postmann:
@OP,
Your msg isn't so detailed but I should point out that you probably were wrong to have discussed your husband and marital issues with your neighbour and kept the so called advice to yourself until the day you had a misunderstanding with your husband.

Naturally, he wouldn't wonder if there's more you've kept away from him. That's coupled with the fact that you just gave him a crude shock you discuss him with your neighbour.

This is not to excuse his unfaithfulness.

What's your creed? Muslim? Christian? I'd advice you pray seriously. Divorce is no joke.

postmann:
@OP,
Your msg isn't so detailed but I should point out that you probably were wrong to have discussed your husband and marital issues with your neighbour and kept the so called advice to yourself until the day you had a misunderstanding with your husband.

Naturally, he would wonder if there's more you've kept away from him. That's coupled with the fact that you just gave him a crude shock that you discussed him with your neighbour.

This is not to excuse his unfaithfulness.

What's your creed? Muslim? Christian? I'd advice you pray seriously. Divorce is no joke.

cionon:


I am christain. I wasn't discussing marital issues with her. I was trying to conceive then. So I met her for advice on her she conceived her after 5years of marriage. That's how it went. He is really serious with the divorce. I don't want the divorce. I have begged him for another chance to change where I wronged him. But he has bluntly refused.

Vision4God:
Watch ur words, let dem b more encouraging to ur husband. pray more for him, and bcareful hu u listen n talk to(so called friends)

GodnGold:
It is a pity dear.
It is advisable to keep somethings to oneself even in marriage.

Learn from this,you were wrong in what you said.

The bible will tell you more about 'the heart of man'
Move on.

postmann:

Forgive my misconception.
Since you're christian you'd be familiar with what I'll have to say.

It's a battle of the knees. Men may cheat, but are less likely to leave home over a mistress. Most women who are intentionally home breakers can be diabolic.

I'm not saying that this is your case but you'll need prayers.
If you are involved in a church, seek a prayer group and let them join hands with you.

I'll also advice you keep yourself sexually pure through out this travail, so that when it's all over, there would have been no stain of regret and guilt niggling over your conscience.

Good luck!

cionon:


I am christain. I wasn't discussing marital issues with her. I was trying to conceive then. So I met her for advice on her she conceived her after 5years of marriage. That's how it went. He is really serious with the divorce. I don't want the divorce. I have begged him for another chance to change where I wronged him. But he has bluntly refused.

enoqueen:
Let him go.

If there is anyway u can take revenge on him by disclosing what he had said about people, expose him.

Marriage has taught me not to ever trust my husband with words.

cionon:
I have begged him for another chance to change where I wronged him. But he has bluntly refused.

raumdeuter:


How did you wrong him?

pet4ril:
Just pray for him...... There's power in our tongues and I believe the devil interpreted what you told him in a bad way and he's using it to poison his mind.
Go on your knees and talk to the master of the marriage and especially if you didn't collect him from somebody, no one can collect him from you... Good luck

cionon:
I confided in my husband when he accused me of listening to people. I then opened up and gave him an instance that if i listen to people i would ne doing what they asked me to do.I told him the advice a former neigbhour of his gave me. Of which I told her I can't do such. Now he uses it against me. I feel bad because he didn't even say what I told him exactly. He changed the story. He lied about it.


My husband goes about telling everyone i am diabolic because I jokingly told him that he should be grateful I don't have a wicked heart if not I will use magun to catch him and his mistress. Which he even replied that he knows i dont have that mind. That i am still a child.
this was said around march of 2015

Fastward to November he started asking for a divorce because he of his mistress he met online. Telling both his colleagues and family members that I am diabolic which is not true. I feel bad because this same man have also confided in me telling me things about his boss and others. We are currently separated

I just regret everything. I regret confinding in him and opening up to him. With pleas from everywhere, he is still insisting on divorce.

SexyStrawberry:


Divorce is no joke especially if there's a child involved, it ruins the child's life, still plead and see if he'll change, this should teach u a very big lesson never to confide in anyone no matter who he/she is to u, though I'm not married, I've learned mine in a hard way as well and I'm still repenting for it.

mostyg:
Why cant I beg for love?
Is love the only reason we marry?
What of financial security?
What of family prestige?

@op. You have already revealed too much about your family on nairaland going by all your previous threads.

I guess you talk a lot and much about your family matters to strangers(neighbours)

PinketteDawn:


Sometimes you really need to confide in someone. There is no need to die in silence for something that could've easily been resolved if you had opened up. Any way, I can assure you that divorce does not ruin a child's life in all cases. In fact, if half of the men we have in our societies were brought up by single mothers, away from abusive fathers and surrounded by love and care, then we would have better individuals/marriages today.

Yes, divorce is tough, but it is always a better option especially when children are involved. A child's mental and psychological state can be greatly affected if s(he) is growing in an environment where s(he) constantly witnesses different forms of abuse and degradation on one parent by the other. Some men you see today who beat up their wives, abuse them verbally, financially, sexually and even cheat on them, grew up in an environment where such acts were tolerated so they don't even see anything wrong if they do the same to their wives in their own marriages. There is no way you can try to explain to man who thinks that a woman is beneath him and she should obey every word he says because her sole existence is to please him, that this notion is wrong especially if he grew up in a home where he was constantly seeing his father treat his mother with such notion and she was there tolerating it so that divorce would not ruin her child. Hello! The child is already ruined by being exposed and allowed to grow with that mentality.

cionon:
I confided in my husband when he accused me of listening to people. I then opened up and gave him an instance that if i listen to people i would ne doing what they asked me to do.I told him the advice a former neigbhour of his gave me. Of which I told her I can't do such. Now he uses it against me. I feel bad because he didn't even say what I told him exactly. He changed the story. He lied about it.


My husband goes about telling everyone i am diabolic because I jokingly told him that he should be grateful I don't have a wicked heart if not I will use magun to catch him and his mistress. Which he even replied that he knows i dont have that mind. That i am still a child.
this was said around march of 2015

Fastward to November he started asking for a divorce because he of his mistress he met online. Telling both his colleagues and family members that I am diabolic which is not true. I feel bad because this same man have also confided in me telling me things about his boss and others. We are currently separated

I just regret everything. I regret confinding in him and opening up to him. With pleas from everywhere, he is still insisting on divorce.