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| I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Holywizard: 8:53pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
I am so sorry to say this but it is actually the truth. Ever since I graduated last year my mum has made my life a living hell. I ve tried severally to get used to her bad attitude but all to no avail. She complains on every thing I do. In fact once she wakes up from sleep she must look for something to complain with. Since I graduated, I automatically stopped receiving cash from them & they (she & my dad) doesn't even care whether I have money to recharge my phone. Since last year they haven't given me ordinary #1000 & once I complain they will say 'no money' but my mum especially keeps buying unnecessary things. No money but she'll buy new shoes, clothes, bags, cell phone etc which she won't even put on. Last week, our last born of de family came back from school & she took him out for shopping & she spent not less than #50,000 on him. Everything she does now is on the boy. My mum can even wash the plates on behalf of him. Everything he does is right. She protects the boy like an egg. When an old friend wanted me to come over to PH so that I'd be managing his business before I go for service, my mum refused, saying that the days are bad via money ritualism. All my elder siblings called me to talk sense into me that I should just stay back, I missed that big opportunity because I'd ve been having like hundreds of thousands in my bank account. My parents doesn't care about my welfare. Right now I don't have up to #1000 in cash & in bank. I think they hate me & I I hate my mum the most!!! I just feel like leaving the house for them. 14 Likes 13 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by madridguy(m): 8:56pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
My broda, you're fortunate enough to have parent that put you through the University and you're here grumbling over pocket money after graduation. I am laughing in Congolese, systematically your mom is telling you to start hustling. 260 Likes 14 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by amtaken(f): 9:00pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
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| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by sisisioge: 9:06pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
Are you serious sweetheart? They put you through school and are feeding/housing you now. Pls do not fail to launch...they have invested a lot on you biko. May God provide you with a good job o madam(sorry o, I meant oga, u sounded like a girl...). About the little boy, it is his turn now. 210 Likes 11 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Chinyeresandra(f): 9:12pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
Eyah.....Pele 3 Likes |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Acidosis(m): 9:14pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
So none of your elder siblings is ready to accommodate you? They left the same house to their present locations, and want you to stay back home? Grow up bro. 101 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Nobody: 9:24pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
It is well 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by TheArchangel(f): 9:27pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
You sound so entitled to your mum's pocket. So she can't treat herself to good things because she has an ineffectual Buffon as a son.? Get off  Guys, please, stop quoting me to yarn trash. A grown ass man yapping about how he hate his mum, huh? Yo want me to clap for him? Ain't happening. Thanks for your understanding. 107 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Holywizard: 9:29pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
TheArchangel:ok 20 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by blesoh(f): 9:30pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
Bro go and hustle, they have train you na. You don't have to depend on them na. Just look at what you want them to give you money for "airtime"? Stop sleeping and stand up, do something mbok. 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Eleniyan15: 9:30pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
?? 1) it shows your mom Pamper you when you where still an undergraduate abi them still give you money till when you graduate finish. **InSeanTizzleVoice!!!! everyday for the hustle on they for the hustler egbon go get a life no time for dulling look around you and start something even though if nah 18000 teaching job as long you not sit idle and looking @ things if them cook for house you still dey see there food chop no be say you dey buy mama put everytime. Why you con dey hala And don't you have friends you can scout with although am still an undergraduate but the worst that should happen too any graduate is to go back home after finishing NYSC am telling you from alot of bro experience Your suffering just continue especially if you even stay in a polygamous family. DONT SIT AT HOME GET SOMETHING DOING ALL THOSE ELDER BRO THAT CALLED YOU BACK WHERE ARE THEY NOW??! DID THEY GIVE YOU ANY JOB,LOL BRO GO WISE UP YOU MISSED A business OPPORTUNITY NIGGA LIFE IS A RISK JUST TAKE IT.. #QUESERA SERA YOU ARE MAN!!!!!! E GO BETTER N.P kiss Daniel *mama 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by rheether(f): 10:08pm On Jun 12, 2016 |
You are now a burden to them. Go and get a job. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Amicable24: 11:04am On Jun 13, 2016 |
Holywizard:Hating them, especially mum, won't do you any good.. They have been there for you and still house you. Some of their actions may upset you but have you ever asked them why the attitude towards you? Even if they fail to give you a good reason, I don't advice you hate them, she is your mum and they are your parents for crying out loud.. Just put yourself together, pray God to take away the hatred you have for them, especially for you mum.. Pray for your mum too and ask God to restore HIS Love between you two and among every member of your family.. Hating will definitely do you no good.. I'm talking from experience.. 21 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Amicable24: 11:06am On Jun 13, 2016 |
TheArchangel:No sis, don't be too hard on the boy 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Nobody: 11:23am On Jun 13, 2016 |
Op, the worst thing u can add to your destiny is hating your mum. Do u think its easy to train one through school? She and your dad has laboured and done the best for you through taking care of you throughout your university days, at least u have a roof under your head. For crying out loud , u are a man .. And start behaving like one. I run a skilled training school, if u see the number of female undergraduates learning different skills to use in the labour market u will be shocked. Ladies are now preparing themselves for the world out there.. Their mindset is this? If there is no white colar job after graduating, will i still seat at home waiting for mum and dad? The answer is No. They know , parents wil stop giving handouts after graduation. They expect you to be able to fend for yourself. Before the girls graduate, they are already making money by the side either by hairdressing, sewing, event and planning things. They dont stay idle and wait anymore. How much more a guy? I look at most young guys , wasting their time, chatting , playing, sleeping with all sorts instead of learning and equiping themselves with sellable skils.. Asking babes or parents for recharge cards.. I shake my head U better wake up and start thinking of how to acquire a sellable skil that reeks in money into your account. There are no jobs out there.. Better wake up from yur slumber.. School days are over.. U are now in the world as it is.. Wake up..! 41 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Holywizard: 11:27am On Jun 13, 2016 |
Amicable24:ok |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Nobody: 11:51am On Jun 13, 2016 |
Holywizard: I want to believe you're above 18. You're not a kid, you're an adult. In most countries, people your age don't even live with their parents anymore. Now that you've graduated, you're on your own. Didn't anyone tell you that? Do you expect them to spoon feed you till you turn 30? Get a job and grow up. 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Nobody: 11:55am On Jun 13, 2016 |
Amelian: Spot on! 8 Likes |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by keepingmum: 12:23pm On Jun 13, 2016 |
so you are waiting for your mum to give you money for recharge cards? You no de even shame? mtshewww  Your mates are hustling on the streets, working with bricklayers & builder and raking in 3k daily you are here on nairaland complaining like a self entitled child. Imagine your complaints, washing dishes etc   Guy wake up and smell the coffee, your folks have done more than enough for you. Have you considered working in a barbing saloon till you get a "normal" job? Abi you are too big to do that as a "graduate"? Have you considered teaching extra lessons to pupils? there was a guy who made a frontpage thread on nairaland few weeks about how he makes 90 - 110K a month by teaching pupils extra lessons and he even turned down a "graduate" job of 70k a month, Can i ask what you have done to upgrade and upskill yourself since graduation? BTW, what makes you think you would have being having hundreds of cash in ur bank from ur PHC paroles? theres enough advise for you here if you choose to listen 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by iPrevail(m): 1:50pm On Jun 13, 2016 |
Some people are just dumb, maybe for the fun of it.. Y'all calling him lazy and ineffectual didn't read where he said he wanted to go off to PH and start a job? To you Op, you'll accomplish nothing through hate.. pata pata Na you e go kill. Just chill okay? look for other jobs around your area or nearest locality. learn a skill or som'in. However, follow your guts if you must! If you have a reliable friend you can crash with while trying to get a job.. cool, do it. No look anybody face o.. This life na only you waka come. 78 Likes 12 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by oweniwe(m): 2:54pm On Jun 13, 2016 |
iPrevail: Don't mind them. As if they all got jobs right away after graduating... We dont even know if the o.p is awaiting NYSC 34 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by misreal(m): 4:16pm On Jun 13, 2016 |
iPrevail:this is what i havr been waiting to read..op is not lazy,his parents are just trying to limit him.a man that can leave his fathers house just after graduation to ANOTHER CITY,is not lazy....op should just get a job where he stays. 26 Likes |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by shitshappen(m): 6:00pm On Jun 13, 2016 |
Some of us are late bloomers, Pele. It I really difficult to launch at this current state of the economy. And it's entirely wrong of his family to abandon him just because they saw him through school. I get his sense of entitlement though, but he's not made until he's made. 5k for you from me. Claim it if u want it. 16 Likes |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Kaira333: 6:53pm On Jun 13, 2016 |
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| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Amicable24: 7:28pm On Jun 13, 2016 |
Holywizard:Pls, don't just say ok.. I do hope u think about what I told you and do accordingly.. God bless you and your family 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by InformedLola(f): 5:56am On Jun 14, 2016 |
Op, your mum's attitude is what is called 'tough love'. She simply wants you to grow up, man up and start fending for yourself. Your parents have done more than enough to train you, now it's time you train yourself. imagine being jealous of your brother getting stuff for school, didn't you get same in your own time? Stop being childish please. You said your Mum complains a lot, I won't blame her. From the little you have exhibited here in narrating your story, you must act like a spoilt brat at home. That said, it's not surprising your Mum is against your working in PH. It's not the safest place in the world and the fact it's not a job with a reputable company but a friend shows it might not be a reliable and 'clean' offer. Search for jobs in your state. Really, you need to sit yourself down, talk to the man in the mirror and GROW up. 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by naijacentric(m): 6:52am On Jun 14, 2016 |
shitshappen:guy spot on joor i dont know wats wrong wif everybody here behavin as if dey dont know wats goin on in nigeria nairaland is so full of imatured n heartless people goodness! 18 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by amicable09(f): 7:12am On Jun 14, 2016 |
Amicable24:Ahn! I came to encourage the OP when I saw a moniker like mine... I don't know how I feel seeing my 'moniker sake' ... I feel like crying and laughing at the same time. Nice moniker though. ******************* OP, I'm happy your mum is making the house uncomfortable for you. You are too comfortable at home for a guy. I mean who comes out to say they are beginning to hate their mum because she's not giving him money for airtime? If it were she didn't give you transport money to go for test or interview in another state cos you've run out of savings I'd have said she overdid it but mere call card ?Upgrade your hate game! Leave the house everyday! Engage yourself in sth productive whether you are paid or not and your mum will be happy. Try it for one month and you'll see changes. 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by shitshappen(m): 7:39am On Jun 14, 2016 |
naijacentric: I know for them? I have been trying to set up a second business this year something that has a local content with no bearing whatsoever with oil and importation, I know how difficult it has been. Now imagine the plight of someone in OP's shoe. No resources and no job. 8 Likes |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by DonOms(m): 7:56am On Jun 14, 2016 |
@OP: Firstly, your parens don't hate you. You just have a different understanding from theirs and none of them discussed their reality with you but acted it out, hence your confusion. And majority of those who gave you 'tough' advice up here don't hate you either, they have just told you the truth in a harsh tone. I don't believe you're lazy. You haven't just started to come to terms with the "survival of the fittest" race you automatically signed up for upon graduation. So here's what you must do: 1) Stop hating your mom. Show her love because it's a privilege you have a mother under whose roof you live and eat. 2) Convert your hate (towards your mother) into passion for what you have interest in and to learn a skill (or get a temp job) that can fetch monetary gains. This will help you a lot as you go for service in the coming months and even beyond. 3) DO NOT EXPECT HELP FROM ANYONE. Don't get me wrong. You can accept help, but never expect it's someone's job to give it. This will give you a sense of responsibility that will give you the edge you need in this competitive world of ours. Don't leave home now. NYSC will evict you anyway. Just get busy in your current environment and make yourself relevant. Things will get tougher for you from now but see it as a learning process and make the best of it. The best advice for you isn't 'grow up,' it is 'rise up.' 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by ashjay001(m): 8:55am On Jun 14, 2016 |
Holywizard: Ur signature says wisdom? U need to add maturity. If ur parents are not meeting ur needs and u get an opportunity to fend for urself, how did u den allow urself to be talked out of it?! Get a job, get out of their house, u'll earn more respect and they might be trying to ginger u out of ur default mode. 4 Likes |
| Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Godmother(f): 9:00am On Jun 14, 2016 |
OP Welcome to the world of being a graduate. In Nigeria, once you graduate most parents stop giving you money and make the environment uncomfortable for you so as to drive you to look for a job. I experienced it and started sleeping in cafes applying for ANY job. But have it at the back of your mind that they don't hate you. Just get a good job and see how you will become their golden son once again. 8 Likes 1 Share |
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