iykedare:



Some people can't read. No wonder they go on to answer exam questions without reading instructions.


My fear is that this guy will be in deep sh1t if the money stops coming.

Onegai:


I'm a she

byvan03:




I really don't concern myself with all these ideologies , all I know is that both genders must learn to treat each other with respect while they perform their distinct roles in a home . No gender is inferior to the other, one is leading as a punishment to the other for her disobedience in the garden of Eden. This means that from inception none was actually created to lead the other until they incurred their curse. It's better to let go of these ideologies that yields only confusion and just respect each other for our differences, appreciating both strength and weakness. Let the man be the man and the woman a woman. Their roles are complimentary, this should ideally yield perfection and not rancour.

Onegai:


If I were you, i'd turn the giving of the allowance into a fun performance.

Onegai:


That joint account will solve your issues without you having to talk. Pay what you normally contribute to care for the home in it and tell her to add something to it (let her decide). Only remove your personal savings. If she's a careful woman, in 2 months' time she will see precisely how much of your earnings is going towards you guys and will feel so bad for you her natural Nigerian "ijebu"-ness will kick in and she will start urging you to save more and become more prudent with money. She will also appreciate the allowance you give her more.

banjolek:


Absolutely on point, apart from saving half of her salary,she doesn't even have to spend a lot of money on transportation as her office is very close to our house. Really baffling.

byvan03:
She is working, I don't know why she is so interested in a stipend when you foot all the bills. She strikes me as greedy, she should be grateful. If she is not accepting the 20k, keep as part of your savings. Don't go trying to convince her to accept it anymore, you give your people money and it's a problem to her? When she isn't lacking? Some women sha.

cutiesaint1:
I fear dat woman o. 75k+20k=95k and yet she is not satisfy. A reasonable woman will build a home for his family not spending money like ....., am afraid she is not a wife material .

Arsenate:
Where are the feminists when you need them
So, basically, you both earn salaries but she still needs monthly stipends from you. Wow.
Women logic 101:
My money is mine alone
My man's money is for all of us.
Yeah, women are that selfish

Onegai:
It's okay.

Sit her down and tell her the money she's getting is a token of love, meant to be spent on frivolous things for herself. And that the amount will increase as things get better. Also get a joint account in which both of you will be paying savings into and make her a co-signatory. It will cure her of her fears about you.

internetpo:


how do you mean by this? how do you do it with hubby? getting married soon and would like to know how to navigate this part of wedded life.

edwife:


Me lovy Byvan because sense dey for this chic....

chiwetel:
now that's the word..GREEDY.

I sincerely see no reason why she should ask for the 20k at all,talk more of anything more if she is working,when its not like the money is in abundance.For heaven's sake that's why she's working to supplement the family's finances and not to drain from the little available.Op its good you have lofty plans for the future, try discussing it with her once again, she needs to see reasons to completely support you in those plans,you both should be patners working together to secure a better future.

nuclearBb5791:
U layed a bad foundation...
Reason:
She sees you from a wrong perspective.
My Husband must do everything...
My husband must give me pocket money if not he does not love me...
Fear of the fact that i am not pleasing my wife comes in...
trust is broken...
marriage failure at worse case...
regret...
Solution:
Try and communicate sincerely for her to see reasons why you are making this proposal...
listen to her own reason... if childish..as per reason 2.. try to get her groomed up...
make her understand that both of you have the same heart.. in two different bodies by showing her love.. and not otherwise..
once a woman feels safe, the first sign is she becomes submitsive...

banjolek:
Hello guys,

I need your honest opinion on this, how much is really ideal to give one's wife as monthly pocket money?.

Here's my story, i recently got married and also moved to a new 3 bedroom apartment around gbagada. I earn a pretty decent income while my wife also works in the bank with a salary of like 150k. She saves a half of this salary and uses the remaining for upkeep.

Now the issue is my wife insists that i must give her monthly pocket money and i have proposed 20k, an amount i feel is more than adequate for her if added to about 75k which she already has to herself from her salary. Also note that this 20k does not mean i dont get to buy her random stuff during the month or provide anything she asks for if i feel its a reasonable demand.

A1so bear in mind that i am still 100% responsible for providing food and other bills in the house. In addition we just moved to a new apartment like i mentioned earlier and still in the process of furnishing it so a chunk of my monthly salary goes into furnishing the house.

We also have a plan to set up a business for her, so i'm also currently saving part of my salary to fulfill that dream.

Now my wife has rejected the proposed amount of 20k saying its too small.

I need your take on this people, considering all i have mentioned above, is 20k really too small to be giving her monthly?

i wrote this in a hurry, please bear with any typo observed.

marvelous000:

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Baba, the thing vex me reach bone I dey always ask God which kind fvcked up generation him put me like this

The stultifying aberration too dey sickening for my reasoning. To even think say she get problem with him spending on people(mama, papa or siblings) wey train and bring am up, dey even more sickening
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DedeNkem:
Are you f*ucking kidding me? Are you mentally healthy?

Your wife earns 150k, saves half of it for herself and pocket 75k for herself, and still wants you to give her monthly "pocket money" even though you buy stuff for her randomly!

What kind of f*ucking greedy woman is this? You take 100% responsible for providing food and house bills without her contributing a cent!

She's a very ungrateful, mean and selfish woman! It's all about her and you're just in her world.

You probably wooed her with money and she married you for money! You ended up marrying a gold-digger!

Don't give her any f*ucking monthly salary. If you do it, she'll continue riding you all your life. It is terrible that she earns a good salary and still doesn't contribute financially at home!

My wife and I contribute to a special joint bank account for all financial needs of our home and another joint account for savings. I earn more than her, so I contribute more. I still buy her great gifts and take her out. She buys me gifts too. That's how a family should deal with it's finances.

banjolek:
Hello guys,

I need your honest opinion on this, how much is really ideal to give one's wife as monthly pocket money?.

Here's my story, i recently got married and also moved to a new 3 bedroom apartment around gbagada. I earn a pretty decent income while my wife also works in the bank with a salary of like 150k. She saves a half of this salary and uses the remaining for upkeep.

Now the issue is my wife insists that i must give her monthly pocket money and i have proposed 20k, an amount i feel is more than adequate for her if added to about 75k which she already has to herself from her salary. Also note that this 20k does not mean i dont get to buy her random stuff during the month or provide anything she asks for if i feel its a reasonable demand.

A1so bear in mind that i am still 100% responsible for providing food and other bills in the house. In addition we just moved to a new apartment like i mentioned earlier and still in the process of furnishing it so a chunk of my monthly salary goes into furnishing the house.

We also have a plan to set up a business for her, so i'm also currently saving part of my salary to fulfill that dream.

Now my wife has rejected the proposed amount of 20k saying its too small.

I need your take on this people, considering all i have mentioned above, is 20k really too small to be giving her monthly?

i wrote this in a hurry, please bear with any typo observed.

Winneygirl:


Marriage is a partnership.
This is not about what each party earns, but what they both earn and how it is managed.
.
This is her family too. Whatever money you give your wife still goes into running the home.

carpenter:


Pardon my ignorance but I think what a woman makes and what she does with it is her business. However, with great and understanding women, you will see them usually put some of that money to use in the house. I believe a man is totally responsible for household expenses but it gladdens the heart to see a woman trying to offer some form support. Again, I am very African in my thinking...

iAmCharis:
Ann..?

chiwetel:
ssssssshhh...agap?
OMG...where hv u been?

iAmCharis:
Daayuuum!
I've been to London to see the Queen.

How have you been?