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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Taryur3(m): 12:40am On Apr 05, 2016
My brain can never be at rest until I seek for divorce and do DNA test to all our children.I will just be thinking about different styles the corcubine give her.may God not give me such woman with this my status...I might do some ungodly things to end the corcubine life.it's annoying walahi to know a man bleeping your wife.one of my friend is in current situation now
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Lenny5k: 12:43am On Apr 05, 2016
PureWays:
I know it can be very painful and frustrating if you find out that your lady cheats on you, but as we all know most cheaters (The men) disagree with double standards when it comes to cheating... Lol..
So, here is my question:

What could make you forgive your wife if she cheats and ask for your forgiveness?
Considering the fact that you ain't no saint, will you forgive her?

I will forgive her if she asked for it... And we will also discuss what led to it to see how it can be forgiven..... Men do it a lot of times and expects to be forgiven if caught so why cant I do same? It's no sign of weakness, but actually a sign of Strength to do what others cant do

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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by lastpage: 12:43am On Apr 05, 2016
PureWays:
I know it can be very painful and frustrating if you find out that your lady cheats on you, but as we all know most cheaters (The men) disagree with double standards when it comes to cheating... Lol..
So, here is my question:

What could make you forgive your wife if she cheats and ask for your forgiveness?
Considering the fact that you ain't no saint, will you forgive her?

Nothing...... except she promises to go-on Cheating shocked shocked

Once a cheat, ALWAYS a cheat.... so l will consider that "promise", an act of "Honesty and Sincerity"! undecided wink wink




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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by goingape: 12:44am On Apr 05, 2016
Tonydeeb:
If it's a lady I so love and still love at the advent of the occurence, then I might forgive her...the marriage could never remain thesame though...as everytime I remember what had transpired, I sure will review my stance on letting her remain with me.
On the other hand, if it happens to be a lady I married out of pity or desperation or the love btw us is vaporized, then no story...it's straight divorce(with no issue btw us ofcourse).
then get ready to turn into a monster overtime.

if it is WOMAN that did this! it won't go free with her unless I didn't know about it. but if I do know! undecided either one of us will be dead of standing depending!
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Nobody: 12:45am On Apr 05, 2016
juhan:
wicked man

If your head was screwed on the right way, you would be civil with your tongue, and understand that forgiving a cheating spouse is a thing of choice. If you had half a brain, you'd be dangerous.

My choice is NOT to forgive my wife if she cheated on me. Deal with it, and shove off.

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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by ezelos(m): 12:47am On Apr 05, 2016
PrivateInvestig:
I cant stay with a cheating babe, let alone wife. Am i mad? I ll forgive her. But thats d end. Its unimaginable, thinking the doggy style dey used. cry
. Best response so far!
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Nobody: 12:47am On Apr 05, 2016
i can forgive her if i confirm they did missionary style only but if na DOGGY den dey do.............its over.

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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by contactmorak: 12:48am On Apr 05, 2016
AreaFada2:
When a woman cheats, her man's life is in danger.

Men can casually cheat, no emotion involved. Just a mechanical process. cheesy

But MOST women get emotionally attached. The guy they cheat with can brainwash her to kill you. Or her lover can even organise killing you.
Both can then take your properties or just to remove you as an obstacle.

Also women cheating I'm marriage could mean your kids are not biologically yours. Like 30% of all kids by the way.

You've said it all sir. May God add to your wisdom!
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Trust77: 12:49am On Apr 05, 2016
Forgive say wetin happened. I no fit try am. That's if i no delete her commot
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by AfroKnight: 12:52am On Apr 05, 2016
SexyStrawberry:


I hope the word "divorce " is still in ur dictionary? Many women are readily opting for it just in case you've not noticed, and as for financial support, helloooooo! don't u have eyes to see that most women are standing their own grounds without their husband's support? I've personally seen lots of marriages where the wife is the breadwinner of her home and no one knows about it unless u are extremely close to the family to notice the difference, my dear it's only d undying love she has for her husband that can make her stay, millions of kids are being raised in a broken home, don't forget that, so i see no tangible reason whatsoever for her to be obliged to remain with a cheating husband.

How did "divorce" creep into this? I sincerely doubt we are on the same page. You intended to remind me that some women remain with their cheating husbands despite the hurt. I consequently explained why those women chose to stay. I most definitely didn't say that all wives would remain with cheating husbands. I also did not imply that those women who remain are unaware of the option of divorce. So, "divorce" is totally besides the point.

I would like to reiterate that many of those who stay on do so for practical reasons (that benefit them) and not the fairytale reason called "love".

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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by lastpage: 12:55am On Apr 05, 2016
McCarlito:
Where is the person she cheated together with

We just have to discuss
Because he will be explaining to the devil why he arrived early to hell


So, you want to commit MURDER and ruin the rest of your already ruined life, ......... because of a woman? angry angry


The person she cheated-with, has NOTHING to do with You!

Except in a situation of "forced intimacy", your wife gave him the go-ahead!

There is a Yoruba proverb that says "T'ogiri oba'lanu, alangba ko le ri aye wo'obe".

Translate literally for our non-Yorubas: "If the Wall does not open-up, the lizard will certainly not be able to creep inside".

So, fi your spouse plotted, arraigned and deceived you ...and went to secretly meet another lover, did not shout for help and then "opened-up" and moaned all day at the pleasure she is receiving from such Man ...... and you still think the mna is at fault and want to kill him for obliging her?

C'mmon, only weak and jealous men do that.
Just accept your fate that your wife considers you "a lesser man" than the man whom she cheated with.

Infact, l will rather congratulate the Man and ask him for "advice" on how to become better in future.


As for the woman, l will just advice her to make sure she stays far away from me.


Next time she sets her eyes on me, l should be in a position that ensures she regrets her actions and lives in regret all her life.
As in better Swagger, an even far-better Babe, plenti-Moni, and looking really handsome and full of life.
undecided undecided undecided




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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Praktikals(m): 1:03am On Apr 05, 2016
PureWays:
What if there isn't any kid between them yet, do you still think he should forgive her?
How is he sure he owns the child(ren)?
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by SexyStrawberry(f): 1:05am On Apr 05, 2016
AfroKnight:


How did "divorce" creep into this? I sincerely doubt we are on the same page. You intended to remind me that some women remain with their cheating husbands despite the hurt. I consequently explained why those women chose to stay. I most definitely didn't say that all wives would remain with cheating husbands. I also did not imply that those women who remain are unaware of the option of divorce. So, "divorce" is totally besides the point.

I would like to reiterate that many of those who stay on do so for practical reasons (that benefit them) and not the fairytale reason called "love".

divorce came into this coz of the way u are sounding, as far as i am concerned, there is nothing beneficial about being with a cheating husband. I still hold on to my point that it can only be love that can make her stay with him, ur reasons hold no water to me coz she can achieve whatever she wants without him, kids or no kids, money or no money, he's totally useless whether he's there with her or not.

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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Malakh: 1:13am On Apr 05, 2016
it's hard but according to the spirit of the law,I can take her back but I might not sleep with her, simply because her salvation is one the line if I give a letter of divorce,I wouldn't want her to be damned,this is how we Hebrews run things.
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by abbey621(m): 1:16am On Apr 05, 2016
The truth about this matter is that men and women were never created equally. In society, women are often given a higher moral standing than men. A woman with good character, loyal and submissive is seen as more worthy than one who is flashy, rude and foul mouthed. This brings us to the issue of forgiveness. It is very hard for a man to forgive his wife for adultery because by doing so the man is admitting that his wife and him are of the same moral weakness and the high pedestal he's been putting his wife is no longer there. Such a man if very strong can forgive but things will never be the same. Forget all those pretenders and hypocrites, forgiveness does not equal forgetting. As a man that trust is forever gone, the only thing left is management. The reason most women find it easy to forgive is because they are often not the breadwinner, in a marriage where the woman is the breadwinner and the husband cheats, trust me there would be hell to pay! In a nutshell, time heals some wounds but it takes lots of counseling, prayers and hard-work and this only works when both parties are still interested in trying, unfortunately sometimes it's not even worth the stress!

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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by lastpage: 1:18am On Apr 05, 2016
AreaFada2:
When a woman cheats, her man's life is in danger.

Men can casually cheat, no emotion involved. Just a mechanical process. cheesy

But MOST women get emotionally attached.
The guy they cheat with can brainwash her to kill you. Or her lover can even organise killing you.
Both can then take your properties or just to remove you as an obstacle.

Also women cheating I'm marriage could mean your kids are not biologically yours. Like 30% of all kids by the way.

This is very true....... but women dont want to accept it, just as they dont want to accept that "men and women" though complimentary in nature, are DIFFERENT and therefore NOT EQUAL (two different things cant ever be equal!).
I am not saying Men are "superior", mind you, l am saying they are "different" from women.

X chromosome is not the same as Y chromosome otherwise, X will be equal to Y! undecided

We just need to observe other living things (especially primates closer to the human race) and see the territorial behaviour of the male, compared to the female.

The physiological make-up of women determines how they engage in 'shex', for maximum pleasure while that of men also determine theirs as well.
Even Scientist have factually demonstrated that it is a different part of the brain that gets triggered in men when they get the urge, compared to women.
There is a reason creation 'recessed' women's shexual organ while that of men is "protruding"!
Women take shex more seriously than men! To them, it is an "act of total submission to domination" and a lot of emotion is invested in reaching such decision.
For a man, it is an "act of domination and conquer" ...... and like al conquest, it is the "next challenge" that matters! No emotion involved!
One party (woman) accepts fluid inside her .....while the other (man) is protected from such violation, by the make-up of his organs, which are external and not receptive to accepting any fluid!
Everyone should think about these things for a moment
All these "facts of life" are not mere coincidences.


Once you are sure your wife is cheating, your best action is to "quietly leave her" for her lover........ if you still love your own life.
.

Dont even attempt to keep sleeping with her anymore.
Just "dash her out" to that person she thinks she loves and engages in shex with, more than you.
Dont get annoyed, dont get dismayed but take it as a challenge that some-how, some-where, you are still found 'wanting'!

Just take time and work on yourself!
But "woe betide that Man" whose wife cheats when he was still "wanting"...... and takes her back when he has stepped-up in life.
There are tens of other women, who are "more set" than her and would eagerly marry you, so what's the big deal?

As for the kids, l think a time will come when at every birth, a DNA TEST will be a pre-requisite for putting a name on a birth cert.
We are getting there..... slowly though.



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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Ugoadaba: 1:18am On Apr 05, 2016
forgive
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by diva90: 1:24am On Apr 05, 2016
AccidentalGenius:
once she cheats, she Leaves!


it's something she carefully thought of before she did it

Oh! But if the case were reverse you would want her to understand and forgive you... How much more selfish could men possibly be?
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by lastpage: 1:26am On Apr 05, 2016
Ugoadaba:
forgive

Go check properly..... any man that "forgives such"....... has something holding him back at the moment (It could be religious standing, fear of an open scandal, finances, secrets in the wife's hands, papers for those relying on her for citizenship somewhere, impotency on his part, bidding his time for revenge grin , e.t.c ).

It is just not in the nature of a husband, to forgive a cheating wife...... the best he could do is to 'ask her to leave', without any rancour!

The very "nature of Love" a man has for his wife, makes it impossible for him to forgive such acts.


If you are a woman and your husband claims to have forgiven you when caught cheating on him, l beg you to "find your way" ASAP...... it may portend danger!
Some men are very crafty in their "planning for revenge". undecided




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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by ajalaolanr(m): 1:27am On Apr 05, 2016
missbronze:
If Hosea can forgive Gomar for unfaithfulness in the bible.


Why then, will a man not forgive his wife if she cheats.


You can forgive for children, the sacrifices she made in the marriage, etc.


All I am saying is to forgive is Divine.



And as long as we are mere mortals, to sin or err is a must. it may be from husband or wife. Therefore, we should always be ready to forgive one another.

Abeggi, no dey quote Bible. I find it amusing how quickly we are to quote the scriptures as an inference to how we should or would react to certain situations such as this.

When the reverse is what we would do should the situation present itself.

We just like to quote bible, even quote the bible as to why the chicken crossed the road!
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by jrerico1(m): 1:27am On Apr 05, 2016
missbronze:
I don't really agree with your last statement.

Situations can make people do something drastic.

Let's look at this scenario for eg,

A wife and her husband have a kid who is critically ill and hospital wouldn't commence treatment unless a deposit is made.

husband and wife runs around for money, yet. no help.
( let's say husband have no job and poor)

Wife now runs to a rich neighbor for assistance, and he asks to sleep with her before rendering assistance.

Believe me, it will take a strong woman not to give in to save her child.

But, if she gives in for her child, will you say she has been planning it?
the child dies or better still I'll go and steal.. Is she a sex worker?? Its forbidden from my town to see a woman sleep outside marriage no matter the cost..
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Nobody: 1:27am On Apr 05, 2016
i will beat her severely, and send her home again. then I would go bring her the following day. but if her parents live in a far country. I will send her to go stay with her friends till I calm my tamper.
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by dare2differ: 1:29am On Apr 05, 2016
lastpage:


This is very true....... but women dont want to accept it, just as they dont want to accept that "men and women" though complimentary in nature, are DIFFERENT and therefore NOT EQUAL (two different things cant ever be equal!).
I am not saying Men are "superior", mind you, l am saying they are "different" from women.

X chromosome is not the same as Y chromosome otherwise, X will be equal to Y! undecided

We just need to observe other living things (especially primates closer to the human race) and see the territorial behaviour of the male, compared to the female.

The physiological make-up of women determines how they engage in 'shex', for maximum pleasure while that of men also determine theirs as well.
Even Scientist have factually demonstrated that it is a different part of the brain that gets triggered in men when they get the urge, compared to women.
There is a reason creation 'recessed' women's shexual organ while that of men is "protruding"!
Women take shex more seriously than men! To them, it is an "act of total submission to domination" and a lot of emotion is invested in reaching such decision.
For a man, it is an "act of domination and conquer" ...... and like al conquest, it is the "next challenge" that matters! No emotion involved!
One party (woman) accepts fluid inside her .....while the other (man) is protected from such violation, by the make-up of his organs, which are external and not receptive to accepting any fluid!
Everyone should think about these things for a moment
All these "facts of life" are not mere coincidences.


Once you are sure your wife is cheating, your best action is to "quietly leave her" for her lover........ if you still love your own life.
.

Dont even attempt to keep sleeping with her anymore.
Just "dash her out" to that person she thinks she loves and engages in shex with, more than you.
Dont get annoyed, dont get dismayed but take it as a challenge that some-how, some-where, you are still found 'wanting'!

Just take time and work on yourself!
But "woe betide that Man" whose wife cheats when he was still "wanting"...... and takes her back when he has stepped-up in life.
There are tens of other women, who are "more set" than her and would eagerly marry you, so what's the big deal?

As for the kids, l think a time will come when at every birth, a DNA TEST will be a pre-requisite for putting a name on a birth cert.
We are getting there..... slowly though.



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If I hadn't seen anything, I would have agreed fully with you

Women CHEAT. It may not be as high as men but they cheat.

I see you are a married man, you must really have high morals if not you would know that married women cheat!
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by lastpage: 1:33am On Apr 05, 2016
ajalaolanr:

Abeggi, no dey quote Bible. I find it amusing how quickly we are to quote the scriptures as an inference to how we should or would react to certain situations such as this.

When the reverse is what we would do should the situation present itself.

We just like to quote bible, even quote the bible as to why the chicken crossed the road!


Women will quote the Bible ......if it supports the husband forgiving them when caught cheating
...... but will quickly toss the Bible aside and not quote it, where it says "Men are the head of the woman" or where it says "God created them Differently, Male and Female, he created them...!

Then, it will be 'equality and feminism'!
grin grin grin

That is women for you. undecided



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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by nortcentrallord(m): 1:40am On Apr 05, 2016
"God forgives, I dont"

"When your brother (sister, dad, mum, wife, friend, relation, enemy) sins against you, you must forgive him 70 X 77 time"

...

We only attribute much to sex in this generation because it is a Wicked generation.

Never loose your home for something silly.
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by lastpage: 1:42am On Apr 05, 2016
dare2differ:



If I hadn't seen anything, I would have agreed fully with you

Women CHEAT. It may not be as high as men but they cheat.

I see you are a married man, you must really have high morals if not you would know that married women cheat!


If this is supposed to be "sarcasm", you did a very bad job at it! grin

I never said men dont cheat..... infact, men have a preponderance to,...and do cheat more, than women!
.... because to men, cheating is just an act of "conquest", emotions are not deeply invested.
They just do it .....like they "speed" on the Motorway!

What l tried to do is point out the difference between " Men cheating" Vs. "Women Cheating".

Women cheating goes beyond the "physical act" of "Wam-bang, get-up and go"!

Have you ever wondered why "men dont remember" the lady that deflowered them.... shocked shocked

.....while Women keep such memory for the rest of their life angry (even having a soft spot for the man for the rest of their life, whether both are married or not)? grin grin

Its got to do with "emotions and the brain". undecided undecided



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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Nobody: 1:45am On Apr 05, 2016
I cant just imagine another man getting freaky with my woman ubanu blood must flow,on a good day when i be werey for bedmatics you still go yansh outside?it cant happun sef
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by lastpage: 1:46am On Apr 05, 2016
jrerico1:
the child dies or better still I'll go and steal.. Is she a sex worker?? Its forbidden from my town to see a woman sleep outside marriage no matter the cost..

Even at that, did she ask her husband's "opinion and permission" ...to exchange her body, for shex, in other to save their child?

I guess the husband should be given 'a say' in such events that affect both of them critically.

Except maybe the wife and the man have been "coochy-cooching" behind the husband's back, even before the child/family needs such financial help! grin grin




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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by lastpage: 1:50am On Apr 05, 2016
youmour:
I cant just imagine another man getting freaky with my woman ubanu blood must flow,on a good day when i be werey for bedmatics you still go yansh outside?it cant happun sef

You mean you will kill a man (and ruin your own beautiful life) just for sleeping with your wife..... when she wasn't forced into the act, as in R@pe? angry

Common, read my first post on this thread.
Its not worth it..... just thank God you got to know, and move-on with your life.

Babes ten times more beautiful than her will worship at your feet in future, if you remain calm and focused! undecided



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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by REALDEAL01: 1:52am On Apr 05, 2016
lekjons:
even the bible supports divorce in case of an adultry..
Which passage of the bible says so?
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by jrerico1(m): 1:54am On Apr 05, 2016
lastpage:


Even at that, did she ask her husband's "opinion and permission" ...to exchange her body, for shex, in other to save their child?

I guess the husband should be given 'a say' in such events that affect both of them critically.

Except maybe the wife and the man have been "coochy-cooching" behind the husband's back, even before the child/family needs such financial help! grin grin




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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by foyeks2001(f): 1:58am On Apr 05, 2016
Men on this thread are not smilling at all...u guys are wicked ...as a married woman, can't even stand d thought of undressing myself in front of another man...well, mayb because I'm a possessive lover...I must confess any woman dat cheats, doesn't fear God& does not love d man

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