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"No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Piptoes(f): 11:47pm On Jul 20, 2016 |
I've been going through heartbreak for a while now. So after much thought. i've decided to apply the " no contact rule...and by so doing, I've had to delete my boyfriend from all social media platforms, which seemed almost impossible. The truth is, It's almost like a druggie trying to get off smack....When you are so used to talking to someone everyday and being so close to someone, it's very hard to disconnect from them. Especially for a long period of time. I also know it's imperative that I should apply the "no contact rule". After all, it has been proven to be extremely effective over time. And it will also give him a sense of feeling that I'm gradually moving on. Cos I know the primary aim of the no contact period is to sort of get over him. I said "sort of get over him" because I know it will be very difficult for me to get over him. Pls for those who have practiced the " no contact rule", Is there is a good chance that your ex bf/gf contacted you during the no contact period or even tried to win u back? Modified# |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by MzPecs(f): 11:51pm On Jul 20, 2016 |
Lemmie buy land here first while I wait for matured advice to come.. |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by SweetieConstie(f): 11:54pm On Jul 20, 2016 |
Hmmm... JoeCutie, come and advice OP... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by sleekyonyx(f): 11:55pm On Jul 20, 2016 |
Hummmm...i'll be right back with my comment Need to do some research...this one pass me |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by vicstar(m): 11:55pm On Jul 20, 2016 |
Mzpecs how valuable is that land u just bought huh? u'll have to resell it, because its on a wrong site |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by JoeCutie(m): 11:59pm On Jul 20, 2016 |
SweetieConstie:Op is not looking for advice, she's looking for "matured advice". Matured advice? For this Buhari government? When the economy is plunging pell-mell into the land of oblivion? That's a luxury we can't afford. Besides, I be love Professor ni? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Sexxkillz: 12:01am On Jul 21, 2016 |
My view about exes: I support the no contact rule (don't contact them first). They don't want you in their life no more, so don't bug them by trying to initiate contact. But when they contact you first, don't be a jerk by ignoring them totally. Never use more than 6 words to reply them. The idea is not to totally close the doors or burn the bridges. And only reply them when you feel like. They are no longer paramount in your life, remember? And lastly, never ever go back into a relationship with an ex. . . Ever. They'll only return for a while, and break your heart version 2.0 and leave you in a worse state than version 1.0. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by SweetieConstie(f): 12:02am On Jul 21, 2016 |
JoeCutie: Lmao! |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by SweetieConstie(f): 12:04am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Sexxkillz: Gbam! Gbammer!! Gbammest!!! OP, this dude has said it all... 1 Like |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Piptoes(f): 12:06am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Sexxkillz:This really looks bad...so I've lost him forever ...thot relationships works beta when given a second chance. 1 Like |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by MzPecs(f): 12:08am On Jul 21, 2016 |
vicstar:I'm also waiting for matured advice Pls don't let us derail.. |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by vicstar(m): 12:13am On Jul 21, 2016 |
MzPecs: lol as for tha advice.... Apparently, the OP and u won't get much |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by sleekyonyx(f): 12:14am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Piptoes:have some faith dear... I know how u feel...trust me |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Sexxkillz: 12:15am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Piptoes:Nope. The guy you're "pitying" and dying for a second chance with is somewhere enjoying himself with another girl ( Whether you like to be used, dumped, remembered, reused and dumped again is your own bitter pill to swallow. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by MzPecs(f): 12:19am On Jul 21, 2016 |
sleekyonyx:Iyawo doublezero7 before before, how u dey? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by sleekyonyx(f): 12:21am On Jul 21, 2016 |
MzPecs:lol....he's still my boo... we r waxing strong.. |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Suspectzero(m): 12:30am On Jul 21, 2016 |
You won't get over him till something or someone else replaces him. So I'd get going on that end. Instead of trying to resist the temptation, replace it with something else, like your work, hubby, friends...a new guy. |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by SweetieConstie(f): 12:30am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Piptoes, I totally concur with what sexkillz has said so far... Don't give your ex a second chance in your life, he might end up wreaking greater havoc than he initially did... Try to get over him, get busy with industrious ventures like work or studies, try the no-contact rule, hang out and have fun with friends and try to be happy again without him in your life... This might be pretty difficult to achieve, but you gotta try and be cheerful again... And then, when he eventually realises you're happy without him, he would begin to miss you again... And by then, you would have gotten over the heart-break! Sorry about the heartbreak dear, please, don't grieve over him anymore.. You're definitely gonna be fine! 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by bitchcrafts: 12:30am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Is that a question after you've delivered 85% lecture? |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by sleekyonyx(f): 12:35am On Jul 21, 2016 |
bitchcrafts:do justice to the remaining 15%....lol |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Checked86: 12:47am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Piptoes:I am not against you seeking for advices, just be careful. Not every idea is consumable. I just read somebody saying authoritatively about an idea he knew nothing about. He didn't even ask you what happened between you two(u and ur boyfriend) but have concluded he would use u and dumb u again. My advice: you know his offence and the kind of person he is. That will guide you when adopting any rule. If actually u love and would like the guy to come back to u, please look for another rule that will help u. Note: most guys mistake 'no contact rule' for BREAK UP. Don't give him that idea if u really love him. I don't want to prove read my comment, manage it. 3 Likes |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by ssuccess(m): 1:07am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Hi. Piptoe My girlfriend and I had this major issue last week and I feel It might help you. We're university students, but we're on break. Now her ex-boyfriend lives in close proximity with her, I leave In another state entirely, so he's been toying with her mind. She then told me she's begun to feel some things for him again and don't know who to choose to guard against immodesty. I expressed my disappointment and surprise but I stupidly felt I should stay with love. Until she chose him over me. I then told her I had no problem with it but I can't communicate with her at least for a while. she insisted on me talking with her often, I blocked her from all my social media accounts, then she was always calling. she then texted me to tell me she has reversed her decisions and ended things with the Ex-boyfriend. I formed small, but later we're back together. Of course I no longer going to be the faithful guy I once was because she has toyed with my trust. But the point is please use the 'No contact rule' religiously. Try being with friends or going on dates with guys, carefully. If he still feels something for you, he'll be back okay? I hope I did a little good. good luck dear. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by foolinlove(f): 2:41am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Sexxkillz: Agreed. And piptoes - it is like coming off a drug. Everytime you get "validation" (your drug) from your ex, the addiction cycle can start again. The no contact rule is not for making him come back. It is for helping you deal with heartbreak. I would suggest not replying him for a month. Then, if he still contacts you, maybe you feel atrong enough to talk without falling into your emotion for him again. If he wants you back, very seriously, he will find a very serious and genuine way to let you know. Not a lazy text or facebook message. Not a throwaway comment. A genuine, serious method with genuine, serious words. Just keep going on without him for now. By dropping you, this guy has made a space in your life for something more wonderful |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by poshestmina(f): 2:55am On Jul 21, 2016 |
It works babe but very difficult ,it got to a point I stopped recharging my phone Better you let him leave,trying to fix a broken relationship is a big really big mistake 1 Like |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by 0ubenji(m): 3:54am On Jul 21, 2016 |
MzPecs:Lol..with ur immatured FTC uh?? |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by 0ubenji(m): 3:55am On Jul 21, 2016 |
poshestmina:Hmmn...sister, no forget say "pls call me" sef dey oo |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by 0ubenji(m): 3:59am On Jul 21, 2016 |
SweetieConstie:Hmmmn..juz sometimes, denying ur heart wat it yearns for, happens to be the actual heartbreak.. 1 Like |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by 0ubenji(m): 4:08am On Jul 21, 2016 |
Sexxkillz:U made sense..up until the last paragraph..I need not debate my opposing views with u on dat.. Nonetheless bro..I withold the crazily-chilled vodka I was bou to offer u til I read ur effing last paragraph.. *opens fridge and returns vodka* *closes fridge and walks outta thread* 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by sleekyonyx(f): 7:35am On Jul 21, 2016 |
ssuccess:ouch! |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by MzPecs(f): 8:10am On Jul 21, 2016 |
0ubenji:Lol Op said she wants matured advice and I ain't gat one so I decided to chill and wait for matured advice Good morning Sir.. |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by MzPecs(f): 8:16am On Jul 21, 2016 |
sleekyonyx:Wow! Good to hear that.. That reminds me, pls do consider my signature. Have a nice day! |
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by 0ubenji(m): 10:26am On Jul 21, 2016 |
MzPecs:Oh...mornin ma'am....u've just dished me the most matured comment today to start my day with... Do ava nice day ma'am... |
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