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Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by ClassCaptain(m): 9:55am On Mar 28, 2016 |
A child comes back at night or does something wrong at home and the next thing the parent say is " dont come back to this house tonight. You are not sleeping in this house tonight " This behaviour and form of discipline is common among Nigerian parents. No matter how grave the offence is ,why send a child out in the night with no one ? Remembered the story of one of my neighbour 's son who was sent out of the house for bedwetting .. He was sent out with his mattress and left the house crying.. That was the last time they saw the boy .till date, he has not been found. Or another girl who was always sent out of the house if she commits an offence and four months later, she became pregnant for the guy that she usually goes to his house ,anytime she is sent out. She later confessed that at times,she intentionally misbehaves knowing she will be sent out of the house in order to spend time with the guy. Many more tales of attempted rape,attempted kidnapping and all have been associated with locking children out of the gate. How do i forget my own experience when i was locked out of the house after watching real madrid vs barca match and returned home almost 11 30. It was such an horrible experience. Despite the fact that my team,real madrid lost that day, i had to sleep near a nearby shop with different kind of sounds from everywhere,not minding the fierce mosquitoes and cold weather while constantly praying one of these nollywood ghosts do not attack me. I believe locking people out of the house or telling them not to sleep in the house is not something effective as a discipline tool and should be frowned at. What is your view ? Have you ever been locked out of the house or told not to sleep inside the house by your parents or guardian ? Share your experience .. ![]() 48 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Nobody: 9:59am On Mar 28, 2016 |
My parents no dey craze 45 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Nobody: 10:00am On Mar 28, 2016 |
My parents no dey fumble lyk that ooo. My dad(a very strict man) won't talk, he will just wait till arwd 5a.m beat u wella and give u paanadol(u can imagine dat kind beating). Na only my mum will say 'Goan meet ur other parents ooo cox no be 'us' born u ![]() ![]() ![]() 29 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by McCarlito(m): 10:06am On Mar 28, 2016 |
No one punishes like Nigerian parents. It’s a fact. The fear of your parents is also a very good place for wisdom to start. When you have committed, your parents will call you by your full name (Smellymouth Lalasticlala Agarawu) and after a dialogue that is actually a monologue of them shouting rhetorical questions like; ”Am I your mate ![]() www.nairaland.com/attachments/3537451_nbxq4bypvf8rxp0v395gqijrt4o10lvdy5jf0qc7tiqehs1bapppnspmtfpvibzycp2yjeoftcv0hf6c1e0aiaw187h150nc_gif550466f623dad176d1dfb9592a8b67cc I remember sweeping the house so early in the morning and doing it barefooted so that my mom’s leg won’t pick up a grain of sand. Even now my sister said she cleans her home “as if mom’s coming to visit”. 98 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by RaDaZaBaNa(m): 10:15am On Mar 28, 2016 |
Omo ... Na my mama be dat.. Any little thing back then.. Go and meet your parents. If you know am not your mother and you cant listen to me...go and eat their food and gba,.she go close door..she don lock my outside wella so tey the night guards don sabi me. But it all for the better.. It all to curb the habit of night crawling. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by yvelchstores(f): 10:30am On Mar 28, 2016 |
Locking a child out of d house at night is terrible.my parents never did such despite being strict. 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Smellymouth: 11:02am On Mar 28, 2016 |
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Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by McCarlito(m): 11:08am On Mar 28, 2016 |
Smellymouth:www.nairaland.com/attachments/3539881_img1263_jpeg2dfd86d3880946ccd2247b5a991c3938 He ran from cradle to adulthood and still running www.nairaland.com/attachments/3537451_nbxq4bypvf8rxp0v395gqijrt4o10lvdy5jf0qc7tiqehs1bapppnspmtfpvibzycp2yjeoftcv0hf6c1e0aiaw187h150nc_gif550466f623dad176d1dfb9592a8b67cc 36 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by greatgod2012(f): 11:22am On Mar 28, 2016 |
This is how my mum lost my sister's love till today. My sister still claim till today that she was able to end up with that monster called husband because of our mum's action that very day. Though, she claims to have forgiven her, but honestly, the bitterness is still very obvious. Parenthood is not an easy task, we need wisdom and tact to raise these children. And the best way to get the best from our children is to come down to their levels, make them your friends and let them be free with you, that way, they will see their parents as their confidant. Any parent whose child/ren cannot confide in, is not good parents. 43 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Olusharp(m): 11:59am On Mar 28, 2016 |
lalalalalalalala humming a song lalasticlala you are back from the compulsory leave . oya do the needful... password: lala swallowed by snake at Badagry 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Nobody: 2:12pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Nigerian parents be like "Get out of my house, go and meet your parents"...And Boom I am off to one of my Homeboy's house where we smoke weed like There's no tomorrow. African parents are too strict and most of their tactics don't make sense to me especially when you trying it in the western world ![]() 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by greatness22(m): 2:12pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
My mum be like; Great, were u go since morning? Oh, so u don turn big boy na abi, i go dey talk you go dey keep me quiet bah? Go back to were u dey come from. Lol, i love my mum. She's my second God. 7 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Banjiolamide: 2:12pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Wonderful, African parents are the bestest |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by 7footre(m): 2:12pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
I'm a barca fan so I just want do you ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by macaranta(m): 2:12pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Crazy ...Nigerian parenting is second to none. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Fiwasayo(f): 2:13pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Seriously? Which naija parents does this ![]() |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Jacko01: 2:14pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Hehe 9ja parents like that thing.... Deir modus operandi.... |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by seunny4lif(m): 2:14pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
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Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Gracito(f): 2:14pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Never happened to me oooooooooo ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by seunny4lif(m): 2:14pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
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Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by samylinks: 2:16pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
vsaintchigs:maybe ur parents do another things to train u |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Flexherbal(m): 2:16pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
It is always very horrible. |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by onihaxy: 2:16pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
hmmm |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Nobody: 2:16pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Parental responsibilities shouldnt be in this form 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by dimsonu(m): 2:17pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
I have never been locked out of the house... In as much as it has terrible repercussions, it has its African root in the practice of exile. You are sent to sleep outside as a form of exile which will have 3 results... 1. You don't pollute the family with your 'evil' acts 2. You undergo penance for your acts 3. Hence by implication you are now clense and can be taken back to the fold. ...but the society we live in now, instead of getting cleansed from outside the house... Na Belle you go kuku carry. Or you kuku pass there lost. I know a man who still do it to his wife...the 'pregnancy' story just got me thinking... I'd better advice this man shaaaa because the wife seem to be much more obstinate these days. She dey enjoy the 'sleep outside' punishment. Op thanks for the exposé, I will never punish my kids that way, rather than that, I ground you... Make I see how you wan take carry Belle inside room only U 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by petux(m): 2:17pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
the fear of nigeria parent is the beginning of wisdom.....back then, if i commit one grave offence then she wil tell me to go away from the house just to scare me. within 5 mins she will start disturbing u with calls saying where are you?!! wont you cme back to this house??!! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Fiwasayo(f): 2:18pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
seunny4lif: I'm not forming my dear,it's not good to use this method on someone,be it your kids,siblings,maid or spouse...' If you don't do this or that,don't come back to this house,that person may very well not go back to that house. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by popcykaylah(m): 2:19pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Funny thing is na them go say don't come back to this house and you can't sleep in this house..the moment you decided to go and look for where else to sleep...na another war be that the next morning..the story will turn to..so you have started sleeping outside .. 20 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Nobody: 2:20pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
you are not sleeping here tonight I'll use your school fees to repair that thing this is the last time am advising you *after shouting * don't make me to shout again in this house am I ur mate I never answered my father next term am sending you to a public school lol.. my parents are just the best these words became like hymn in my ears 7 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by ybalogs(m): 2:20pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Really a bad way to punish. I'm sure it's not something the new generation of parents will adopt. Anyways, my parents are not into that so it's all good but that's not the case for Aunty Shade(my neighbour), she almost had a room for constantly being sent out. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Parents And The "You Are Not Sleeping Here Tonight" Syndrome by Jdesilentkiller(m): 2:20pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Beating or scolding a child is punishment but locking him/her out......that, right there, is cruelty!!!!!!!!. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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