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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by haul: 8:03am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Well I'm a liberal person when it comes to women and religion but logical when it comes to business and politics. I don't really see marriage as big deal for sharing emotions and all that. The way I see marriage is different, the only reason someone like me is going to getting married is for mental stability of my kids, so they can grow up with both parents. However, before tying the knot, I lay my plans to her which her, she agrees with me that we can bring a woman to our matrimonial bed for one nights stand, she can even be the one to woo the girl for me, and I can be the one, she can also see a man she likes to have a fling with in our bed and we both agree to be in bed for 3some. I don't have problems with all these things cause I don't see sex as a big deal sofar we both agree to it. I for one see marriage as a contract mostly where we both agree to things before doing it. yeah, I'm that liberal more like open marriage. Reason I can't just marry someone who loves me but understand and shares my sentiments. Call me wierd or you can't do it , this is the way I plan to live my marriage. She knows who I'm shagging,I know who shes shagging no need for games, no need she shagging behind my backs with no condoms to bring home some disease, so no need me shagging behind her backs to bring her disease since the whole 3rd party will be with us in bed so we can see whatsup. We practically don't cheat behind eachother cause we will be cheating together. |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Nobody: 8:11am On Apr 05, 2016 |
missbronze:nah! she can fall into other temptations that isn't adultery. if she must then let her selfservice (same applies to the husband) .the fact we are human isn't an excuse to cheat on one's spouse. even if the offended party forgives the other, believe me the trust won't be their and I can't imagine a marriage without trust. |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Nobody: 8:12am On Apr 05, 2016 |
only the love of God |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by GANJAFARMER: 8:15am On Apr 05, 2016 |
PureWays:Which one be haba again? But why are men killing themselves over a cheating woman, after all she will wash t for you - Just get yourself plenty girls and watch your cheating wife die in pains. |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by princfred(m): 8:16am On Apr 05, 2016 |
98% comments from men only and 98% say they won't forgive. More than enough lesson for women to pack their load before they think about the act. That's my humble locomatti abi how that grammarian take they talk am. |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Nobody: 8:18am On Apr 05, 2016 |
missbronze: Please leave this myopic view of yours and face reality,that shouldn't come to your mind in the first place,what of GOD that created you,can't u respect him and d institution he created |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Oladat(m): 8:18am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Shiningmama:I've never cheated on before that incident.But as soon as I caught her,its finished between us.So,that is why I've been seeing another woman. 1 Like |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by princfred(m): 8:20am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Ordinary cheating girlfriend or girl friend to be dey cos serious catarhh + purging for relationship talk less of cheating wife. Most men I know wey remain for the marriage no de give feeding money to the wife and go on marathon cheating just to remain sane. This thread is one of the best in nairaland much more informative and insightful bringing about huge awarenes on mens social bias and mentality towards a bug issue than all these other nonsensical and shallow things like see Tonto boobs or new Christmas shirt/pose. More of these men where ever it came from the OP deserves an award cos plenty ladies are better eqiuped with information on 98% of the outcome of any phony move . |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Nobody: 8:20am On Apr 05, 2016 |
OAFMods:Don't you think you can drop your argument, without being insulting.? Cmon, you are bigger than that. 1 Like |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Bobbysmart6(m): 8:21am On Apr 05, 2016 |
I will.bt my luv 4 her wont b lyk b4 |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Bonnywest: 8:21am On Apr 05, 2016 |
AccidentalGenius: Very wise and thoughtful bro. No reason is reasonable. |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Truth001(m): 8:26am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Missbronze, honestly this issue it's not a laughing matter. A wife who slept with a rich man to save her son should know that every fire started small, that's not an excuse at all coz no man will accept that. He will surely use it against her one day. And let's look at it the other way, what if it's husband that cheats with yr best friend, what will you do? |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by oshaosha2014(m): 8:27am On Apr 05, 2016 |
People don't want to understand that men and women are configured differently. We always want to equalise every aspect of life, but life itself is not about equality, life is not fair, its just mother nature. I praise women for having the emotional power to hold on to a cheating man and many of them usually don't cheat in revenge. But a man, don't let him perceive you are cheating at all. He may pretend he understands and puts your mind at rest that it is all okay. Give him little time and see all hell let loose. firstEVA: |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by CopyLearner: 8:27am On Apr 05, 2016 |
PureWays:haba,she didn't say they shouldn't be forgiven nau.she. Said they don’t fear God n they don't love their husbands |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by etimetiefe: 8:29am On Apr 05, 2016 |
etimetiefe: 1 Like |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Izen: 8:30am On Apr 05, 2016 |
PureWays: Why is it okay for men to chase their wives or of their home? Please this notion is wrong and it needs to stop. He can divorce her by all means but cause? Really? A home they built together? Will he pay her back for what she contributed? If the reverse was the case, would the wife chase him out or pack out? Please let us stop condoning this barbaric act. |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Nobody: 8:30am On Apr 05, 2016 |
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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by CopyLearner: 8:30am On Apr 05, 2016 |
lodscott:as much as man's ego is concerned, please don't compare him with Jesus Christ, for Christ is ever faithful, more ready to forgive than we are ready to forsake sin. |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by danbrowndmf(m): 8:31am On Apr 05, 2016 |
The only way i can forgive her is for her to pack out with immidiate effect. |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by oshaosha2014(m): 8:34am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Having the right or not, even if the man cheats, believe me you, he won't be able to stand the woman if she does the same. Study people and not their rights or left. PureWays: |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by chiezimah(m): 8:35am On Apr 05, 2016 |
what if she was the one that told u and asked for your forgiveness? The pain can be unbearable and u have every right to walk away. But e fit b u. Most times we say we cannot cheat but if we do/did, wld we be bold enof to tell our partner that we did. So if she comes to you nd says i messed up am sorry. She automatically gives you the power to determine her faith. To confess such error takes a lot of courage and u are left with the choice of putting her up for the world to see her shame or glorify her by act of forgiveness. If she is truly sorry, u have her worship for all ur life. Things may not get to normal immediate, may be not in a year or 2 but loving your spouse who cheats puts u on a level different from others. God will not hold u on account for leaving her, He gave the right afterall, but God will definitely hold u in high esteem for ensuring u did not allow the enemy destroy His great institution. Pain always gives us a new perspective of things.He knows u feel pain and may not get over it in time but if u allow Him, He will work u thru it. Go for counselling, pray, cry ...... but if u truly look at the pain u feel, u begin to understand God's pain when we choose other gods besides Him. Forgiveness no be for mouth, its in deed. U will always remember but making sure u dont rub it into ur partners face time and time again just as God does for us is divine. The cheating spouse can only be comfortable only as long as u show love. He/she will always feel guilty and this feeling can be killing and even make him/her lose hope for life. But constant love even when u know u should not give it helps both of u heal. However, when u choose to take revenge by cheating u have no rights as well. Your partner will never see u different from her/himself u both now are on the same level. U did take the high road. By forgiving u save her soul and the accuser cannot condemn her if u dont. Remember Jesus and the woman caught in adultery.... the question is where are the accusers.. are u one of them or would u like the Master declare even in tears and in deep pain ... neither do i condemn u 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by danbrowndmf(m): 8:36am On Apr 05, 2016 |
firstEVA:yeah,u are right.i think women forgive more than men. I'm not even sure i'll be able to sleep for the next two month if i caught my belove wife cheating, especially on our matrimonial bed!!! Kai. |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by CopyLearner: 8:36am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Raiders:speak for yourself. I pity the woman you get married to if you have as much as cheated on your girlfriend/wife once. Cz your own word is going to judge you |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Truth001(m): 8:37am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Missbronze, honestly this issue it's not a laughing matter. A wife who slept with a rich man to save her son should know that every fire started small, that's not an excuse at all coz no man will accept that. He will surely use it against her one day. And let's look at it the other way, what if it's husband that cheats with yr best friend, what will you do? |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by oshaosha2014(m): 8:38am On Apr 05, 2016 |
No, she has not been planning it. Unfortunately, without her knowing it, she has planned the end of our marriage. missbronze: |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Adaeze003(f): 8:38am On Apr 05, 2016 |
All those stating how Jesus Himself permits divorce on cheating grounds should also remember that He doesn't permit re marrying. Men are generally so one sided in reasoning it affects the way they read the bible. They combine bible teachings with culture but I guess that's not the topic for today. Anyhoo... its impressive to see a number of guys who won't forgive because they themselves won't cheat. The rest of you are just babbling... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by elitejosef: 8:40am On Apr 05, 2016 |
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Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by CopyLearner: 8:41am On Apr 05, 2016 |
princeunugwa:do you know what adultery is according to Jesus Christ? You all are so quick to shout divorce and adultery according to Christ but let me tell you what He said, He said if you as much as lust after a woman/man in your heart, you have already committed the act. By Christ standards, you can't even stand since what goes on in the heart is enough to create a lot of divorce. Therefore I suggest we as much as possible and by God's grace, choose to have pure thoughts cz if our thoughts are pure, so would our deeds be. 1 Like |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by AfroKnight: 8:42am On Apr 05, 2016 |
SexyStrawberry: Lol. We were talking about women who decided not to divorce their cheating husbands. So I was surprised that you still presented divorce as an option. Anyway, all I'm saying is that you should not expect a man to endure and stay married to his cheating wife just because many married women endure cheating. Why are you making a case for the woman sef? Are you cheating on your hubby? Good morning. |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by Nobody: 8:46am On Apr 05, 2016 |
Truth001:I fully understand the gravity of cheating on ones husband. I know is an abomination. What I am trying to say is that "there is no sin that is not worth forgiveness". |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by YelloweWest: 8:46am On Apr 05, 2016 |
oshaosha2014:A woman's heart is like a deep ocean filled with many secrets.... 1 Like |
Re: What Can Make You Forgive Your Wife If She Cheats? by AfroKnight: 8:46am On Apr 05, 2016 |
CopyLearner: In this age, chivalry is dead. Women don't stay with cheating husbands because of love. They stay because of benefits. |
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