Advice needed

I have this girl,we have dated for almost 3years n we are looking at getting married barely 5mnths frm now.We enjoyed chatting eachother up on facebook cos its her favorite social ntwrk.Early last yr,she visited me at my new place of work,i observed she wasn't comfortable i tried findin out she later said she needed to know how to block one from facebook.I asisted by telling her how to do that,never knew it ws for me .Jst yestday i checked on facebk to share some pix of concept i tot wud b ok on our weddn preparation.
To my greatest shock she has blocked me frm her frnd.i could bliv masef,had to use ma little one phone to check her wat i saw never worth holdin bak.She has bn busy confessin her love to a guy,sharing pic postcard to dz guy wch later found to be her Ex.
Pls could it be that im not gud for her or she's not ready for the marriage.?
What do u pple think i shud do? Matured advice needed cos i av invested alot in ths.

kapai:
Advice needed

I have this girl,we have dated for almost 3years n we are looking at getting married barely 5mnths frm now.We enjoyed chatting eachother up on facebook cos its her favorite social ntwrk.Early last yr,she visited me at my new place of work,i observed she wasn't comfortable i tried findin out she later said she needed to know how to block one from facebook.I asisted by telling her how to do that,never knew it ws for me .Jst yestday i checked on facebk to share some pix of concept i tot wud b ok on our weddn preparation.
To my greatest shock she has blocked me frm her frnd.i could bliv masef,had to use ma little one phone to check her wat i saw never worth holdin bak.She has bn busy confessin her love to a guy,sharing pic postcard to dz guy wch later found to be her Ex.
Pls could it be that im not gud for her or she's not ready for the marriage.?
What do u pple think i shud do? Matured advice needed cos i av invested alot in ths.

chai, this is deep, create a thread for it.

kapai:
Advice needed

I have this girl,we have dated for almost 3years n we are looking at getting married barely 5mnths frm now.We enjoyed chatting eachother up on facebook cos its her favorite social ntwrk.Early last yr,she visited me at my new place of work,i observed she wasn't comfortable i tried findin out she later said she needed to know how to block one from facebook.I asisted by telling her how to do that,never knew it ws for me .Jst yestday i checked on facebk to share some pix of concept i tot wud b ok on our weddn preparation.
To my greatest shock she has blocked me frm her frnd.i could bliv masef,had to use ma little one phone to check her wat i saw never worth holdin bak.She has bn busy confessin her love to a guy,sharing pic postcard to dz guy wch later found to be her Ex.
Pls could it be that im not gud for her or she's not ready for the marriage.?
What do u pple think i shud do? Matured advice needed cos i av invested alot in ths.

CHAI!! WHAT IS THIS?? THIS HOLES AIN'T LOYAL.

I have done that.....tnc

tr3y:
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kapai:
Advice needed

I have this girl,we have dated for almost 3years n we are looking at getting married barely 5mnths frm now.We enjoyed chatting eachother up on facebook cos its her favorite social ntwrk. Early last yr,she visited me at my new place of work,i observed she wasn't comfortable i tried findin out she later said she needed to know how to block one from facebook. I asisted by telling her how to do that,never knew it ws for me .Jst yestday i checked on facebk to share some pix of concept i tot wud b ok on our weddn preparation.

To my greatest shock she has blocked me frm her frnd.i could bliv masef,had to use ma little one phone to check her wat i saw never worth holdin bak.She has bn busy confessin her love to a guy,sharing pic postcard to dz guy wch later found to be her Ex.
Pls could it be that im not gud for her or she's not ready for the marriage.?
What do u pple think i shud do? Matured advice needed cos i av invested alot in ths.

Kapai, you're cool man with a very nice heart..

Bro, I love you a million times, why?
The fact that you so perfectly put everything into a girl is a very HUGE investment.

But, here's where the issue is coming into the big screen...

..from what you wrote up there, @ 1st bolded where she came to your workplace; your mind is about to pick up what is on her mind that's when you notice the dissatisfaction in her eyes... But simply because she's "my soon-to-be bride" so you couldn't fully figure it out.

When she came to your face with that "dissatisfaction", she wanted to break the 'bad' news to you, but she couldn't, probably because she didn't want to break your happy mood and also couldn't bring herself to say it.

So the surest way is to pass the message indirectly (Geez, women and their ways of indirect manner..)



Now, on to you, what kind of question is this? @ second bolded

"Not good for her..." Even with that mere phrase, what have you said about yourself?
You're saying that she's the one choosing to you.
You're saying she's the one with the power.
You're saying you're the one lucky to have her.

No wonder she left...

It looks like she's the one who has the most control over that relationship. Seems like you're the one working for her. She has seen and known everything about you. Probably she got bored.

That's a very good thing for you. At least it saved you a broken marriage..

No need to feel bad about a girl leaving..

Stop looking at the negative side of temporary defeats.
Look at the positive side.

A very wise man, Napoleon Hill, in his book Law Of Success once said,

"Every temporary adversity brings within it a small seed of opportunity to a greater success."

So instead of seeing it as something negative, see it as positive.

She just saved you more unnecessary spending habits.
She just saved you a broken marriage.
She has just saved you from a bride running away when the wedding invitations has been posted.
She has saved you your face of being ridiculed by the whole world.

The mere act of her waywardness and small-mindedness saved you a lot and lots of wastage energy and resources.

It has given you the time for yourself as a man to focus your energy on making yourself a greater and better person.
It gave you the chance to recuperate and meet another woman who is valuable and more loving.

Do not look at the glass as half-empty, look at it as half-full.

You are the best.
You are the man.
You are in control of yourself.
You are in control of your own destiny.

I love you bro, and I love me too.

Hope to hear from you soon.

Peace.
JD.

Africa's Best Dating Coach.

www.joshuniverse.com

Should I text a girl or call her to ask her out. I send her text. She never replied back?

So what's next ?

Tedy, I just got a girl's number from a friend and I'll like to make things work with her

How do I go about it

Djboosting:




Hey, don't make the mistake of giving money to her thinking she'll stay, bro.

How are you doing today?
I can see the curious look on your face, but it's cool because it shows that you want to learn something today.

Unto your question,

Stop doing things for a reason.

That's FAILURE.

Let me do XY for her, so that she'll like me.

Let me do YZ for her, so that she'll see I'm caring.

Let me do AB for this person, so that the person won't reject me.

Let me give her the money, so that I won't lose her.

Bro, that's a bad attitude and it guarantee failure.

And right now I'm staring at you in the face, you're not a failure. You're a successful motherfvcker.

You do things on your own accord.
You do things because you want to, not because she want to.

You do things freely wanting nothing in return. Do NOT attach any reason to why you're giving.

Me, here, giving you this advice and inspiration, and sharing this value with you freely, I want nothing in return.

I give to give.

As a badass, you don't give something to get, you give to give.

If you have the money, and you're comfortable, without any reason attached to give to her, give it bro.

But if your financial status is strictly confidential, do not give her, since you won't feel good about it.

Most guys fall into maga zone ( in your word ) because they give so that they'll get something.. The sex, the skin, the kiss etc...

But you on the other hand knows that's not a good mindset.

If she has done something that worth you giving that to her, give.
If she hasn't do not give.

If all she's done is only just rapport and because she's cute, do not give.

If she wants to go merely because you didn't give her cash, what does that say to you about her?

Good.

We don't want a gold digger who will drain our resources.

If she wants to go, boss, let her go.
Your cup is full on your own. Go out and meet other girls.


In fact you should read this :
http://joshuniverse.com/2016/03/29/turn-off-signs-to-watch-out-for-in-women-protect-yourself-warning/

That should clearly, ridiculously and perfectly answer your question.

You know what to do now bro.

I love you, but I love me too.

Peace.
JD

www.joshuniverse.com

Been unable to call her up ever since .....told her that I would get back to her in a weeks time.....she was kinda OK with it....buh don't have and don't want to even give....how do I continue with her. .....what am I gonna tell her? Because I need her back.

oma se

shakabulla:
Djboosting I hail thee man! I've seen the way you help guys out with ideas and advice on issues concerning dating.

Bro, there's this pretty damsel I'm catching feelings for and I want her to be the queen of my dynasty. I don't want to start professing love to her as I see it as being too risky and might make me come off as desperate.
We both went to see a movie organised by my faculty and she told me she had a nice time which I believe she did because she wouldn't stop laughing whenever I crack one of my boring jokes.

Now the thing is we've agreed to hang out again this week and I'm running out of ideas on what to do or discussions that i can bring up to make our date lively. Between i don't have much details about her personality and I don't want to be asking her questions as if she's on a job interview. Thanks in advance for your help.

Dude...with this your moniker...you suppose dey fire her dey go o! lol My broda no need to be tensed about nothing. Just go have fun. You can have decent conversation by taking cues. Before una go inside the cinema hall, you guys can talk about the latest movies, or jus the movie you both are about to watch. Create a feeling of excitement in her. Don't over do it though... Be a listener too...let her express her thoughts or opinions. Compliment her hair do, her smile, the way she walks or laugh... Basically flirt with her...but don't over do it o.

Prodigee:
Dude...with this your moniker...you suppose dey fire her dey go o! lol My broda no need to be tensed about nothing. Just go have fun. You can have decent conversation by taking cues. Before una go inside the cinema hall, you guys can talk about the latest movies, or jus the movie you both are about to watch. Create a feeling of excitement in her. Don't over do it though... Be a listener too...let her express her thoughts or opinions. Compliment her hair do, her smile, the way she walks or laugh... Basically flirt with her...but don't over do it o.

Lol.... Very soon I go come testify before my brethen. Thanks for the advice. God bless!

diggy4real:




Been unable to call her up ever since .....told her that I would get back to her in a weeks time.....she was kinda OK with it....buh don't have and don't want to even give....how do I continue with her. .....what am I gonna tell her? Because I need her back.

Please reply ooooo @ DJboosting

Morning Gs.. Cld I get a quick reply pls...We've bn chatting 4 a yl at last week I sorta withdrew (u undastand) na.....
Nw she's like I miss u (most indications prove she's fallen 4 d Niggur)

Wat do I say back... I dnt want 2 b like I miss u 2...

Any quick suggestions...

PS :nt in2 her per se. Jst want 2 hit...

@op, if your head was a bomb it would be the tsar bomba, your words so explosive they make the H-bomb look like a molotov cocktail.
I thought i was an authority on women matters until i came across this thread, bros, you too mush.
there's this issue that's been bothering me of late and i'll be glad to know what you think of it.
i dont have any issues on how to hook-up with girls(my friends are even scared of introducing their babes to me because it doesn't take me an hour to psyche up a girl), the problem here is, my attraction for a girl ends once i notice she's begun to fall for me, i've left so many girls because of this, so many girls now term me heartless and i'm scared that's what i've become because i can't place a single babe i've got feelings for. any idea on whats going on?

Senorprinz:
@op, if your head was a bomb it would be the tsar bomba, your words so explosive they make the H-bomb look like a molotov cocktail.
I thought i was an authority on women matters until i came across this thread, bros, you too mush.
there's this issue that's been bothering me of late and i'll be glad to know what you think of it.
i dont have any issues on how to hook-up with girls(my friends are even scared of introducing their babes to me because it doesn't take me an hour to psyche up a girl), the problem here is, my attraction for a girl ends once i notice she's begun to fall for me, i've left so many girls because of this, so many girls now term me heartless and i'm scared that's what i've become because i can't place a single babe i've got feelings for. any idea on whats going on?

it's simple. you are gay.

Mikocake:
it's simple. you are gay.

lwkmd, yeah! it's true, i've been suspecting it, and you just confirmed















how shallow and perverse your mind is.

xxxtedyxxx:


Am working on d whatsapp groupie..its a nice idea.


Thanx for stopping by..am glad u can see ur mistakes...I used to make mistakes like dat too. Now I never ever ask if a girl if she has a bf alrdy... If she is attracted, along d way, she will bring it up, wich I just ignore, or switch thread to sth else. A girl only does dat so it won't be as if she is easy, or single..so she brings dat up..to counter U.

I hav a female friend,cynthia..she cute as hell..and she told me a secret..she said if she wants to chase guys away..or fall dier hand... She simply tells dem she has a bf. Dat weakens dem as hell..I was awe-struck .cos den.I was still a learner.

Boss I knw I myt b eyes late
BT we set on dt watsap groupie?...
Tanx Buck Ted..

Someone should just help me.......I met this chick..... We built a rapport for weeks..,...waited for her to be invested..... Now she called once and the next was a demand for..money..she is a student.....I just told her maybe the coming week .....if I do have....I will call her.....which is this week....this babe has called this week.... Wasn't with my phone...saw the missed call....I dunno what to tell her cos I don't have....she knows I work and own a car....buh ....I gat no money for her....I don't wanna to lose her buh...dunno what to tell her wen I call back..... Dunno if my reply will end the game.....if I do tell her No ....DAT ain't gat money....how do I still get the game on?.... So I can bleep he

diggy4real:
Someone should just help me.......I met this chick..... We built a rapport for weeks..,...waited for her to be invested..... Now she called once and the next was a demand for..money..she is a student.....I just told her maybe the coming week .....if I do have....I will call her.....which is this week....this babe has called this week.... Wasn't with my phone...saw the missed call....I dunno what to tell her cos I don't have....she knows I work and own a car....buh ....I gat no money for her....I don't wanna to lose her buh...dunno what to tell her wen I call back..... Dunno if my reply will end the game.....if I do tell her No ....DAT ain't gat money....how do I still get the game on?.... So I can bleep he

it depends on how much she is asking of

lordfalcao:
it depends on how much she is asking of

Just little money for upkeep....buh don't wanna be a maga... Cos dats how it starts.. ...so what do u think?

diggy4real:


Just little money for upkeep....buh don't wanna be a maga... Cos dats how it starts.. ...so what do u think?

go ahead and sow a seed.

diggy4real:


Just little money for upkeep....buh don't wanna be a maga... Cos dats how it starts.. ...so what do u think?

lol it's simple, 2-3k isn't bad. if you have a liltle you can use this opportunity to invite her to your crib, tell her to come take the money. if she comes Fvk her and give her the money

lordfalcao:
lol it's simple, 2-3k isn't bad. if you have a liltle you can use this opportunity to invite her to your crib, tell her to come take the money. if she comes Fvk her and give her the money

What if she refuses to come.... Or finds out that I wanna take advantage of her because of the money? That will spell doom for me....cos I will just lose the game.

habdulafeez:

go ahead and sow a seed.

Hahhaha....not bad....buh I will check my pocket first....what if she doznt appreciate it?

diggy4real:


What if she refuses to come.... Or finds out that I wanna take advantage of her because of the money? That will spell doom for me....cos I will just lose the game.

someone you just met has already started asking for money, tell her to come over when she is free that you will see what you can do about it. if she really need it, she will come.

lordfalcao:
someone you just met has already started asking for money, tell her to come over when she is free that you will see what you can do about it. if she really need it, she will come.

It amazes me bro. We met in February.....haven't seen her again cos she has been at school.... Did all d calling before she called once.....and the second was a demand....she is a student in Benin.....while her family house is in same warri DT I stay....we try it....thanx

diggy4real:


It amazes me bro. We met in February.....haven't seen her again cos she has been at school.... Did all d calling before she called once.....and the second was a demand....she is a student in Benin.....while her family house is in same warri DT I stay....we try it....thanx

try am, if i no hear say she come

xxxtedyxxw....NEED YOUR HELP.

Initially from her actions,i decode her feelings for me wen she visited my office...i later tease her from there i disclosed my passion (mariage) for her after some rapports....her schedule prone my action because she is a banker,religiously good & studying. Only agreed to be friend according to her but she hides her personal informations from me despites our interactions like her family etc. It took my no nonscence attitude before she reveals her originality (so secretive in nature).

Once, she spot my presence online. quickly,she goes offline. she either respond to my chat or not even @ all. thou she get serious @ times with my chats once she noticed am pissed-off with her...sometimes,i keep away from chats or calling her for days & she's 25years. HOW DO I HANDLE THIS?

lordfalcao:
try am, if i no hear say she come

I jokingly ask her to borrow DAT I will see what I can do about it dis week.....behold.....she just told me DAT she borrowed..... I tire oooo

read and advice me biko..
forgive d long epistle...i been dey find thread like dis since...! I dont even know where to start....but lets be going shaa...there is dis girl in my lodge...in her finals now, and she is way older dan me...for d past two weeks we developed a very close relationship to d extent she calls me her boyfriend..tho i havent really said anything like boyfriendish to her i just started treating her like my personal person..buying small take aways for her... Now d tin is d age barrier plus levels is just holding us back from doing d tin...and me i want to do but i dont know to reason her d tin..i travelled home today and she has been calling me to know how my journey was...we have talked...bikonu what do i do when i get back to lodge oh...