Pandorabox:
Very inspiring.

5minsmadness:
Indeed it is the age of equality. We hear it everyday on this family section how a woman should stand up to her husband and refuse to be oppressed (even if there was no oppression intended in the first place). Such talks make it look like marriage is a battlefield and there is no peace between the sexes. Some people even begin to wonder why they should get married at all when marriage apparently looks so miserable.


Well, I am here to say that marriage is only miserable to you as a woman if you want it to be! Men are natural born fighters , you can't start fighting your man as well in his own house. No man worth his salt will take it. Men were built to dominate. If you start wanting to dominate him in his own house that he paid rent for or built, insisting that he washes the plates or washes the clothes or sweeps the house or take care of the kids while u sleep all in the name of equality, you will make him set up a wall against you. He may outrightly defy you or he may sulk and do what you have ordered but be sure he is bitter about it and wondering when you became the man of the house. Soon enough if he cannot be a man indoors, he will start to look for how he can be one outside.

Having said that, a woman is a human being as well and not a workhorse or slave. She needs help as well and men have an excessive amount of muscle to spare to help around the house , especially if you cannot afford a maid. So how do you as a woman seek help from your husband without sounding like a nagging frustrated loveless feminist?

Simple. Use the gift that God gave you. Use the things that attracted your man to marry you in the first place. Use your womanliness, your feminine charms and grace! Use sweet words garnished with love and not commanding and off-putting tone that bristles with scorn. Esther was able to play with the crown of the most dangerous man in Babylon, not because she felt entitled, neither because she felt the man was equal to her. No! Her feminine charms made him as meek as a lamb in her hands.


Use your charm to handle your man and not your sharp tongue. Use your sweetness, quick wit,love and unsolicited kisses to get what you want from your king instead of declaring your rights like a country looking for every opportunity to secede. I assure you, you will get a lot more done by being a lady instead of a nag.

Peace.

Fkforyou:


On the contrary, it applies to everyone irrespective of gender, it's human nature....except if you are not observant to the happenings around you.

By the way, who made you the spokesperson for all women?

crackhaus:

I wish I could reveal all I know about these women that prance around here calling themselves 'married women'... they will all deactivate.

I'm too nice

aureen:
Ladies my advice to you is to take marital advice from a person that is speaking under the influence of the HOLY SPIRIT never agree to become a scapegoat in the hands of an imperfect person.

A word is enough for the wise.

If there is conflict between husband and wife, instead of assuming that the wife is the cause of the problem, why engaged in false accusation which is a SIN AGAINST GOD, I WOULD ADVICE YOU TO ASK THE HOLY SPIRIT TO TELL YOU WHAT THE PROBLEM IS AND HE WILL SURELY REVEAL IT TO YOU EXCEPT YOU ARE UNABLE TO HEAR HIM BECAUSE OF YOUR SIN THEN YOU SHOULD ASK FOR FORGIVENESS OF SINS YOU THINK ARE MINOR FOR ALL SINS ARE EQUAL BEFORE GOD.

Nikita1:
Yea, that's the spirit. I'm not gonna fight husby, in fact I promise him the happiest home in this world.

But when the need arises for me to fight, i'm not going to nag, shout or scream.
Women have TWO powerful things to win anything. Only the wise I know it and I'm gonna use that to fight him

Pandorabox:
Very inspiring.

5minsmadnes:
Indeed it is the age of equality. We hear it everyday on this family section how a woman should stand up to her husband and refuse to be oppressed (even if there was no oppression intended in the first place). Such talks make it look like marriage is a battlefield and there is no peace between the sexes. Some people even begin to wonder why they should get married at all when marriage apparently looks so miserable.


Well, I am here to say that marriage is only miserable to you as a woman if you want it to be! Men are natural born fighters , you can't start fighting your man as well in his own house. No man worth his salt will take it. Men were built to dominate. If you start wanting to dominate him in his own house that he paid rent for or built, insisting that he washes the plates or washes the clothes or sweeps the house or take care of the kids while u sleep all in the name of equality, you will make him set up a wall against you.

banmee:


You people just like writing rubbish. Esther prevailed only because she was wise.

idesylvester:
Na waoo this matter strong ooo

So me wey neva marry hw I go come take get that kind powerful wife wey sabi everytin?

because my father told me that if u r lookin 4 a perfect wife u must b perfect 1st n if it's a good wife u must Polish urself 2 b gud 2...hmm

Me dey wait sha

crackhaus:

Ooh la la....

*Whew

crackhaus:

I wish I could reveal all I know about these women that prance around here calling themselves 'married women'... they will all deactivate.

I'm too nice

Nikita1:
lol I'm not beating anybody oo Damnit! You are cute with nice 'fronty'

solasoulmusic:
No one is perfect and we all make mistakes and take for granted the love we are given. Only God can redeems us and show how to Live.

I learnt in psychology class that the best way to avoid conflict is to surrender after a wrong doing regardless of who is right and make peace

Sure some will think you are weak but there are far many more battles to fight not against the person placed here for you.

I say this because you don't choose your wife she's chosen for you by God you need that Israelite king journey type of love you wont find it with anyone who can't respect you too or listen

5minsmadness:


I don't understand, is that your picture? Why did u put it there, are you advertising for a wife?

Sylvester70:
one day i came back home and our neigbour and his wife were exchangeing words and the next thing we heard was "taaarrwaay" the slap that made my mum hold her cheek and immidately their was silence,i belive that is the one thing a nagging wife needs

idesylvester:
mayb my brother, wetin man go do jst xcercisin my 5minute madness

Obiwannn:

Buahahahahahaha

bisiswag:

Marriage advicers,una well done. This only works for men wey thier head dey up there. "He seeks to dominate outside" while d woman seeks to be loved up without all the drama outside. Dey dea dey fool yourself. Each and every marriage is perculiar please stop brainwashing pple.

Mindfulness:


Nothing was used out of context. Everything fits the context of this thread.

I am female whether you consider me female or not. I have a vag.ina, boobies and a round azz. I menstruate and I can give birth. Even if I decide to become a soldier tomorrow and fight ISIS and BH, I am still female and even my passport says so. So your perception of and opinion on what a female should behave like is completely ireelevant.

And what most men like is irrelevant also. The last time I ckecked, you guys claimed women were not polygmaous by nature so it's enough for a woman that one man considers her attractive.

What the problem is?
The problem is the one-sided approach to an institution that is made of two people and the implication that women attack their husbands like they lack proper home training.

And he wonders why people told him to get married first.

Again, are you people surrounded by belligerent animals who don't know how to communicate in a civil way?
What the heck is your motivation behind such threads?

Olabestonic001:


I'm very afraid you're wrong .
The op prescribed a working formula for wives and not ALL FEMALES. Yes, not all FEMALES are gonna end up as wives! That's the error we are all making here. The fact you have all the things you were indexing as females does not make you a wife dear. My greatest issues are with guys that also think having genitals assumes them as husbands. It takes a husband to find a wife and guys will definitely find rebels babes with vagina and the likes.
We need GOD to be Husbands and Wives. Just because someone is sexually active does not qualify them to be husbands or wives. If you can't LEAD a woman, don't marry as you'll soon Divorce and if you can't SUBMIT YOUR WILL TO THAT MAN (when you are both dead sure about your views) don't marry too. Husbands and wives are roles and responsibilities which crossing into the other's lane and trying to "drag" it with him/her will always spell doom. Marriage is a choice. Many men and women still think their folly will work in marital life, I weep for them. They are recipé for disaster. I'd always tell all men; If you can't love her unconditionally, don't marry that lady (love here encompasses respect, adore, cherish, honor, lavish on etc). I also tell ladies; When you're near your home, forget your accolades and achievement, if you can't submit your will to him, don't marry him( submit here does not insinuate folly but regards. It encompasses respect, adore, cherish, defer to, etc). These liberal styles are for liberals and must never be brought to GOD'S institution of marriage. Granted, it might work or not but its a probability. The former of roles and responsibilities (if strictly adhered to) will always work!
And for those men who thought marriage is a blanket to women servitude and men lording it over her, they must really have been deceived by the devil himself! A responsible husband is the joy of his wife. Responsibility will always ensure you never want your wife to suffer. She's your better-half, help her out in the kitchen, with the kids, with house chores and even in her business. Everything she has is yours and yours is hers.
If we all know that marital vow swallows individuality, the man will strife to make his wife happy and glad always while the woman will strife to also make the man "Head" always.

May the Good LORD save us all from men who are sons of Belial and ladies who are Rebellious.

Olabestonic001:


Your words are very deep. But, many people do not know that the cause of marital friction is highly embedded in the Genesis of the marriage than the Revelation of it. You can't choose a sinner and expect GOD to be your guardian in the marriage. We can only repent if we've done such and pray it works out well. People choose their lives without following GOD's will and expects a Supreme Being to solve their self made thrash.
The equations of marriage will never work without HIM. Traditionalists Alpha-males will continually like to see wives as sub-humans and Liberal Feminists will like to subjugate the men buy its whims and caprices. Until we continually focus on GOD, the frustrations shall continue unabatedly.

Sylvester70:
one day i came back home and our neigbour and his wife were exchangeing words and the next thing we heard was "taaarrwaay" the slap that made my mum hold her cheek and immidately their was silence,i belive that is the one thing a nagging wife needs

Mindfulness:


And what makes you think that I share your Christian dogmas?
And after you have answered the question, show me the people who love their wives unconditionally.

Or open a new thread and take a poll asking men if they love their wives unconditionally.

Mindfulness:


I am sure it also applies to your brother-in-law and your future son-in-law albeit I hope that your dad has more sophisticated methods to deal with disagreements with his wife, your mother. Cheers!

LaDivva:
Nice one, works like charm on my man. Just put on a hot, transparent gown and show off those beautiful laps

Sylvester70:
one day i came back home and our neigbour and his wife were exchangeing words and the next thing we heard was "taaarrwaay" the slap that made my mum hold her cheek and immidately their was silence,i belive that is the one thing a nagging wife needs