God.

bigfido:
@girloom the moment I read that you exchanged words with your MIL, a chunk of the sympathy I had left. Yoruba people say, ile oko, ile eko ni (your matrimonial home is where you learn good behaviour).. I might sound terrible to you right now, but imagine your younger brothers wife exchanging words with your mother under your roof.. Would you hug her and take her to dinner afterwards? As a woman, you have to learn patience. Not every war is won by confrontations. Some are won by silence. Yes, it hurts, but knowing when to speak at times saves nine. I am sure you know your husband and from the little I have read, his family is important to him than his wife. The moment a man threatens you with divorce, you need to start evaluating your worth to that man and most importantly, what values the man attach to his home. At that point, you should have learnt how to thread carefully. Your SIL might have attitude and as such it might be killing you.. You could have easily evaluated your position and know how to chose your battles wisely. Silence is golden especially for a woman.

I think now, you should let your family know what you are going through, if they can raise cash for you, great! Pack your bags and leave that house. If your husband calls to divorce you because you sort for your own sanity, give him a clap on the phone and let him do as he pleases. To me, all is not fair with such threats in a marriage.
2) before you leave, apologise to your SIL for the disagreement (makes you look like a fool and cheated yea?, it's a game plan) thank her for the hospitality and bounce. Don't look back
3) head to social security office to log your complains and either ask for another card or a Pin for the one you have
4) inform your husband about the change in the number or that you have obtained a Pin for it. I am sure he will mention it to his sister. If they go ahead to use it and end up in jail, that's their cup of tea
5) Pray! That's the greatest weapon a woman has.

I wish you the best of luck

bigfido:
@girloom the moment I read that you exchanged words with your MIL, a chunk of the sympathy I had left. Yoruba people say, ile oko, ile eko ni (your matrimonial home is where you learn good behaviour).. I might sound terrible to you right now, but imagine your younger brothers wife exchanging words with your mother under your roof.. Would you hug her and take her to dinner afterwards? As a woman, you have to learn patience. Not every war is won by confrontations. Some are won by silence. Yes, it hurts, but knowing when to speak at times saves nine. I am sure you know your husband and from the little I have read, his family is important to him than his wife. The moment a man threatens you with divorce, you need to start evaluating your worth to that man and most importantly, what values the man attach to his home. At that point, you should have learnt how to thread carefully. Your SIL might have attitude and as such it might be killing you.. You could have easily evaluated your position and know how to chose your battles wisely. Silence is golden especially for a woman.

I think now, you should let your family know what you are going through, if they can raise cash for you, great! Pack your bags and leave that house. If your husband calls to divorce you because you sort for your own sanity, give him a clap on the phone and let him do as he pleases. To me, all is not fair with such threats in a marriage.
2) before you leave, apologise to your SIL for the disagreement (makes you look like a fool and cheated yea?, it's a game plan) thank her for the hospitality and bounce. Don't look back
3) head to social security office to log your complains and either ask for another card or a Pin for the one you have
4) inform your husband about the change in the number or that you have obtained a Pin for it. I am sure he will mention it to his sister. If they go ahead to use it and end up in jail, that's their cup of tea
5) Pray! That's the greatest weapon a woman has.

I wish you the best of luck

cosd:


bros, pls I sent u a pm, kindly reply

CC olokings, terese69

MamaOO:

No. Not in the US. Our tax filing season starts in mid January and ends mid Alril. This year's has been on from January 19 and it ends in April 15. So if he wants to use it, he might have used it already and that's just too sad.

That said, there is no excusing what he did. Even if he did not use the SSN to claim credits, what he did was absolutely wrong. Social Security Administration is always boldly written on the envelope that brings the card in the mail, so he cannot tell her that he didn't know that it contains the baby's SSN. Then he still went ahead and hid the entire card from her after opening and probably copying the number. Arghhh. How criminal can that be?

He didn't think about the criminal implications of that before opening the documents and even hiding it from her? You know what SSN issues can cause someone in America? You gotta experience it before you feel the full weight of it. I still stand by what I said. Call the IRS identity theft hotline. Tell them the envelope was delivered open. No need to mention the person that opened it. Let them put a marker on that SSN and possibly give you a PIN. If he has filed with the SSN this year, fine. Next year if he tries it, his whole refund will be held and he will be told to verify identity with the PIN you were given and since he doesn't know it, that's when the issue will start. If he can't produce it, his whole refund will be held and might prompt an audit and even an investigation. Some Nigerians here are just appalling and I've heard stories of hosts doing that to people. What will the 2K or less claimed from child credit do for you? What? Nonsense!!!

omodadi:


The leakytribe, I think by now you should have been blessed to confirm the 43k she said she gave the people from her account. However, her story says she gave them the money on friday, bt na Saturday u called her and she ran away. Where did she run to gangan? If it warrants paying/bribing the police ppl to help on the case, pls don't hesitate cos u can't give them one tenth of the money you've lost. Congrats forbir successful poe unsual attack, May God console you .

Biollar1, I can see you enjoyed your weekend...welcome back.

Miracletwinee:
[quote author=TheLeakyTribe post=43959291
This girls story is a very familiar one. A few years ago my mum had one of these girls fron across the border. One hot afternoon she just disappeared into thin air and they found out she left with all my mums trinkets worth almost a million.. Alas the following morning she came back after the agent that brought her had been arrested. She said she was hypnotized by some guys she met the previous week when mum sent her on an errand across the street.unfortunately we did not act fast so they could not get the things back you know NPF and their egunje syndrome. So please tell your husband to follow up immediately and 'mobilize ' the police. They can be very good at things like that when you 'Mobilize' them.

osat82:
@TheLeakyTribe please which airline did you use?and how many weeks are you currently?

TheLeakyTribe:


The bank confirmed that she indeed withdrew her money totalling N41k and emptied her account. she claims she tried to get the phone back from them and they spent the day carrying her around. I don already tire. getting police report today to be able to trace the number involved.

TheLeakyTribe:


The bank confirmed that she indeed withdrew her money totalling N41k and emptied her account. she claims she tried to get the phone back from them and they spent the day carrying her around. I don already tire. getting police report today to be able to trace the number involved.