A child comes back at night or does something wrong at home and the next thing the parent say is " dont come back to this house tonight. You are not sleeping in this house tonight "

This behaviour and form of discipline is common among Nigerian parents. No matter how grave the offence is ,why send a child out in the night with no one ?

Remembered the story of one of my neighbour 's son who was sent out of the house for bedwetting .. He was sent out with his mattress and left the house crying.. That was the last time they saw the boy .till date, he has not been found.

Or another girl who was always sent out of the house if she commits an offence and four months later, she became pregnant for the guy that she usually goes to his house ,anytime she is sent out. She later confessed that at times,she intentionally misbehaves knowing she will be sent out of the house in order to spend time with the guy.

Many more tales of attempted rape,attempted kidnapping and all have been associated with locking children out of the gate.

How do i forget my own experience when i was locked out of the house after watching real madrid vs barca match and returned home almost 11 30.

It was such an horrible experience. Despite the fact that my team,real madrid lost that day, i had to sleep near a nearby shop with different kind of sounds from everywhere,not minding the fierce mosquitoes and cold weather while constantly praying one of these nollywood ghosts do not attack me.

I believe locking people out of the house or telling them not to sleep in the house is not something effective as a discipline tool and should be frowned at.


What is your view ? Have you ever been locked out of the house or told not to sleep inside the house by your parents or guardian ?

Share your experience ..

My parents no dey craze

My parents no dey fumble lyk that ooo.
My dad(a very strict man) won't talk, he will just wait till arwd 5a.m beat u wella and give u paanadol(u can imagine dat kind beating). Na only my mum will say 'Goan meet ur other parents ooo cox no be 'us' born u '. At last, she will beg nooni. She never beat me 4 once but my dad

No one punishes like Nigerian parents. It’s a fact. The fear of your parents is also a very good place for wisdom to start. When you have committed, your parents will call you by your full name (Smellymouth Lalasticlala Agarawu) and after a dialogue that is actually a monologue of them shouting rhetorical questions like; ”Am I your mate" at you, they will proceed to either flog you or hit you with anything from a spatula to slippers. God bless you if their weapon breaks on your body, because then you will be beaten for the loss of the weapon. Also, do not attempt self defense, you might destroy the weapon and like I said, that doesn’t help you. And do not try to run, they will throw things at you and  catch up with you. So, don’t do it.
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I remember sweeping the house so early in the morning and doing it barefooted so that my mom’s leg won’t pick up a grain of sand. Even now my sister said she cleans her home “as if mom’s coming to visit”.

Omo ... Na my mama be dat..

Any little thing back then..

Go and meet your parents. If you know am not your mother and you cant listen to me...go and eat their food

and gba,.she go close door..she don lock my outside wella so tey the night guards don sabi me.

But it all for the better.. It all to curb the habit of night crawling.

Locking a child out of d house at night is terrible.my parents never did such despite being strict.

McCarlito:
No one punishes like Nigerian parents. It’s a fact. The fear of your parents is also a very good place for wisdom to start. When you have committed, your parents will call you by your full name (Smellymo.uth Lalasticlala Agaraw.u) and after a dialogue that is actually a monologue of them shouting rhetorical questions like; ”Am I your mate" at you, they will proceed to either flog you or hit you with anything from a spatula to slippers. God bless you if their weapon breaks on your body, because then you will be beaten for the loss of the weapon. Also, do not attempt self defense, you might destroy the weapon and like I said, that doesn’t help you. And do not try to run, they will throw things at you and  catch up with you. So, don’t do it.
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I remember sweeping the house so early in the morning and doing it barefooted so that my mom’s leg won’t pick up a grain of sand. Even now my sister said she cleans her home “as if mom’s coming to visit”.

Smellymouth:

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He ran from cradle to adulthood and still running
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This is how my mum lost my sister's love till today. My sister still claim till today that she was able to end up with that monster called husband because of our mum's action that very day. Though, she claims to have forgiven her, but honestly, the bitterness is still very obvious.


Parenthood is not an easy task, we need wisdom and tact to raise these children. And the best way to get the best from our children is to come down to their levels, make them your friends and let them be free with you, that way, they will see their parents as their confidant.

Any parent whose child/ren cannot confide in, is not good parents.

lalalalalalalala humming a song
lalasticlala you are back from the compulsory leave . oya do the needful... password: lala swallowed by snake at Badagry

My mum be like; Great, were u go since morning? Oh, so u don turn big boy na abi, i go dey talk you go dey keep me quiet bah? Go back to were u dey come from.

Lol, i love my mum. She's my second God.

Wonderful, African parents are the bestest

I'm a barca fan so I just want do you cos I can only imagine d painment

Crazy ...Nigerian parenting is second to none.

Seriously? Which naija parents does this

Hehe 9ja parents like that thing.... Deir modus operandi....

Normal

Never happened to me oooooooooo .

Fiwasayo:
Seriously? Which naija parents does this

Why you dey form

vsaintchigs:
My parents no dey craze

maybe ur parents do another things to train u

It is always very horrible.

hmmm

Parental responsibilities shouldnt be in this form

I have never been locked out of the house...

In as much as it has terrible repercussions, it has its African root in the practice of exile.

You are sent to sleep outside as a form of exile which will have 3 results...
1. You don't pollute the family with your 'evil' acts
2. You undergo penance for your acts
3. Hence by implication you are now clense and can be taken back to the fold.

...but the society we live in now, instead of getting cleansed from outside the house... Na Belle you go kuku carry. Or you kuku pass there lost.

I know a man who still do it to his wife...the 'pregnancy' story just got me thinking... I'd better advice this man shaaaa because the wife seem to be much more obstinate these days. She dey enjoy the 'sleep outside' punishment.

Op thanks for the exposé, I will never punish my kids that way, rather than that, I ground you... Make I see how you wan take carry Belle inside room only U

the fear of nigeria parent is the beginning of wisdom.....back then, if i commit one grave offence then she wil tell me to go away from the house just to scare me. within 5 mins she will start disturbing u with calls saying where are you?!! wont you cme back to this house??!!

seunny4lif:

Why you dey form

I'm not forming my dear,it's not good to use this method on someone,be it your kids,siblings,maid or spouse...' If you don't do this or that,don't come back to this house,that person may very well not go back to that house.

Funny thing is na them go say don't come back to this house and you can't sleep in this house..the moment you decided to go and look for where else to sleep...na another war be that the next morning..the story will turn to..so you have started sleeping outside ..

Really a bad way to punish. I'm sure it's not something the new generation of parents will adopt. Anyways, my parents are not into that so it's all good but that's not the case for Aunty Shade(my neighbour), she almost had a room for constantly being sent out.

Beating or scolding a child is punishment but locking him/her out......that, right there, is cruelty!!!!!!!!.