Mindfulness:


What kind of psychology class?

You should avoid escalation, not conflict. Conflict is a natural outcome in human interaction of any kind. It's natural, necessary and can be very productive unlike escalation, which is destructive.

And I even agree with the OP that it should be resolved in a civil way that considers the common good but I do not subscribe to the notion that conflict is the same as a battle or fight even though it can end up in one.

crazymommy:
And what happens when those laps get old and not beautiful anymore??what about if the wife had accident??does that mean the marriage is automatically dead on arrival??..I laugh when I see comments like this...I could remember tiwa savage talked about seduction in marriage and that it works like magic but why did her husband still had an edible catering since her so called showing beautiful laps works like magic as she claimed??you people think marriage is all about sex and love....there is more to marriage than just love and sex...

krak101:
sister please share so we can checkmate wifey before she unrolls her game plan

holluphemydavid:
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I will advice u not to starve him with Sex and food, d aftermath of it might shock u

Ontarget:

If women are also fascinated with boobs then what happens to men? You can't really blame some men for lacking self control.

DeRay98:


I know the 2 weapons women have been using for ages; one is food especially if the man hubby can't cook and if he is broke. The other one is turning the children against him...but our forefathers had solutions for these.

titane:
toasting tour fellow girl?

cindybaby22:

lol
true... crying is even more powerful than force for a woman

CXLVII:
If all of the above does not work, then you have no option than to start using Juju on him

Nikita1:
No

Olabestonic001:


I'm very afraid you're wrong .
The op prescribed a working formula for wives and not ALL FEMALES. Yes, not all FEMALES are gonna end up as wives! That's the error we are all making here. The fact you have all the things you were indexing as females does not make you a wife dear. My greatest issues are with guys that also think having genitals assumes them as husbands. It takes a husband to find a wife and guys will definitely find rebels babes with vagina and the likes.
We need GOD to be Husbands and Wives. Just because someone is sexually active does not qualify them to be husbands or wives. If you can't LEAD a woman, don't marry as you'll soon Divorce and if you can't SUBMIT YOUR WILL TO THAT MAN (when you are both dead sure about your views) don't marry too. Husbands and wives are roles and responsibilities which crossing into the other's lane and trying to "drag" it with him/her will always spell doom. Marriage is a choice. Many men and women still think their folly will work in marital life, I weep for them. They are recipé for disaster. I'd always tell all men; If you can't love her unconditionally, don't marry that lady (love here encompasses respect, adore, cherish, honor, lavish on etc). I also tell ladies; When you're near your home, forget your accolades and achievement, if you can't submit your will to him, don't marry him( submit here does not insinuate folly but regards. It encompasses respect, adore, cherish, defer to, etc). These liberal styles are for liberals and must never be brought to GOD'S institution of marriage. Granted, it might work or not but its a probability. The former of roles and responsibilities (if strictly adhered to) will always work!
And for those men who thought marriage is a blanket to women servitude and men lording it over her, they must really have been deceived by the devil himself! A responsible husband is the joy of his wife. Responsibility will always ensure you never want your wife to suffer. She's your better-half, help her out in the kitchen, with the kids, with house chores and even in her business. Everything she has is yours and yours is hers.
If we all know that marital vow swallows individuality, the man will strife to make his wife happy and glad always while the woman will strife to also make the man "Head" always.

May the Good LORD save us all from men who are sons of Belial and ladies who are Rebellious.

krak101:
Help a fellow NL.

Nikita1:
it's ladies secret
I can't tell u

krak101:
There's no such thing as secret under the heavens. Lemme ask my bestie... She should know since. I'll get back to you

Nikita1:
It's not even about sex bro. Sex is not one of it. Keep guessing

holluphemydavid:

Lol, pls share with me and let's me av an idea incase if my girl wnt to use Dat on me # smile

aureen:
Ladies my advice to you is to take marital advice from a person that is speaking under the influence of the HOLY SPIRIT never agree to become a scapegoat in the hands of an imperfect person.

A word is enough for the wise.

If there is conflict between husband and wife, instead of assuming that the wife is the cause of the problem, why engaged in false accusation which is a SIN AGAINST GOD, I WOULD ADVICE YOU TO ASK THE HOLY SPIRIT TO TELL YOU WHAT THE PROBLEM IS AND HE WILL SURELY REVEAL IT TO YOU EXCEPT YOU ARE UNABLE TO HEAR HIM BECAUSE OF YOUR SIN THEN YOU SHOULD ASK FOR FORGIVENESS OF SINS YOU THINK ARE MINOR FOR ALL SINS ARE EQUAL BEFORE GOD.

Nikita1:
*tour* bawo. I'm not toasting, i'm admiring nd what's wrong with that

Nikita1:
*tour* bawo. I'm not toasting, i'm admiring nd what's wrong with that

LaDivva:


Hello, we're talking about better ways to ask for assistance from our spouses and not an everyday thing. Save the sermon okay, I'm not Tiwa Savage and my man isn't Tbillz.
Stick to whatever rocks your boat.

titane:
my microscope is on you. my microscope is on you.

MmmS:


When you want him to feed his child while you cook for him, you have to go seduce him first!.

When you want him to pick up his clothes that he dumps anywhere in the bedroom. You have to give lap dance first.

When you want him to wash some dishes while you cook and prepare for your guests coming over, you have to take your clothes off for it first.

When you want him to help the children with putting their clothes on for school while you prepare food for every one, you have to give him MouthAction first.


So what happens when she grows too old and wrinkled to bribe with sexual appeal? I assumed a responsible person helps where he sees the need to without being asked. Please help me understand

Would you be willing to bribe your wife with gifts and surprises all your life just to get her to do something in your home?

Simple. Use the gift that God gave you. Use the things that attracted your man to marry you in the first place. Use your womanliness, your feminine charms and grace! Use sweet words garnished with love and not commanding and off-putting tone that bristles with scorn. Esther was able to play with the crown of the most dangerous man in Babylon, not because she felt entitled, neither because she felt the man was equal to her. No! Her feminine charms made him as meek as a lamb in her hands.


Use your charm to handle your man and not your sharp tongue. Use your sweetness, quick wit,love and unsolicited kisses to get what you want from your king instead of declaring your rights like a country looking for every opportunity to secede. I assure you, you will get a lot more done by being a lady instead of a nag.

Peace.

5minsmadness:



Its interesting so many people liked this and no one could see the irony in the post.

Where did I mention sex in my post? Where did I mention lapdance? It shows the kind of mindset that the generality of you have. For your information a woman's powers of persuasion go beyond sex.

Let me reiterate the post for you and bring out the main points for you since u were probably too lazy to even read the write-up.

Timbuktou:


You're just using cliches out of context. How will their marriage work if they cannot resolve conflict effectively? I'll tell you how. By employing effective strategies. Some people shout their way to a resolution, some using physical force, some sulk, silent treatment, etc. Stop painting relationships as a place where husband and wife are programmed robots whose thoughts will always be in tandem and when there is a disagreement all that's needed is a reset of the programme.

I would like you to show me where OP or other married men have prescribed subjugating the women in their lives in this thread. The message has been simple: use your femininity to your advantage. I wonder why females are resisting femininity. No wonder there's so much homo sexuality in the world today

LaDivva:


Hello, we're talking about better ways to ask for assistance from our spouses and not an everyday thing. Save the sermon okay, I'm not Tiwa Savage and my man isn't Tbillz.
Stick to whatever rocks your boat.

idesylvester:
Na waoo this matter strong ooo

So me wey neva marry hw I go come take get that kind powerful wife wey sabi everytin?

because my father told me that if u r lookin 4 a perfect wife u must b perfect 1st n if it's a good wife u must Polish urself 2 b gud 2...hmm

Me dey wait sha

5minsmadness:
Indeed it is the age of equality. We hear it everyday on this family section how a woman should stand up to her husband and refuse to be oppressed (even if there was no oppression intended in the first place). Such talks make it look like marriage is a battlefield and there is no peace between the sexes. Some people even begin to wonder why they should get married at all when marriage apparently looks so miserable.


Well, I am here to say that marriage is only miserable to you as a woman if you want it to be! Men are natural born fighters , you can't start fighting your man as well in his own house. No man worth his salt will take it. Men were built to dominate. If you start wanting to dominate him in his own house that he paid rent for or built, insisting that he washes the plates or washes the clothes or sweeps the house or take care of the kids while u sleep all in the name of equality, you will make him set up a wall against you. He may outrightly defy you or he may sulk and do what you have ordered but be sure he is bitter about it and wondering when you became the man of the house. Soon enough if he cannot be a man indoors, he will start to look for how he can be one outside.

Having said that, a woman is a human being as well and not a workhorse or slave. She needs help as well and men have an excessive amount of muscle to spare to help around the house , especially if you cannot afford a maid. So how do you as a woman seek help from your husband without sounding like a nagging frustrated loveless feminist?

Simple. Use the gift that God gave you. Use the things that attracted your man to marry you in the first place. Use your womanliness, your feminine charms and grace! Use sweet words garnished with love and not commanding and off-putting tone that bristles with scorn. Esther was able to play with the crown of the most dangerous man in Babylon, not because she felt entitled, neither because she felt the man was equal to her. No! Her feminine charms made him as meek as a lamb in her hands.


Use your charm to handle your man and not your sharp tongue. Use your sweetness, quick wit,love and unsolicited kisses to get what you want from your king instead of declaring your rights like a country looking for every opportunity to secede. I assure you, you will get a lot more done by being a lady instead of a nag.

Peace.

bukatyne:




@Bold:

sub·ju·gate


/ˈsəbjəˌɡāt/

verb

verb: subjugate; 3rd person present: subjugates; past tense: subjugated; past participle: subjugated; gerund or present participle: subjugating

bring under domination or control, especially by conquest.
"the invaders had soon subjugated most of the native population"

synonyms: conquer, vanquish, defeat, crush, quash, bring someone to their knees, enslave, subdue, suppress
"the Normans had subjugated most of Ireland's Gaelic population"

antonyms: liberate

•make someone or something subordinate to.
"the new ruler firmly subjugated the Church to the state"

BloodyCrook:

She said advice and you're talking opinion

The internet is where people with superficial knowledge brandish shallow advice from Google.

A non-soldier can air his opinion about sambisa, but a foot soldier who had seen combat will give advice and vivid experience about sambisa. He would tell from experience and happenings, not imaginative thesis

Learn the difference.

Timbuktou:


So, are you under subjugation by your boss in the office?

Onyezaza:
Hahaha you are not serious