Pandorabox:
Very inspiring.

5minsmadness:
Indeed it is the age of equality. We hear it everyday on this family section how a woman should stand up to her husband and refuse to be oppressed (even if there was no oppression intended in the first place). Such talks make it look like marriage is a battlefield and there is no peace between the sexes. Some people even begin to wonder why they should get married at all when marriage apparently looks so miserable.


Well, I am here to say that marriage is only miserable to you as a woman if you want it to be! Men are natural born fighters , you can't start fighting your man as well in his own house. No man worth his salt will take it. Men were built to dominate. If you start wanting to dominate him in his own house that he paid rent for or built, insisting that he washes the plates or washes the clothes or sweeps the house or take care of the kids while u sleep all in the name of equality, you will make him set up a wall against you. He may outrightly defy you or he may sulk and do what you have ordered but be sure he is bitter about it and wondering when you became the man of the house. Soon enough if he cannot be a man indoors, he will start to look for how he can be one outside.

Having said that, a woman is a human being as well and not a workhorse or slave. She needs help as well and men have an excessive amount of muscle to spare to help around the house , especially if you cannot afford a maid. So how do you as a woman seek help from your husband without sounding like a nagging frustrated loveless feminist?

Simple. Use the gift that God gave you. Use the things that attracted your man to marry you in the first place. Use your womanliness, your feminine charms and grace! Use sweet words garnished with love and not commanding and off-putting tone that bristles with scorn. Esther was able to play with the crown of the most dangerous man in Babylon, not because she felt entitled, neither because she felt the man was equal to her. No! Her feminine charms made him as meek as a lamb in her hands.


Use your charm to handle your man and not your sharp tongue. Use your sweetness, quick wit,love and unsolicited kisses to get what you want from your king instead of declaring your rights like a country looking for every opportunity to secede. I assure you, you will get a lot more done by being a lady instead of a nag.

Peace.

mrwonlasewonie:
Here we go again 5minsmadness .

You no dey taya

Go and wash my fridge and the zinc joor And please don't spill water on the floor. You hear me 5minsmadness.lastly make sure it's clean

The morning fresh and sponge is on the zinc.don't waste my morning fresh o.I bought it 400naira

UndisputedBosom:
In summary ladies use ur "Power Of A Woman" to checkmate ur partner


As simple as that....

echobee:
True talk. Thanks ops

Nikita1:
Yea, that's the spirit. I'm not gonna fight husby, in fact I promise him the happiest home in this world.

But when the need arises for me to fight, i'm not going to nag, shout or scream.
Women have TWO powerful things to win anything. Only the wise I know it and I'm gonna use that to fight him

5minsmadness:


Apparently I'm not wise what r d two things na, or is it

5minsmadness:
Indeed it is the age of equality. We hear it everyday on this family section how a woman should stand up to her husband and refuse to be oppressed (even if there was no oppression intended in the first place). Such talks make it look like marriage is a battlefield and there is no peace between the sexes. Some people even begin to wonder why they should get married at all when marriage apparently looks so miserable.

5minsmadness:
Well, I am here to say that marriage is only miserable to you as a woman if you want it to be! Men are natural born fighters , you can't start fighting your man as well in his own house. No man worth his salt will take it. Men were built to dominate. If you start wanting to dominate him in his own house that he paid rent for or built, insisting that he washes the plates or washes the clothes or sweeps the house or take care of the kids while u sleep all in the name of equality, you will make him set up a wall against you. He may outrightly defy you or he may sulk and do what you have ordered but be sure he is bitter about it and wondering when you became the man of the house. Soon enough if he cannot be a man indoors, he will start to look for how he can be one outside.

5minsmadness:

Having said that, a woman is a human being as well and not a workhorse or slave. She needs help as well and men have an excessive amount of muscle to spare to help around the house , especially if you cannot afford a maid. So how do you as a woman seek help from your husband without sounding like a nagging frustrated loveless feminist?

5minsmadness:
Simple. Use the gift that God gave you. Use the things that attracted your man to marry you in the first place. Use your womanliness, your feminine charms and grace! Use sweet words garnished with love and not commanding and off-putting tone that bristles with scorn. [s]Esther was able to play with the crown of the most dangerous man in Babylon, not because she felt entitled, neither because she felt the man was equal to her. No! Her feminine charms made him as meek as a lamb in her hands.[/s]

5minsmadness:
Use your charm to handle your man and not your sharp tongue. Use your sweetness, quick wit,love and unsolicited kisses to get what you want from your king instead of declaring your rights like a country looking for every opportunity to secede. I assure you, you will get a lot more done by being a lady instead of a nag.

Peace.

UndisputedBosom:
In summary ladies use ur "Power Of A Woman" to checkmate ur partner


As simple as that....

HarkymTheOracle:
Op,tell them...

mira4u:
Very true. that's what I use to get anything I want from my hubby. I noticed if you use force men will never yield.

Women rule men and the world Q.E.D

Nikita1:
Are u a lady

cindybaby22:

seems u want to beat the op
those guys are not smiling

Nikita1:
lol
I'm not beating anybody oo
Damnit! You are cute with nice 'fronty'

5minsmadness:


I love the glitterati on your nails

EfemenaXY:


You're slowly but surely turning into a narcissist. And a misogynist.

Why do you automatically assume that if there's a problem in a union, it must be the woman's doing or better still, she has to take full responsibility for ironing things out? Why then is it called a union?




You use the wrong language and tone here:

~ Fighters. Who / what is the man born to fight? His wife? Society?

~ Dominate. Dominate who? The wife? Is she a foot mat / footstool to be 'dominated'?

Point of correction:

~ Not all men own the house or worse still, pay the rent. There are tons of families out there where the man does absolutely nothing and the buck is passed onto the wife who stoically carries on running that ship (a.k.a paying the bills) without so much of a mummer, covering his shame, while the outside world assumes this domineering, "fighter" of a man is captaining the ship.

~ Re: the underlined bit of your post, you're simply reaching. One'll be hard pressed to find a woman who does such. You're watching too many movies. You know very well that what really happens, the main bone of contention for many WORKING WOMEN with young kids, is the expectation that they go out and hustle like a man and contribute financially to the upkeep of the home, and yet on returning home after a hard day's graft, expected to tie wrapper and enter the kitchen to pound yam and cook fresh Egusi soup while the pot-bellied-football-watching hubby yells for her to take the kids away and demands she hurries up with serving his food (on her knees).

Re: the bit in green - seriously? Is that a threat? Meant to shake up the wife? Lol!!




Because if he uses half his brain and puts himself in her shoes and does the right thing - without having to be schooled like a two year old, then there wouldn't be a need to nag will there?



Mtcheeew!!

Because he is what? The beginning and the end of the woman's happiness?




And when he wants something done, how does he / how is he supposed to "cajole" / pamper his wife into to that? Without of course accusing her of lacking proper home training as per she should know what to do without having it spelt out to her?

Biko 5minsmadness, go 'n get married make we hear word.

Ishilove:
Single folks giving marital advice. It reminds me of Catholic reverend fathers and sisters handling marriage counselling.

Opinions are like ass holes. Everyone's got them.

mrwonlasewonie:
Mrs woman you get time o

After how many years on nl.is IT a little boy young to be your kid brother That you'll be arguing about the dynamics of marriage with

If you went to go and que in Lagos traffic for nothing it's more valuable expending your energy typing this because he won't understand and he'll still be justifying himself

cindybaby22:

bad girl

Ishilove:
Single folks giving marital advice. It reminds me of Catholic reverend fathers and sisters handling marriage counselling.

Opinions are like ass holes. Everyone's got them.

EfemenaXY:


Oh, I know that.

But my post is also to let other young impressionable ladies out there know that there is more to a marriage / a real man than what Mr 5minutesmadness is painting it out to be.

Free thoughts, free speech, and free movement (independence) are here to stay, whether Mr 5minsmadness likes it or not. No one should be made to think being married entails living in a shoe box.