,I just found out that my cousin is pregnant and that the guy isnt marrying. I'm angry and though I know she's also to be blamed but it isnt right.
About four decades ago,it was if you get a girl pregnant you MUST marry her.Now we hear stuffs like "I will take care of my child but I cant marry you". What the fvck happened to taking responsibility?
Guys,why would you have sex with a girl you wont marry if she gets pregnant? Now the guy is saying he cant because he has already promised to marry a girl in india.The India based supposed fiancee called my cousin,threatened to kill her if she dared reap where she didnt sow. My cousin knows nothing about her and has resigned to her fate of being a frigging BABY MAMA.
Ladies,why wont you allow your man take care of his mess?
She's going to have the baby by september,we are disappointed but 'nwunne wu nwunne shaa ihe owula mekwe' .
So guys will you marry a girl you got pregnant,if not why?
Matured comments please.

Those are the type of men who are irresponsible and don't wanna commit in things after they damaged the girl's future.....

*sigh*

KashyBaby:
Those are the type of men who are irresponsible and don't wanna commit in things after they damaged the girl's future.....

*sigh*

Serious and true sh!t.

Lsofdk and smellymouth,come and tell me why

Quite complex topic. lemme book space first . brb

Persephenee:
,I just found out that my cousin is pregnant and that the guy isnt marrying. I'm angry and though I know she's also to be blamed but it isnt right.
About four decades ago,it was if you get a girl pregnant you MUST marry her.Now we hear stuffs like "I will take care of my child but I cant marry you". What the fvck happened to taking responsibility?
Guys,why would you have sex with a girl you wont marry if she gets pregnant? Now the guy is saying he cant because he has already promised to marry a girl in india.The India based supposed fiancee called my cousin,threatened to kill her if she dared reap where she didnt sow. My cousin knows nothing about her and has resigned to her fate of being a frigging BABY MAMA.
Ladies,why wont you allow your man take care of his mess?
She's going to have the baby by september,we are disappointed but 'nwunne wu nwunne shaa ihe owula mekwe' .
So guys will you marry a girl you got pregnant,if not why?
Matured comment please.

Only if you guys loves each other..If not, NO..Why should you want to get marry? because of the irresponsible mistake? or is it because of the shame of other people calling you name?

What would happen if you two get marry for only that reason? I don't think this will last..Take support of the situation and take your responsiblity of a father to the baby...That doesn't necessary means to get marry.

Resentment is a horrible way to start a marriage. I want my marriage,whenever it happened to be like anyone else’s.I want to marry someone that I love and who love me back..

Later they'll still come and open their mouths and say why can't women be the way they used to be.

You nko, why can't you do the things your forefathers did. If you impregnate a girl, just sign your life over to her

Finally, as a Pastor, I close with this message. Avoid premarital coitús my pikins.

mimzy:
Quite complex topic. lemme book space first . brb

Lol
Ok!

Dreadguy61 , surfboard , phikom contribute nah

Smellymouth:
Ladies, Be sure of the dude before opening ur legs like THIS!!!!:::

You've not answered the question!

Op, accepting paternity can be termed as 'taking responsibility'. For the marriage part, you can't blame those who don't want to marry whoever they get pregnant because the circumstances leading up to intercourse may be different(it may have been a one night stand consented to by both parties, among other possibilities). If they were however dating, I think it's only proper they get married. If not, why were they seeing each other in the first place?

However, if I get a girl pregnant now, I'd marry her. We can't even get to the level of having sex if we don't have some sort of closeness and to attain such closeness, means there are some things about her I'd like.

Looks like is the trend now, same thing my friend is going through now, the mumu guy even said he is gonna rent an apartment and all that but he won't marry.
I was like since you are not ready for marriage why didn't you do the needful but the the girl I blame pass.
Funny enough they have be dating for the past two year

Persephenee:
Dreadguy61 , surfboard , phikom contribute nah

Done!

My friend had that ish too... Now she has an adorable daughter. Bros is near MIA.



Irresponsibility amongst some men seems to be the order of the day. Don't start what you cannot finish. I give kudos to the ladies who decided against aborting the pregnancies of these irresponsible men. It's a tough but wise decision which def serves as a learning point for them.

onstelly:
Looks like is the trend now, same thing my friend is going through now, the mumu guy even said he is gonna rent an apartment and all that but he won't marry.
I was like since you are not ready for marriage why didn't you do the needful but the the girl I blame pass.
Funny enough they have be dating for the past two year

My cousin is down now and its bad for the baby.
This most annoying part is the 'supposed fiancee' part,my cousin feels betrayed.

Surfboard:
Op, accepting paternity can be termed as 'taking responsibility'. For the marriage part, you can't blame those who don't want to marry whoever they get pregnant because the circumstances leading up to intercourse may be different(it may have been a one night stand consented to by both parties, among other possibilities). If they were however dating, I think it's only proper they get married. If not, why were they seeing each other in the first place?

However, if I get a girl pregnant now, I'd marry her. We can't even get to the level of having sex if we don't have some sort of closeness and to attain such closeness, means there are some things about her I'd like.

A thousand LIKES.

Surfboard:
Op, accepting paternity can be termed as 'taking responsibility'. For the marriage part, you can't blame those who don't want to marry whoever they get pregnant because the circumstances leading up to intercourse may be different(it may have been a one night stand consented to by both parties, among other possibilities). If they were however dating, I think it's only proper they get married. If not, why were they seeing each other in the first place?

However, if I get a girl pregnant now, I'd marry her. We can't even get to the level of having sex if we don't have some sort of closeness and to attain such closeness, means there are some things about her I'd like.

It is not!
Ask your father,before the late 80's if you get a girl pregnant,taking responsibility is to marry her.
I'm afraid civilisation is a curse.
But I thank God for you.

Persephenee:

It is not!
Ask your father,before the late 80's if you get a girl pregnant,taking responsibility is to marry her.
I'm afraid civilisation is a curse.
But I thank God for you.

If people took responsibility by getting married, how come I know people who are mates of my parents that have children out of wedlock? There's nothing new under the sun and we all can't think in the same direction.

of course...

Persephenee:

My cousin is down now and its bad for the baby.
This most annoying part is the 'supposed fiancee' part,my cousin feels betrayed.

My dear you haven't seen men.
This one even went to their house during Xmas cos he said he wanted to met her parents, now Belle don enter and the guy is talking trash
Just tell your cousin to be strong, she will come out stronger and better. Let her have the baby, is well

Surfboard:


If people took responsibility by getting married, how come I know people who are mates of my parents that have children out of wedlock? There's nothing new under the sun and we all can't think in the same direction.

It was rare then.
Just wish women will start closing their legs.

Persephenee:

It was rare then.
Just wish women will start closing their legs.

Well, I wish they'd know what they're getting into, and if they can't abstain, I pray they practise safe sex.

Surfboard:


Well, I wish they'd know what they're getting into, and if they can't abstain, I pray they practise safe sex.

Not safe sex o,
No sex!

I'll never let myself get any woman pregnant. What happened to condoms, Postinor , postpill, etc?
But if it doesn't work, na marriage things be that. My father would say, date someone you can marry. So that when push comes to shove, you'll do the right thing.

Phikom:
of course...

Hmmm...why do I find it difficult to believe you?

Persephenee:

You've not answered the question!

Smellymouth:

Smelly be a good boy,just go back and read the post!

Persephenee:

Not safe sex o,
No sex!

Haha, come on, sex isn't that demonic, but I understand why you'd feel the way you feel about it now.

Your cousin will pull through even though this may be the most difficult period. I'm sure she will be glad she kept the baby when she looks back in future.

Surfboard:


Haha, come on, sex isn't that demonic, but I understand why you'd feel the way you feel about it now.

Your cousin will pull through even though this may be the most difficult period. I'm sure she will be glad she kept the baby when she looks back in future.

Men ruining women's future since 930BC.
Believe me no sex is better.

Persephenee:

Smelly be a good boy,just go back and read the post!

Read my earlier post

steppin:
I'll never let myself get any woman pregnant. What happened to condoms, Postinor , postpill, etc?
But if it doesn't work, na marriage things be that. My father would say, date someone you can marry. So that when push comes to shove, you'll do the right thing.

Good decision but those pills mess up hormones attimes.

guys tend to have sex with a girl with no strings attached(almost all guys don do am before) . and after three weeks she comes up with the am pregnant story .. so you expect him to marry her cause of the preg eventhough he does not love her??








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