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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by LordOfNaira: 10:38am On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
How do you mean dear?

Don't mind that girl, she is the one that broke your heart.

Now, listen to me, when your own woman comes your way, you will laugh at your present decision to commit suicide. Remember the Shakespearian tale "Romeo and Juliet".

Romeo, a very handsome young man, loved a woman who didn't love him back. He was heartbroken until he met the beautiful Juliet.

Now, cheer up. This should be your best time to be single. Go out, enjoy yourself, see a movie, join others to laugh out loud, have girlfriends (I do not mean for sex o but if you like, you can. But you must use "protection"wink, but avoid deep emotional attachments for now.

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 10:39am On Jun 24, 2016
kennylizzy:
Yoruba adage say "if a man kills himsef cos of a woman, thousand of women will work on his grave" same wit a woman.
I would say u stop picking her calls if u can't change ur line n focus on tinz dat will mak u greater n beta than the way she left u.
May God heal ur broken heart. IT'S WELL
It's well, thanks for your sincerity
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Domislaz(m): 10:40am On Jun 24, 2016
foolinlove:
You only have two choices.

1. Stay with her.
On the knowledge that she's a cheater and will do it again and again.

2. Move on.
Knowing that you will sleep easy as no one is cheating on you.

It is not an easy choice. She is your true love. No on can make that choice for you. Unfortunately, sometimes your true love doesn't love you back. I am testament to that. I have also tried to end my life over mu true love.

But if you choose option 2, you need to cut her off. The longer you have no contact with her the stronger you will be. Otherwise, she will be like a drug to you. You will crave her attention, when you get it you'll be high. So the best way is to cut off the "drug supply". Over time without her, the cravings will fade. You will move on.

Also, be honest in yout next relationship if you have one. Let the lady know that your ex is your true love. You need to be honest in everything, so that you don't pass on the hurt that has been done to you.

Bless and good luck.

I admire your consistent logic.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by foolinlove(f): 10:41am On Jun 24, 2016
Domislaz:


I admire your consistent logic.

Thanks?
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 10:42am On Jun 24, 2016
LordofNairaland:


Don't mind that girl, she is the one that broke your heart.

Now, listen to me, when your own woman comes your way, you will laugh at your present decision to commit suicide. Remember the Shakespearian tale "Romeo and Juliet".

Romeo, a very handsome young man, loved a woman who didn't love him back. He was heartbroken until he met the beautiful Juliet.

Now, cheer up. This should be your best time to be single. Go out, enjoy yourself, see a movie, join others to laugh out loud, have girlfriends (I do not mean for sex o but if you like, you can. But you must use "protection"wink, but avoid deep emotional attachments for now.
I really appreciate, thanks a lot for your sincere advise
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by LordOfNaira: 10:44am On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
I really appreciate, thanks a lot for your sincere advise

You are welcome, bro.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Smellymouth: 10:45am On Jun 24, 2016
ErnieSmallzz:
shocked grin bite me ke? Is you suarez grin

Me is Ronaldinho grin
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Smellymouth: 10:45am On Jun 24, 2016
ErnieSmallzz:
shocked grin bite me ke? Is you suarez grin

Me is Ronaldinho[sub][/sub] grin
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 10:47am On Jun 24, 2016
Mixty:
@amaraedec
You are a rookie. Only a rookie will fall "helplessly" in love with a girl and give her everything she asks or requests for. You became desperate
When you give a lady all she requests for without noticing corresponding loyalty from her, her interest in you will naturally wane.

As a guy, you have to learn the art of making a lady yearn for you. Becoming too available by always being there at a beck and call will make her lose interest. You should have maintained a balance. You became a conquered territory. It's only natural for her to lose interest.

Now my advice...
Maintain a distance from her for a while till you regain control of your emotions. It's for your own good. It might be for weeks or even months. Stay away till you take charge of your emotions. I understand you love her. But extremities are not good. You almost killed yourself because you became hopelessly and helplessly attached to her. It's very important as a man to think with both your head and heart in matters of love. For now, you think only with your heart. Your brain is currently in the cooler. Once you regain emotional control, you will think clearly and make the right decisions for your future, whether to stay or not.
Of course, I know what I am asking you to do is hard. You will most likely take the easy way out - flowing with your current emotional attachments to her. But you will only subject yourself to more hurt in the future.
I appreciate Bro, I. Am not ready to toll the least resistant path. Your advice is priceless. May you find happiness
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 10:54am On Jun 24, 2016
andysnoopy:
All these people advising you to change your phone number reareally need to shove it! Men are naturally made to be strong emotionally and if you happen not to be strong, changing your number as a quick fix to your emotional problem will be nothing but a short term solution.

The girl in question is cheating and is a serial cheater.. The advice for you on situation like this is to move on to the next girl... No matter what you have invested in the relationship, it still doesn't change the fact that she is not your wife! So stop acting like you have no choice!

You are lucky that you discovered this before marrying her.. A cheat is a cheat, killing yourself won't change her!! She even brag to her children that a man once died for her in the future so quit being a mugu and man up!!

The joy of her calling you while you are in a relationship is enough punishment for her.. so quit acting like you have no choice man... You do!! And the fact that there are more beautiful girls with values should be the encouragement you will need to put your life in order man!!

Man up!!
thanks a million. I greatly appreciate
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by ErnieSmallzz(f): 10:55am On Jun 24, 2016
undecided grin but Ronaldinho cannot fit bite now?



shocked wait u say, u is Ronaldinho? Da means u will cute wella oh? wink
Smellymouth:


Me is Ronaldinho[sub][/sub] grin
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Smellymouth: 11:03am On Jun 24, 2016
ErnieSmallzz:
undecided grin but Ronaldinho cannot fit bite now?



shocked wait u say, u is Ronaldinho? Da means u will cute wella oh? wink

Ronaldinho get big teeth na, we can call him "TiTiLaYO" grin

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by futurerex: 11:05am On Jun 24, 2016
How old are you?
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by torqque7(m): 11:17am On Jun 24, 2016
Hmmm I feel your pain tho..we've all been through heartbreaks and it's no fun at all but you need to understand that she is NOT worth it..you are not even dead yet and she is cheating and hurting you already so do you think it will get better when you kill yourself?my brother she will be under another guy screaming his name on the day of your burial so ask yourself who is at a loss here?

Maxti is right..unfortunately never fall in love completely with ANY woman as a man cos you'll get burnt badly..love is sweet but our girls have turned it into a cat and mouse game of survival of the fitest..be smart meet other females,get laid,hell fvck prostitutes if necessary just get other females in your life so you can forget the bi.tch and you'll be OK,trust me when I tell you there are tons of females out there FAR better than her in EVERY aspect of life,and you will meet one again that will make you believe in love again dn't worry,it's just a matter of time. .

Remember no sentiments attached o if you want to survive this game of emotions..drop that idea that you can't cheat on her and stop the good boy routine cos that's your major problem..Good luck Bro.

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 11:23am On Jun 24, 2016
torqque7:
Hmmm I feel your pain tho..we've all been through heartbreaks and it's no fun at all but you need to understand that she is NOT worth it..you are not even dead yet and she is cheating and hurting you already so do you think it will get better when you kill yourself?my brother she will be under another guy screaming his name on the day of your burial so ask yourself who is at a loss here?

Maxti is right..unfortunately never fall in love completely with ANY woman as a man cos you'll get burnt badly..love is sweet but our girls have turned it into a cat and mouse game of survival of the fitest..be smart meet other females,get laid,hell fvck prostitutes if necessary just get other females in your life so you can forget the bi.tch and you'll be OK,trust me when I tell you there are tons of females out there FAR better than her in EVERY aspect of life,and you will meet one again that will make you believe in love again dn't worry,it's just a matter of time. .

Remember no sentiments attached o if you want to survive this game of emotions..drop that idea that you can't cheat on her and stop the good boy routine cos that's your major problem..Good luck Bro.
I appreciate brother
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 11:45am On Jun 24, 2016
futurerex:
How old are you?
mid 20 's
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Smellymouth: 11:55am On Jun 24, 2016
ErnieSmallzz:
undecided grin but Ronaldinho cannot fit bite now?



shocked [color=#006600]wait u say, u is Ronaldinho? Da means u will cute wella oh
? wink
[/color]

Check my dp, ayam so cute grin cheesy grin
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by futurerex: 11:57am On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
mid 20 's
It is well with you bro, just try to be emotionally strong OK!
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by torqque7(m): 11:59am On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
I appreciate brother

Anytime Bro..just try to take our advices seriously o not just to read them and get weak when time comes for action wink.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by telemapreye1(f): 12:00pm On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
How do you mean dear?
Hmm..its is well.
Your story is similar to mine..the Lord is your strength.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by ErnieSmallzz(f): 12:09pm On Jun 24, 2016
*runs to check his D.p* shocked *faints]
Smellymouth:


Check my dp, ayam so cute grin cheesy grin

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Smellymouth: 12:13pm On Jun 24, 2016
ErnieSmallzz:
*runs to check his D.p* shocked *faints]

grin cheesy grin what is fainting you @ tongue
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 12:13pm On Jun 24, 2016
telemapreye1:
Hmm..its is well.
Your story is similar to mine..the Lord is your strength.
Amen.. Thanks a lot
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 12:14pm On Jun 24, 2016
torqque7:


Anytime Bro..just try to take our advices seriously o not just to read them and get weak when time comes for action wink.
I needed the advice more than anything else

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 12:16pm On Jun 24, 2016
Op, take heart. First of all, no woman on earth can love you like your mother did let that stick in your head.
You were too invested in her, you were a nice guy which bored her and bro Pls have a life outside women. Do not make any Woman your life mission. Develop yourself. Get a hobby, join a Gym BE BUSY.
Let me tell you this she does not love you and she never loved you. You were just a meal ticket, maga, a source of free gifts. Always have options with women don't depend on one and bro LOVE DOES NOT EXIST. Don't overinvest in any woman. In any relationship always put yourself first. please make sure your happiness is not tied to any woman except your mother or family.
Lastly don't be a nice guy to women.

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 12:43pm On Jun 24, 2016
Pushas:
Op, take heart. First of all, no woman on earth can love you like your mother did let that stick in your head.
You were too invested in her, you were a nice guy which bored her and bro Pls have a life outside women. Do not make any Woman your life mission. Develop yourself. Get a hobby, join a Gym BE BUSY.
Let me tell you this she does not love you and she never loved you. You were just a meal ticket, maga, a source of free gifts. Always have options with women don't depend on one and bro LOVE DOES NOT EXIST. Don't overinvest in any woman. In any relationship always put yourself first. please make sure your happiness is not tied to any woman except your mother or family.
Lastly don't be a nice guy to women.
Thanks brother
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Eleganza33(f): 12:50pm On Jun 24, 2016
Oh shit,my broda u knw dat if u die u wil b 4goten,cut off al contacts wit ha,spend sumtym wit frndz,u wil get ova it soon.be strong
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 12:53pm On Jun 24, 2016
Eleganza33:
Oh shit,my broda u knw dat if u die u wil b 4goten,cut off al contacts wit ha,spend sumtym wit frndz,u wil get ova it soon.be strong
thanks dear.. I greatly appreciate
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Jorussia(m): 12:54pm On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:

Thanks brother
which church do you worship?
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Eleganza33(f): 12:59pm On Jun 24, 2016
U r welcum. Amara? My namesake
amaraedec:
thanks dear.. I greatly appreciate
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by covbrand(f): 1:02pm On Jun 24, 2016
foolinlove:
You only have two choices.

1. Stay with her.
On the knowledge that she's a cheater and will do it again and again.

2. Move on.
Knowing that you will sleep easy as no one is cheating on you.

It is not an easy choice. She is your true love. No on can make that choice for you. Unfortunately, sometimes your true love doesn't love you back. I am testament to that. I have also tried to end my life over mu true love.

But if you choose option 2, you need to cut her off. The longer you have no contact with her the stronger you will be. Otherwise, she will be like a drug to you. You will crave her attention, when you get it you'll be high. So the best way is to cut off the "drug supply". Over time without her, the cravings will fade. You will move on.

Also, be honest in yout next relationship if you have one. Let the lady know that your ex is your true love. You need to be honest in everything, so that you don't pass on the hurt that has been done to you.

Bless and good luck.


you always speak like a kid that knows nothing about emotional discipline. who tells their next that their ex was their true love? NOBODY IS IRREPLACEABLE. and op, people only hurt you when you give them that power, learn to love with a healthy level of detachment. when I was younger I always felt showing people how much you loved them was the trick to keeping them,but the older you grow the more you realise that NOBODY loves an over expressive person. Op as for that lady, leave her because she has already lost respect for you, no amount of begging can correct that. this is the best time to find yourself and know what you want, pain is one of the fastest way to aquire maturity. I pray God gives you the fortitude to grow. more grace.

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by ErnieSmallzz(f): 1:07pm On Jun 24, 2016
damn! That ur d.p ugly oh shocked


but u knw adontbiliv that is u
grin
Smellymouth:


grin cheesy grin what is fainting you @ tongue

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