@ mama zaynie. Most ttc ers wouldn't mind having their sisters kids around, so long you dont let them take over completely the cleaning, and the care of the children. They may pretend as if they dont mind, because they dont want to seem as rejecting children, but when you are gone, they may resolve to tears, with thoughts like ' see I have now turned to nanny for my kid sister, zaynie of yesterday'
Like loisemm said, moderation is the key.
Also, you may decide to indirectly ask her. Maybe in the mood of sisterly bonding and gisting. You can like 'Sis, I want to ask you something ooo. Sorry for asking, but tell me sincerely, do you feel depressed or sad after bringing the kids and we leave. I dont want to cause you pain' pls dont mention your hubby. Just say its a thought that had been nagging through your mind, and you just decided to ask her. Because of how close I am to my sisters, I can ask them such question. I believe it depends on your closeness with your sisters.
That's My opinion though

So, it's my birthday today. I truly wanted an abundant shower of bfps this month, like we had last year june. It was indeed miraculous and some how surreal. That was the highest record of bfp on the thread since I joined NL. Anyway, Lord am still hopeful. I knowYou will do it.
You said the latter glory shall be greater than the former.
We wait on You.
Abundant shower of bfp on this thread is what I desire Lord. Thats all the gift I need.
Amen.
Fertility blessings y'all

Happy Birthday @mamakendra I pray the good God will grant you your heart desires ijn

@ MamaKendra: Happy birthday, may the Lord grant you your heart desires in Jesus name.

@mamakendra, Happy Birthday sis. God bless your new age and add more life to u. You will grow very old and carry your great-grandchildren. Nobody will represent u. U will be alive to fulfill your destiny.

@zaynie, ahhh pls don't stop going with ur kids o. Ori omo lo n pe omo waye o. Pls don't stop at all. Continue pls.

@anikeayun, pls don't touch the pimples. Leave them until u make ur confirmation. On a normal day, my face has no pimples but throughout pregnancy I had ogbonge pimples. And I didn't rub anything. When I gave birth they disappeared. So just hold on small. Unless u have pcos like one mama suggested. But pls confirm before u take meds o.

Happy birthday mamakendra.
Last year June was too sweet.
Someone quoted something about being d 6th month when Elizabeth saw Mary n the child in her jumped for joy.
Like you. I am so expectant for Mamas here..
May God Almighty bless wombs. Open closed wombs n make every home fruitful.

jasmos:
Please does any one know a good urologist in benin? Really in need of one right now. Thanks

cc: mama Fvine. I believe she has the lists of medical centers. U can search list of hospitals under her previous posts. Others may know too. Tk cr

mamakendra, a very happy birthday to U. What the Lord has started in ur life, He will complete in Jesus name. May His mercies never depart from U & ur family.

Oh Lord Our Help in Ages Past
Our hope for Years to Come
Our Shelter from the Stormy Blast
And Our Eternal Hope
....
Mighty Father, we thank You for this month and this weekend. We thank You for the discussion we had yesterday through to today. Heavenly Lord, You heard & read all of them. You know where we all are coming from and our destinations in life.
All knowing God, guide us... lead us... empower us... manifest our fruitfulness this season we pray. We commit the mamas that have been in your waiting room for long.
Baba God, remember them for good. Make them smile permanently as you bless them with godly children.
Those of us here waiting on You Lord, let our expectations never be cut short.
Those of us battling fibroids, tubal blockages, miscarriages, ectopic... Lord, rise up and fight our battles. Those of us battling hormonal issues or unexplained issues or whatsoever terms docs come up with, Master Healer, thank You for solving them for us.
Baba God, we re-commit ourselves into your hands... Show forth ur mighty works through us Lord. Through Jesus Christ we ask and have received. Amen.

@mamakendra, happy birthday!!!
@iomoge2, as per quarrel may God help me cos I try my best to hold back bt smtimes I just v to voice out my emotions. Initiating kpekus constantly is frustrating; to the extent even my mum now prefers that I leave him. I neva even expected he wld flare up, if u v a DH like mine u will understand can u believe , It took me 4 yrs of crying,petting,loving,shouting etc to convince him to do sfa. All I pray is that Noone experiences such.

@mama kendra,happy birthday.May the Lord bless you and make your joy overflow.Even as this special day falls on fathers day i pray that this time next year,u and ur dh wud celebrate with ur lo's.
Happy father's day to all father's in the house and our dh's.U will indeed be father's to your children and u will live long to see them grow,u will grow old and reap the joy and gains of fatherhood in Jesus name.

mamaTB:
@mamakendra, happy birthday!!!
@iomoge2, as per quarrel may God help me cos I try my best to hold back bt smtimes I just v to voice out my emotions. Initiating kpekus constantly is frustrating; to the extent even my mum now prefers that I leave him. I neva even expected he wld flare up, if u v a DH like mine u will understand can u believe , It took me 4 yrs of crying,petting,loving,shouting etc to convince him to do sfa. All I pray is that Noone experiences such.

Happy birthday @ Mamakendra pls don't cry like me oooo cos I cry every birth day and wedding anniversaries. Make sure you are happy today prepare your best and make sure u kpekus in a way to remember this day! give diff style u never use before.

@mamaTb I feel u lookup.its being like that for me too. infact ehn sometime when its around ovulation and we r not talking its better cos I just wake him and say oya I cant miss this month. stand up!he obeys and we continue malice. There is nothing uil tell my DH that he won't pick offence am praying for him but I also adjusted I don't join d malice I tell what I want and ask for what I want and greet him normal. Another thing is I gave him Bcomplex (browse bco for male fertility) and prepared combination of garlic Onion alligator pepper in ogogoro( we don't drink oooo but where I saw it they insisted u use it) after one week we dilute withboiled water. I testify sperm jumpedlesss than. million to 63mil. after 3mpnths. have result here. Manix and others from doc never worked

@mamakendra, happy birthday, may God Almighty grant all your heart desires and cause you to celebrate soon in Jesus name.


Hmmm! TTC is something I will never for wish my enemies in life. By next month I will be five years in marriage. I have tried all my best and I have handed it over to God.
Before i got married, I thought all waiting mothers are those whose menses have ceased, so in my wildest imagination I wasn't expecting i would experience delay because my cycles works perfectly like a clock.

For me, both families have been supportive but most time when I see people that got married after with their children, I asked myself when will I carry my own kids. Tears were almost coming down my eyes today in church when intending fathers were being prayed for and I felt ashamed of myself for not being able to give my dh children yet, so i stylishly wiped the tears so people won't noticed. I have told myself that I wont go for altar calls again when ttcers' are been called because I'm beginning to feel ashame.
Funny enough when there is revival program in church, you will be the one people are always looking out for, if you cant attend, some people will see you as an unserious person that have not prayed enough.
Now I don't know if I should say my faith has turned to hope. Just waiting for the earnest expectations, that is why I dey do siddon look things.

It is well, I know there is always sunshine after the rain.
We shall laugh last!

Ttc hmmm, i have learnt so much, on d positive it makes the bond btw dh & i stronger, on d -tive it makes me to deliberately avoid so may pple, frnds, family & in laws cos am so tired of their trying to care prayers, have also changed department cos of some of my colleagues cos i work @ d infant welfare clinic then am now in family planning clinic. Uhn it's so disheartening seeing pple cry because they are preggy & sum go for abortion in order to assess fp *wen me am crying & praying just to have wat they do not want*. This our God he's thoughts are different from ours. To mention few, if i shld start saying all i wont stop today, my God all am asking is dat u give me a new name.

Pls is there anyone that want to sell fertilsan m, am interested pls, i reside in Akure

pls

Happy Sunday to all mama's may will witness more of it in good health and happiness IJN.
Am in my 2ww but am seriously feeling malaria symptoms pls is it advisable to take anti malaria
. Cc mama fvine,sugar and other sabi mamas ..........thanks

Happy Birthday mumkendra

haryourlar:
Happy Sunday to all mama's may will witness more of it in good health and happiness IJN.
Am in my 2ww but am seriously feeling malaria symptoms pls is it advisable to take anti malaria
. Cc mama fvine,sugar and other sabi mamas ..........thanks

No pls jst take paracetamol until u hv proof dt its a bfn(af). Until den, just endure.

Sixx:
No pls jst take paracetamol until u hv proof dt its a bfn(af). Until den, just endure.

thanks God you bless real Good

Thanks to Fvine and Sugah i have stopped taking the vit B6 and also thinking of stopping omega 369 for now till i see AF. Today makes it 7days that i have not seen it i dont normally miss my Af but funny enough i am calm its just that i want to get it over with HSG.

Happy birthday to Mamakendra the lord bless your new age and give you the best birthday gift.

wow 4realwoman i am so sorry to hear about your experience from the herbs of the Akure woman. Funny enough i wanted to patronise her but i was afraid of DH because he told me in clear terms that i shouldnt do anything or take anything for the fibroid. He took the results to be analized by gynacologists and they told him it wont stop conception but i wanted to secretly patronise her but the day she called me i and DH was in a heated quarrel infact i was even saying oya come and collect your dowry back no be small thing but the lord took control. i sent her a text later and even called her but she never replied i concluded maybe God didnt want me to try her so i forgot about it. My advice to you will be if the fibroid is a threat to conception pray about it and go for surgery the lord will take care of you but if not leave it.

at Zaynie i think i go with mamakendras suggestion why dont you jokingly ask your sisters how they feel and pls dont mention DH. Yes your husband is right they might feel bad and ask themselves no be this our small sis wey we carry na she don get kids? But still dont deny them the love, joy and company that the kids will bring into their life the feeling is priceless. Your kids can also be a point of contact for them having their own kids too.

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my sister men of these days sef i tire o for me i cant really pin point what causes our quarrels little little things and the bad part is i am short tempered but these days i have been praying to God to give me the mind of enduring whatever he comes up with and its been working but this happens when am far like when i travel but if we are together we never quarell. God help us

Happy birthday Mamakendra. Enjoy ur day, n do not let d devil steal ur joy. May ds be ur last birthday ttc. Ur prayer is same as mine.

Honestly reading what mamas here are passing tru courtsey ttc, tears just welled up in my eyes cos av bin dere tho not even upto some bt ttc is ttc, the pain is undescribable, n am like 'God look at all these women calling on u in distress, pls answer dem because u are more dan able n capable evn in one day'.

Well this fathers day will not pass u by, go n kpekus, God does nt care wen ur ovulation is or weda u do or not. I neva knew dt i ovulate either, n i never will. Dia was no sign atall, bt he did it just wen i hd decided 2 find out 4 myself. Kpekus n tell God wat u want, he will do it. My prayer is dat befire next fathers day we will all be mummies ir mummies in waiting. Last year i cried durin fathers day service n told God i wanted my Dh 2 be among d fathers by ds year bt i was dissapointed as time went on n no bfp. I refused 2 attend mothering sunday ds year because i knew d traumer av always gone tru during dose services. But God steped in barely 2 months later. 2day i was js smiling n nodding during service because i had dt inner joy, pple were still looking at us n pitying us bt we didnt care because God hs answered us not exactly d way we expected, but in his own time.
God will answer every man or woman here not like u might expect, bt in a perfect package all the same just dont loose hope in him, try n keep ur expectations alive. God be with u all. Happy fathers day.

This journey just made me conscious of pregnant women no matter where i keep my face i must see a pregnant woman very funny then i also learnt something this attitude of asking someone wetin u still dey wait and also this baby don reach to have brother/sister is total rubbish! you dont know what dis person is going thru! Before i married i use to ask a neighbor of mine that but the day i went to play but her little daughter i found drugs like Manix and addyzoa in a transparent nylon bag in her parlour then i knew what they were going thru i felt bad for ever asking her that.Secondly my friend in UK i normally worry her wetin you dey wait na why not give birth now and forget about it then you just concentrate and take care of your kids now i am married she just confided in me last month that the husband has not kpekused her for 2yrs and some months and i was like WHAT! i just closed my mouth.We really dont know what people are going thru na just cloth cover us. Now she is the one threatening me with words like i hope something has started cooking in that oven now i dodge chatting with her on facebook and whatsapp. i dread that word because it makes me tense. God lives i know it wont be long and it will manifest.

The good side is it made me conscious of my health and made me realize that my BMI is very high 38 to be precise which is not healthy and i have started shedding weight and more conscious of what i eat. i have also started getting closer to God. The funniest part is i hate kpekus i can stay for 3 years i wont even think about it i am praying to start having that feeling and guess what God gave me a DH that likes it so cos of getting preggers i have to learn to like it and i constantly put it in prayers for God to help me like it cos of DH. Now i am even ready to experiment different kpekus style.It also made me conscious of my femininity i am a serious Tomboy there is nothing or risk a man can do or take that i cant do.i am also conscious of seeing EWCM and being wet too. in fact i see myself now more as a woman.

Ayauche:

We ve heard. Thank u

You are most welcomed.

Happy sunday to my sis and bro in the house...@joyousmother2016 pls can you give me the no of the akure midwife and her price.

joyousmother2016:



I didn't contact the Akure woman again because a mama advised we shouldn't send money but rather travel down to see the Akure midwife. I've never seen the midwife but I got her num through a friend that used her herbs to dissolve her fibroids. Even though when I spoke to her she said I can send the money & then she will waybill the herbs to me. So when I told mama's here, a mama expressed her fears & cautioned us not to send money without seeing the person.. In her words "to avoid stories that touched the heart" (lol).The 1st treatment cost 35k.
If you had followed my previous posts, you will see that I am based in the north & surgeries here are cheaper compare to the south. The surgery cost 60k while travelling down to Akure + lodging in a hotel (I don't know anybody there so I have to lodge in a hotel) + herbs + feeding would be a little over a 100k.
I have some herbs/supplements that people promised it dissolves but it didn't... For me (lol).. So when my friend told me about this Akure midwife I was excited until I got the caution here.
As per trial & error, I neither send money nor travel down to Akure.
As I have also said earlier we were cash strapped & so I wouldn't want to spend money & then discovered my body is resistant to it. Herbs/supplements dissolves some peoples fibroids but it doesn't in others, this is as a result of our different DNA's.
I have used GNLD, Bells, Pax Herbals & some that I can't remember @ different times but they did not cure the fibroid. Some even made the fibroids to increase in size.
The last surgery I had was barely 16months ago & then this myomectomy, & yet again my surgeon said I'll still require another surgery so you see why every kobo that goes out counts? So you see why I say I don't want trial & error?
My friend is a testimony to the Akure midwife's herbs. Her tummy was protruding like she was pregnant but she met the midwife @ Port Harcourt & got the herbs that expelled the fibroids. She said it was just falling out through her Veejay.
My fears & question was "what if it works for her & not for me, do I still have money to embark on yet another quest for alternatives to fibroid treatment knowing that I am saving for yet another surgery?"..
If not for the fact that I had spend all on 6 surgeries, I would have still gone to Akure to try it just so I can avoid surgery. Now I had the myomectomy in April & I have no regret whatsoever, though it was painful & I went through trauma & the shame of going through 7 major surgeries but I still thank God that I survived it all. Some had the 1st surgery & never came out alive, I had 7 major surgeries,(in & outside the country, this myomectomy was even the minor one) I still came out alive & I give God glory.
Sorry for the long post..

Happy Sunday to u all. Ttc has taught me a lot of lessons, n I can't remember all.
Ttc taught that I shouldn't worry about what people say, just focus on God's report.
Ttc also made me to know that He loves m, n dt delay is not denial.

Ttc also made m to understand that education or qualifications is different from the way people reason n act. Also people that grew up in city can also have the mindset of villagers. Every day, I keep thanking God for fighting so many inlaws battle for me.
The terrible attack I started having in my dreams bf my wedding(dec 2012), which I didn't see as anything.
My sil phyical attack n negative utterances and even the day she acted like mama G which I reacted n told her dt 10 of her big statue is too little for me. She even brought out something to point at me. A mother that had very little misunderstanding with her brother n her wish was come n have children let me see. Dt was 2013. I just kept her quiet bc my fil really pleaded with me to let go bc I wanted to involve my people. I also considered dt I'm an orphan and my kinsmen ll want to go deity way. I decided to let go. Even my mil with cunny n criticism mind started. To cut the long story short, last yr oct , she brought some herbals for us, which I told them am not taken. But the good n painful side of it was dt dh started taken from the one they sent for me n issues started. Quarrels, neglect n accusations. It got to a point dt he hit m for d 1st time n i told him thats the end of the marriage. I actually left this feb. My siblings believed dt marriage should not be do or die. I started asking questions if the church ll allow me to enter convent. A lot of experience, atimes I ll tell dh dt I fell for him bc he came to los, met people dt understand life differently n changed. I told him dt his family cannot change me. I say dt when he ll tell me dt if he's not defending m, dt his mum n sis ll swallow m n I quickly response dt if they re lionesses n tigress, dt I have angels dt fights battles for m n I always defeat them n dt its why his mum keeps blackmailing n condemning herself not m. He will just keep quiet.

I thank God for this yr of mercy in the catholic Church, because He will surely show me mercy. One thing I believe that whoever that plans to increase burdens or pains to m n dh will be put to shame.

In all, ttc has made me

1. To keep trusting in our creator
2. To always ask questons on how to raise children because of some attitude n characters ive seen in my inlaws, because if it's something in their genes, I should be expecting that, n I believe that God will give me the grace to fight such sinister characters.
3.to know that in respective of tribes, religions n belief in nigeria, if not africa, mamas n papas can come together n form a forum like this. Been there for each other, in pains, trials n joys.

The only thing I'm fighting its how to control my thoughts towards them ie remembering thigs that happened in the past. I wish I will start experiencing days without thinking about my inlaws till they actually know how to love, live I peace n above all know God. When am really hurt, if I don't express my anger, its difficult to let go n dh doesn't want dt from me.

Loisemm, thank you

I stumbled upon this thread when I found out I was pregnant and wasn't happy as I thought we were not ready yet. Every day I thank God for ignoring my "want", and giving me my "need".

My elder sister, had fibroids and was told it would be hard for her to conceive. 5 months after her wedding, she had a miscarriage, about a few months later, she conceived. Now she has 3 boys.

Another sister of mine married late. Her biggest fear was that "if it would take her this long to get married, it would take long to have a child". Unknown to her, she was already pregnant during her wedding.

My 3rd sister had been ttcing for almost 2 years. Then she moved abroad, and about a 2 months later announced she was pregnant. She had issues with the pregnancy and the baby was born prematurely via CS at 32weeks. We know if she was still in Nigeria may not have survived. My nephew is a strong gorgeous young man.

If there is one thing I know it's the will of God is always the best for us. I pray that our Almighty God will visit you and grant you your heart desires. AMEN!!!!!

Marjuly: I shed tears while reading your ttc testimony. It is well with you dear.

purplerain:
I stumbled upon this thread when I found out I was pregnant and wasn't happy as I thought we were not ready yet. Every day I thank God for ignoring my "want", and giving me my "need".
My elder sister, had fibroids and was told it would be hard for her to conceive. 5 months after her wedding, she had a miscarriage, about a few months later, she conceived. Now she has 3 boys.
Another sister of mine married late. Her biggest fear was that "if it would take her this long to get married, it would take long to have a child". Unknown to her, she was already pregnant during her wedding.
My 3rd sister had been ttcing for almost 2 years. Then she moved abroad, and about a 2 months later announced she was pregnant. She had issues with the pregnancy and the baby was born prematurely via CS at 32weeks. We know if she was still in Nigeria may not have survived. My nephew is a strong gorgeous young man.
If there is one thing I know it's the will of God is always the best for us. I pray that our Almighty God will visit you and grant you your heart desires. AMEN!!!!!

Purplerain thanks for the encouragement and i say an amen.

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Marjuly i really do feel your pain but one thing i will tell you is one with God is majority always pray to God to give you wisdom on how to handle your inlaws. If you ask most women what they are going thru infact u might even thank God for yours. The Lord is your strength and sooner he will surprise you.


Loisemn thanks for this platform for us to vent stored feelings. God bless you sprinkling fertility dust your way sis

Greetings from the twins to all our wonderful mummies. God will visit all of you and there shall be showers of blessing.

@Zaynie, pls never ever stop going to your sisters with your kids. Your kids are their kids! Maybe your hubby is not seeing it that your kids are your sisters kids. You should let him understand. With love kindly let your hubby understand and continue. Your children will bring their own children too.amen.

My elder sister is not married, when she come around and and I want to give her my babies to carry I say 'oya go to big mummy', I don't ever make the mistake of saying aunti. Pls n pls, plead with your hubby to let the kids continue going. Their own will come.

To me you don't need to ask them if they feel bad after leaving.