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Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 1:37am On May 25, 2016 |
I am a regular Nairalander with a different moniker, had to open this new one for privacy reason. It is with heavy heart I write this, I will try and give details as much as I can. I have been dating my girl for about four years now (my first and only relationship), she is going to 28yrs and me 31yrs (3 & 1/2yrs age difference). We are both devoted christians. It all started with my elder sister telling me to start praying for God to reveal my wife to me (I was 25 then). Personally I got my revelation/conviction of her being my wife about a year later I also involved some minister friends(advice on my revelations), and took about another one year later before we started dating. No sex until marriage rule agreed (it has been tough sticking to that especially for me as a man of my age but thanks to God). And so the Journey began, we became best of friends, great lovers, we are just the perfect Couple, plan and execute every targets together, Sponsored ourselves to finish our education (me weekend part-time, she open university). I supported her financially as best as i could, even once postponed payment of my school fees to pay hers (without her knowing mine was due, thank God my school later had strike) because she is managing a teaching job. Her mom has not been in support especially with the fact that I am not a "big boy" but her father maintains a neutral ground (although he loves me so much and I am closer to him than his two sons). I am the only male among seven children, One of My elder sister (the same one that initiated my prayer) never approved of her because she doesn't feels okay with her spiritually and warned me. Fast forward now, I have been able to buy the consent of my family, informed her dad of my plan to bring my family to begin the marriage process and now here comes the issue. Although on my own I have had revelations personally informing me of her family having spiritual issue but being blinded by love I never took it serious. Now my best friend went out to see a prophet and was told that in my fiancee's family (her mother's side) they have a problem that anytime they get married (the females) they pass through a phase of mental instability. In reality am aware the elder sister whose family am close to just recovered from hers after over two years. I was aware of the sister issue but never knew it was a family routine. The revelation of my friend made me to remember her mother's sister had serious sickness (not mental) that lasted over a year after she married. Now am in a fix, I love her so much, a greater part of me is willing to take the risk with her but my greatest fear is this; if this routine is not broken, can I be able to face the fact that I knowingly drag my future daughters into this mess? Advice please! Note: am not the prophecy freak person, never for once consulted a prophet myself and I tried avoiding it in this case. Cc: lalalasticlala |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by ronald4lif(m): 1:38am On May 25, 2016 |
And how many times will you create same thread? |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by freakthingz(m): 1:46am On May 25, 2016 |
Prophet said fam africans say such stupid things..... they probably have alzeihmers or something genetic and thats a big "IF" If you have cold feet just leave the girl to look for someone else jeez |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Nobody: 1:57am On May 25, 2016 |
Mr man,your problem is over-religiousness... just make a decision already and leave all this vision stuff .. the.real question is "does she wants to get married to you?".. if the answer is YES.. then you are good to go.. *iN olamides's voice* "F**k da shiit!!" |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 2:51am On May 25, 2016 |
freakthingz: The gene thing is my thought initially but. I could remember when the sister was having her trouble the mom mentioning during an open chat that there's an idol their fathers use to sacrifices to that the current generation has abandoned. |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 2:54am On May 25, 2016 |
HarkymTheOracle: Over religiousness indeed, if I leave vision stuff, will you also tell me to leave the two examples of the sister and aunty that I am a witness to? |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 3:14am On May 25, 2016 |
ronald4lif: Sorry for the double thread, you should know its network issue (don't know anyway of removing one). |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by rose54321: 3:17am On May 25, 2016 |
Dude thought you are a Christian, if you are then don't be superstitious. You shouldn't be afraid. What will be will be. Follow your heart and tackle challenges if they arise as they arise. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 3:25am On May 25, 2016 |
rose54321: Thanks! Its no superstition, I have witness the family members go through the trial. Yea, am always ready to face consequences of my decision but my major fear is taking that decision on behalf of my unborn children. |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Agbgift(f): 3:40am On May 25, 2016 |
@op just let the lady go, its obvious u are not ready to marry her. if wish to marry her, you ought to take her for deliverance, rather than spreading the news and countering all opinions that have been given to u so far. |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 3:53am On May 25, 2016 |
Agbgift: Don't rush into conclusion because you are a lady, did I attach her picture or address? If you read well you will see me mention that "a greater part of me is willing to take the risk". Coincidentally you share something in common with her Anyway thanks for you advice on deliverance. |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by biazarre(m): 4:54am On May 25, 2016 |
Mr op. I don't tink u nid any advise here.. its obvious non of d advise given to u by faithful nairalanders seem to b working... n for d record u ar too aggressive... even if d advise isn't d best, its not for u to counter it here, all u nid do is say a big thank u... not dat attitude of urs.. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Nobody: 5:13am On May 25, 2016 |
You are in a beautiful relationship the type many dream of having First you prayed and God gave you her you just had to go consult some prophet for what reason, I dont know Since you chose prophet over common sense you can continue with the prophet.. heck marry the prophet sef Oh and by the way that shìt you posted could have been a lot shorter. Im out
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Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by peter(m): 5:36am On May 25, 2016 |
PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE... I hope u understand me |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Nobody: 6:20am On May 25, 2016 |
Goghelpme:Hmmn.. thats true.. but u stil av to make your decision... to get married to her or NOT... We actually cannot tell u what decision to make as regards who to marry.. if u think the visions are a bad sign,then its simple,dont marry her.. all relationship must not always lead to marriage (no matter how long)... i hope i helped.. and i pray u make the right decision..God bless you |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 6:46am On May 25, 2016 |
HarkymTheOracle:Amen! Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 6:58am On May 25, 2016 |
biazarre: Funny you, guess you didn't read the thank you attatched to the post above you, if I claim okay with a view when I have something against it, how will others know give another solution? Anyway BiG THANK YOU to you |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 6:59am On May 25, 2016 |
Babzilla:Read again, I never consulted a prophet. Thank you |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Sunkyphil(m): 7:04am On May 25, 2016 |
It's better u take a walk now or u regret later |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Agbgift(f): 8:17am On May 25, 2016 |
Goghelpme:I share nothing in common wit her abeg o. |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 8:25am On May 25, 2016 |
Agbgift:Lol. You see you don't even want to be associate with her yet you are quick to castigate me, on the contrary I am 100+% proud of her. Seriously from your moniker you share name with her |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by pretydiva(f): 8:28am On May 25, 2016 |
With prayers,nothing is impossible |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 8:30am On May 25, 2016 |
pretydiva:Amen! Thanks |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by itoese(m): 8:59am On May 25, 2016 |
It all started with my elder sister telling me to start praying for God to reveal my wife to me (I was 25 then). Personally I got my revelation/conviction of her being my wife about a year later I also involved some minister friends(advice on my revelations), and took about another one year later before we started dating. No sex until marriage rule agreed (it has been tough sticking to that especially for me as a man of my age but thanks to God).[color=#006600][/issue Your statement above settles other issues you raise. Go ahead with the marriage plans |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by sirliu(m): 9:41am On May 25, 2016 |
OP, God has not given any human being the gift of seeing the future or clairvoyance. Only a few of his prophets. And even they weren't in the habit of telling their followers the future. If you love the babe, marry her and if you don't, don't marry her. I never listen to these fake prophets. They will lead you astray. If you are that concerned about her, take her to someone that will pray for her. The two of you should be steadfast in your prayers and things will resolve itself. |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by oscar039(m): 9:47am On May 25, 2016 |
@op if truly it was God that reveal her to you then go back to that God for possible solutions it maybe because of you God wants to. break that chain so please consult the provider of solutions.. she is the one for you and both of you need to pray in accord. God bless your marriage and your unborn children |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Nobody: 9:51am On May 25, 2016 |
Hian! Curse indeed. Dude, take her for a comprehensive psychological check-up. If nothing turns up, then go ahead and marry her! Don't see the reason for all this fuss...... |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 11:46am On May 25, 2016 |
itoese:Thank you |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 11:49am On May 25, 2016 |
sirliu: Why am bothered is not about prophecy but for the fact that I have witness two cases in the family. Thanks for you input |
Re: Help! Do I Still Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Goghelpme: 11:50am On May 25, 2016 |
oscar039: Amen thanks |
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