@op, ride on with him. You will definitely be happy.

Devilish ladies every where

Smh Op you don get wetin you dey find naw how would you feel if someone did exactly this to you?

u are toiling wit d guy feelings here. you started all this by calling him different romantic names. and you expected the guy not 2fall 4you and at the end of day he got really interested in you and now you just wanna dish him off. you are confused.

pinceprinz:
Nlfan, I don't get it. You like him a lot and still don't feel anything for him?

I've heard my friends say that to me when I woo em and I've read you ladies say this one line when I read you but I just relate how you'll like someone so much and still wouldn't feel a thing for him when he's not your blood bro or one of your family members like that.

One of the mysteries of life.
A man watch a girl over time and make a long term decision while a woman has a very narrow window to be influenced to make the decision. That's why players finds it so easy with them, cos they tell them immediately what they want to hear, the genuine ones take their time but when the windows passes, it's friendzone stuff

@op likes hanging out with him and having dinner with him

BUT

She doesn't feel anything for him
Yet she continues to hang out with him and call him sweet names

This op na confam Karashika o!


@nlfan: If you don't want to date him, let him go and stop toying with his emotions.

You dont really know what you want, free the young man and stop wasting his time. Many ladies like toying around with the emotions of soft men while the hard guys take undue advantage of them and toss them around like coins. Later when your head clear you will come looking for him and he will be finally gone.

Players quickly tell ladies what they want to hear and make them fall in love in one day to the extent of them getting a quickie and one night stand and move on leaving her with emotional crisis; but the gentle, soft and good guys take a long time studying the girl, making long term plans, falling in love and ready to make all the sacrifices to make her happy and then when he finally makes the move he gets the response 'but we are just friends now, I dont think I love him enough to date him' and the sincere guy is left emotionally bruised and this can lead some of them into deciding that ladies hate the truth and he starts learning how to be a player from 'bad' friends who will readily coach him on how to be a player.

Ladies go put u 4 luv,,,later run comot.....

ITbomb:

One of the mysteries of life.
A man watch a girl over time and make a long term decision while a woman has a very narrow window to be influenced to make the decision. That's why players finds it so easy with them, cos they tell them immediately what they want to hear, the genuine ones take their time but when the windows passes, it's friendzone stuff

Wise words!!

SirWere:
I should prolly say some sh!t like "you're a disgrace to womanhood and diginity"

but what I'm gonna say is



you should have let him know you was playing

''You was playing'' what?
Are you really speaking english ?
Sirwere indeed

Dear, my woman never loved me before we started
I can still remember her word before e started
“We don't have anything in common”
Those were her words and she was like
Let me prove you wrong that it won't work between us
And today we're madly in love
So I will advice you give him a chance and give the testimonies later

You led a 40 year old adult on...and now you're seeking for advice.I need that Putin medal dp for the OP

How old are you?
If you don't have a boyfriend why not consider him?i like him cos he is been truthful and he might be a changed person....why not give him this chance and see where it leads to.

OP, U made a terrible mistake to have brought this thrash of a story here. Don't come back to NL in few years time to lament that there is no husband outside. You don't feel anything for him yet you are toiling with his emotion, enjoying his company to heal and relief yourself. Wicked girl

The guy to be candid is too soft for my liking self.

To me I'm yet to see the diff btw "like a lot" and love well I believe the only way to know whether u love him is to give it a try if it works out good if it doesn't well no harm in trying

faith551:
FIRST OF ALL, sorry, but u dnt know what you want yet. You like him a lot but you dnt love him? how do you think love starts

Seriously, it happens like that.


You will like someone so much, yet, you don't love them. No matter how hard you try to convert the like to love, it wouldn't just come.

Even when you try to be intimate with the person, it will be like you are with your fellow sex. Nothing arouses you when you with him. You can't kiss him, even when you try to, you don't feel anything. You can't just be emotional with him. Yet, you like hanging out, helping him out, cooking or even washing for him, you feel his pains and happiness.

I am in that situation now.

Acidosis:


I will talk to you, and heaven will not fall because I want the best for you

Forgive her my G. Truth is BITTER.

na u find wahala fa! d guy dey him own jeje! u must luv am ooo, u nid to increase ur likeness to luv...shudnt b diff.

If you are only playing tell the dude instead of putting him on a long thing.... thats how girls will be wasting a mans time and get angry when they are treated in the same manner. .. women piss me off most times ... no disrespect but you people need to be straight

nlfan:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

You caused it, dont start what you cant finish. So go ahead and start dating that guy or u stop giving him hope.

"I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious."

It is either you are confused or you are time waster.

"I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious."

It is either you are confused or you are a time waster.

faith551:
FIRST OF ALL, sorry, but u dnt know what you want yet. You like him a lot but you dnt love him? how do you think love starts

You know women are confused..

The lady is already in his arms..

Acidosis:
I know your type very well. I used to have one like that in my school days who call me all sort of names : "my sweetheart, my love", etc., meanwhile, she sleeps with random guys even in the same hostel.

I had to confront her one day, and told her frankly to stop the name callings. Girls always want it all. They want the tough & iron hand engagement with the bad guy, but love the emotional fantasy and romantic cover of the easy-going man whom they hardly love truly.

I blame that guy for allowing a flirt play with his head like CHESS. A f00l at 40 who cannot differentiate between friend zone and LOVE may never find REAL love till death.

If you don't love him, leave him. If we search deeply, your heart is definitely with another guy who probably does not give a HOOT about you.

You be correct guy Bros...All i see is a lady that wants to Flirt with him because of the things she get from him and He's the Director too...Its also called Clinching...Make everybody for office know say she and Oga dey very close...You dont love him but you like him very much??..For real??..I keep asking lades that say this trash this - "is it immediately you fall in love with a guy??"..Ladies are just soooo confused....

Guys in de house, let's take out some time and observe a minute silence for dat dude for being friendzoned.

missbronze:
Seriously, it happens like that.


You will like someone so much, yet, you don't love them. No matter how hard you try to convert the like to love, it wouldn't just come.


I am in that situation now.

You saying this too...Na wa oo...

Resurgence:
What sort of wickedness is this.

You should always let people who have no chance with you know immediately.

Why do you keep having dinner with him and telling him you think he is a play boy.

You keep encouraging him. The moment you noticed how he felt you should have withdrawn a little.

This is unfair, playing around with someone feeling as such. Tell him immediately how you feel. If he wants to remain friends it's his choice but stop giving him mixed signals

On point.

@OP:

I do not know what you mean by 'love' but that man sounds like a good husband material.

Dis reminds me of yrs back in uni. I use to av dis lady dat would always be around me in class n around campus. At a point, we were nominated as "best couple" in our dept. She would always come to d house, clean up, prepare mouth watering meal n speak well of me both in my presence n behind but if I toast dis babe to make am official (because wetin no b official, no b official ooo, learnt from experience) she go reject am hands down,insisting she is just ok bn just d way we wia.
I luk say oooooh! na me dis one wan kp as reserve bench?I no b maye na! O ti ooo! Eko lo bi mi si now! Lasgidi to sure. I started avoiding her, if she is coming from geology dept, omo I don speev enta chemistry.. I don't speak in her presence anymore, I don't inform her wen m leaving for d house from campus . Kai d tin enter her. She was forced to go report me to my closest pal dat it's like v lost interest in her. My padi just hala me say "baba, d babe don come report u to me oo" d rest na tori. Ladies, I give una hands.

nlfan:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

u like him alot.u like that u should BE hanging out,go out together,do dinner and talk from morning till night.what do you really think is the driving force behind this wishes of urs?that's FEELINGS.u have feeling for him just that u refuse to see it now.just change d way u look at him.IF YOU CHANGE THE WAY U LOOK AT THINGS,THE THINGS U LOOK AT WILL CHANG.

And this trash is giving front Page? Lalasticala eeh smh.

Resurgence:
What sort of wickedness is this.

You should always let people who have no chance with you know immediately.

Why do you keep having dinner with him and telling him you think he is a play boy.

You keep encouraging him. The moment you noticed how he felt you should have withdrawn a little.

This is unfair, playing around with someone feeling as such. Tell him immediately how you feel. If he wants to remain friends it's his choice but stop giving him mixed signals

Tell her jare.

Na jeje the guy dey mind hin business before you go flash am. Now wey he don pick the call you dey blame am say he chop your credit.