martolux:
Are you an agent in d FBI?? By d way, uv got a very high IQ.

..... Thanks for the compliment bro! Na Godwin!!

In Kasimne Anne voice, what is cheating? Cheating is copying information that are not yowos.

Colllect your own round before water pass garri o. This thing that she is sharingggg, one day it will dry up and harden like kpomo.

OP, I can't help but imagine that your sister-in-law is reading this post right now...
You'll surely be poisoned if she's an active NLander!
#YakNdi

Kaponanty:
It appears that my brother, who is a very hardworking and caring man is not staying with his family due to the nature of his work to make ends meet..

you follow am reach him work place?

As for my opinion I would say E NO CONCERN YOU.
don't start a journey you would regret. leave their family alone ooo! radio without battery!

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The message you saw "Miss you too dear, please make sure you call me before you come tomorrow" is not enough to judge her.

Kaponanty:
It appears that my brother, who is a very hardworking and caring man is not staying with his family due to the nature of his work to make ends meet. However, usually visits home at least once in every three 3 months or as time permitted.
Apparently, I was not staying with them until just of recent when my brother and his wife insist that I should stay with them and feel the vacuum of the uncertainty loneliness.
Undoubtedly. my sister-in-law is so caring and considerate but unfortunately she is a philanderer and she has been playing her game smartly until this fateful day when she gave me her phone to subscribe for her. Though its not in my attitude to pokenose but the WhatsApp prompt really caught my attention as it reads "Miss you too dear, please make sure you call me before you come tomorrow" I was really devastated by her grief that she is a green snake under the green grass. To crown it all, my sister-in-law was telling in advance that would be visiting her parents and would pass night with them.
I have no doubt that she is visiting the guy to enjoy herself but in my opinion I intend to call the guy and scare him off my Sister in-law or should I seat my in-law down and counsel her because she always respect and behalf like innocent.
Please what should I do as am really confused Thanks.

yeah right scare the guy and definitely the lady will know and maybe behave herself for fear of been busted

All this infidelity story just scare me of relationship or even married.... Tried two in undergraduate days n the two "goof" gels played it really clean n smart on me.

Men also do cheat badly.

Sometimes I fear if God made this as part of human characteristics, no matter how hard we fight it!







Marriage scares me!!!

Op, that message you saw could have been sent by anyone. It may have been her friend or her parents or anybody else. It doesn't even remotely suggest that she is cheating, to me. I guess the thought came to your mind because you have been wondering how she copes in her husband's absence. Since you didn't see anything 'incriminating', please banish that thought from your mind and let the poor woman enjoy her marriage.

hopsydboi:
All this infidelity story just scare me of relationship or even married.... Tried two in undergraduate days n the two "goof" gels played it really clean n smart on me.

Men also do cheat badly.

Sometimes I fear if God made this as part of human characteristics, no matter how hard we fight it!







Marriage scares me!!!

My brother, I won't lie to you...To find a" WIFE" is rare.. No wonder Bible self talk am... He that finds a "wife" has found a good thing... Most ladies out der are very disloyal

Tell your brother immidiately.
Her being nice to you is totally irrelevant if she cheats on your brother!

Women......sigh..... Dats all I hav 2 say.

Kaponanty:
It appears that my brother, who is a very hardworking and caring man is not staying with his family due to the nature of his work to make ends meet. However, usually visits home at least once in every three 3 months or as time permitted.
Apparently, I was not staying with them until just of recent when my brother and his wife insist that I should stay with them and feel the vacuum of the uncertainty loneliness.
Undoubtedly. my sister-in-law is so caring and considerate but unfortunately she is a philanderer and she has been playing her game smartly until this fateful day when she gave me her phone to subscribe for her. Though its not in my attitude to pokenose but the WhatsApp prompt really caught my attention as it reads "Miss you too dear, please make sure you call me before you come tomorrow" I was really devastated by her grief that she is a green snake under the green grass. To crown it all, my sister-in-law was telling in advance that would be visiting her parents and would pass night with them.
I have no doubt that she is visiting the guy to enjoy herself but in my opinion I intend to call the guy and scare him off my Sister in-law or should I seat my in-law down and counsel her because she always respect and behalf like innocent.
Please what should I do as am really confused Thanks.

Don't cause itself and brother unnecessary problem. It is baseless and unfounded U are there to fill vacuum dont create gully. Leave the family alone. You will be surprised that even if u are right the wife can turn the table against you and she and ur brother will hate u for live. Mind ur own business pls

To start with,
1. You do not have sufficient evidence to pursue this case any further.
2. You might be gambling with the following if you continue: your continued peaceful stay, her relationship wIth her husband will no more be normal but filled with suspicion afterwards, even your integrity will no more be vouched for and finally assuming she cleared after the whole episode to be innocent you might be a lifelong enemy to her, or her immediate. family and by extension her relations.

That being said, you can attempt the following to validate or get your facts right:

1. See if you can get that phone number or try to snap the screen of her phone with the number and message.
2. Use these methods to ascertain the identity of its owner

i: Truecaller app could throw up the names of the owner of the line or if not next step
ii.. Facebook: search out the number it could turn up the names of the owner, that is if he registered his number on Facebook.. Or
iii.. Enter the name as a contact on your phone and see if he's got a profile picture up on his whatsapp and do a screen shot of this if need be for evidence purpose.. Or
iv.. Download an alternate whatsapp on your phone. Its called G8 whatsapp its used when you want a second whatsapp app on your mobile for another line.. Activate the app with another line and open conversation with the number and you make friends anonymously or with a phony identity just to confirm your facts.

Assuming you find out she is innocent then case closed and everyone is happy without any casualty.. But if not, you will now start on the part of recovery of the bad situation which may already be going worse.

1. Keep intact all your evidence as this individual may not be the only person she is going out with, that means no direct confrontation or else she will either drive the relationship deeper down from any trace or prying eyes, change the person or perhaps become vindictive which case she can become subtle and vernormous.
2. Engage her anonymously from your alternate whatsapp and start by appealing to her conscience, then gradually increase the tempo by threatening to exposure her if she refuse to desist.. All this time telling her you know her every move and make her admit to your accusations save her admittance and use as more evidence and make her confess more by threatening to reveal all you already know to her husband and family members of she proves difficult. Of she is repentant and if she is a truce practising Christian there is a next thing to do.. If otherwise then

2. Expose her anonymously without being in the picture to her people first and see how things go and of they handle it well you will see improvement in her behaviour or else to her husband and I repeat don't be in the picture.

This is not to say we ourselves are saints but this is how to preserve our society at least for our children coming up to have a world to live in.

This is such a long write-up

I wish to stop here for now!

Dabbyfab:
I don't think it is a good idea to tell your brother, your brother might even be cheating on her cos you can't trust men these days especially the ones that stays away from home. Sit her down and tell her that you know what she is up to. From her response you will decide if you will tell your brother.

True talk

Men and hypocritism,as usual are like

Anybody that propagates"Mind ur business" seems to me as a cheat also. I shud mind my business wen its my brother or sister that its in danger of contacting any dreaded disease. Then why am I a brother to such individual if I dont look out for his own good.
Some will say to prevent the marriage from crashing whereas its beta to go ur seperate ways than die of a disease u know nothing about. If you are not ready to stay faithful, why not stay single and av multiple partners as u like,hence u owe nobody nothing.
Again, people usually dish out as advice what they cant take. If ur wife or husband cheats and family member knows but kept mum about it, will u ever take such person as family if u later got to know.#Hypocrisy
Op get more evidence and device a means to intimate ur blood of ur findings and allow him do the rest,atleast u must av done ur own side of the bargain.

Aproko men everyone! Na monitoring spirit u be? Leave the woman alone to live her life and go tell your brother to stay close to his family. How can u leave a woman alone for three months all in the name of money and u expect her not to feel lonely or seek for a friendship that could fill the vacuum? What is marriage in the first place, that your brother will leave his wife for three months and u are here spilling thrash. Mind your business please but nevertheless, Say no to adultery! It's a sin against man and God.

call d number she sent d msg to to confirm if d person is a guy

It is better you allowed the sleeping dog lie, if not the whole may fall on your head. She had already made up her mind, the only thing you can do is to call your and advise him consider his family first before anything else.

Make una sit family planning.....Despite that dont approach ur sis inlaw in a rude way.U will be the one who will have a name of sending ur brodas wife home....I have cautioned..

modelmike7:
....... Your brother can call his in-laws (wife's parent) tomorrow's night, just to say hello and talk with his 'darling wife' in the process!

Best Advice Ever!

Guy, rat poison is not far from your food o, better mind ur business.

BluStreak:
Ol'boy your best bet will be to chill till she makes the journey, then call ur inlaws and pretend you want to speak with ur bro's wife after letting them know she is at their place visiting.

Act all excited as if u have a wonderful news to share with her.

Goodluck.

in this way you will be reporting her to her parents of her infidelity indirectly. Its very logical and I think this is the best way to go about it

Guy I wl give u the same advice I gave the other bro. Keep quiet pls, its non of ur business abt their marital life, nobody is a saint. Ur uncle might also be in the act. I warn u bro keep quiet. The woman can make life unbearable for u both physically and spiritually. Women are dangerous don't do mugu and toy with dem.i warn u bro, ve seen things with my two eyes o. I warn u again bro

Dabbyfab:
I don't think it is a good idea to tell your brother, your brother might even be cheating on her cos you can't trust men these days especially the ones that stays away from home. Sit her down and tell her that you know what she is up to. From her response you will decide if you will tell your brother.

You want him to sit his elder brothers wife down

Nigerians are so messed up. It's simply non of his business!

Mpheeeew!!!! let her cheat jawe ..nd mk sure u tail her(b d over protective broda (like dean)) nd den d next morning knock on d door nd b like "ex-sister in law na diz guy b d new husband?" Or na so u no like ur broda reach to let am stay with W#ore?

Mindfulness:


Your story does not add up. You love your caring sis-in-law so much and yet you are worried that you may die prematurely?
And what woman would give her phone to anyone without first deleting messages that could give her away?

I've been watching your posts on this Forum. You are evil and subtly satanic. Change your ways before it's t late for you.

Starlet50:
Give me her number lemme talk sense into her head

marriage. Counsellor.

Havent u heard dat the innocent is the dangerous type of women......

Dont toy with them....

Havent u heard dat the innocent is the dangerous type of women......
Dont toy with them....