onila:
she said black men got big diccks!

which will make me uncomfortable and experience extreme pain during sex

she told me how her sister runs away from her husband when its time for sex because of his big sugercane

she said once she got her American visa, she dumped him and now happily married to a white man

I am someone who hates physical pain
and I am beginning consider white men for marriage

Stupedinluv:
You have my full support!

onila:
she said black men got big diccks!

which will make me uncomfortable and experience extreme pain during sex

she told me how her sister runs away from her husband when its time for sex because of his big sugercane

she said once she got her American visa, she dumped him and now happily married to a white man

I am someone who hates physical pain
and I am beginning consider white men for marriage

RadicallyBlunt:
When u born pikin u go hate d small dicck. Marry black man and just do pusssy insurance.

EnlightenedSoul:


Absolute bullshyt.

That doesn't happen unless the women utterly devastates her vagina and pelvic floor by bearing tons of children in quick succession, or is already of a naturally loose(r) nature to begin with, in which case she'd have had no reason to complain. I wonder at times - when those threads relating to average size per country, or those divorce court cases regarding the woman's husband being too unbearable to manage litter the FP every so often - how the heck naturally tight(er) women cope in those countries wherein the average is a damn near monstrosity. Being "small" is one thing, but is something that can be thoroughly compensated for, and is frankly only a problem if one happens to be a size queen. Being too big, on the other hand, is a matter of finding a woman who can take you or else forcing pain and sure destruction of faculty.

@ Onila
Marry whom you please, but I really hope you're kidding with the faulty, generalized reasoning for doing so...

Fulaman198:


Please don't get mad at me for this question, but what would you want your husband to ideally to be? Also the divorce rates in many African nations is quite low in comparison to the United States which is above 50%. I don't think divorce rates have anything to do with the size of one's member. I think it's more to do with a loss of love overtime. People don't get married for the right reasons in some countries.

If you love someone truly, no matter what happens to them, you are always there for them.

EnlightenedSoul:


I'm not mad/offended, but neither am I going to churn out numbers on here. Nor do I think that course of action would be particularly helpful as those numbers and ranges would vary from woman to woman, anyway. In fact, my comment was based on knowing such a variation to exist! I only shared that some threads lead me to wonder to myself how women on the tighter capacity end of the scale, if you will, get on in those countries wherein it's averages are painful for many a woman out there to contemplate. I realize our terribly misguided "the-bigger-the-better" culture/mentality naturally leads us to assume such women don't exist, but they do, and divorcing on those grounds alone only proves their existence if but anecdotally.

I didn't discuss divorce rates, and wouldn't even think to compare them. There are too many factors that make the divorce rates between Africa and the United States incomparable, to say the least. And I think the love-marriage model that you described is one widely practiced by, or rather aspired to, by Americans vs. Africans. In the sizeable (pun not intended) opinion of many, it's rather ironically the reason cited for the high-divorce rate, due to love's fleeting quality and it tending to fade over time for many people.

Fulaman198:


You speak very well darling and you have a very good insight on things. I think that the foundation of love in Africa is often built on materialism and tangibles as opposed to some cultures in the west where people do try to love one another. In essence, marriage is treated as some kind of contract in some African nations as opposed to what it is meant to be, a unison of undying love between a man and a woman.

You are right, there are so many factors that impact divorce rate in the United States, and I'm not going to pretend to know them because I do not.

LOL you are so funny, "in the sizeable (pun not intended) opinion of many" I burst out laughing a bit upon reading that.

I don't think that a larger size can hurt a woman, I think that if a man is kind and gentle with a woman like he should be with a larger size that she can enjoy him. I think that not many of us men really know what it means to make sweet love to a woman. Love is not only about using one's tool, but it's also about admonishing, worshipping, showing kindness and a gentle demeanor to your female counterpart. If you love someone, you would not try to hurt her in any way, physically or emotionally. You would want to see her happy at all times, and you would want to see her smiling at all times. A happy wife is a happy life.

EnlightenedSoul:




Well, that has a lot to do with population economics. Not too long ago, the West, too, was arranging marriages for the sake of property. In fact, most folks have no idea whatsoever that the entire institution of marriage was originally built on such an exchange occurring. Marrying for love is actually a fairly new-fangled idea.

I will simply say that you're wrong, point-blank, about the premise of your last paragraph (namely the first sentence).

I should be sleeping...I'll see you later, Fula.

Fulaman198:


I should also be sleeping as well since it's almost midnight here. In regards to the last paragraph, (I mean neither you or I know this as we are both V***ns), but if a man inserts his thing inside his wife, and his wife objects, then I believe that he needs to do something to make sure that his wife/lady can accommodate him. This is just based on stuff I have read online so it could be wrong unless it is somehow scientifically proven.

I think that everyone has a different threshold of pain, but I also believe that often that we men are only self-considerate and don't care how our lady feels. Making sure that the lady is happy and pleased should be the most important thing and .... in any case have a good night lolllll.

EnlightenedSoul:


Yh, I haven't been able to sleep, and I have work in a couple of hours. It's not gonna be good, lol.

No. I don't think you're listening, tho, and I don't think virgin is a bad word, or virginity a bad thing

Fulaman198:


You should get some sleep then honey. It's an integral part of maintaining good health .

How so? What am I not understanding? I'll try to listen better. Virginity is not a bad thing by any means, but I think that a lot of people don't understand its value . You can explain to me what I'm misunderstanding once you wake up.

EnlightenedSoul:


Can't sleep now . I'll just have to eat and head out. Take care, tho.

Fulaman198:


You should get some sleep then honey. It's an integral part of maintaining good health .

How so? What am I not understanding? I'll try to listen better. Virginity is not a bad thing by any means, but I think that a lot of people don't understand its value . You can explain to me what I'm misunderstanding once you wake up.

EnlightenedSoul:


Hey, you I'm managing to sleep a lot better, but it isn't something I can help at times.

Lol, Fula. I just realized something. I was so caught up in the asterisk censorship of the word "virgin", and consequently justifying that isn't a bad word/concept/etc, that I was either hopelessly drowsy and missed it, or completely skimmed over it in my reading at the time...but don't you think it a tad bit presumptuous to assume some others' virginity, esp in this day and age?

Fulaman198:


Hello darling , I'm really happy and relieved to hear that.

LOL well in regards to the virginity thing, I remember you mentioning it one time on a thread before and I was happy to see that. It means that you have strictly adhered to your traditional upbringing more than you think despite living in a foreign land. I'm extremely proud of you because like you said it's extremely hard to find people who still are virgins these days (well more so in the Western world than Africa). Also, especially if that woman is as beautiful as someone like yourself. You are definitely a rare human being, extremely intelligent, beautiful and responsible.

EnlightenedSoul:


Hello, Fula Yh, I'm still susceptible to bouts of insomnia, but I've def gotten a lot better at managing my sleep than I ever was.

I guess it came across a bit strange. Sorta like you were fishing, tbh, though you don't seem the type, lol. At any rate, I know I've def defended virgins and people who aspire to that ideal on here for the simple reason that I feel they're, at times, ostracized or otherwise strangely criticized for exercising their own body autonomy by some others who so choose to partake, and are not themselves of the same path. But, I, myself, am by no means advocate nor representative, as you are. And though my upbringing was fairly conservative, certainly, I don't know just how "traditional" I can claim it to have been, per se, nor, really, is the concept of virginity so much a traditional ideal as it is a religious one. All in all, I've never personally considered virginity a characteristic to praise or seek out in others so much as a personal choice/outlook to be respected.

Fulaman198:


I hope that you will be able to eventually get around those bouts that you still experience of insomnia and be able to sleep without any worries or concerns you are a great person.

I was not fishing so say haha I just know that you mentioned it on one thread. When I read it, I was very proud of you and your character. I think that being a virgin shows that someone has a patient character about them and is not overly corrupted to misuse their body. It takes a very strong will to be a virgin. To be able to control ones' desires is something not every human being is capable of. Personally, I see it as a characteristic to praise someone. Ideally, one would want someone who is patient and trustworthy and not promiscuous in a sense.

I hope you understand what I mean lol. It's sometimes hard to go into detail because I worry sometimes about offending you.

EnlightenedSoul:


Thank you, dear. I don't think I'll ever get there completely, 'cuz in my case it's genetic and tends to run in the family on my mother's side, but it's def not as bad as some people I've met. I've noticed it's certainly gotten better with a few lifestyle changes over the years, tho.

No, I feel like you're reading selectively, Fula. But, I understand that's probably due to some deeply held beliefs. You spoke of a fear of offending me, but that's wholly unnecessary. I'm 0% offended. We have a difference of opinion, and that's OK In my opinion and observation, tho, keeping one's virginity implies some restraint due to urges, hormones and the general looming desire to have sex, yes, but it does nothing to demonstrate restraint/control/balance/etc. in the true sense of the word(s). See, that can only happen after the individual has actually had sex! You'll find that pre-sex, virgin desire is of a rather dull and muted nature in comparison to full throttle post-sex desire, and there's a reason for that. In a sense, it's a true case of not knowing what one's missing until after having experienced it for themselves, with all it's trimmings.

Virginity is like an unbalanced chemical equation in Chemistry, or probably more apt, like solving for the Quadratic Formula without any values - you can't solve for X because you don't have values for any of the other crucial factors (A,B,C). You'll not get a sense of the toggling of balances between control and desire that'll occur as a product of the newly awakened sex drive, or of what other affects it'll have on the individual, of where it'll take them, etc. The thing about promiscuity is, no one, not a one person, was ever promiscuous sans sex, before they had sex, before they knew sex and their desires overtook them. And the truth of the matter is, there's no telling what'll happen until after having crossed that precipice. You're not necessarily getting a more controlled, more patient, etc, personality in a virgin. What you are gaining is possible (but highly improbable) exclusivity. It's, really, more or less like a closed book with a foreword followed by empty, unnumbered pages.

Fulaman198:


My dear, I will pray that you sleep well every night and that your mind is always at ease without anything to stress you out.

I don't know if a Virgin's desire is of a dull and muted nature. I think that varies from person to person. For me personally, I can tell you that's not the case. I have to constantly settle my mind to not think of beautiful women with nice feet and legs. That in itself can be a challenge, but I have far important things to think of like tutoring others and learning new material on a daily basis that often trumps my lust for beautiful African women with nice legs and feet (sorry if I said too much). I hope you won't think I'm weird with those thoughts.

I do agree with you in thought process that virginity has too many non-constant variables. What is X for one virgin maybe A for another virgin. I honestly don't know what will happen when I cross that precipice, but I do know that it would have to be for a woman I love only and not one I lust after. I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if that were the case.

The problem with sex is that it is seen everywhere especially in movies (not Nigerian movies though, especially not Kannywood movies (Kannywood is a subcategory of Nollywood movies often completely in the Hausa language, they are very conservative and you will be lucky to even see a man and woman holding hands)). But in Western movies, sex is rampant all over the place.

I just want you to know my thoughts on this whole situation, I think of you in an extremely high fashion sense and I think often you downplay your own individual qualities. You are better than most women in this world.