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Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Nobody: 9:30am On Jun 20, 2016 |
thorpido: Cheating women don't think,neither do they have any remorseful feelings and they can never change because it's in their blood. |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Nobody: 9:31am On Jun 20, 2016 |
I dont feel pity for the op at all... When they are dating all sorts of girls when they are single with the good and bad girls inclusive. Na the bad girl dey go stick with like super glue.. Nothing anybody says, will make the man change his mind and go for a good girl.. Bad babes attract men these days like flies When the bad woman starts displaying in marriage, then their eyes will become clear, having sleepless nights and crying inwardly. I dont pity for men who drops a good girl and end up with a bad woman.. Either because of ikebe, or booobs or because she looks naive... Not knowing , they are signing their peace of mind away. Sorry op, u created the bed yourself .... Try and preserve, hopefully she may change for good or become She was your choice.. Deal with it.. |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Lekozy(m): 9:38am On Jun 20, 2016 |
loveisblind:op..some people that don't even know about marriage or av not been in it I giving advice ...am not married oooo and am not u it ur choice any decision u make just know itz for your own good .... |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Burgerlomo: 9:41am On Jun 20, 2016 |
oodua1stson: Hmmm otito oro |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Burgerlomo: 9:43am On Jun 20, 2016 |
wasak: Seconded |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by agwu123(m): 9:55am On Jun 20, 2016 |
I greet you OP. I sympathize with you in this ugly situation. It is very heart breaking to discover that your trusted wife is cheating on you. However, I still believe that two wrongs cannot make a right. You don't pay violence to violence because if you do, it will result to a greater violence. Having said that, I still want you to carry out further investigations on this matter, consult very wide before taking any drastic decision. The truth is that we are Africans and our tradition and culture is very potent in various areas especially marriage. From where I hail from, if a man have any premonition that his wife is cheating and went ahead to cover it, with time that man will die mysteriously or his kids will continue to die mysteriously except they perform certain tradition. All these tradition are only valid when the man had validly paid the bride price and perform the traditional marriage rites on the woman. I wouldn't know the part of the country you come from because tradition varies. Howbeit, if such tradition is potent in your part of the world and you did perform the traditional rites on her and ascertain your fact that she is actually cheating, I would therefore counsel that you escalate this matter even if you are still going to forgive her after the whole thing. This measure is to save your life and that of your kids. It is not our fault that as the Africa culture appears, it tend to favour men in matters like this. Men are naturally immuned and when they cheat on their wives there is no adverse effect on the family but women are not so immuned by African culture thus the act of cheating by women adversely affects the family that is why you see some men die or fall ill mysteriously and in other cases, their fortune begin to dwindle because of the singular act of cheating by their wives. This is a serious matter that must be handle with all care and seriousness. If you are a Christian and do not want to escalate too much, I still advice that you both meet your pastor where she must be made to confess her sins and a serious deliverance be conducted on her and your family. Thank you very much. 1 Like |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Kimoni: 10:31am On Jun 20, 2016 |
sinceraconcept: What is good for the goose is good for the gander. 1 Like |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by KenModi(m): 10:45am On Jun 20, 2016 |
henryadex: I'm not against the idea of carrying out a DNA test on the kids; I would if I were in his shoes. And upon discovering that just one isn't my kid, she is out of my house. On the contrary, if they are all my kids, I would try sorting things out with her. 1 Like |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by KenModi(m): 10:53am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Trust77: Calm down, calm down! Like I tols sm1, if I were in his shoes, I wld conduct a DNA test on those kids, upon discovering they are not my bloodshe is out of my house immediately. But if she didnt deceive me, we would still work things out. |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by thorpido(m): 11:04am On Jun 20, 2016 |
OneManLegion:If the bolded is the situation,then the Op has every right to dissolve the marriage. |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by thorpido(m): 11:06am On Jun 20, 2016 |
nyben4eva:The same applies to men and you know men are more guilty. 1 Like |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by kyinusa: 11:14am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Hmmmm |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Ebigbola(f): 11:21am On Jun 20, 2016 |
what u saw isn't enuf evidence to nail her?if only u knew u would have continue with the chart for more evidence. for real she may not be dating the guy. Adultery is not cox one is in a marriage is a thing of self discipline. don't lose a marriage of 10yrs to a strange man out there. better still call her and u both talk things over. is one thing for NL to advice u bit another thing for u to take de advice. above all follow ur heart 1 Like |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Taryur3(m): 11:26am On Jun 20, 2016 |
sinceraconcept:You are right man...but saying the man might not know if she is married,I dnt bliv dt...the person they sleep with in secrete, cnt come to her house...no freedom in calling....my friend,dey know jare...some just have pleasure in doing it hurting their fellow man 1 Like |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by sweetcocoa(f): 11:39am On Jun 20, 2016 |
sinceraconcept:You just succeeded in making no sense whatsoever. |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by adedayor08(m): 11:54am On Jun 20, 2016 |
loveisblind: please do paternity test to determine the true father of the kids. my 1naira |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by xstudios(m): 12:05pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
op talk the talk but ultimately take steps that will compell better behavior. establishing the identity of the competition is one. next is relocation to a very different environment, different in demographics and general ambience. the problem can be situational. another state or local government is preferred. the other is to occupy your wife with an acivity that will take her mind from her recreational drive |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by marv1: 12:06pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
ciwi:A male friend that calls a married woman every night and u think the calls are harmless and without something extra. And with 'if i handle u the way i handled u last time' in her chat box. What other clue are u looking 4? Or u will wait untill the woman is caught wit the man on her matrimonial bed? Women can be sophisticated when they want to cheat. No offence pls. |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by xstudios(m): 12:07pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
op talk the talk but ultimately take steps that will compell better behavior. establishing the identity of the competition is one. next is relocation to a very different environment, different in demographics and general ambience. the problem can be situational. another state or local government is preferred. the other is to occupy your wife with an activity that will take her mind from her recreational drive |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Alekefine(f): 12:33pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
thorpido:well said, |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by kunle4you: 1:01pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
loveisblind:tell her both of u should fix it divorce is not your next step bro @ceo www.talkativenaija.com |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Nobody: 1:02pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Praktikals:My brother, read that passage again! The bible is against Divorce |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Austin234(m): 1:03pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Op, i really feel for u. In the 1st place, the mariage had a wrong foundation (No parents blessing and radical change in faith, from muslim to christian). Howbeit, extra marital affair is the only ground for a divorce in Christianity. But this can only be done if u are not guilty of same offense. Op, are also a cheat? If no, u have both legal and spiritual ground to divorce her. But if yes, see how u can work out things with ur wife and forgive each other and make amends. Secondly, see what u can do to gain ur parents consent. Very important. Carry ur in-laws along. They are part of ur family |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Nobody: 1:05pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
mokane28:MAY YOUR EVIL WORDS RETURN TO YOU!! WITHOUT GOD, YOU MOKANE IS [b][/b]NOTHING!! WITHOUT GOD TAPING UR BUTTON UP IN HEAVEN TO WAKE THIS MORNING, You Would BE A CORPSE! SO JUST SHUT UP YOUR MOUTH AND DEPEND ON GOD |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Nobody: 1:08pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
My brother do not advise wrongly, the only permission given to a man to marry again by GOD is the death of a wife or husband. Any other reason is humans on their own Austin234: |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Nobody: 1:24pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
ubamfrank:BROTHER ITS NOT BIBLICAL!! WHEN You READ THE BIBLE ASK THE HOLY SPIRIT FOR INDEPTH UNDERSTANDING! Matthew 19 9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. can Fornication be Committed between Married couples ?? NO. Infidelity involving married person is Adultery not Fornication. UNDER THIS DISPENSATION OF GRACE, THE NEW COVENANT IN WHICH WE ARE IN, DIVORCE IS NOT PERMITTED! |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by tushbobo(m): 1:34pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Nobody mentioned the fact the father never attended the wedding shows that the marriage had a faulty foundation. |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by questted: 1:34pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
I believe u know wat to do already as u r just looking for people to validate your point of action. One thing dat got me thinking is how come u didn't continue the conversation on the chat with the guy so u can get all d necessary proof and den confront your wife with the facts dat u have gotten. Something also tells me u saw cheating tendencies before u got married as u said u discussed it with her before u got married and from her response dat if she does u would never know is a lot to rethink. Don't mind me because I know right now u r in pains. Take out time to think properly as I believe u know where the pain is as u r d one dat wears d shoe for me if I get my wife cheating den it just shows its over between us as dat very day she moves to her lovers place. |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Burgerlomo: 1:47pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
wasak: Life must continue |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Austin234(m): 2:08pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Read from the Holy Bible itself Matth 5 vs 32. Only on the ground of adultery or death can one remarry Chosen1984: |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Nobody: 3:22pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
My brother,you have the answer. A married woman does not commit Fornication. Its adultery. The only reason a married man or woman is permitted to re-marry is death of a partner. Any other reason no matter who you are , is on your own Austin234:Matthew 5 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. |
Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Choplyf(m): 4:04pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
sinceraconcept: why compare yourself to a man? Men are naturally polygamous. If a man cheats,then? Afterall he provides for his family. If a woman leaves a man cos he cheats she's screwed the more cos a nigga will always get more and more wifies but once a woman is after one or after 2,no man would want to marry her. I'm a man,i know how we're created sweetcocoa: And how has he succeeded in making no sense whichever 1 Like |
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