Haleematm:
Sept mommas where are u. show up pls

raptor2:


@ Mitchy oniovo Am fine o ooo. I thank God His mercies. The heat no dey let me see road. Is anybody sweating under the boobs.
The sweat can wet my top as if am licking breast milk. Lol
Team July was bubbling
The Lord is our strength and we shall carry to term. Amen.

babythug:
It's amazing that its my hubby who generally has "loss of libido" during pregnancy and for months after childbirth. I'm usually keen but just not used to having to ask/reach out so I just stay in my corner!

I agree though that the pressures of child care coupled with running a household can enhance a loss of desire, like hajarahbadmus said one just needs to try really hard to remain on point.

I have vowed that this time round pregnancy and childbirth will not let me generally lose control of my appearance and the state of the house..

Speaking of which lemme comb my hair its been a few days

zaynie:
@ topic, I used to have high libido when we just got married, in pregnancy I switch between" do it for God's sake" and " I cant get enough"
When baby is born, I am worse as in " leave me let me eat and get fat and ugly joor'. So libido is 0 and I am a " leave me alone abeg!" Buh once I wean......the babe is back and we start doing boyfriend and girlfriend again.
Then I read that one stewpid hormone runs round the body postpartum. It is the dampens the libido so that you can care for your child more ie you get to pay more attention to your child than yourself or anyone. So I guess that's natures way of ensuring we take care of our babies well.
Buh to be honest, when I did CS, I bounced back quickly o ( around the 3rd week sef ), this time around....I hate my V ..... I am yet to bounce back fully and its 5months today!
It helps when he helps around the house. I get to 'love ' him for his little acts of thoughtfulness and the reward is a happy wife, eager to please.
When he leaves me to handle the kids and the house and still comes home with one or two complaints.....pls just goan sleep faraway from me! If you venture touch me....I no wan know whether na mosquito you wan kill, I go tear for you


I take care of myself o.....I go to work and dress neatly and nice. I have a lowcut on ( cos to make hair dey tire me, my husby doesnt like it tho), I have many nice lowcut/ shakies/ mini gowns as house wears so its not like I am a wrapper tying no bra/ no panties jiggling wifey .
Sometimes I no dey baff till evening buh I wear fresh clothes every morning so tey ppl no dey know say I never baff sef.

E no easy......una wey be FTMs, enjoy this period o! Enjoy am well well and if you are lazy like me...abeg space your kids with like 3 years.

mumtwins:

Congrats, pls accept our n manage it.
Hmmm team April, hope am nt d only one walking lik sm1 whose V wants to fall off, it's well with us.

olivert84:
Hello ... Sorry to badge in ,as I have seen that this is a female thread .. But if like to ask one or two questions concerning my wife that is due for late June ... When she finishes her meal , she has problems with breathing , I personally feel it's the weather because it only happens when the Ac is off ! Because she doesn't complain when she is at work or when there is power at home .. But when there's no power ,omg ! I need to start fanning her ... Any body with this issues ? Doc gave us ventolin and tbh I don't think she's asthmatic .. #endOfRant

goldmine:

Pardon me Mamas, this might be long.
‎It's been a mixed experience for me. With 1st preg, libido was just there and got better after delivery. Resumed duties 4 wks post partum . With 2nd both preg. and after was so high I thought it was someone else in my own body. Resumed duties 5 days after delivery(covers face). It was that bad. Even DH sef was worried. With 3rd libido dropped when I conceived but returned to normal after delivery.

 But with the 4th?? I'm beginning to wonder if I wont destroy my marriage with this low level and the way I impulsively respond negatively on a regular basis. From conception to date, zero interest. Infact,if there's anything less than zero then that describes it. I almost jump out of my skin at the mere though of it. If it was only the lack of interest or not being naturally lubricated,it would have been better. But there's this thing that happens. I feel several small cuts/bruises which take days or even up to a week to heal up completely.

 Even when well lubricated.i don't feel it during,it is after o. Most times I would deliberately be hostile, just to quell DH's interest even b4 he considers it just to discourage him. Well, the chores and increased number of objects of my attention isn't helping matters but how do I explain d bruises even after being well lubricated? It never happened before.
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DH believes it's partially psychological, that he's sure one of the reasons for the low libido is that i'm scared of conceiving again even though I have refused to admit it.‎ And just like Zaynie's case, my willingness to 'co-operate' increases when he helps around, which he doesn't do often. He's just not the domestic type.

He once mentioned that I don't give him as much attention as I used to back when it was just the 2 of us(this was after just one baby o). Told him that the more he keeps knocking me up, the less attention he'll get cos I've got more people to spread/share it among and i'm not a super woman. With 5kids(3 under 2), to cater to and no maid, where the libido wan pass enter nau? ‎I get tired easily.The toddler is more of a handful than the infant twins put together. I also still haven't recovered fully from the pelvic pain that came with the pregnancy(sighs).

Sadly, i've not been bothering to dress sexy. How na? When i'm trying to run away from the thing, i'll now attract it? Sometimes I just want to hold or cuddle but his interpretation is 'go all d way' so I don't bother to touch him at all if i'm not ready for the real deal. I try as much as possible not to turn him away all the time. I'm left to deal with the pain and bruises later though.

I don't think we are being selfish Nurse Kaffy. We are just being human and responding to the additional stress of an increasing family. Unfortunately most men don't understand. They believe that catering for the family is a piece of cake.
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goldenruby:
Kikikikikiki @hajarahbadmus I wish I could do all this really, even with all the acclaimed 'benefits' they say sex comes with during the 3rd trimester, I still can't deal! sincerely, I am now 'Libidoless' I sometimes pity dh, but I can not come and kee myself na, the sanctuary is dry! I wonder what would happen if I put to bed. Chai!

Kimoni:


Hahahhahaha see consolation oo

You cut your hair but you still dey do shakara. **yimu
You no dey baff for morning but you dey wear skimpy inside house **yimu

You go like short cut well well o zaynie

mitchyy:
@SimpleWow, this is the kind of birth story i want for myself o. Easy, fast and tearless. Congrats but don't forget to show face for #threadcuties.

@Libido and Libidoless mamas, una nor go kill person with laugh . I'm just reading and enjoying the discussion

favoredgal:
Goldmine are you going to consider contraceptive? Just curious

zaynie:
@ topic, I used to have high libido when we just got married, in pregnancy I switch between" do it for God's sake" and " I cant get enough"
When baby is born, I am worse as in " leave me let me eat and get fat and ugly joor'. So libido is 0 and I am a " leave me alone abeg!" Buh once I wean......the babe is back and we start doing boyfriend and girlfriend again.
Then I read that one stewpid hormone runs round the body postpartum. It is the dampens the libido so that you can care for your child more ie you get to pay more attention to your child than yourself or anyone. So I guess that's natures way of ensuring we take care of our babies well.
Buh to be honest, when I did CS, I bounced back quickly o ( around the 3rd week sef ), this time around....I hate my V ..... I am yet to bounce back fully and its 5months today!
It helps when he helps around the house. I get to 'love ' him for his little acts of thoughtfulness and the reward is a happy wife, eager to please.
When he leaves me to handle the kids and the house and still comes home with one or two complaints.....pls just goan sleep faraway from me! If you venture touch me....I no wan know whether na mosquito you wan kill, I go tear for you


I take care of myself o.....I go to work and dress neatly and nice. I have a lowcut on ( cos to make hair dey tire me, my husby doesnt like it tho), I have many nice lowcut/ shakies/ mini gowns as house wears so its not like I am a wrapper tying no bra/ no panties jiggling wifey .
Sometimes I no dey baff till evening buh I wear fresh clothes every morning so tey ppl no dey know say I never baff sef.

E no easy......una wey be FTMs, enjoy this period o! Enjoy am well well and if you are lazy like me...abeg space your kids with like 3 years.

Alheeri:
[color=#006600][/color]. Yes same oo hemorrhoid, went to hospital today n was given flagyl n ors rehydration.