Juxtified:
It always starts with going through the phones

HardMirror:

Don't mind the silly girl. Maybe she even forced the guy to marry her, who knows. Maybe she even snatched him from another friend. I am sure we have not seen the last of this story.

MizMyColi:
Are you a cheat as well?

I mean, do you do other women's men/husbands?

My reason for asking is that you are mostly what you attract to yourself.

Now, don't get me wrong, I understand that no matter how good a person is, there will always be bad eggs in their lives.
But for these bad eggs to be people from whom you share same meal, bed and body?
This is serious!

If you truly know that you have done absolutely nothing to deserve the kind of people who are in your life, please cut all ties.

I know it hurts. It's okay to grieve.
But while at it, please remember that where there is life, hope abounds.
Grieve, be sad, feel as you want to.
But try to be happy again. Truly happy.
You
If I were you, I will not allow that man touch me without going for HIV testing.

It's understandable if he shags just one of your close friends, but TWO simultaneously?

His case is Spiritual.

abimbawealth:

We are talking about 2 girls ooo...


He's playing the 3 friends (including the 'wife')

Lightening:


Miz, you nailed it. The wife herself seems to have belonged to a clique of loose sluts without morals . This explains why not just one but two of her own friends started sleeping with her husband just three months or less into the marriage. Of all the tons of ladies the young husband meets daily, it is only her wife's friends that he is cheating the wife with.Who knows how many more of her philandering friends are yet to be caught. What goes around indeed comes around. The madam's shipments are beginning to berth.

Checked86:
Fear fear girl. It is God's grace and discipline that keep marriage. I always tell people that the right time to get married is not when you have the money, house or cars, but when you have prepared your mind and ready to discipline yourself for the betterment of the union. I should have given long advice to the woman but I learnt that OP is not the woman and there is no way she can read to this page even if she is a nairalander or guest. But divorce should be out of it. Anger should be out of it. Family meeting should be out of it. There are four persons involved(may be five or more, u nva can tell. but let deal with the 'seen' rather than the unseen); the woman, the man and the two women. It requires strong heart and wisdom to do it but it is the only way she can get her husband back. She should not be angry with the husband. Call the two girls over and discuss the issue with them in front of her husband. Show them the chats they had with her husband and that will make them mute and the woman would then mount the podium and talk sense into them including her husband. I also advise the woman to watch "War Room". It is a movies I so much I admire; and reference a lot.

pepigeorge:


The man is a players so are the 3 women...He was fu..king the 3 b4 he married one...the 3 women are used to that kind of life hence she can't confront her friends

kajoula:

You made a point there,
but his parents are people he has regards for and he will always respect their opinion.

midehi2:

calling them together to talk sense into them will warrant her husband to even beat her up in front of the two women just to cover up his cheat, some men are loosed my dear.

onyekachee:
some girls can be so shameless,just imagine her saying I still didn't misbehave despite the fact that you are married
Arrant nonsense
in my own words she married the wrong man sorry to say,and she has to deal with his infidelity now and always
But best option will be to leave the marriage because that man can never change

pepigeorge:


The man is a players so are the 3 women...He was fu..king the 3 b4 he married one...the 3 women are used to that kind of life hence she can't confront her friends

Anowax:
I am not defending the man in question, but you, my friend, have no moral grounds to judge him going by the kind of picture you put up on your dp which portrays you as a seductress, and as such not better than the lady you're condemning.

girl4rmspace:


speechless that's how you make me feel when am with you i am lost for words and nothing is for real. I love those mj lyrics

Teespice:


judginus.

what ever happened to focusing on the message and not the messenger.

vanvick247:



Then after going tru the phone distrust sets in. Heartbreak and sleepless nights go come join the Marra. Before u know High BP sef go follow. Yet d problem no go solve sef.

HardMirror:

Do you experience same?

midehi2:
that is why i wil never check his phone, it will give me hypertension...ooops, i used to but i have stopped, no be me ooo

men are always men

esosa993:




I think it's better to check his phone, what if he infects you with a disease?.....what scares me my husband cheating on me isn't issue of another woman snatching him away, my fear is getting infected. I'll advice to go for a check up first.

Abel202:
All these immature newly weds and the silly advisers who knows no better.
Look O.P just tell the lady to confront her husband. He loves her and will of course moderate his ways. As for her girlfriends, those are not good to have as friends. But thinking of divorce already within 3 months of marriage because her husband is doing what almost every married Nigerian man is doing is so so ridiculous that am almost falling off my chair laughing. Just because her husband is doing some side chick and some people are saying divorce, so amusing. The husband should have some bounderies and be more discreet. His wife's friends are a no no. The relationships were on before he got married, but he should end it henceforth.

In Nigeria almost every married woman knows that her husband cheats or is bound to cheat at one point in time or another. It doesn't mean the man doesn't love his wife, its just part of the game. ''Responsible'' married men only find a way to be more discreet. But if the woman tries it, fiam you are sent off your husband's home, no apologies. This is Nigeria and Africa. You either accept things as they are or you go pay the bride price of a man, marry him, feed him, house him, clothe him, take care of his kids etc, then and only then you can expect him not to try some side chick even though you always complain of being tired instead of giving him the egusi to chop when ever he wants it. Accept that this is Nigeria, Men are bound to be men, and everyone shall live happily ever after.

If you like divorce your husband now - but be rest assured that you will keep marrying and divorcing Nigerian men till you go to the moon and find yourself a faultless extra terrestrial. Or you just stay single without forming any relationship with any man till the rest of your life.
Oya let the attack begin..

CFCman:


Its sad that you're putting the blame on her husband's infidelity on her, and justifying his randiness.

The fact that the man is an African or Nigerian doesn't give him any special privilege to cheat on his wife. For crying out loud, the marriage is only 3 months old. What did his wife do to him to warrant such heartless acts of infidelity from him?

If I were in the woman's shoes, I would seriously consider filing for divorce. Or alternatively, she could forgive him but cut off her relationship with the two whores she thought were her friends.