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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Nobody: 8:20pm On Jun 02, 2016
naijaboiy:
Okay safarigirl let's start with this.

What is the importance of a male bestie to girls who are in a relationship?

Is it really necessary?

If yes, why so? And how can you handle such without complicating things in your relationship.

cc:

Other girls who would like to answer.


I don't really believe in having besties. But I believe the male friends helps us put things in perspective when we're having problems with our partners. IMO sha.
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by naijaboiy: 8:21pm On Jun 02, 2016
safarigirl:
I once read a relationship article when I was 14 and the expert said, having friends of the opposite swx while in a relationship is wrong, back then I only had male friends so I didn't see the biggie.
But guys are very possessive people, so, I think girls who think rolling with another guy while in a relationship is cool are immature and need to get their priorities examined
If you're with someone, you should respect said person enough to minimize or cut off ties with people of the opposite sex. If your bestie thought you were that awesome, he would've made a move before your guy got to you....
Some girls are just greedy, the more male attention, the better. It gets them high
I Love this!

The only problem I have with some girls is that they can give advises but they may not follow it.

I hope you're not one? grin

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by ivyy(f): 8:21pm On Jun 02, 2016
dannyben5:
My second quest.is a girl's love more pure than that of a guy? Cc:twaci and others

From my perspective, when girl is truly in love and a guy is truly inlove, the guy always loves more cheesy cheesy

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Nobody: 8:23pm On Jun 02, 2016
naijaboiy:
Okay safarigirl let's start with this.

What is the importance of a male bestie to girls who are in a relationship?

Is it really necessary?

If yes, why so? And how can you handle such without complicating things in your relationship.

cc:

Other girls who would like to answer.



Good question cool

Having a male bestie is as important as having a female bestie, it all depends on the lady's choice. Some of us prefer a guy to a lady.

It is necessary, for me, I dont know about others, it's nice to have someone to talk to when you're confused about some certain things going on in your relationship, guys tend to know things about theirselves, and they give good advice, a good bestie can advice me on how to handle my relationship because he knows better.


Handling a bestie and a lover requires a lot of maturity, a lady should know where to draw the line between her boyfriend and her bestie, and try not to do things that will make her lover feel insecure or jealous, she should give them different treatments..."I guess the ladies will understand what I mean here" cheesy

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Nobody: 8:24pm On Jun 02, 2016
Following.....
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by naijaboiy: 8:24pm On Jun 02, 2016
mhiz:


I don't really believe in having besties. But I believe the male friends helps us put things in perspective when we're having problems with our partners. IMO sha.
But I hope you know that in every 10 male friends for example, about 9 will not mind going beneath the sheets with you.

I have a lot of friends who always give me tales of girls they've slept with who have boyfriends.

So when those guys get into serious relationships they are wary of those guys coming in the disguise of friendship cos they know those guys also have the same intention like they did to other people's girlfriends while they were single.
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Michellla(f): 8:26pm On Jun 02, 2016
Twaci:
Good day nairalanders! cheesy

So I was bored and thought of this; why not create an opportunity for guys to know us girls better?

So I did. This is an open thread where guys are allowed to ask questions, any question, about girls/women/ladies and I, or any female, can try to answer.

Are u confused about girls? Or moods? Is there anything you would love to know about us? Let us know and see how we can help cheesy

Ladies in the house! Who's up?

Laveda
Diddyydiva
Adeh39
Lanicky
Omotayor123
Dollyjoy
Refiner
Ivyy or ivvy
Mimzy
Optional1
Mysticalgal
Farano
Safarigirl
Misspicy
Ishilove
Estharfabian
Michellla
Cherryice
Sinaj
Missmary
Charijee
Taashamania
Dechanel
Tohphaz....
.
.
...Every girl out there!

Let's have fun cheesy
bring it ooon.

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Nobody: 8:26pm On Jun 02, 2016
slyIsaac:

What's tat one food you are can't eat without shuting your eyes to savor the taste?? (500 marks) grin

Ha lolz. This one pass me oooo angry
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by safarigirl(f): 8:26pm On Jun 02, 2016
naijaboiy:

I Love this!

The only problem I have with some girls is that they can give advises but they may not follow it.

I hope you're not one? grin

I think if myself as someone who is rooted into the idea of mutual respect in a relationship, just the thought if disrespecting a man in that manner annoys me. So, I guess I take my own advice more often than not.

But I've never been in a relationship, so, I can't say for now. I make my postulations based on the relationships of other people
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by optional1(f): 8:27pm On Jun 02, 2016
Cutehector:
Fifth question

If I offend my girlfriend, like a very very serious offense, and she gets all upset about the matter, should I as a guy, keep on pestering her with apologies that moment?


Or just give her time to cool down, befor coming to apologize. Note that in some cases, guys think dat not apologizing at that moment would mean he doesn't give a damn of her feelings, hence this second motive.




So which of the two works out best in seeking for forgiveness from a broken hearted girl


Ask for forgiveness immedately so she can forgive u nd smile again b4 she wil leave ur presence. Always ask at dat moment nd dont wait 4 days b4 u send ur apologies to her if not she will think u r among others who are too big to say sorry nd who always ask ur frnds for advice on wat to do. Dat shows dat u cant make decisions on ur own except someone intervene in ur relationship.

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by naijaboiy: 8:29pm On Jun 02, 2016
adeh39:



Good question cool

Having a male bestie is as important as having a female bestie, it all depends on the lady's choice. Some of us prefer a guy to a lady.

It is necessary, for me, I dont know about others, it's nice to have someone to talk to when you're confused about some certain things going on in your relationship, guys tend to know things about theirselves, and they give good advice, a good bestie can advice me on how to handle my relationship because he knows better.


Handling a bestie and a lover requires a lot of maturity, a lady should know where to draw the line between her boyfriend and her bestie, and try not to do things that will make her lover feel insecure or jealous, she should give them different treatments..."I guess the ladies will understand what I mean here" cheesy

I respect your opinion. But are you trying to say you can't make mature relationship decisions without involving a 3rd party?

If I check very well most of the so called problems are just petty quarrels that will naturally fizzle out when you are both settled.

Why do you feel there is a need to let someone else know? Why do you feel you must have an emotional trash can?

Lastly, I don't think it's balanced to compare having a female bestie with a male bestie. First of all most guys in serious relationship don't do female besties, I guess you know what having a female friend means to most guys.

Secondly, female besties don't always do the "job" male besties do for you girls so more often than not they are hardly threats to girls.
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by geni340(f): 8:29pm On Jun 02, 2016
zicoraads:
As a guy in a relationship, most times we can smell a new 'friend' of our lady who wants more than just friendship miles away.

Now, if a brother is not comfortable with a new friend his woman has just made and is asking that his woman remove the said guy from her life...BBM, Facebook etc. but the girl is claiming that she can't just remove him because she feels it isn't right and is also sighting examples of the guy's female friends that she has learnt to live with...is she right by claiming the guy is over reaching and has no business with the friends she makes...? Is the brother wrong in insisting that the guy leaves? Or, his woman has taken an interest in the other brother and he is about to be kicked to the curb?

if they ar in a serious relationship, d lady shuld b understanding. Guys somtyms feel insecure wen oda dudes hover arnd their ladies xpecially wen d lady is pwty. d lady u mentiond shuld b able to severe ' unhealthy' ties with oda guys.
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by dannyben5: 8:31pm On Jun 02, 2016
mimzy:

Ha lolz. This one pass me oooo angry
no run oo jst answer
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by optional1(f): 8:33pm On Jun 02, 2016
naijamakossa:
my last question

why do ladies find it very difficult to forget about the one that break their virginity or their first lover even when they are already dating someone else

I bet any guy in this room they are ready to leave u for that dude that break their virginity or their first lover


so ladies why


I have no idea to dis question ladies who av experience this will say better.

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by SmellingAnus(m): 8:35pm On Jun 02, 2016
mimzy:


Ha lol . Its up to you guys o. Twaci did a very good job by creating this thread so u guys should take a cue wink
ok dear... cool
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Cutehector(m): 8:36pm On Jun 02, 2016
Sixth question


Why do ladies naturally despise nice guys?

Or better still why do they friendzone them?
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Nobody: 8:36pm On Jun 02, 2016
naijaboiy:

But I hope you know that in every 10 male friends for example, about 9 will not mind going beneath the sheets with you.

I have a lot of friends who always give me tales of girls they've slept with who have boyfriends.

So when those guys get into serious relationships they are wary of those guys coming in the disguise of friendship cos they know those guys also have the same intention like they did to other people's girlfriends while they were single.


I think it depends on the way the girl relates with them. As a lady with a boyfriend, you should mind the way you relate to other guys.
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Twaci(f): 8:37pm On Jun 02, 2016
zicoraads:
As a guy in a relationship, most times we can smell a new 'friend' of our lady who wants more than just friendship miles away.

Now, if a brother is not comfortable with a new friend his woman has just made and is asking that his woman remove the said guy from her life...BBM, Facebook etc. but the girl is claiming that she can't just remove him because she feels it isn't right and is also sighting examples of the guy's female friends that she has learnt to live with...is she right by claiming the guy is over reaching and has no business with the friends she makes...? Is the brother wrong in insisting that the guy leaves? Or, his woman has taken an interest in the other brother and he is about to be kicked to the curb?

Understanding should come in here.

As a lady, I will ask myself these questions;

Do I really love my boyfriend to let my friend go?

Is my friend worth fighting over with my boyfriend?

Is he really just a friend?

With these, I can decide on the right thing to do.

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Nobody: 8:39pm On Jun 02, 2016
naijaboiy:

I respect your opinion. But are you trying to say you can't make mature relationship decisions without involving a 3rd party?

If I check very well most of the so called problems are just petty quarrels that will naturally fizzle out when you are both settled.

Why do you feel there is a need to let someone else know? Why do you feel you must have an emotional trash can?

Lastly, I don't think it's balanced to compare having a female bestie with a male bestie. First of all most guys in serious relationship don't do female besties, I guess you know what having a female friend means to most guys.

Secondly, female besties don't always do the "job" male besties do for you girls so more often than not they are hardly threats to girls.

I agree with her bro. Provided she choose the right person, the right advice and the right issue to seek advice for.
You just said it that there are pretty quarrels, that means there could be ones that a not.
She talks about drwing a line and that is very important.
Kudos to that girl~adeh99
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Laveda(f): 8:39pm On Jun 02, 2016
zicoraads:
As a guy in a relationship, most times we can smell a new 'friend' of our lady who wants more than just friendship miles away.

Now, if a brother is not comfortable with a new friend his woman has just made and is asking that his woman remove the said guy from her life...BBM, Facebook etc. but the girl is claiming that she can't just remove him because she feels it isn't right and is also sighting examples of the guy's female friends that she has learnt to live with...is she right by claiming the guy is over reaching and has no business with the friends she makes...? Is the brother wrong in insisting that the guy leaves? Or, his woman has taken an interest in the other brother and he is about to be kicked to the curb?


Kinda related to Naijaboiy's question.

This brings me to the question.

What does she really have with this guy?
Are they business partners?
School mates?

Or just the casual guy?

I feel there's more to the friendship reason she doesn't wanna let him go, you should look deep and see what it's all about.
And what kinda relationship does the guy have with other ladies? He should limit his.

Now call your woman, have a face to face talk with her, let her know you aren't comfortable with keeping the other guy close, let her know things can't work between you two if she doesn't let him go.
There must be a limit to their friendship, e.g, the calls and chat...if she can't limit them, then she should break out and continue with the other guy since she thinks he's more important.

Maybe you should come to some terms with her concerning this.. smiley

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by naijaboiy: 8:39pm On Jun 02, 2016
Every girl at one point in time or the other becomes dramatic in a relationship. They know it's not fair to the guy but they still do it. Though some are major drama queens but others show it albeit minimally.

Now to my question...

What is the importance of being dramatic sometimes in a relationship?

Is it necessary?

What point are you, as a girl, trying to prove by being unnecessarily dramatic to your partner?

Who drama epp?



N:B By dramatic I mean being "bïtchy" once in a while.

cc: Every girl on this thread.

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by ireneony(f): 8:40pm On Jun 02, 2016
I'm still here
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Nobody: 8:40pm On Jun 02, 2016
LADIES do u know that the sperm from a guy's big penis can be used to cure pimples, black spots and all facial problems? ladies have u tried applying semen on your faces? cc twaci, ivyy, mimzy and others
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Twaci(f): 8:44pm On Jun 02, 2016
SAINTSAMURAII:
LADIES do u know that the sperm from a guy's big penis can be used to cure pimples, black spots and all facial problems? ladies have u tried applying semen on your faces? cc twaci, ivyy, mimzy and others
Now this might be true as I have read articles to back it up.

But I don't think I have the guts to try out it....yet.

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by ireneony(f): 8:44pm On Jun 02, 2016
STFUareyouG0d:
Ireneony why you ignoring me?


That's my question for you
I'm not
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by optional1(f): 8:45pm On Jun 02, 2016
Am off gotta read mention my name if u want me to ans any question.

See u guys later!

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Deejavuu(f): 8:46pm On Jun 02, 2016
safarigirl:
the more excruciating thing is applying mascara IMO.

The eyeliner wish can get messy before you get it right, but it's pretty straightforward as opposed to drawing a brow...i'm yet to get the hang of drawing brows embarassed

grin

Naah, getting your brows done is easier. Plus you can always use a concealer to even out your arch as against a messy eyeliner.

To get you brows right, try to get your natural hair shaped properly first. wink
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by RexKexMilann: 8:47pm On Jun 02, 2016
Do ladies desire sex as much as men do? & even more?
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Twaci(f): 8:48pm On Jun 02, 2016
optional1:
Am off gotta read mention my name if u want me to ans any question.


See u guys later!
Thanks for your contributions dear. kiss
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by Nobody: 8:49pm On Jun 02, 2016
Twaci:
Now this might be true as I have read articles to back it up.

But I don't think I have the guts to try out it....yet.
Alright dear, when u finally have the guts, lemme know, mine is in the reserve in the refriderator in a container. its for sale but i will give u for free.
Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by ivyy(f): 8:49pm On Jun 02, 2016
naijaboiy:
Okay safarigirl let's start with this.

What is the importance of a male bestie to girls who are in a relationship?

Is it really necessary?

If yes, why so? And how can you handle such without complicating things in your relationship.

cc:

Other girls who would like to answer.


Friendship in it's ideal sense is a basic human necessity. Some find it in the opposite sex and others find it in the same sex. The problem however, is that so many who claim to find it in the opposite sex lie to themselves as most times they want something deeper.

As a girl, I think it's wrong for any lady who's in a serious relationship to go about flaunting another man as a bestie. The point is, her man should be her bestie.

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Re: Know Us Better (Girls Edition) by naijaboiy: 8:50pm On Jun 02, 2016
chisco82:

I agree with her bro. Provided she choose the right person, the right advice and the right issue to seek advice for.
You just said it that there are pretty quarrels, that means there could be ones that a not.
She talks about drwing a line and that is very important.
Kudos to that girl~adeh99
[b]Yea, it's always easy for them to tell you that they have drawn the line.

But when things happen they always can never explain. I'm not saying she's wrong but there are very few girls who are mature enough to keep a bestie and a boyfriend without causing complications.

You have a male bestie who just wants to "talk". To the girl it's normal.

He is lonely and just wants her to accompany him to the movies. To the girl it's normal.

She has a problem and she runs to him. To her she is just seeking advise.

Do you know that when girls share emotional troubles with a guy often, she gradually becomes attached to him. It may be subtle and she won't even notice it, most times all it takes is for her main guy to fück up as usual and she will run into her bestie's shoulders again and if he is the type who has ulterior motives, (which most times is always the case), he would take advantage of her vulnerability.

Other times it could be that she will end up dating that her friend when the relationship with her boyfriend is over.

It's not just advisable at all. If she needs any advise from anybody it should be someone whom she's not really close to and is neutrally attached to the both parties.
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