I came across a beautiful photo on the internet, of a lady crying about missing her dog on her wedding day. I was really attracted by the photo and a friend asked: "why do we really have such affinity towards animals (our pets), can we not love the way animals do?”

This spurred me to research, to ask a lot of people these questions:

Why do you love your animal so much?
Why does your animal love you so much?

The responses I received grouped themselves into three (3). This really got me thinking and comparing it to the love we, humans, have for ourselves. We can use these to improve our relationships.

Here is what I got

Group 1

When I make mistakes and I am sad, my dog does not criticize me. It recognizes that I am sad and snuggles against me, trying to cheer me up! That makes me feel better.

The first rule in Dale Carnegie’s how to win friends is to avoid criticism, complain and condemn. The moment someone goes into defensive mode, that means that possibly he or she is being criticized. Gentle correction hardly leads to defensive mode except in people who are already used to defense possibly out of life experience.

One way of avoiding such criticism is by asking questions. Always try to see things from the side of people. Asking questions should be such that makes people feel that you are standing with them and not against them.

GROUP 2

MY ANIMAL GIVES ME SO MUCH UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

Unconditional? Seriously? I do not really think it is unconditional because you got to hold your pet close, feed and clean it up before it will recognize you as its owner.

This is not an art of unconditional but the art of giving back. You got to spend time with the animal for it to get accustomed to you.

Do we really spend such time and energy on people we love and are in relationship with? How fruitful are such times? Have we lost ourselves to work, smartphones, social media?

Do we really recognize the effort people are making for our own good? Are we giving back? Or do we feel like only ourselves (I, me, myself) deserve to be loved and not to love?

Another thing about unconditional “love” is that it involves seeing more of the good aspect than the negative aspect of people, recognizing and counting more the good they have done to us.

Lot of people have made a quote that people would prefer to see that one thing you did not do than the 99 things you did. This is true of men but not of dogs, cats, etc.

The question is: is this natural? No. we are usually the ones who choose to be so.

GROUP 3

MY ANIMAL/PET IS SO LOYAL AND SUBMISSIVE TO ME

Implicit control is always more powerful than an explicit one. I know someone whom everybody rarely rejects a request to carry out his orders but he does not assume any authoritative position.

There is power in humility and display of authority can make people loathe you the more.

Have you ever thought of this: because of your dog’s loyalty, you are willing to give it whatever it wants? You serve, cherish, appreciate your animal all because it serves you. True love, loyalty, trust and service are two-way affairs, give and take.

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Am not gonna read the full article but i will summarize it. Because we are human being(higher animal) we can never behave like animals. No matter how humble you are, at some point you might put up a little resistance. I love pet anyway, But my girlfriend ain't a pet.

I am not saying your blog is trash... but still am not understanding where you are going with this kind of long post....

plumule, it is better you read the article. he article is even stated opposite of what you just wrote
newsphase, I know it is long but shortening it makes it lose its ingredient.

Estrel:
plumule, it is better you read the article. he article is even stated opposite of what you just wrote
newsphase, I know it is long but shortening it makes it lose its ingredient.

The article does not have that taste... when I read the worlds in bold there is not suspense in them

It's simple,

Humans are most humans are wicked, greedy, sadist, disloyal and inhumane.


Animals are simple, loving and loyal.


Humans are higher animals, doesn't mean we are not 'ANIMALS'

K9blunt:
It's simple,

Humans are most humans are wicked, greedy, sadist, disloyal and inhumane.


Animals are simple, loving and loyal.


Humans are higher animals, doesn't mean we are not 'ANIMALS'

You really read the article and I want to ask: Is it possible for us to love like the animals (as stated in the original article?)

Estrel:


You really read the article and I want to ask: Is it possible for us to love like the animals (as stated in the original article?)

Am sorry I didn't read the full article, but I could deduce from the piece posted here because I used to post Der about it.


The answer to your question is quite dicey,


But to me, it is not possible for humans to love like the animals, because of our sense of reasoning which animals don't have.

Love is selfless, kind and loyal beyond reason.

Don't you think that animals are reasonable too?
The challenge comes in that we do make things so complicated (our needs, desires, etc).
But to animals, they have simple desires that are so easy to manage.

If you learn to love yourself, no need expecting too much!

KanwuliaExtra:
If you learn to love yourself, no need expecting too much!

That's very true. Being in love with oneself is a great key.
Some people do not love themselves but rather seek love of themselves from others. This makes them expect too much.

Estrel:


That's very true. Being in love with oneself is a great key.
Some people do not love themselves but rather seek love of themselves from others. This makes them expect too much.

I agree.
Then comes the pain of rejection and the depression from dejection.
Church and pastor don h-enter be dat o!

K9blunt:
It's simple,

Humans are most humans are wicked, greedy, sadist, disloyal and inhumane.


Animals are simple, loving and loyal.


Humans are higher animals, doesn't mean we are not 'ANIMALS'

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