Hi all, I have been following this great forum and today I had to create a topic about something bothering me.
We use to live in Television area of Kaduna state where I attended Kadpoly and there met a great friend of mine who is from Jalingo. We later relocated to this Jalingo and I used this opportunity to visit my friend at their home anytime we are back from school (their house is quit far from ours). He has a young sister who is about 17yrs old and I am about 6yrs older than her. They are wrting WAEC currently. We joke and get along, and she caught my attention . This Eater when we came for break we were just getting along, and she is the type that dreads her brother She fears him like mad.
I use to joke with my friend that I like her, but I haven't shown serious intention.
The thing is that I so much like her and would like to date her, but am am considering somethings:
1. She is my friend's sister
2. I am about 6yrs older than her
3. she is still in secondary school

I have tried my best to get her off, but the truth is that I love her and surely will go for her. But the question now is, should I ask her out now or wait till she maybe finishes secondary school or grow older? Is 6years much for dating her? Please share matured responses.

My main question now is that, should I ask her out now or wait till she is older, maybe around 20+?

@OP u just want to destroy the life of this young lady and make her loose focus on her academics, ure suppose to be the one advicing her against dating, premarital sex, ure suppose to advice her and let her focus on her academics and let her have a better future. ure a bad friend i must tell u, planning on dating the 17years old girl of ur friend. "by the way are there no mature ladies around or ure scared to woo them? u want to take advantage of an innocent child.

No comments for you. ............... She is underage!

Well, an age difference of 6 years isn't too much in my opinion. But it depends on the girl. Some girls prefer dating guys way older than them, some like dating guys in their age bracket. It's basically all about personal preference, but the thing is, when you love someone, age constraints become secondary.

Now, since you said you love the girl, I think you should have her best interest at heart, and right now, what's best for her is to pass her Waec and finish secondary school. She doesn't need to be burdened by any serious relationship now. Besides, she is just 17. I don't know the official age when a girl isn't considered a minor in Nigeria, but in most developed countries it's 18. So technically, she isn't an adult yet. Personally, I think you should give her some time, at least wait till she is 18 and is done with her Waec and Neco and other major exams, and then you can make your intentions known to her.

SAINTSAMURAI:
@OP u just want to destroy the life of this young lady and make her loose focus on her academics, ure suppose to be the one advicing her against dating, premarital sex, ure suppose to advice her and let her focus on her academics and let her have a better future. ure a bad friend i must tell u, planning on dating the 17years old girl of ur friend. "by the way are there no mature ladies around or ure scared to woo them? u want to take advantage of an innocent child.

Thanks for your input. You just said what's on my mind. Not that i don't have other female friends, I have many female friends, but I can't explain the force of attraction I have for this particular teenager. Note, am not planning to destroy her future as it will not be good for my personality and my friendship with her brother. What do you suggest, I guess I leave her for the main time?

Decker:
Well, an age difference of 6 years isn't too much. But it depends on the girl. Some girls prefer dating guys way older than them, some like dating guys in their age grade. It's basically all about personal preference, but the thing is, when you love someone, age constraints becomes secondary.

Now, since you said you love the girl, I think you should have her best interest at heart, and right now, what's best for her is to pass her Waec and finish secondary school. She doesn't need to be burdened by any serious relationship now. Besides, she is just 17. I don't know the official age when a girl isn't considered a minor in Nigeria, but in most countries it's 18. So technically, she isn't an adult yet. Personally, I think you should give her some time, at least wait till she is 18 and is done with her Waec and Neco and Post jamb or whatever, and then you can make your intentions known to her.

Thanks for your understanding. I will keep getting in touch and wait for her to at least reach 18. I truly have good intentions for her

Personally, if u ar my friend nd u want to date my sista, my friendshp wt u wil b ova. Naa! Too bad

maxti:
No comments for you. ............... She is underage!

I know she is underage. My question is, should I wait or go for her? If i should wait, how long?

lovediehatelive:


Thanks for your input. You just said what's on my mind. Note that i don't have other female friends, but I can't explain the force of attraction I have for this particular teenager. Note, am not planning to destroy her future as it will not be good for my personality and my friendship with her brother. What do you suggest, I guess I leave her for the main time?

YES MY BRO, LEAVE HER ALONE. the reason why u feel attracted to her is because u dnt have oda female friends as u said, i will advice to go outing, meet ladies on social media and in real life, be friend them and b4 u know it u will forget abt her.

vizkiz:
give her one more year at least. Then let's start from there... 6years isn't too much now we are in 2016 for christ sake!

Forget about your friend, he is going to let the relationship work "if" he knows the kindda person you are (nobody go allow him friend chop him sister just like that )

Thanks. Will wait and keep pulling her closer

Fmartin:
Personally, if u ar my friend nd u want to date my sista, my friendshp wt u wil b ova. Naa! Too bad

Thats it o But can you blame me? I think I've found underage love

Bros

catch them young

delay is dangerous

boys dey vex. B4 she reach official age (18) boys for don plenty for her matter.

Start nuturing her,get even closer.not "relationship" per say. Relationship at this tender age will distract her, you wouldnt want som1 you love to be distracted academically,would you?

No sex. I repeat! No sex! Control your thing.

Forget age difference, you no go marry your mates.

Talk to your frnd about it and seek his approval. If he agrees and she likes you,carry on!

You can start the dating ish when shes 18 and legal and probably when shes in the uni.

If you can't/won't/don't-want-to get her now, free her!

SAINTSAMURAI:
YES MY BRO, LEAVE HER ALONE. the reason why u feel attracted to her is because u dnt have oda female friends as u said, i will advice to go outing, meet ladies on social media and in real life, be friend them and b4 u know it u will forget abt her.

Sorry, is like you misunderstood my post (or rather I typed the wrong thing). I do have other female friends, but his one, I have tried to let her go but that attraction is still there. I wanna get along with her, but will wait a little longer before I pour my mind to her

I may not know what you have in mind.

Are you ready to marry her now ?

As in, engagement and introduction..

OP wait till she get to 18. dont mind all the bashing. rem Capt Ekeinde married omotola @18. i'm sure he wooed her, they went on many dates, and some month of courtship b4 getting married.
But you should stylishly ask your friend abt it so you wont lose the friendship. jah bless you bro

obizzy:
Bros

catch them young

delay is dangerous

boys dey vex. B4 she reach official age (18) boys for don plenty for her matter.

Start nuturing her,get even closer.not "relationship" per say. Relationship at this tender age will distract her, you wouldnt want som1 you love to be distracted academically,would you?

No sex. I repeat! No sex! Control your thing.

Forget age difference, you no go marry your mates.

Talk to your frnd about it and seek his approval. If he agrees and she likes you,carry on!

You can start the dating ish when shes 18 and legal and probably when shes in the uni.

Am glad you understand me. I will keep drawing her closer. I think I got her keys

No sex sha, I don't want to ruin her career. As for her bro, I don't know if he will approve, buh who him epp

discoprophet:
If you can't/won't/don't-want-to get her now, free her!

Free her like seriously?
I like her, but she is too young for me

100Cents:
I may not know what you have in mind.

Are you ready to marry her now ?

As in, engagement and introduction..

Bro, your question is too forward na. Marry now?
I surely like her but won't rush into marriage. I am readily financially and emotionally, but she too young na.

Abbeyunique2:
OP wait till she get to 18. dont mind all the bashing. rem Capt Ekeinde married omotola @18. i'm sure he wooed her, they went on many dates, and some month of courtship b4 getting married.
But you should stylishly ask your friend abt it so you wont lose the friendship. jah bless you bro

Thanks for your advice, Jah bless you too!

lovediehatelive:


Bro, your question is too forward na. Marry now?
I surely like her but won't rush into marriage. I am readily financially and emotionally, but she too young na.

Okay.

But dont look at her this way o.

She too young..

lovediehatelive:

Thats it o But can you blame me? I think I've found underage love

one tin i do to avoid havin a crush on a friend's sista is, avoid starin at her, i only talk to her wen necessary.

lovediehatelive:

Am glad you understand me. I will keep drawing her closer. I think I got her keys

No sex sha, I don't want to ruin her career. As for her bro, I don't know if he will approve, buh who him epp

lol
he epp you oh!
If he says NO,then the girl in question will be no more than your forever crush.

Shes scared of her broda as you said. She will respect everything he says to the last and thats bad news for you.

Except una go dey do una love for koro make the broda no catch una.

100Cents:


Okay.

But dont look at her this way o.

She too young..

Free Johna joor!

Fmartin:
one tin i do to avoid havin a crush on a friend's sista is, avoid starin at her, i only talk to her wen necessary.

Yea, thats true, but we've got so acquainted, everyone around knows

obizzy:
lol
he epp you oh!
If he says NO,then the girl in question will be no more than your forever crush.

Shes scared of her broda as you said. She will respect everything he says to the last and thats bad news for you.

Except una go dey do una love for koro make the broda no catch una.

Na true you talk oo.. I go keep the bro updated before i do anything.

I don grow pass that koro love joor! na for kids, i don grow pass am

lovediehatelive:
Hi all, I have been following this great forum and today I had to create a topic about something bothering me.
We use to live in Television area of Kaduna state where I attended Kadpoly and there met a great friend of mine who is from Jalingo. We later relocated to this Jalingo and I used this opportunity to visit my friend at their home anytime we are back from school (their house is quit far from ours). He has a young sister who is about 17yrs old and I am about 6yrs older than her. They are wrting WAEC currently. We joke and get along, and she caught my attention . This Eater when we came for break we were just getting along, and she is the type that dreads her brother She fears him like mad.
I use to joke with my friend that I like her, but I haven't shown serious intention.
The thing is that I so much like her and would like to date her, but am am considering somethings:
1. She is my friend's sister
2. I am about 6yrs older than her
3. she is still in secondary school

I have tried my best to get her off, but the truth is that I love her and surely will go for her. But the question now is, should I ask her out now or wait till she maybe finishes secondary school or grow older? Is 6years much for dating her? Please share matured responses.

My main question now is that, should I ask her out now or wait till she is older, maybe around 20+?

lol op na this kind of rock go land for your dick if you no look somewhere else, so u won bleep ur friend lil sista.....

luwiizy:
lol op na this kind of rock go land for your dick if you no look somewhere else, so u won bleep ur friend lil sista.....

abeg o! Na me steal budget?

Am just a victim of love

vicstar:
I'll advice you to make your move, and keep tinz on a low key, coz u never can tell who will overtake u,if u Hesitate.

As in should I ask her out now?

I'm not a fan of keeping things from people who matter. I strongly advice you let her brother know because she holds him in high esteem & it will be added point for you if he approves. And i believe telling her brother shows you are responsible. I don't know why he wouldn't approve cos u can surely go behind his back to woo her. Let him no u aren't planning on going full scale now so that u won't get a dirty slap sha. Let the girl no ur intention o, cos if u r waiting for ha to get older another person might snatch her. I repeat, let her know your intention but don't pursue her now, it'll distract her.