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Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by uchwar1: 9:29pm On Jul 05, 2016
Chrisrare:
Marriage is just overrated, just tell her u've been transfered, simple. Some peeps go just dey sweat over nothing. If u get over this, dont lie to her again since ur serious about her.
u mean his NYSC cert was transfered too? help a brother
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by banmee(m): 9:29pm On Jul 05, 2016
njiasi30:
Toor, grin d foundation was built on lies. It's always gd 2 b transparent no matter what. It's nt a must dat every relationship ends in marriage Na. U see were ur chop and clean mouth ve landed u grin .Honestly, if I advice u, I will b lying 2. cheesy

Lol...what amazes me is how did chick did not figure it out? Dumb, anyone?
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by UjSizzle(f): 9:30pm On Jul 05, 2016
This is why lying is very very bad.
Tell her the truth... just the necessary truth so you don't shoot yourself. No need telling her you have lose morals and thought she was the same, too. But if she does ask, well... you know the right thing. Do it.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by jennifer22(f): 9:32pm On Jul 05, 2016
Lienus
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by emerged01(m): 9:35pm On Jul 05, 2016
Finally,let her see foul yansh
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Justbeu(m): 9:36pm On Jul 05, 2016
ebbybest:
This is how it should Go....
Take her out with the ring in ur pockets, have fun eat, drink and laugh together.
Then you start this way-----
Baby there is sumtine i have been meaning to tell you. I have been keeping it away from you but i think its the right time to tell you. But what ever it is that am gonna tell you, please find a place in your heart to forgive me. I love you and i mean it each and every time i tell you i love you.
I have always lied to you about my self. The truth is i never served in abuja, was never living in abuja and am nt working in abuja. I work in Uyo no abuja. I lied to you because i never knew we are gonna be this close to each other. I lied to you because i thought our relationship was gonna lead to no where. But i was wrong. Now i have realized that am wrong, i have realized that i you are my source of joy.
Then you kneel and say Please my Love am sorry. You are my perfect half.
Then you bring out the ring and propose to her.....



Thank me letter.






10 GBOOOSSSSSAAAAAA........4 MAN WEY SABI..........


Wit small small cikini smile..................walahi she go bless ur life wit double blessings.....e:g......double answers ;I 4GIVE U ,& YES .............= IBEJI.......if she dare say no, oboy waka wit pride @least u don nack & clean mouth.....DOUBLE DEAL..........if u lie again,to convince her 2 say yes dat na DOUBLE LIE......if she finds out DOUBLE FAILURE.........so my guy do d needful, start on a gud foundation,start wit d truth......just do it in style, @ebbybest just gave u d clue,so make use of ur creativity now 2 detail & master ur strategy....u know her beta dan us so play ur game...but make una invite us 4 igbeyawo.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Chrisrare: 9:43pm On Jul 05, 2016
uchwar1:
u mean his NYSC cert was transfered too? help a brother
Then he shuld come clean and tell her d truth. Wots he afraid of, there r a lot of women out there, if she doesn't accept him then she doesn't really love him and he shuld find another woman.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Styx01: 9:51pm On Jul 05, 2016
engrjoseph208:
I have been a guest on nairaland for 4 years. This is my first topic here. PLEASE DO NOT READ WITHOUT GIVING YOUR COMMENT, THANKS.

In December 2014, I met this beautiful woman while I was enjoying the xmas and new year festivals with my parents in Ibadan. She is schooling here but lives in Ogun state. I never thought we could go far, so I wanted to chop and clean mouth. I was serving at the time and I told her I was serving at Abuja instead of Kwara state. After my NYSC I told her I have settled down in Abuja instead of Oyo state. I have a well-paid job and live comfortably but everything is in Oyo state and not FCT. I didn’t want her to know I am living nearby because I didn’t see a future with her at the time. She didn’t appear to me as a good girl when we met, I thought she was a runs girl but now I know I was wrong, she is even more innocent than me and she gets all I crave for in a lady. Well, I picked her up by the roadside but I didn’t get to sleep with her but we became friends and she still thinks I served, live and work in FCT. We usually see when there is a festivity or holiday like easter, xmas etc. under the pretext that I came to celebrate with my parents. Anyways, I want to propose to her now. I don’t know how to tell her the truth because we are now in love and I do not want to lose her. PLEASE NAIRALANDERS HOW DO I GO ABOUT THIS WITHOUT LOSING HER.
The truth shall set you free....say it alway. Make sure you ask God for forgiveness.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by astute07(f): 9:51pm On Jul 05, 2016
engrjoseph208:
1) I don’t know whether to tell her that I lied to her because I didn’t see us together at first (THIS IS THE TRUTH). Will she still love me like before knowing fully well this will break her heart? More worrisome is the fact that I do tell her that I have loved her since the first time we met.

2) Or maybe I should tell her that I intentionally lied because that was the only way I could date a girl in the past. That I preferred a long distance relationship while growing up. This would still hurt her when she thought about many of our gists where I pretended I was at Abuja and not Kwara state/Oyo state as the case may be.

3) I was also considering lying to her that I relocated from ABJ but my NYSC was at Kwara not FCT. No explanation to justify withholding that information for more than a year.

GUYS AND LADIES PLS HELP A BROTHER OUT. MY MIND IS IN TROUBLE AND SHE THINKS I AM FINE.


You should be able to know by now if she is a good listener and of short temperament.
Either way, tell her the truth, it would hurt @ first, but if the love is mutual she WD forgive & forget ASAP & try win back her trust by being plain thereafter.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by czarr(m): 9:51pm On Jul 05, 2016
ebbybest:
This is how it should Go....
Take her out with the ring in ur pockets, have fun eat, drink and laugh together.
Then you start this way-----
Baby there is sumtine i have been meaning to tell you. I have been keeping it away from you but i think its the right time to tell you. But what ever it is that am gonna tell you, please find a place in your heart to forgive me. I love you and i mean it each and every time i tell you i love you.
I have always lied to you about my self. The truth is i never served in abuja, was never living in abuja and am nt working in abuja. I work in Uyo no abuja. I lied to you because i never knew we are gonna be this close to each other. I lied to you because i thought our relationship was gonna lead to no where. But i was wrong. Now i have realized that am wrong, i have realized that i you are my source of joy.
Then you kneel and say Please my Love am sorry. You are my perfect half.
Then you bring out the ring and propose to her.....



Thank me letter.
too much Korean film
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Kunberg: 9:55pm On Jul 05, 2016
See life
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by fairygeh(f): 9:55pm On Jul 05, 2016
OP,let me be really sincere with you,what you did is wrong, this is not to make you feel bad than you already do,but even if you are a player,cant you still play her even if you were in the same state without necessarily lieing that you reside in Abuja Kwara to Ogun state isn't a distant relationship enough for you??

I think you actually lied to her with Abuja cos u wanna be forming or you are not proud of IB or something. Well,you have learnt your lesson anyways,its bad to lay a relationship foundation based on lies that don't even make sense.

Well,the deed is already done,so way forward...

If you tell her the truth,i don't know her kinda person though but do you think she would forget!?? Even if she forgives?? The picture you painted of her shows you guys were communicating all through,would she forget all the times you told her you were in Abuja, whereas you were in Kwara? Would she truthfully forgive and forget?? You have to really consider this cos what if she starts misbehaving later to you in future. Marriage is more than all this...

I would have actually supported you lieing to her that u were transferred to Oyo state,that is reasonable enough but my dear,what about your conscience, are you gonna keep it from the woman you would be spending the rest of your life with forever?? Lies can't go on forever. And what if someone * friends who knows you actually served in Kwara turns up one day and has evidences with pictures, tells her you both served in Kwara? What would you do?? That would be worse..she would end up hating you ...


Either way,i think you should tell her the truth,if for anything,at least to free your mind,and have a clear conscience. However,just pray ,i mean pray she is someone that forgives truly and not a pretender,it is very important.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Godblessaplus1(m): 9:55pm On Jul 05, 2016
Nice one babe... Love you


ebbybest:
This is how it should Go....
Take her out with the ring in ur pockets, have fun eat, drink and laugh together.
Then you start this way-----
Baby there is sumtine i have been meaning to tell you. I have been keeping it away from you but i think its the right time to tell you. But what ever it is that am gonna tell you, please find a place in your heart to forgive me. I love you and i mean it each and every time i tell you i love you.
I have always lied to you about my self. The truth is i never served in abuja, was never living in abuja and am nt working in abuja. I work in Uyo no abuja. I lied to you because i never knew we are gonna be this close to each other. I lied to you because i thought our relationship was gonna lead to no where. But i was wrong. Now i have realized that am wrong, i have realized that i you are my source of joy.
Then you kneel and say Please my Love am sorry. You are my perfect half.
Then you bring out the ring and propose to her.....



Thank me letter.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Aubrey1(m): 10:01pm On Jul 05, 2016
U Don shit for church............Oga u Don mess up!
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by DAntivirus: 10:04pm On Jul 05, 2016
ogawisdom:


Use ur brain tell her u have been transferred to oyo, this one na small thing nw.

Pls there r ppl with more serious issues on nl looking for advice joor angry

Abi o... I don't know d big deal in dis issue; what of me that never told a girl my real age for 4years(she tot we were age mates not knowing she's older by 2years)... Which one is worse
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Slimberry1(f): 10:05pm On Jul 05, 2016
Be sure of what you want, do your research well over the Lady, if she is truly an innocent lady, just tell her the whoe truth, if she will stay she will, if she won't she will not.. .. As long as you reveal the truth by yourself on time, don't let her get to know from another source... Go clean with her, wha you did is no big deal to me tho', kiss kiss undecidedat least you are feeling remorse already
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by stubbornman(m): 10:11pm On Jul 05, 2016
ebbybest:
This is how it should Go....
Take her out with the ring in ur pockets, have fun eat, drink and laugh together.
Then you start this way-----
Baby there is sumtine i have been meaning to tell you. I have been keeping it away from you but i think its the right time to tell you. But what ever it is that am gonna tell you, please find a place in your heart to forgive me. I love you and i mean it each and every time i tell you i love you.
I have always lied to you about my self. The truth is i never served in abuja, was never living in abuja and am nt working in abuja. I work in Uyo no abuja. I lied to you because i never knew we are gonna be this close to each other. I lied to you because i thought our relationship was gonna lead to no where. But i was wrong. Now i have realized that am wrong, i have realized that i you are my source of joy.
Then you kneel and say Please my Love am sorry. You are my perfect half.
Then you bring out the ring and propose to her.....



Thank me letter.
the scope master cheesy

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Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Nobody: 10:14pm On Jul 05, 2016
UjSizzle:

You know nothing, Jolsnow.


I know winter is coming.
And I know where to put It.
Believe me lady, I know something. Lol.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Mandeme(m): 10:17pm On Jul 05, 2016
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Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by BackOff(m): 10:21pm On Jul 05, 2016
You never wanted her to get too close until you're sure there's something in it for both of you.

That's your best excuse for lying.

Confess everything to her that way without including anything about marriage in the discussion. Because if you understand how a woman's heart works, then you'll know that mentioning marriage during confession can muddle up everything.

Just tell her the truth. If she is able to forgive, then you'll know you have a wife material indeed.

Though you shouldn't expect her to forgive you immediately. Give her time to be shocked, and to think it through.

Just don't stop apologizing.

All the best bro.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by DAntivirus: 10:21pm On Jul 05, 2016
Climax4:
that is similar condition am into now meet this particular girl with the intention of chop and go but the girl fall in love with me I left her here in the east to west for my nysc after my service I came to east but always tell her that I'm still in the west trying to find work and as well do my masters but once I want to see her I will blow one lie of very urgent message that is bringing me east she will come and spend sometime with me till when I will tell her that I'm about going back to west. till now this girl don't know that I'm in the east since 2014 that I finished my service the worst thing is that she call me on a daily basis at times her call is a disturbance to me that I don't answer it neither did I call her back

Biafran grammar; nna men, e nweren ya
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Mekzyzeus(m): 10:27pm On Jul 05, 2016
saintdennis:
You met her in Dec. '14 and till today July 5 2016 she hasn't been able to figure out u ain't in fct? Haba

Bro why do u wanna marry a dummy?

Anyway no need telling her the truth since she's either too dvll to figure it out or actually playing dvll to deceive you.

In either case just inform her you've been transferred to ibadan or just got a job in i.b so you moving back fully.
That will do the trick.

Bruh!!! You are enigmatic jare!!
She's a dimwit
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by fombadi: 10:31pm On Jul 05, 2016
Stop being emotional or worried over this. You only lied to create an impression. Good thing you don't want to live in the lie. If these are the only lies they aren't too big to be fixed.

You may just have to tell one more lie. As someone else already suggested,tell her you got transferred. All the other lies don't matter any more. in the near future you can jokingly tell her about the funny lies you told. Right now you don't want her to start doubting you. Perfect guys always lose don't be one. So tell one more lie and pray to God for forgiveness Lol.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by DedeNkem: 10:31pm On Jul 05, 2016
Why did you lie about something so irrelevant?
Only a compulsive liar does that!

Tell her the truth now and stop st*upid lies!
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by Hydra1(m): 10:32pm On Jul 05, 2016
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Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by engrjoseph208: 10:32pm On Jul 05, 2016
I thank everyone that has commented, I read everything and thanks to the admin of this site.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by predatorX: 10:39pm On Jul 05, 2016
You have nothing to lose. You got the bar to maintain a good living status. On the flipside, she would be proud that you lied and she fell for it so long as you are not a pathological and serial Liar.
Girls love boyfriends that lie, but when you become the MAN that husbands them, never ever ever lie
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by slimmestify(f): 10:41pm On Jul 05, 2016
ebbybest:
This is how it should Go....
Take her out with the ring in ur pockets, have fun eat, drink and laugh together.
Then you start this way-----
Baby there is sumtine i have been meaning to tell you. I have been keeping it away from you but i think its the right time to tell you. But what ever it is that am gonna tell you, please find a place in your heart to forgive me. I love you and i mean it each and every time i tell you i love you.
I have always lied to you about my self. The truth is i never served in abuja, was never living in abuja and am nt working in abuja. I work in Uyo no abuja. I lied to you because i never knew we are gonna be this close to each other. I lied to you because i thought our relationship was gonna lead
to no where. But i was wrong. Now i have realized that am wrong, i have realized that i you are my source of joy.
Then you kneel and say Please my Love am sorry. You are my perfect half.
Then you bring out the ring and propose to her.....



Thank me letter.
GBAM!!!
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by nonix22(m): 10:42pm On Jul 05, 2016
how are you sure she ain't being so loyal that made you fall over heels with her cos you told her you are an Abuja based...
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by ComrNino(m): 10:49pm On Jul 05, 2016
engrjoseph208:
bros i have thought about this too but nothing to back the NYSC issue up. My NYSC was at Kwara state not FCT. She had no idea I was in Kwara all the time I was serving and our communication was great.
if actually d girl in question is in nairaland readin this thread...and seein wat her fiancee or husband in makin its suggestin abt continuin wit d ultimate lie and dia by waitin 4 ur nxt lie again wit a slap n showin u dis particular comment of urs engr joseph208 ? Lwkmd :-P
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by AreaFada2: 10:55pm On Jul 05, 2016
Some women tell worse lies than this, including bringing you a child they know is not yours. All without batting an eye.

You were serving, just not stated location. You are working just not stated location.
Wrong to lie but I see no biggie here if you are ready to come clean and stop bobos.

Don't lace your coming clean with marriage proposal. It would seem like a bribe.

Come clean and see how she reacts. If she forgives, marry her.

If she does not forgive, let her go. You don't need an unforgiving wife, no matter how much you think you are in love.

Good luck.
Re: I Lied To Her And Now I Want To Marry Her (please Advise Me) by ayusco85(m): 10:55pm On Jul 05, 2016
Holywizard:
Just take her to a romantic place & start begging b4 telling her de truth. If u can shed tears, better.


Begging u said? Don't be a sissy young man. Did he stole her money? He was just been smart and careful. A simple explanation and some subtle apology will do. Not wat u typed up there.

Man na man o. Unless he is a boy

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