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Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by joey150(m): 10:27pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
Yeah yeah! Everybody with their fairy tales about how they hustled and all.. Don't fall for that trick..most of them they their mama room currently they type that thing. A parent should support a child if they can. I dont believe in that graduate and become alone bullshit. As well as...every man for himself too.. Turn the hate to ginger and find your square root. Peace! 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Amicable24: 10:35pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
amicable09:Hi 'Monicker sake' |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by darlenese(f): 10:36pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
Its a pity that a graduate is reasoning this way, it shows how unproductive u are! Instead of going out to hustle, u are sitting down, waiting for mummy to put food in your mouth ! What a pity! Msheeeewwww |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Nobody: 10:39pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
Some people would kill for what you have. Man up , be grateful and begin go find yourself. That's what being a man is about |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by MattChidi(m): 10:45pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
oga go hustle. ..put the the knowledge you've acquired into use...Time wait for no one. Solve a problem and see money flow to you...not after NYSC but now! |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by harsysky(m): 10:45pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
OP, I really don't know how you feel, but I know that for you to say you hate your mum, you feel very sad and almost depressed. Don't hate on mum. Dnt even utter it to anyone's hearing, cos when you hate, hatred will be attracted to you. I'm not surprised why majority of comments here have been on lashing you. It's law of attraction! Learn a skill and a valuable one. Keep enduring , and I believe you'll succeed. To those lashing on him, Life doesn't just end or start where op is. Y'all are gonna need people to hear y'all one day and reason with you, but your "law of attraction" will come. People will put it just the way you gave it to the Op and accept it like a man! Most times advice doesn't need snide talks. It's the same reason why beating can neva be better than quality talk. Most people here on Nairaland have low mentality and need to work on it. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Holywizard: 10:47pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
swaggprofessor:I graduated wit an UPPER CREDIT @ Fedpolynek |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Leez(m): 10:48pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
Holywizard:seun! seun!! seun!!! hw many times now pls create a fiction section for these writers nah all this superstory everytime is tiring warridis the army story here some days back was reality with a bit of fictiob and the writer was wise enough to say so and to think ppl are actually commenting on this shows you why nigeria is like this at the moment |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by iPrevail(m): 10:56pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
LaExpert: My brother you're so right. Every man gets to that point in life where he must carve his own path and walk on it... perhaps the OP has gotten to his. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by firstolalekan(m): 11:05pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
shitshappen:I just learnt something from you... |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by sukkot: 11:11pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
you should. if that daughter of eve you call ya mama was not ready to take care of you till you find your feet she shoulda kept her legs closed. nonsense. nigeria no get welfare system bros you sef try acquire skills na ? try hair barbing or making shoes or sewing designer suits etc etc |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by spafu(m): 11:13pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
If I catch you, I swear you no go recognize your body odour again. What rubbish are you spewing out here? I left my parents at 18 years of age, enrolled myself for a tutorial classes and registered myself for three GCEs till I made all my papers and struggled to get admission and then sponsored myself from my diploma up to my M Sc degree. And here you are still collecting or expecting to collect money from your parents even after graduation. Are you not ashamed of yourself? When will you grow up and become a man? Why won't your mum complain and make the house uncomfortable for you? As long as the place remains comfortable for you, you won't take a step to get out there and make a life of your own. She is helping you man. Go out and be a man. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by andyanders: 11:14pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
DonOms: Well said herein. This should be the best answer op needed in order for him to grow up. Life is tough. He should thank his God that his parents are alive.The advice not to go to PH was a very reasonable advise from his parents.You can ONLY trust yourself in life but can learn to study people in order to understand who they are. Op, never give up on your mother. You can call her and open up this issue in order to know her mind than trying to hate her. For giving you education, that is the best legacy for your person and in future, you will come to terms with her.You can never have another mother in life. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Nobody: 11:18pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
Dont hate dem, and infact, i blame you, not them. One serious problem youth face is dat d hide under the umbrella of student and d dont invest. I wil b goin bk to skul by God grace and since last year septmberm, my mum av nt given me up2 1000 till date. Sum times wen u see d future and a little chance, grab it. Let dem say u are storbone but b sure of ur target. BUT LOVE YOUR MUMMY, SHE HAVE NO DUPLICATE OOOOOOO! |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Nobody: 11:23pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
spafu: Remain Bless My Brother. I pray not to depend on my parent anymore. When will he be a man na? A graduate for dat mata. Chineke nekwe num o. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Totfulguy: 11:26pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
Holywizard: Please leave the house. Judging by your name "holywizard" you are confused (A wizard cannot be holy). People who have put in their best for you deserve gratitude not hate. You need to leave the house before you make front page again for the wrong reason. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by nonix22(m): 11:30pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
Bros, to start with eh, change that your monicker. It sounds some how. 2ndly, your location states Poland, if trully you are there or dream to go there and stay, delete that from your head asap as Nigeria is way way better than Poland. But their girls are adorable . 3rdly, you sound like one that gets anything he asks for until lately. What was ur savings after service?? If your mum can spend up2 50k on ur wee bro, I bet you had the same treatment in ur days and u misused it. I bet you hardly help in the house chores?? Man up and talk to your folks mate! |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Roland17(m): 11:39pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
You are hating a woman who carried you for 9 months, labored to give birth, breast fed you lazy self because of money and recharge cards? are u normal? honestly, u need a reset slap..and you need one quickly. Nonsense |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by ericmor: 11:40pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
DonOms: Op, u can seek for assistance or help but do not rely on it bcs man do fail but God never fails. Just trying to put a touch on wat dis brother has said. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Holywizard: 11:45pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
u people shud pls understand me. I ve plans but no money to execute any. For now am on my own |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Seawhy(m): 11:45pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
OP,thank God that u have graduated and very soon, you would realise how this world is. Bet me u will regret hating your mother for a minute. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Holywizard: 11:47pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
ericmor:assistance from who? I'm on my own, don't u get it? |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Holywizard: 11:47pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
Totfulguy:I ve notin to leave de house wit |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Nobody: 11:55pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
i dont care to read what you have to say to justify the title of this thread to tell you what an ingrate you are time would come when you would look for that same woman you hating but you would never see her.. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by spafu(m): 11:58pm On Jun 14, 2016 |
Manueleee:Amen bro and stay bless too.. And may God Almighty continue to crown our efforts. A time comes in the life of a man when he must plunge into the deep world of unknown future, most especially, in the type situations we have found ourselves in Nigeria. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by shitshappen(m): 12:09am On Jun 15, 2016 |
radiokilla: Lol |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by shitshappen(m): 12:13am On Jun 15, 2016 |
Holywizard: Do the needful |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Nobody: 12:20am On Jun 15, 2016 |
Guy how old are you? No pun intended...congratulations, you made front-page. Holywizard: |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Nobody: 1:08am On Jun 15, 2016 |
Holywizard:3 solutions to your predicament 1. Hustle hard my brother 2. Just keep hustling 3. Repeat no 1 and 2 again. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Kazrem(m): 2:21am On Jun 15, 2016 |
Instead to seek advice on how to secure job after nysc, you are complaining about your parents who paid your school fees for 4 years or more. |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Emeka71(m): 2:23am On Jun 15, 2016 |
Holywizard:Is not possible for your mother to hate you ; in life after Jesus ;is mummy that has the strong love for you ;not even your father can love you the way your mother love you . |
Re: I Am Beginning To Hate My Mother!!! by Totfulguy: 2:26am On Jun 15, 2016 |
Holywizard: Ok...am not one who likes to come down hard on anyone. So am sorry to have sounded the way I did. But reading your post, I could sense the rage under your breath and I thought, in your interest, you should leave the house. But you do sound sober, so I will give you my honest opinion. I presume you are relatively young, thus your rather selfish and childish (no insults meant) assessment of your situation. I know as you grow older (compulsory) and grow up (optional) you will find out that there are things in life that were not entitled to, which we have and for which we should be eternally grateful. Here are a few things you have for which you should be grateful one of them is your caring parent. But to help you re-orientate your mind, take the following into consideration. 1. Caring Parents: By your admission, your parents have cared for you the best way they can. And they deserve your gratitude. Life is like a relay race. Parents run and hand the baton over to their children. The baton must be handed over whether we like it or not. Many parents do not consider it a necessity to prepare their children for the responsibility of "handling the baton" (eg, Showing them love, teaching them life values, give them an education or a vocation, stand by them when they need help and be there until they become adults (18 years old). But you have this. You see at some point, our parents, especially those who have 3, 4, 5 children, believe that they have done their bid for you and it is your turn to hold the baton. I can assure you, that if you have shown the expected sense of duty and responsibility, eg showing that you can handle issues responsibly and hold your own (and this does not require money) your parents will give you added privileges. But if all they hear is a whining son/daughter who appears to "drop the baton" when you should actually run with it, then you will not blame them for the treatment you are getting. "You dress to be addressed" they say. So instead of seeming to whine and beef, can you look at ways that you can be useful to your parents and take some responsibilities off them to lighten their load? Can you teach your younger brother or sister and assist with home chores. Or are you always on your phone doing so much but actually doing nothing? Your parent want to see you take more responsibilities off them and not be a burden. They have tried. 2. Understand that they don owe you: You see you need to be honest with yourself and realize that your parents have played their part and really do not owe you the things you now ask (as if of right) of them. They have done their bid. Ask yourself, if you did not have parents (like many who do not) what would you have done with yourself? I often ask young people who claim that they are lagging behind BECAUSE of their parent's failure to step forward and assist, If your parents are responsible for your backwardness, who will be responsible for those of your children? This thought gave me the drive to mentally detach myself from my parents strings and understand that I am all alone with God. This mentality helped me to look for my own things no matter how little as long it is genuine and has my name on it. So leave your rage behind and start looking for little genuine things to do and get busy. If you start leaving your house to "little things", you will see less of your mum and much less of what she is doing for your little one. You will probably come back too tired to notice what they are doing. I can tell you from my experience, that the moment you start going out of the house to do a small job, their attitude towards you may change. As a person, before I started my own business, I have sold shoes OK shoes, artworks, ran errands for people etc. And I kept busy with those things until I got a job. [b]3. Be sincerely grateful to your parent: [/b]You will notice that for as long as you are harboring resentments towards your parents, you will only stifle the creative functions of your brain and end up living in that closed enclave called "self" where nothing else exists but you. You need to think beyond yourself and think of what you can do for your parent. Ask yourself, if the responsibility of caring for your parents fell on your shoulders RIGHT NOW, would you be able and willing to stand up to it? Or will you see an opportunity to seek revenge? Times are tough, I know. But you can start small, start somewhere, start somehow. I hope this help. 1 Like |
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