Oliviaxx:
Hmm...this one is strong
Perhaps you really should run for your life 'coz marriage is a life-long commitment. It could be you tomorrow...my 2cents

nnamdibig:
If you are not ready to be like the man you saw, its time to move on. Because your fiancé will be taking advice from her mum.

on are second thought, if you have really decided to marry the girl, then go and spend some times with the man. am sure he will have something to tell you. at least you hear his own side of the story.

obiak4:
FIND a way to have a one on one chat with the father to lay all speculation to rest
But will not ADVICE you to continue or show much interest until you FIND out who your inlaws are
Or better still ask people AROUND THE street how thier family members behave or treat people
Blessed be

OgahCHARLES:

YOURE SMART!!!

OgahCHARLES:


spineless excuse for a man, na your kind person women dey enslave. Dear O.P marry your fiancee and help her father inlaw be a MAN once again(if you can), im happy he has learnt his lesson.
#TAKEABSOLUTECONTROL

baby124:

you know, it still baffles me sometimes the level of self entitlement Nigerian men have today. My own father was a man. In fact dem no born my mama well to even beat us anyhow. The man was a provider of the highest order. Na just flexing things throughout my childhood. And no woman dare come from anywhere to say pim to my mother. In fact I have never witnessed him raise his voice against my mother and she can find trouble. They were best friends and showed over love to each other. Almost embarrassing to us kids.

Till today I have no evidence of away matches the man played. We all keep lamenting that he did not live to flex the way we wanted him to flex. Even my mama de jealous well well. See that is what happens when a man is a man. Those little kids see and know everything. And they will reciprocate in future if a father or mother did right. The mother can never turn her kids against a good father whether rich or poor. Our actions always speak for us even to the little ones.

Valprof:
taa.dy jonz urself.....go to families and u wud see how some men r treated....how women paint their husbands black before their kids esp when the man is down financially.but these r men who gave their best their families when the gong was good

eyinjuege:


Respect is earned.
Children aren't daft as some people think. Quite a number are more discerning than adults. They form their own opinions about people, and no matter how much you try to "paint" anyone black, they see and make up their minds as they grow.
Children are also more sympathetic.
You also need to earn the respect of your child as a father or mother. Its not enough to be a sperm donor or a cocoon.

sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.