chiwetel:
Lol...enduring here in 9ja o,since I can't go to london.

u married now?

iAmCharis:
Been waiting for you all the while. Bought a diamond ring and kept it in a safe my grandmother bought for me. It's right here waiting for you.

chiwetel:
Lol..baby love. chai,ya still a big scammer sha o.

eheh,so d NL proposal never happened? better start talking o.

iAmCharis:
What proposal are you talking about? Ever since you started living in the main quarters of my heart, I can barely stay a minute without thinking about you. How then will I have the zeal to want to propose to someone else?

Baby mi, my love ain't scam, neither is it made in Aba. It's straight from Taiwan.

Omonigeriarere:


'My wife and I contribute to a special joint bank account for all financial needs of our home and another joint account for savings. I earn more than her, so I contribute more. I still buy her great gifts and take her out. She buys me gifts too. That's how a family should deal with it's finances.'.

Can you elaborate more on joint bank account Sir? This is the kind of REAL MEN I am looking for.

chiwetel:
Am turning pink am so flushed.

chai...is a lie ooooo,I refuse to fall again oya ooo,let's go before they cash us here.

iAmCharis:
Lol I lost your contact.

sweetcocoa:
Hmm

OP are you sure you are not one of those men that spend more on outsiders than his own family?

I know why I'm asking o.

chiwetel:
[color=#006600][/color]yaf lost it again abi.

aii,I will try sending it via Facebook, buh u hv to message me first o

armyofone:
maybe that's why madam is emptying the coffer so side chics doesn't get anything...just maybe.

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Onegai:


It's a gift. Give it as such, kindly and don't make anyone stand at attention beside you. It's not necessary to give an allowance. Every marriage is different and there is a time for kindness and a time for firmness.

DedeNkem:


We have two joint accounts at two different banks. One for home expenses and the other for savings. We contribute money to both joint accounts monthly from our individual salaries that are paid into our individual accounts.

Omonigeriarere:


Thank you. Please what are the domestic items/expenses that fall within these two categories? I am not married yet, but I am really learning here as proper prior planning prevents poor performance.

banjolek:
Hello guys,

I need your honest opinion on this, how much is really ideal to give one's wife as monthly pocket money?.

Here's my story, i recently got married and also moved to a new 3 bedroom apartment around gbagada. I earn a pretty decent income while my wife also works in the bank with a salary of like 150k. She saves a half of this salary and uses the remaining for upkeep.

Now the issue is my wife insists that i must give her monthly pocket money and i have proposed 20k, an amount i feel is more than adequate for her if added to about 75k which she already has to herself from her salary. Also note that this 20k does not mean i dont get to buy her random stuff during the month or provide anything she asks for if i feel its a reasonable demand.

A1so bear in mind that i am still 100% responsible for providing food and other bills in the house. In addition we just moved to a new apartment like i mentioned earlier and still in the process of furnishing it so a chunk of my monthly salary goes into furnishing the house.

We also have a plan to set up a business for her, so i'm also currently saving part of my salary to fulfill that dream.

Now my wife has rejected the proposed amount of 20k saying its too small.

I need your take on this people, considering all i have mentioned above, is 20k really too small to be giving her monthly?

i wrote this in a hurry, please bear with any typo observed.

Azinganga:
Endure this crazy demand of hers and pray to have children first.When children comes, she will start to see herself then as a stakeholder and must contribute financially even for your domestic needs.Women are supposed to be helpmeets and not extortionists.A helper should really help.

iAmCharis:
Chiwetel

Babe epp me vote MissGdope in the ongoing contest

Just type:
I vote MissGdope
Cc: NlJega

Here's the thread - www.nairaland.com/3178760/miss-nairaland-contest-2016-elimination#46768548

Thank you

DedeNkem:


Ok, I'll try to go as detailed as possible.

1. Joint account for home expenses;
- Rent.
- Food.
- Kids' school stuff
- Kids' clothes, shoes and electronics.
- Home repairs. (one rented home and one owned home)
- Cars' repairs. (two cars)
- Fueling our cars.
- Purchase or replacement of household items e.g furnitures, electronics, etc.
- And others I don't remember now.

2. Joint account for savings;
We save for future business investments.

3. Private accounts;
I've a private account so as my wife. We have each other as next of kin. We can do whatever we want with the money in our individual accounts.

I'm glad you're interested to plan your finances with your future wife. It's very important and it solves a lot of problems, even multi-billionaires plan theirs. Good communication is vital in marriage.

If you've any more questions, please let me know.

DedeNkem:


Ok, I'll try to go as detailed as possible.

1. Joint account for home expenses;
- Rent.
- Food.
- Kids' school stuff
- Kids' clothes, shoes and electronics.
- Home repairs. (one rented home and one owned home)
- Cars' repairs. (two cars)
- Fueling our cars.
- Purchase or replacement of household items e.g furnitures, electronics, etc.
- And others I don't remember now.

2. Joint account for savings;
We save for future business investments.

3. Private accounts;
I've a private account so as my wife. We have each other as next of kin. We can do whatever we want with the money in our individual accounts.

I'm glad you're interested to plan your finances with your future wife. It's very important and it solves a lot of problems, even multi-billionaires plan theirs. Good communication is vital in marriage.

If you've any more questions, please let me know.

paulostical:


Have been reading through the posts and noticed your suggestions are spot on and Mature...

I have learnt a lot from what you have shared as it relate with how you run your home with understanding. Thanks much

banjolek:
Hello guys,

I need your honest opinion on this, how much is really ideal to give one's wife as monthly pocket money?.

Here's my story, i recently got married and also moved to a new 3 bedroom apartment around gbagada. I earn a pretty decent income while my wife also works in the bank with a salary of like 150k. She saves a half of this salary and uses the remaining for upkeep.

Now the issue is my wife insists that i must give her monthly pocket money and i have proposed 20k, an amount i feel is more than adequate for her if added to about 75k which she already has to herself from her salary. Also note that this 20k does not mean i dont get to buy her random stuff during the month or provide anything she asks for if i feel its a reasonable demand.

A1so bear in mind that i am still 100% responsible for providing food and other bills in the house. In addition we just moved to a new apartment like i mentioned earlier and still in the process of furnishing it so a chunk of my monthly salary goes into furnishing the house.

We also have a plan to set up a business for her, so i'm also currently saving part of my salary to fulfill that dream.

Now my wife has rejected the proposed amount of 20k saying its too small.

I need your take on this people, considering all i have mentioned above, is 20k really too small to be giving her monthly?

i wrote this in a hurry, please bear with any typo observed.

banjolek:


Absolutely on point, apart from saving half of her salary,she doesn't even have to spend a lot of money on transportation as her office is very close to our house. Really baffling.

banjolek:
Hello guys,

I need your honest opinion on this, how much is really ideal to give one's wife as monthly pocket money?.

Here's my story, i recently got married and also moved to a new 3 bedroom apartment around gbagada. I earn a pretty decent income while my wife also works in the bank with a salary of like 150k. She saves a half of this salary and uses the remaining for upkeep.

Now the issue is my wife insists that i must give her monthly pocket money and i have proposed 20k, an amount i feel is more than adequate for her if added to about 75k which she already has to herself from her salary. Also note that this 20k does not mean i dont get to buy her random stuff during the month or provide anything she asks for if i feel its a reasonable demand.

A1so bear in mind that i am still 100% responsible for providing food and other bills in the house. In addition we just moved to a new apartment like i mentioned earlier and still in the process of furnishing it so a chunk of my monthly salary goes into furnishing the house.

We also have a plan to set up a business for her, so i'm also currently saving part of my salary to fulfill that dream.

Now my wife has rejected the proposed amount of 20k saying its too small.

I need your take on this people, considering all i have mentioned above, is 20k really too small to be giving her monthly?

i wrote this in a hurry, please bear with any typo observed.

Onegai:
It's okay.

Sit her down and tell her the money she's getting is a token of love, meant to be spent on frivolous things for herself. And that the amount will increase as things get better. Also get a joint account in which both of you will be paying savings into and make her a co-signatory. It will cure her of her fears about you.