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(ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Anuoluwapo23(f): 10:12am On Apr 10, 2016
There is this friend of mine that come to my house we were good friends tho but I had to distances myself because of her behavior like taxing guys, collecting money from guys before they sleep with her, we fought on her birthday when I caught her with a guy in the toilet of the hotel she celebrated her birthday even she doesn't look somebody that has plan for herself because all she think of every time is buying clothes,phones like he newly released boom j8 and partying.

But to my surprise i saw her and my brother yesterday night my way back from work in front of our house, when my brother came inside i asked him what he was doing with her, he said he wants to date her...

OMG!! I don't know what to tell my brother he shouldn't start thinking that we are the same because you know birds of the same feathers flocks together..


Please what should I do?

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Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by cruzita(f): 10:24am On Apr 10, 2016
U better tell him who she is and the kind of person she is or forever hold your peace

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Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:31am On Apr 10, 2016
OP am very sure your brother is dating her just to chop from there too,, no be say he won marry am,, so leave them,, just warn your brother he shouldn't spend much.. Shikena
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Bluezy13(m): 10:34am On Apr 10, 2016
Hmmm...













And then
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Smellymouth: 10:34am On Apr 10, 2016
I am not a christian but I think I am familiar with this bible phrase--John 8 vs 7".. He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her..."


Are you without sin,Anuoluwapo23( Abundant mercies of God! Lovely meaning.. smiley

There are qualities your brother must have seen in her.

Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Bluezy13(m): 10:34am On Apr 10, 2016
BreadandBeans:
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Remember your dot
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by sinaj(f): 10:34am On Apr 10, 2016
Karma grin


U girls were taxing other guys wen she was ur friend abi



Now it's ur brother's turn tongue

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Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:36am On Apr 10, 2016
Just advise him to always use protection, dats d most important one.
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Ginaz(f): 10:39am On Apr 10, 2016
You can't do anything but complicate and strain the relationship between you and your brother. If you attack him with bad stories about that your friend, it will only make him head strong about dating her. A love attack gets stronger so you know.

Give him some advise, warn him, but don't over do it by shouting and throwing tantrums whenever you see them together. Your brother is an adult and like every male adults they get head strong about something they want.

He wants her, let him have her. With time he will get to his senses when he sees the real color of your friend. Some people like living life the hard way but surely they will get the lessons at the end.

You want to protect your brother I know but can you stop a camel that wants to drink water? Hell NO!
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by mrkay101(m): 10:46am On Apr 10, 2016
And who said ur brother doesn't knw the kinda of person she is.

Calm down Jor... Nigga probably jst wants to chop and clean mouth too.
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Xionez(m): 10:50am On Apr 10, 2016
1. Welcome her very well.

2. Allow 2 days for her to acclimatize

3. Welcome her again...to hell.
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 10:55am On Apr 10, 2016
BreadandBeans:
OP am very sure your brother is dating her just to chop from there too,, no be say he won marry am,, so leave them,, just warn your brother he shouldn't spend much.. Shikena

OP - tell your brother it's not about how much he spends or does not spend o. Life is more than money. Money will come and go. Your allowance today may not be enough for your recharge card in the future so how much you spend on a lady becomes irrelevant with time. let him know what he's up to or is it what he's up against self.

There are some things that will stay with you through time - Sexually transmitted Infections/diseases and unwanted pregnancy are top on my list. Na this kain babe dey take belle hook boyfriend o. Most times they are not looking for marriage, they are just looking for anyone to pin the pregnancy on so that people will not say "dem nor know their pikin papa".

I know of a man that wanted to "chop hin own" with the office slut. The slut claim belle, the man na jew. na so the man take marry wife o. Fortunately for the woman, the man was getting advanced in age so his family was more than happy to receive the news of pregnancy.

My short story is that you should let your brother know what's up. And for you guys - protect yourself if you must have premarital sex or sex with anyone wey you nor plan to marry.

I SeeNoEvil
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Fmartin(m): 10:58am On Apr 10, 2016
Make peace with ur enemy.
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by tomdon(m): 11:22am On Apr 10, 2016
Anuoluwapo23:
There is this friend of mine that come to my house we were good friends tho but I had to distances myself because of her behavior like taxing guys, collecting money from guys before they sleep with her, we fought on her birthday when I caught her with a guy in the toilet of the hotel she celebrated her birthday even she doesn't look somebody that has plan for herself because all she think of every time is buying clothes,phones like he newly released boom j8 and partying.

But to my surprise i saw her and my brother yesterday night my way back from work in front of our house, when my brother came inside i asked him what he was doing with her, he said he wants to date her...

OMG!! I don't know what to tell my brother he shouldn't start thinking that we are the same because you know birds of the same feathers flocks together..


Please what should I do?

pls answer the following questions;
1. are you a virgin yourself? if you're not then you're in no position to condemn her because she's better and smarter than you in that she gets rewarded for her services while yours is for free, except of course the guy fuking you has asked to marry you.
2. has your brother brought her home as his future wife? if he hasn't, then allow him chop he's unlikely to bring her home.
3. how's she your enemy? you may want to unfriend her so that people will not think you also collect money for sex but you may not be any better, so its not enough reason to call her your enemy.
if you're pure, you won't bother and go so far just because of what people will say.

Anyway, note that guys are just using her to satisfy their hormonal drives, she's a public toilet.
Lastly, you may be judging her wrongly, she might not even be that bad girl you think she is. let God declare her condemned first, then you can follow suit.
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 11:36am On Apr 10, 2016
I know this is not my business but please indulge me to air my view on your post. By the way, I'm not a spokesperson for the OP o. I just dey yarn my own
tomdon:


pls answer the following questions;
1. are you a virgin yourself? if you're not then you're in no position to condemn her because she's better than you in that she gets rewarded for her services while yours is for free
being rewarded doesn't make the other girl better. Also being rewarded doesn't reduce the fact that OP's brother needs to be aware of what he's going into

tomdon:
2. has your brother brought her home as his future wife?
Girls like this are usually smart. She can become a wife eventually if care is not taken. I'm not saying she'll not make a good wife, I'm just saying it very good when people know what they are getting into.
tomdon:
3. how's she your enemy? she may not be your friend but its not enough to call her your enemy.

Anyway, note that guys are just using her to satisfy their hormonal drives, she's a public toilet

I agree with you about the enemy part but we all (boys and men) need to be careful around public toilets. By the way some boys/men are rain too o. They pour/fall on anybody/anything without discrimination.

I SeeNoEvil
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by MacJC: 12:36pm On Apr 10, 2016
Ur bross has swallowed d hook and d line, as 4 d sinker, time will tell.

As he's "in love" now, any contrary advice from u would most likely spur him on (mainly due to curiosity).

Step 1: Let him know subtly that u know d girl. Don't malign her before ur bross; just let him know dt u've known her/had dealings with her. Don't let ur bross know dt u have beef 4 her or else he'll be defensive!


Step 2: Advise him to always us protection when getting down with her.
This will arouse his curiosity further and he'll want to know d reason(s) 4 dt specific advice.
Again, in responding 2 his question, don't be spiteful, just tell him in passing dt "i won't want to go further than ds but I surely do know what I'm saying"

Na him by himself go put 2 and 2 together.
But if u think telling him straight to ditch her, it most probably will backfire!


Khen-khen-khen **clears throat**
I believe d middle finger is 4 her shey?
. Hmmmmm, I do understand.
**walks outa thread**

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Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 12:37pm On Apr 10, 2016

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Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Sunkyphil(m): 12:53pm On Apr 10, 2016
u again lipsrsealed I give up
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Anuoluwapo23(f): 4:57pm On Apr 10, 2016
Hmmmm!!
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 5:43pm On Apr 10, 2016
Anuoluwapo23:
Hmmmm!!
You can't just sit there and watch your brother falling inside a hole. That doesn't mean you should force your opinion in him though. Just tell him what he needs to know and ask him to be careful (if he intends to go further after hearing you out).

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Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Anuoluwapo23(f): 6:04pm On Apr 10, 2016
PinkBarbie:
You can't just sit there and watch your brother falling inside a hole. That doesn't mean you should force your opinion in him though. Just tell him what he needs to know and ask him to be careful (if he intends to go further after hearing you out).
Aiit but I shall don't want the girl close to him shaaaa
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Sharp9: 7:24pm On Apr 10, 2016
what a combo, just run away from ur house. ur bro and ur enemy? no hiding place be that.

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Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by daremarvell: 9:51pm On Apr 10, 2016
Sharp9:
what a combo, just run away from ur house. ur bro and ur enemy? no hiding place be that.
Lol
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by daremarvell: 9:52pm On Apr 10, 2016
Anuoluwapo23:
There is this friend of mine that come to my house we were good friends tho but I had to distances myself because of her behavior like taxing guys, collecting money from guys before they sleep with her, we fought on her birthday when I caught her with a guy in the toilet of the hotel she celebrated her birthday even she doesn't look somebody that has plan for herself because all she think of every time is buying clothes,phones like he newly released boom j8 and partying.

But to my surprise i saw her and my brother yesterday night my way back from work in front of our house, when my brother came inside i asked him what he was doing with her, he said he wants to date her...

OMG!! I don't know what to tell my brother he shouldn't start thinking that we are the same because you know birds of the same feathers flocks together..


Please what should I do?
girls shaaaa you beef yourself too much..
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Anuoluwapo23(f): 9:55pm On Apr 10, 2016
daremarvell:
girls shaaaa you beef yourself too much..
it's not beef why should I beef i work for my money.
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Anuoluwapo23(f): 9:57pm On Apr 10, 2016
Smellymouth:
I am not a christian but I think I am familiar with this bible phrase--John 8 vs 7".. He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her..."


Are you without sin,Anuoluwapo23( Abundant mercies of God! Lovely meaning.. smiley

There are qualities your brother must have seen in her.
hmmmm aiit ooo am not without sin but I don't do dirt.. Mtcheeew
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Anuoluwapo23(f): 9:58pm On Apr 10, 2016
sinaj:
Karma grin


U girls were taxing other guys wen she was ur friend abi



Now it's ur brother's turn tongue
If we were doing it together i won't be bothered...
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by alobright17(m): 10:03pm On Apr 10, 2016
Tell him your mind if he agrees good if he don't then forget it till one day he will find out the true person the lady is.


The best advise is the one person give him or herself .
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Anuoluwapo23(f): 6:37am On Apr 11, 2016
alobright17:
Tell him your mind if he agrees good if he don't then forget it till one day he will find out the true person the lady is.


The best advise is the one person give him or herself .
i did da yesterday but he said am saying it because we are not in good terms
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by alobright17(m): 7:04am On Apr 11, 2016
Anuoluwapo23:
i did da yesterday but he said am saying it because we are not in good terms
Then allow him he will find out himself you've done the right thing by informing him.

Remember the lady can still change because change is the only constant thing so let's watch and see.
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by Anuoluwapo23(f): 6:46pm On Apr 11, 2016
alobright17:
Then allow him he will find out himself you've done the right thing by informing him.

Remember the lady can still change because change is the only constant thing so let's watch and see.
Okay oooo
Re: (ADVICE) My Brother Is In Love With My Enemy, What Should I Do? by alobright17(m): 7:06pm On Apr 11, 2016
Anuoluwapo23:
Okay oooo
Yes dear that is that nothing more nothing less

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