Misogynist2014:
This post is worth its weight in gold.
"The very essence of romance is uncertainty." Oscar Wilde.
Just try not to be selfish or too expectant.
Follow your brain, not your heart, thank me later.

Toks2008:
A "fool for love" is a phrase used to describe a seemingly willing party who is ready to go all the way to please the other party to the very best of his or her ability.

Just follow your heart. [/b]

Toks2008:


What is the assurance that your job or business will be there next year?

What is the assurance that anyone will live to see the next 3yrs?

Life is a risk,ur job is a risk yet you give it ur best cos u wnt d best result from it so we need to approach our love life in same way.

Except u don't love d lady.

UuzbaGuuzba:
OP do you love?
Is there any one you love?

You can't write what you don't know.

God is Love. You can't love God whom you don't see if you do not love your neighbour whom you see.

You have your WHOLE life to practice love. Because by the time your life is over, that is the report card you will use to enter or not to enter heaven.

So how far? Redefine again.

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
I don't understand these.

Aviero:
Negative mindsets shouldn't deter us from showing good affection to the people in our lives. Abi?

I've learnt the hard way. These days, it's all about reciprocality. If I show bae adequate affection, and she doesn't reciprocate well, I begin to have second thoughts. I slow down on whatever it is I am doing.

You can't tell me to keep doing good to bae, when I know that bae is taking the good for granted and giving the goods to someone else.

I can't risk it all for any bae that's not going to risk it all for me.

So, OP, being careful matters alot.

I can't just be doing mumu all the time, and in the end, get heartbroken. I need to be careful this time around.

Aviero:
Negative mindsets shouldn't deter us from showing good affection to the people in our lives. Abi?

I've learnt the hard way. These days, it's all about reciprocality. If I show bae adequate affection, and she doesn't reciprocate well, I begin to have second thoughts. I slow down on whatever it is I am doing.

You can't tell me to keep doing good to bae, when I know that bae is taking the good for granted and giving the goods to someone else.

I can't risk it all for any bae that's not going to risk it all for me.

So, OP, being careful matters alot.

I can't just be doing mumu all the time, and in the end, get heartbroken. I need to be careful this time around.

kingsilly:

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
I don't understand these.

Toks2008:


6 paragraphs...too lengthy?

GOD have mercy

Seenyo:
Hell NO!...once beaten, twice shy!...# u don't ascertain the depth of a river with both feet!!..ain't no b*tch can fool me no more!!!

mimzy:
Hmmmm...

Toks2008:
A "fool for love" is a phrase used to describe a seemingly willing party who is ready to go all the way to please the other party to the very best of his or her ability.

We all know that love is a figment of imagination and no matter how you profess love to another person,that same person can turn around and rub it on your face and this is why many people are extremely careful in the way they express their affection towards whoever they claim to love just to avoid being called a fool for love.

But the bigger problem lies in trying to be too careful as many people have lost potentially wonderful affairs just because they preempt the motive of the other person who might just be very sincere with them thereby losing that person to another who is ready to be a fool for that same man or woman regardless of the expectations.

I have come to realize that the best way you can have peace in any affair is to risk it all...in other words, become a fool for that man or woman you truly desire..

If you feel like helping your bae through school,business or just buying him or her an expensive gift as well as going an extra mile please go ahead without second guessing or thinking negatively that the person could leave you someday for another.


How many of us have felt like getting an expensive gift for our bae or going the extra mile but have stopped to think "Is he/she really worth it?,what if he/she leaves me eventually?,what if he/she is cheating on me?" and we just change our mind.

If we must have a great affair and a peaceful one at that,we must learn to follow our heart and act towards our bae as if such person will never leave but at the same time, expect them to leave even if you give same the whole world.

The truth is that you don't go into any investment with mediocrity and expect a favourable outcome.

Every love affair is like a profit or loss business investment with an element of risk but deserves our "best" input to succeed and whether it works out or not is a different ball game.

Just follow your heart.

Smellymouth:
There's no love without risk, and, worse, there's no love without loss.


In romance,in friendship, in parenting—in every kind of love that matters—it's just one risk after another.

We have to love and know that loss hovers nearby.There are some of us: lucky and scared, hating to be disappointed, sorry to be disappointing, but unwilling to do without. For all the ants at the picnic and the jellyfish in the ocean, for all the love we have that goes astray or is never returned or is shared until old age, only to have our hearts broken by a parting no less painful, we clamor for that chance and we wouldn't have it any other way.

If you love, there is no other way.

Toks2008:


Kilagbe kileju?